being rich or being loved..

unpopular opinion.. most people will still say “being loved” without even sitting with the question for too long.. not because it’s the deeper choice, but because it’s the more comfortable one.. it gives instant emotional returns.. like you invest a little attention, a little attachment, and suddenly you feel seen, chosen, important..

and honestly, from a psychological point of view, it makes complete sense.. the human brain is not designed to chase long-term uncertainty first.. it is designed to seek immediate emotional safety.. love or even the illusion of it, gives that faster than anything else.. it releases comfort, reduces anxiety, fills that silent fear of being alone..
but comfort and growth rarely walk together..

the truth is, being loved is not difficult in the beginning.. you don’t need to become extraordinary for it.. you just need to be available, emotionally responsive, sometimes even a little less than your real self.. and people will come.. they will stay for a while.. they will make you feel like you finally found something real..
but what we often ignore is that.. most of that “love” is situational.. it exists because of timing, convenience, emotional needs, or loneliness on both sides.. not because two people are fully built and consciously choosing each other..

and that’s where the problem begins.
when you start prioritising love before building yourself, your identity slowly starts shifting from who you are to how someone feels about you.. your mood depends on their consistency.. your confidence depends on their attention.. your decisions start revolving around their presence..

and without even noticing, you begin to outsource your self-worth..

psychologically, this creates dependency.. your brain starts associating happiness with a specific person instead of your own progress.. so instead of working towards something stable, you start chasing moments like texts, calls, meetups, reassurance.. small highs that fade quickly but keep you hooked..

it’s almost like an emotional addiction..

and addiction always comes with a cost..

slowly, priorities blur.. discipline weakens.. you start making small compromises “i’ll study later”, “i’ll focus tomorrow”, “this matters more right now”.. and these small delays don’t feel dangerous in the moment, but they accumulate.. days turn into months, and suddenly you’re standing in the same place while time has moved ahead..

and you know the harshest part?
most of those people you prioritised don’t even stay forever..
because they were never meant to be permanent.. they were just part of a phase..

and when they leave, which many eventually do.. that’s when reality hits you!! not just the loss of the person, but the realisation of everything you paused for them.. the version of yourself you neglected.. the opportunities you let go of..
that’s when self-awareness starts hurting..

on the other side, choosing to become rich or more realistically, choosing to build your life, your career, your independence feels much harder in the beginning.. because it demands something love doesn’t demand immediately..
discipline without validation.. effort without applause.. consistency without emotional reward..
you work for something that doesn’t hug you back.. doesn’t text you goodnight.. doesn’t tell you “you matter” every day..
and that’s uncomfortable..

but psychologically, this path builds something far more stable.. internal validation.. when you focus on growth, your brain slowly learns to derive satisfaction from progress instead of people.. from achievement instead of approval..
you start becoming someone who doesn’t need constant reassurance because your life itself becomes your reassurance..

and the deeper irony is..
when you finally reach a point where you are stable, self-aware, and somewhat successful.. love doesn’t disappear.. in fact, it becomes healthier..

because now you’re not loving out of emptiness.. you’re loving out of fullness..

you’re not choosing someone to feel complete.. you’re choosing them to share completeness..

एक शख्स को खोने का डर देख रहा हूँ
मै खुद पे मोहब्बत का असर देख रहा हूं

ख्वाइश तो जाहिर नहीं करता मै कभी तुमसे
फिर देखने दो मुझको गर देख रहा हूँ!!


🤍

दरगाह हो जाती है वो आम सी दहली़जे भी,
इश्क बरसो़ जहाँ किसी की राह तक़ता है...

हम तेरे बाद किसी और के कैसे होते
हमको इक उम्र लगी थी तेरे होते-होते

दिल में रखें रहा तेरी ख्वाहिश को सलामत
वरना इस ख़राबे में कई लोग इकट्ठे होते! !


🤍

मसला तो एक शख़्स का है ,

दुनिया किसे चाहिए ..!!

Don't blame others for your shit!

If you made it worst ,
then only you can make it sweet!

Believe in yourself🤞
Gm everyone 🌼

~Abhiwrites🩵

I cried 15 minutes after reading this...

One day your parents will become your children. Not in age, but in need.

There will come a time when they forget things you just told them. When they move slower, ask the same question twice, and need help with what used to be easy.

Don't see it as a burden.
See it as debt of love being paid back.

Call them more 🎭
Visit them more 💜

Speak softer while you still can. Because one day the phone will stop ringing...💯

Hayee क्या शायरी हैं..🎀🤍🌷

जब पुकारना हो मुझे मेरा नाम भूल जाता हैं,
उसे इश्क़ तो आता है पर करना भूल जाता हैं,,

और उसे कह दो यूँ मुस्कुरा कर ना देखे मुझे,

की उसे कह दो यूँ मुस्कुरा कर ना देखे मुझे....🤍
ये दिल पागल हैं धड़कना भूल जाता हैं...💝🌷


                                                ⋆𓍯𓂃𓏧♡

रिवाज तेरे मयखाने का अजीब है सरकार ,

पीनी भी है शराब,और होंश भी नही खोना है!

