Men, don't marry a woman just because she's beautiful. Marry the woman you'd trust to raise your children.Men, don't marry a woman just because she's beautiful. Marry the woman you'd trust to raise your children.
Beauty might catch your attention, but it won't tell you how she'll handle motherhood, how she'll treat your children when you're not around, or what kind of values she'll teach them.
Look at how she treats people who can do nothing for her. Watch how she handles anger, how she takes responsibility for her mistakes, and how she treats you when life isn't going her way.
Your children will learn more from her daily behaviour than from the advice she gives them.
Choose a woman who will help you build a home where your children feel loved, learn discipline, and grow up with strong values.
You're not just choosing a wife. You're choosing the woman who will help shape the next
Beauty might catch your attention, but it won't tell you how she'll handle motherhood, how she'll treat your children when you're not around, or what kind of values she'll teach them.
Look at how she treats people who can do nothing for her. Watch how she handles anger, how she takes responsibility for her mistakes, and how she treats you when life isn't going her way.
Your children will learn more from her daily behaviour than from the advice she gives them.
Choose a woman who will help you build a home where your children feel loved, learn discipline, and grow up with strong values.
You're not just choosing a wife. You're choosing the woman who will help shape the next
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Nikah OR Haram Relationship...??
Have you ever imagined a bride being pregnant before Nikah..? Well, that's pretty common in Europe & America among both the Christians & Jews.. And it's totally Haram in Islam and may lead to Jahannum.!
Dear sister / brothers,
👉🏼Engagement is not Nikah
👉🏼Court Marriage is not Nikah
👉🏼Will you marry me is not Nikah
👉🏼His/Her parents already know me well is not Nikah
👉🏼Remember your Fiancee is not your spouse
👉🏼You don't own his/her body and you can't demand for it.!
👉🏼Nikah which meets all the shariah conditions is the only licence to have sex.
Sisters, you are not...
A piece of Chocolate, so no tasting... He wants to know if you are good in bed.. You are not a store sample... He wants to know if you are fertile, you are not a lab rat... You come a with a price (Dowry/Mahr) and with respect & honour... Don't you..??
Some valuables come with nice packaging and until their full price is paid, you can't open to see what's inside.
A man who demands sex from you before marriage will ruin your relationship with Allah. And you will be left no where.. So be wise and don't become the prey for the lust of someone.. He is not worthy of you.
And finally, when the Sins blind our eyes, we claim Love is blind and we accuse shaytaan for the Haram we committed.!
I have dealt with cases where sisters fall into Haram relationships before marriage and outside marriage and ruin their Duniya as well as Aakhirah.!!
Remember Allah is watching us all the time and we are answerable for our every single action.
Have you ever imagined a bride being pregnant before Nikah..? Well, that's pretty common in Europe & America among both the Christians & Jews.. And it's totally Haram in Islam and may lead to Jahannum.!
Dear sister / brothers,
👉🏼Engagement is not Nikah
👉🏼Court Marriage is not Nikah
👉🏼Will you marry me is not Nikah
👉🏼His/Her parents already know me well is not Nikah
👉🏼Remember your Fiancee is not your spouse
👉🏼You don't own his/her body and you can't demand for it.!
👉🏼Nikah which meets all the shariah conditions is the only licence to have sex.
Sisters, you are not...
A piece of Chocolate, so no tasting... He wants to know if you are good in bed.. You are not a store sample... He wants to know if you are fertile, you are not a lab rat... You come a with a price (Dowry/Mahr) and with respect & honour... Don't you..??
Some valuables come with nice packaging and until their full price is paid, you can't open to see what's inside.
A man who demands sex from you before marriage will ruin your relationship with Allah. And you will be left no where.. So be wise and don't become the prey for the lust of someone.. He is not worthy of you.
And finally, when the Sins blind our eyes, we claim Love is blind and we accuse shaytaan for the Haram we committed.!
