There is always gonna be that awkward period where you're working hard, and you're investing time, and you're investing energy, and nothing is happening, nothing is changing, nothing is being accomplished.And honestly, almost everything in life is like that. <...>

It takes faith and patience and a lot of durability to weather that storm. Because that storm is gonna happen.This isn't gonna be a quick fix, this isn't gonna be something that overnight changes your life. You have to be willing to see that through to the other side, there is just no other way.

You've gotta be willing to know that it's gonna feel like nothing at first.The first day you decide to do this, you're not going to wake up the next day thinking, 'Oh my gosh, I'm on the right track, I'm getting better, this is awesome!'
It's gonna be a while, friend. And you're gonna question it every day. You're gonna think, 'Why the hack am I doing this?' It was easier before, it was better before; at least I had those little moments, those little escapes before; now I have nothing. Because I'm just doing it, making those little changes not knowing if they'll accomplish anything.

But then at some point, I don't know when - different timeline for everybody - but at some point you're going to feel it just a little; you're going to feel this teeny little spark of "is that even real? Is something happening here? Is something changing here?"

"That's because when you walk away from the problem, the active information in your working memory begins to fade, and you're no longer trapped in that initial approach that you took. So your brain starts making different connections, and those connections allow you to solve and see a problem in a very different way."

I’ll try if I know all the things I used to know. Let me see: four times five is twelve, and four times six is thirteen, and four times seven is—oh dear! I shall never get to twenty at that rate! However, the Multiplication Table doesn’t signify: let’s try Geography. London is the capital of Paris, and Paris is the capital of Rome, and Rome—no, that’s all wrong, I’m certain!

Lewis Carrol,
Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

Most people wake up and set goals: "I'm going to go to the gym, I'll eat clean today, I need to stop procrastinating". While well-intentioned, goal-based thinking is often fragile: it relies on motivation which is inherently unstable and it keeps your brain operating from a future focused framework which can increase cognitive friction and anxiety.

Now here's the neuroscience behind a better approach, identity-based statement: when you say "I am someone who follows through" or "You are the kind of person who shows up no matter how you feel", you're not just setting a goal, you're activating neural networks related to self-satisfying and default mode network integration. That means you're teaching your brain who you are, not just what you want to do. this taps into something we call "self-referential processing". The
brain treats identity as something sacred and non-negotiable, so when a behavior is tied to your identity, not just a temporary desire, your nervous system fights harder to maintain it.

When you act from identity, you're not struggling to become something; you're expressing something you already are. That removes internal resistance, and in terms of neuroplasticity that's crucial: repetition of behavior tied to identity forms stronger, more stable neuropathways, the kind that actually hold under stress. So instead of saying, "I will try to be productive today", say "You are the kind of person who handles hard things and doesn't make excuses". The brain will begin to match behavior to identity automatically: that's what it's built to do.

Now, this isn't about tricking yourself; it's about aligning your internal language with the neurobiological machinery of change. Remember: your brain doesn't care what you hope to do it cares what you believe you are, and that belief - when reinforced consistently - becomes your default operating system. Identity leads behavior.

И вы сделались подражателями нам и Господу, приняв слово при многих скорбях с радостью Духа Святого, так что вы стали образцом для всех верующих в Македонии и Ахаии.
1-е послание к Фессалоникийцам 1:6-7

Ибо кто наша надежда, или радость, или венец похвалы? Не и вы ли пред Господом нашим Иисусом Христом в пришествие Его? Ибо вы — слава наша и радость.
1-е послание к Фессалоникийцам 2:19-20

My plan is not to spare myself, not to avoid a lot of emotions or difficulties. It’s a matter of relative indifference to me whether I live a long or a short time. Moreover, I’m not competent to manage myself in physical matters the way a doctor can in this respect. So I carry on as one unknowing but who knows this one thing — ‘I must finish a particular work within a few years’ — I needn’t rush myself, for that does no good — but I must carry on working in calm and serenity, as regularly and concentratedly as possible, as succinctly as possible. I’m concerned with the world only in that I have a certain obligation and duty, as it were — because I’ve walked the earth for 30 years — to leave a certain souvenir in the form of drawings or paintings in gratitude.

It is difficult to make a man understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding.
Upton Sinclair, 1935

Трудно заставить человека понять что-то, если его зарплата зависит от того, что он этого не понимает.
Эптон Синклер, 1935