~🍾

फिर मैंने दिल को भी समझा दिया कि

अकेले रहो या सब में रहो,
हद पार करने वाले अपने हद में रहो,

उसकी जुबां पर तुम्हारा नाम कभी नही आएगा,
अब बस उसके हाथ से लिखे पुराने खत में रहो ,

तुम मेरा ए हाल देखकर  मुस्कुराओगे,
एक पागल को और कितना पागल बनाओगे,

ज़हन में यादे और आंखों में नमी देकर,
कल सुबह तुम तो अपने शहर लौट जाओगे,
                            ~❤️🖤

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗠𝗶𝗿𝗷𝗮 𝗚𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗯 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲 -
" 𝘋𝘪𝘭 𝘦 𝘯𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘶𝘫𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘶𝘢 𝘬𝘺𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘪.?
𝘈𝘢𝘬𝘩𝘪𝘳 𝘪𝘴𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘬𝘪 𝘥𝘢𝘸𝘢 𝘬𝘺𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘪.? "

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗔𝗵𝗺𝗮𝗱 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲 -
" 𝘠𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘻 𝘦 𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘲 𝘩𝘢𝘪,
𝘐𝘴𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘸𝘢 𝘬𝘪 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘢𝘴𝘩 𝘤𝘩𝘩𝘰𝘥 𝘥𝘰,
𝘛𝘶𝘮𝘩𝘦 𝘬𝘩𝘶𝘥 𝘩𝘪 𝘻𝘦𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘪𝘺𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘪,
𝘈𝘣 𝘚𝘩𝘪𝘧𝘢 𝘬𝘪 𝘣𝘢𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘩𝘰𝘥 𝘥𝘰 "

🥀🖤🕊✨

𝘕𝘪𝘺𝘢𝘵 𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘬 𝘣𝘩𝘢𝘳 𝘯𝘢 𝘫𝘢𝘺𝘦 𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪𝘯...
𝘛𝘶 𝘣𝘩𝘪 𝘥𝘪𝘭 𝘴𝘦 𝘶𝘵𝘢𝘳 𝘯𝘢 𝘫𝘢𝘺𝘦 𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪𝘯...
𝘈𝘢𝘫 𝘥𝘦𝘬𝘩𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘪 𝘵𝘶𝘫𝘩𝘬𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘬𝘦 𝘣𝘢𝘢𝘥...
𝘈𝘢𝘫 𝘬𝘢 𝘥𝘪𝘯 𝘨𝘶𝘻𝘢𝘳 𝘯𝘢 𝘫𝘢𝘺𝘦 𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪𝘯...
𝘈𝘢𝘳𝘻𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘪 𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘶 𝘺𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘢𝘺𝘦...>2
𝘈𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘪𝘳 𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘳 𝘣𝘩𝘢𝘳 𝘯𝘢 𝘫𝘢𝘺𝘦 𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪𝘯...

📜🥀🎀

तेरे बाद नहीं उठाए
हमने फिर किसी के नखरें

कोई रूठा हमसे तो फिर
रूठा ही रह गया......😌

अब इन लफ्जों के जादू से,
तुम्हे पागल बनाएंगे,

रहोगे गैर कब तक तुम,
तुम्हे अपना बनाएंगे,

कभी तो होट की लाली,
और काजल चुराएंगे,

कभी तो हाथ ये मेरे,
तुम्हें काबू में लायेंगे,🥀🕊🎀

"मोहब्बत की दीवारों पर,
अब हम सर से मारेंगे,

उनका दिल है पत्थर का,
अब वो पत्थर से मारेंगे"
           
"मेरी एक बात को तुम,
अब अपने जहेन में रखलो,
           
तुम्हारे गाल के ये तिल,
हमे तिल तिल पुकारेंगे"
            
"अभी तो चांद से चेहरे का,
बस पर्दा हटाया है,

ओ भी पल जल्द आयेगा,
जब हम झुमका उतारेंगे"
            
"है तेरा दिल जो पत्थर का ,
हमे तो फूल लगता हैं

हम अब इस फूल की खुशबू,
दिल में अपने उतारेंगे"
             ❣✨🕊

❝ ɪɴ ᴇɴɢʟɪꜱʜ ᴛʜᴇʏ ꜱᴀʏ﹐ɪ ᴀᴍ ꜱʜʏ ❞

    ʙᴜᴛ ɪɴ ᴜʀᴅᴜ : : I Sαყ

हसरत ये है की उनको करीब से देखे ,,

करीब हो तो आँखें उठाई नहीं जाती ⬩⬩⬩🧚🤍

🤍᪲᪲᪲ᥫ᭡⃝🧚🏻‍♀️