I have dealt with cases where sisters fall into Haram relationships before marriage and outside marriage and ruin their Duniya as well as Aakhirah.!!
Remember Allah is watching us all the time and we are answerable for our every single action.
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The Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “When people see wrong or evil and they don’t change it then it is eminent that the Punishment of Allaah will fall upon them.” (Reported by Aboo Daawood and others)
After wearing a full Hijab all your life,
No one has seen your body since your teenage years.
On your wedding day, you discard that Hijab and show off your "full beauty" in heavy makeup for photos and videos.
Then the next day, you cover up with your Full Hijab again.
Sisto, describe yourself in one word ...
What would it have cost you to stay covered, and what did you gain from one day of Tabarruj?
The likes, the comments, the shares, the camera clicks?
How would Allah bless our weddings if we celebrate them in outright disobedience to Him?
If the marriage crashes tomorrow, both of you will start disturbing marriage counsellors, but sometimes it is because the union is devoid of the blessings of Allah.
No one has seen your body since your teenage years.
On your wedding day, you discard that Hijab and show off your "full beauty" in heavy makeup for photos and videos.
Then the next day, you cover up with your Full Hijab again.
Sisto, describe yourself in one word ...
What would it have cost you to stay covered, and what did you gain from one day of Tabarruj?
The likes, the comments, the shares, the camera clicks?
How would Allah bless our weddings if we celebrate them in outright disobedience to Him?
If the marriage crashes tomorrow, both of you will start disturbing marriage counsellors, but sometimes it is because the union is devoid of the blessings of Allah.
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We are in a time where women hate polygyny but tolerate adultery.
NO WOMAN, came to marry your husband, she came to marry her husband.
She did not snatch your husband, she married her husband.
NO WOMAN, came to marry your husband, she came to marry her husband.
She did not snatch your husband, she married her husband.
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Marriage gets really hard when you marry a woman who lacks the virtue of contentment.
You can work hard, pay the bills, buy her nice things, take her on holidays, and do everything within your means, but somehow it is never enough.
The moment you buy a car, she wants a bigger one. When you build a house, she starts comparing it to her friend's house. When you make progress, instead of celebrating how far you've come, she focuses on what you haven't achieved.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a better life. Every ambitious couple should have dreams and bigger goals.
But there is a difference between a woman who wants to grow with you and one who makes you feel like a failure because you haven't arrived where she wants you to be.
Marry someone who can enjoy the blessings you have today while building with you towards the blessings you want tomorrow.
You can work hard, pay the bills, buy her nice things, take her on holidays, and do everything within your means, but somehow it is never enough.
The moment you buy a car, she wants a bigger one. When you build a house, she starts comparing it to her friend's house. When you make progress, instead of celebrating how far you've come, she focuses on what you haven't achieved.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a better life. Every ambitious couple should have dreams and bigger goals.
But there is a difference between a woman who wants to grow with you and one who makes you feel like a failure because you haven't arrived where she wants you to be.
Marry someone who can enjoy the blessings you have today while building with you towards the blessings you want tomorrow.
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The Prophets And Virtuous People Would Ask Allaah To Grant Them Righteous Offspring – Shaykh Muhammad Baazmool
Allaah, may He be Blessed and Exalted, says:
“This is the time when Zakariya invoked his Lord, saying: ‘O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocations.‘” [Surah Aali ‘Imraan: 38]
And He says quoting Zakariya:
“And verily, I fear my relatives after me, since my wife is barren. So give me from Yourself a walee (righteous worshipper) who will inherit me and inherit the posterity of Ya’qoob. And make him, my Lord, one with whom You are well-pleased.” [Surah Maryam: 5-6]
Ash-Shanqeetee said in Adwaa-ul-Bayaan:
“Allaah’s statement in this noble verse: ‘So give me from Yourself a walee’ – what is meant by the word walee here is a son specifically and not any other type of walee (righteous person). This is based on proof found in Allaah’s saying while relating the same story: ‘This is the time when Zakariya invoked his Lord, saying: ‘O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation.” [Surah Aali ‘Imraan: 38]
Allaah also indicates that what is meant (by the word walee, i.e. righteous person) here is a child by His saying:
“And remember Zakariya when he cried to his Lord: ‘O my Lord, leave me not single! You are the best of the inheritors.”’ [Surah Al-Anbiyaa: 89] ‘Leave me not single’ means: ‘Alone and without a child.’”
[End of Ash-Shanqeetee’s words] [Adwaa-ul-Bayaan (3/365)]
It is for this reason that from amongst the supplications of the believers – “those from whom We shall accept the best of their deeds and overlook their evil deeds, they shall be among the dwellers of Paradise – a promise of truth, which they have been promised” – is that which Allaah has mentioned:
“My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my offspring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly I am one of the Muslims.” [Surah Al-Ahqaaf: 15]
Source: Al-Ibaanah e-Book : Your Flesh and Blood : The Rights of Children – Shaikh Muhammad Baazmool
This Post URL / Link : http://wp.me/p1VJ3-8SV
Source: https://abdurrahman.org/2015/04/15/prophets-and-virtuous-people-would-ask-allaah-to-grant-them-righteous-offspring/
Allaah, may He be Blessed and Exalted, says:
“This is the time when Zakariya invoked his Lord, saying: ‘O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocations.‘” [Surah Aali ‘Imraan: 38]
And He says quoting Zakariya:
“And verily, I fear my relatives after me, since my wife is barren. So give me from Yourself a walee (righteous worshipper) who will inherit me and inherit the posterity of Ya’qoob. And make him, my Lord, one with whom You are well-pleased.” [Surah Maryam: 5-6]
Ash-Shanqeetee said in Adwaa-ul-Bayaan:
“Allaah’s statement in this noble verse: ‘So give me from Yourself a walee’ – what is meant by the word walee here is a son specifically and not any other type of walee (righteous person). This is based on proof found in Allaah’s saying while relating the same story: ‘This is the time when Zakariya invoked his Lord, saying: ‘O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation.” [Surah Aali ‘Imraan: 38]
Allaah also indicates that what is meant (by the word walee, i.e. righteous person) here is a child by His saying:
“And remember Zakariya when he cried to his Lord: ‘O my Lord, leave me not single! You are the best of the inheritors.”’ [Surah Al-Anbiyaa: 89] ‘Leave me not single’ means: ‘Alone and without a child.’”
[End of Ash-Shanqeetee’s words] [Adwaa-ul-Bayaan (3/365)]
It is for this reason that from amongst the supplications of the believers – “those from whom We shall accept the best of their deeds and overlook their evil deeds, they shall be among the dwellers of Paradise – a promise of truth, which they have been promised” – is that which Allaah has mentioned:
“My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my offspring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly I am one of the Muslims.” [Surah Al-Ahqaaf: 15]
Source: Al-Ibaanah e-Book : Your Flesh and Blood : The Rights of Children – Shaikh Muhammad Baazmool
This Post URL / Link : http://wp.me/p1VJ3-8SV
Source: https://abdurrahman.org/2015/04/15/prophets-and-virtuous-people-would-ask-allaah-to-grant-them-righteous-offspring/
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The Prophets And Virtuous People Would Ask Allaah To Grant Them Righteous Offspring – Shaykh Muhammad Baazmool
Allaah, may He be Blessed and Exalted, says: “This is the time when Zakariya invoked his Lord, saying: ‘O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of …
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Some women, whenever the topic of mixed-gender women's work comes up, burst out screaming,
"Khadija bint Khuwaylid was a businesswoman!"
And they portray her as some sort of deviant, promiscuous foremother who mingled with men, and they compare her to themselves! In reality, all of this is pure fabrication; she is innocent of it—far be it from her, may Allah be pleased with her.
Rather, she used to hire men to work in her trade!
"Khadija bint Khuwaylid was a businesswoman!"
And they portray her as some sort of deviant, promiscuous foremother who mingled with men, and they compare her to themselves! In reality, all of this is pure fabrication; she is innocent of it—far be it from her, may Allah be pleased with her.
Rather, she used to hire men to work in her trade!
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Dear married sisters,
Niqab, jilbab, decent dressings is meant only outside your home.
When you are indoors with your husband, dress indecently, dress to finish him!
Though don't make it too often.
Niqab, jilbab, decent dressings is meant only outside your home.
When you are indoors with your husband, dress indecently, dress to finish him!
Though don't make it too often.
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IBN AL-JAWZI ON MARRIAGE AS A CURE
Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله said:
Whenever the loved one is someone attainable and lawful to have, uniting the loved one with the lover through marriage would be the best of cures.
[Disciplining the Soul, p. 29]
This statement highlights an important principle concerning love in Islam: when a person has genuine affection for someone whom Allah has made lawful for them to marry, the proper solution is not to nourish an unlawful attachment, pursue secret relationships, or remain trapped in emotional longing. Rather, the lawful means of marriage can provide a sound and honorable resolution.
Allah سبحانه وتعالى says:
And marry those among you who are single and the righteous among your male and female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty.
Surah An-Nur 24:32
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم also directed those who have the ability to marry toward marriage and explained that it helps protect a person from falling into what Allah has prohibited.
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
O young men, whoever among you is able to marry, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5066; Sahih Muslim 1400
This demonstrates that Islam does not command a person simply to ignore natural attraction. Rather, Islam provides a lawful path for dealing with it. If the person one loves is suitable for marriage and marriage is realistically attainable, then pursuing marriage through the proper Islamic means is far better than allowing affection to develop into something impermissible.
At the same time, love by itself is not sufficient reason to marry someone. A person must consider religion, character, compatibility, responsibility, and whether the marriage will be beneficial. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
If there comes to you one whose religion and character you are pleased with, then marry him.
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1084
Therefore, when affection exists between two people who are lawful for one another, the correct approach is to bring that affection into the boundaries established by Allah. If marriage is suitable and possible, marriage can transform what might otherwise become a source of temptation and hardship into something lawful, honorable, and rewarded.
May Allah سبحانه وتعالى grant us spouses who are righteous, loving, trustworthy, and a means of increasing us in faith, and may He protect us from unlawful relationships and attachments. Ameen 🤲🏾
Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله said:
Whenever the loved one is someone attainable and lawful to have, uniting the loved one with the lover through marriage would be the best of cures.
[Disciplining the Soul, p. 29]
This statement highlights an important principle concerning love in Islam: when a person has genuine affection for someone whom Allah has made lawful for them to marry, the proper solution is not to nourish an unlawful attachment, pursue secret relationships, or remain trapped in emotional longing. Rather, the lawful means of marriage can provide a sound and honorable resolution.
Allah سبحانه وتعالى says:
And marry those among you who are single and the righteous among your male and female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty.
Surah An-Nur 24:32
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم also directed those who have the ability to marry toward marriage and explained that it helps protect a person from falling into what Allah has prohibited.
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
O young men, whoever among you is able to marry, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5066; Sahih Muslim 1400
This demonstrates that Islam does not command a person simply to ignore natural attraction. Rather, Islam provides a lawful path for dealing with it. If the person one loves is suitable for marriage and marriage is realistically attainable, then pursuing marriage through the proper Islamic means is far better than allowing affection to develop into something impermissible.
At the same time, love by itself is not sufficient reason to marry someone. A person must consider religion, character, compatibility, responsibility, and whether the marriage will be beneficial. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
If there comes to you one whose religion and character you are pleased with, then marry him.
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1084
Therefore, when affection exists between two people who are lawful for one another, the correct approach is to bring that affection into the boundaries established by Allah. If marriage is suitable and possible, marriage can transform what might otherwise become a source of temptation and hardship into something lawful, honorable, and rewarded.
May Allah سبحانه وتعالى grant us spouses who are righteous, loving, trustworthy, and a means of increasing us in faith, and may He protect us from unlawful relationships and attachments. Ameen 🤲🏾
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𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗛𝗔𝗥𝗔𝗠𝗔𝗜𝗡 𝗗𝗘𝗦𝗘𝗥𝗩𝗘 𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗧
Celebrate ur nikah.B grateful for ur spouse.But plz keep intimate moments private,especially in places where people hav travelled 1000s of miles to worship Allah.
𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘀𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗹.
The Prophet ﷺ taught that mosques r for remembering Allah,prayer& reciting the Qur’an.— Sahih Muslim 285.
He ﷺ also said:
“𝗜𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗠𝗲𝗰𝗰𝗮 𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱; 𝗜 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗮 𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲.”
— Sahih Muslim 1362,excerpt.
A nikah in a mosque is permissible,& some scholars recommend it. Others, including Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, found no authentic evidence establishing a special recommendation. We should therefore avoid promising extra marital blessings simply bcoz the ceremony takes place there.
Whatever view u follow, respect the worshippers around u. MKeep pathways clear, mavoid disturbing prayer,& preserve modesty.
𝗔𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲.𝗣𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗰𝘆.𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲.
May Allah bless our marriages&grant us the manners these places deserve. آمين.
Celebrate ur nikah.B grateful for ur spouse.But plz keep intimate moments private,especially in places where people hav travelled 1000s of miles to worship Allah.
𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘀𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗹.
The Prophet ﷺ taught that mosques r for remembering Allah,prayer& reciting the Qur’an.— Sahih Muslim 285.
He ﷺ also said:
“𝗜𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗠𝗲𝗰𝗰𝗮 𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱; 𝗜 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗮 𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲.”
— Sahih Muslim 1362,excerpt.
A nikah in a mosque is permissible,& some scholars recommend it. Others, including Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, found no authentic evidence establishing a special recommendation. We should therefore avoid promising extra marital blessings simply bcoz the ceremony takes place there.
Whatever view u follow, respect the worshippers around u. MKeep pathways clear, mavoid disturbing prayer,& preserve modesty.
𝗔𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲.𝗣𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗰𝘆.𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲.
May Allah bless our marriages&grant us the manners these places deserve. آمين.
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Why Islam Forbids Relationships Before Marriage ???
Many people in the world today have boyfriends or girlfriends. But in Islam, this is not allowed. Islam teaches us that it is better to wait until we are married to have a close relationship. This is called "pre-marital relationships" and Islam says no to it.
There are several good reasons for this rule.
•> To Protect Your Heart and Emotions -
Having a relationship before marriage can be very hard on the heart. You might fall in love deeply, and then if you break up, it can cause great sadness and pain. Islam wants to protect us from this. It teaches us to save our deepest feelings and love for the person we will marry. This way, we can build a strong, healthy relationship that is meant to last forever.
•> To Keep Your Dignity and Honor
When you are in a pre-marital relationship, you might do things that go against your values or your family's values. Islam wants to protect your honor and dignity. It teaches that a man and a woman should have a respectful distance from each other until they are married. This protects both people from making mistakes that they might regret later. It helps you keep your dignity and honor in front of Allah and the community.
•> To Build a Strong and Pure Family
The family is the most important part of society in Islam. A strong family is built on trust, love, and respect. These things are best built within a marriage. When a man and a woman get to know each other through the right way (like with their families' help) and then marry, their relationship starts on a pure and strong foundation. This helps them to have a happy and lasting marriage, which is a blessing from Allah.
•> It's an Act of Obedience to Allah
Most importantly, avoiding relationships before marriage is an act of obedience to Allah. Allah knows what is best for us. He created us and He knows what will bring us true happiness and peace. When we follow His rules, even if they seem difficult, we are showing our trust in Him. This act of obedience brings us closer to Allah and earns us great rewards.
In summary,
Islam forbids pre-marital relationships not to make life difficult, but to make it better. It is a way to protect our hearts, our dignity, and to build a strong and pure family. It is a sign of our trust and love for Allah.
Many people in the world today have boyfriends or girlfriends. But in Islam, this is not allowed. Islam teaches us that it is better to wait until we are married to have a close relationship. This is called "pre-marital relationships" and Islam says no to it.
There are several good reasons for this rule.
•> To Protect Your Heart and Emotions -
Having a relationship before marriage can be very hard on the heart. You might fall in love deeply, and then if you break up, it can cause great sadness and pain. Islam wants to protect us from this. It teaches us to save our deepest feelings and love for the person we will marry. This way, we can build a strong, healthy relationship that is meant to last forever.
•> To Keep Your Dignity and Honor
When you are in a pre-marital relationship, you might do things that go against your values or your family's values. Islam wants to protect your honor and dignity. It teaches that a man and a woman should have a respectful distance from each other until they are married. This protects both people from making mistakes that they might regret later. It helps you keep your dignity and honor in front of Allah and the community.
•> To Build a Strong and Pure Family
The family is the most important part of society in Islam. A strong family is built on trust, love, and respect. These things are best built within a marriage. When a man and a woman get to know each other through the right way (like with their families' help) and then marry, their relationship starts on a pure and strong foundation. This helps them to have a happy and lasting marriage, which is a blessing from Allah.
•> It's an Act of Obedience to Allah
Most importantly, avoiding relationships before marriage is an act of obedience to Allah. Allah knows what is best for us. He created us and He knows what will bring us true happiness and peace. When we follow His rules, even if they seem difficult, we are showing our trust in Him. This act of obedience brings us closer to Allah and earns us great rewards.
In summary,
Islam forbids pre-marital relationships not to make life difficult, but to make it better. It is a way to protect our hearts, our dignity, and to build a strong and pure family. It is a sign of our trust and love for Allah.
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Umar ibn al-Khattab said: There are 3 type of Men and Women;
1. A gentle, kind, chaste Muslim, who is affectionate and fertile. Who helps her family through hardships without making life harder for them. She is rare to find.
2. A chaste Muslim woman who is nothing more than a vessel for bearing children.
3. A burden, full of trouble, whom Allah places as a yoke around the neck of whomever He wills, and no one but Allah can remove her."
1. A chaste and wise Muslim man who consults and leads when challenges arise, and handles matters with his own judgment.
2. A chaste man without opinion, who, when a matter arises, seeks counsel from those with wisdom, follows their advice, and adheres to their guidance.
3. An unjust, confused man who neither follows sound judgment nor listens to wise counsel.
- Ibn 'Abd al-Barr, Bahjat al-Majalis wa Anas al-Majalis
(Vol. 1, p. 180).
1. A gentle, kind, chaste Muslim, who is affectionate and fertile. Who helps her family through hardships without making life harder for them. She is rare to find.
2. A chaste Muslim woman who is nothing more than a vessel for bearing children.
3. A burden, full of trouble, whom Allah places as a yoke around the neck of whomever He wills, and no one but Allah can remove her."
1. A chaste and wise Muslim man who consults and leads when challenges arise, and handles matters with his own judgment.
2. A chaste man without opinion, who, when a matter arises, seeks counsel from those with wisdom, follows their advice, and adheres to their guidance.
3. An unjust, confused man who neither follows sound judgment nor listens to wise counsel.
- Ibn 'Abd al-Barr, Bahjat al-Majalis wa Anas al-Majalis
(Vol. 1, p. 180).
THE DUTY OF A WIFE TOWARD HER HUSBAND IN ISLAM
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.
Sunan Ibn Majah 1853
This hadith demonstrates the tremendous rights that a husband has over his wife. However, it does not permit a husband to be worshipped or obeyed in disobedience to Allah. Prostration is worship, and worship belongs exclusively to Allah.
Allah says:
Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him.
Qur’an 4:36
The Prophet ﷺ used prostration in this hadith to emphasize the greatness of the husband’s rights, not to permit actual prostration to anyone besides Allah.
The wording regarding fulfilling her duty toward Allah must also be understood correctly. A Muslim woman’s obligation to Allah remains the foundation of everything. She must fulfill Allah’s commands first, and obedience to her husband is required in what is lawful and permissible.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.
Musnad Ahmad 1098; authenticated by al-Albani
Therefore, a husband cannot command his wife to abandon an obligation, commit a sin, or violate the limits of Islam.
At the same time, Islam strongly emphasizes the rights of the husband and the seriousness of refusing those rights without a valid excuse. The Prophet ﷺ said that when a husband calls his wife to his bed and she refuses without a valid reason, the angels curse her until morning.
Sahih al-Bukhari 3237; Sahih Muslim 1436
This does not mean that a husband may abuse, oppress, or mistreat his wife. Allah commands husbands:
Live with them in kindness.
Qur’an 4:19
The Prophet ﷺ also said:
The best of you are those who are best to their wives.
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1162
Islam therefore establishes rights and responsibilities for both spouses. A wife should fulfill her husband’s rights in what is lawful, and a husband must fear Allah concerning his wife, treat her with kindness, provide her rights, and avoid ظلم and abuse.
The correct understanding is not that a husband becomes an object of worship. Rather, the hadith emphasizes the enormous importance of the husband’s lawful rights within marriage while maintaining that obedience to Allah comes first.
May Allah grant husbands and wives the ability to fulfill one another’s rights, treat each other with mercy, and remain obedient to Allah. Ameen 🤲🏾
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.
Sunan Ibn Majah 1853
This hadith demonstrates the tremendous rights that a husband has over his wife. However, it does not permit a husband to be worshipped or obeyed in disobedience to Allah. Prostration is worship, and worship belongs exclusively to Allah.
Allah says:
Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him.
Qur’an 4:36
The Prophet ﷺ used prostration in this hadith to emphasize the greatness of the husband’s rights, not to permit actual prostration to anyone besides Allah.
The wording regarding fulfilling her duty toward Allah must also be understood correctly. A Muslim woman’s obligation to Allah remains the foundation of everything. She must fulfill Allah’s commands first, and obedience to her husband is required in what is lawful and permissible.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.
Musnad Ahmad 1098; authenticated by al-Albani
Therefore, a husband cannot command his wife to abandon an obligation, commit a sin, or violate the limits of Islam.
At the same time, Islam strongly emphasizes the rights of the husband and the seriousness of refusing those rights without a valid excuse. The Prophet ﷺ said that when a husband calls his wife to his bed and she refuses without a valid reason, the angels curse her until morning.
Sahih al-Bukhari 3237; Sahih Muslim 1436
This does not mean that a husband may abuse, oppress, or mistreat his wife. Allah commands husbands:
Live with them in kindness.
Qur’an 4:19
The Prophet ﷺ also said:
The best of you are those who are best to their wives.
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1162
Islam therefore establishes rights and responsibilities for both spouses. A wife should fulfill her husband’s rights in what is lawful, and a husband must fear Allah concerning his wife, treat her with kindness, provide her rights, and avoid ظلم and abuse.
The correct understanding is not that a husband becomes an object of worship. Rather, the hadith emphasizes the enormous importance of the husband’s lawful rights within marriage while maintaining that obedience to Allah comes first.
May Allah grant husbands and wives the ability to fulfill one another’s rights, treat each other with mercy, and remain obedient to Allah. Ameen 🤲🏾