Why is long duration couraho prohibited in Islaam?
Ali bin Abi Talib narrated that:
The Messenger of Allah said to him: "O Ali! Three are not to be delayed: Salat when it is due, the funeral when it is presented, and (marriage) for the single woman when someone compatible is found."
(Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1075)
Ali bin Abi Talib narrated that:
The Messenger of Allah said to him: "O Ali! Three are not to be delayed: Salat when it is due, the funeral when it is presented, and (marriage) for the single woman when someone compatible is found."
(Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1075)
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The Harms of Marrying the Wrong Person 🥀
Imām al-Shāfiʿī رحمه الله said:
“I heard one of our friends, whom I trust, say:
‘I got married to protect my Deen (religion), but I lost my religion, my mother’s religion, and the religion of my neighbours.’”
📚 •Manāqib al-Shāfiʿī
Imām al-Shāfiʿī رحمه الله said:
“I heard one of our friends, whom I trust, say:
‘I got married to protect my Deen (religion), but I lost my religion, my mother’s religion, and the religion of my neighbours.’”
📚 •Manāqib al-Shāfiʿī
Muslim Marriage Tips
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MARRY AFTER CONSIDERING KU FU (كُفْء)!
One of the important things to consider before marriage is Kufu.
But what exactly is Kufu?
Kufu is an Arabic word that means being equal or suitable to one another in important aspects of life.
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“Choose carefully for your offspring, marry those who are of equal standing, and give your women in marriage to those of equal standing.”
— Sunan Ibn Majah 1968
Why Does Kufu Matter in Marriage?
Let's understand with a few simple examples.
1. Kufu in Religion
Imagine a religious woman who wants to follow Islam in every part of her life. She wants an Islamic household and a husband who helps her grow closer to Allah.
But what if she marries a man who has little interest in religion and wants to live a completely different lifestyle?
With time, their differences may become a source of pain, arguments, and disappointment.
2. Kufu in Financial Matters
Imagine a man who earns a modest income and lives a simple life. He marries a woman who has always enjoyed a much more comfortable lifestyle.
If she cannot accept his financial situation, she may constantly compare her present life with her life at her father's home.
She may say:
"I was happier at my father's house."
"I never had to live like this before."
"Why can't you give me the life I used to have?"
Think about how painful those words can be for a husband who is trying his best.
What Should You Consider Before Marriage?
Kufu should be considered in important aspects of life, such as:
- Religious commitment and Islamic values.
- Financial condition and expectations.
- Food habits and lifestyle.
- Clothing and living standards.
- Family background and daily habits.
- Attitude, mindset, and personal values.
A woman should understand her husband's financial situation and not constantly demand a lifestyle beyond his ability. She should appreciate what he can provide and avoid comparing him with others.
Likewise, a husband should respect his wife's needs, treat her with kindness, and never make her feel inferior because of her background.
Remember, marriage is not about finding someone who can give you everything you want. It is about finding someone whose life, values, and circumstances you can accept and respect.
You don't need two equally wealthy people to build a happy home. You need two people who understand each other, appreciate each other's efforts, and remain grateful to Allah.
And above all, if both husband and wife have Deen, good character, patience, and respect for each other, that is one of the greatest blessings of marriage.
Choose someone whose presence brings peace to your life, not someone with whom you will spend your entire life comparing, complaining, and feeling dissatisfied.
May Allah bless every marriage with love, understanding, patience, and peace. Ameen.
One of the important things to consider before marriage is Kufu.
But what exactly is Kufu?
Kufu is an Arabic word that means being equal or suitable to one another in important aspects of life.
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“Choose carefully for your offspring, marry those who are of equal standing, and give your women in marriage to those of equal standing.”
— Sunan Ibn Majah 1968
Why Does Kufu Matter in Marriage?
Let's understand with a few simple examples.
1. Kufu in Religion
Imagine a religious woman who wants to follow Islam in every part of her life. She wants an Islamic household and a husband who helps her grow closer to Allah.
But what if she marries a man who has little interest in religion and wants to live a completely different lifestyle?
With time, their differences may become a source of pain, arguments, and disappointment.
2. Kufu in Financial Matters
Imagine a man who earns a modest income and lives a simple life. He marries a woman who has always enjoyed a much more comfortable lifestyle.
If she cannot accept his financial situation, she may constantly compare her present life with her life at her father's home.
She may say:
"I was happier at my father's house."
"I never had to live like this before."
"Why can't you give me the life I used to have?"
Think about how painful those words can be for a husband who is trying his best.
What Should You Consider Before Marriage?
Kufu should be considered in important aspects of life, such as:
- Religious commitment and Islamic values.
- Financial condition and expectations.
- Food habits and lifestyle.
- Clothing and living standards.
- Family background and daily habits.
- Attitude, mindset, and personal values.
A woman should understand her husband's financial situation and not constantly demand a lifestyle beyond his ability. She should appreciate what he can provide and avoid comparing him with others.
Likewise, a husband should respect his wife's needs, treat her with kindness, and never make her feel inferior because of her background.
Remember, marriage is not about finding someone who can give you everything you want. It is about finding someone whose life, values, and circumstances you can accept and respect.
You don't need two equally wealthy people to build a happy home. You need two people who understand each other, appreciate each other's efforts, and remain grateful to Allah.
And above all, if both husband and wife have Deen, good character, patience, and respect for each other, that is one of the greatest blessings of marriage.
Choose someone whose presence brings peace to your life, not someone with whom you will spend your entire life comparing, complaining, and feeling dissatisfied.
May Allah bless every marriage with love, understanding, patience, and peace. Ameen.
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Mostly toxic marragies work only beacsue women don't have a place to go back to, so they suffer in silence for a shelter.
Why we have this stigma in our society that divorce is a black label on women's head which she never able to wash off her entire life.
Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your daughter's the wrong thing about love.
Nobody ever died of "Divorce". Divorce in Middle Eastern Islamic countries or in European countries is normal thing and its not thought to be a black label. Muslims of subcontinent couldn’t finish the influence of Hinduism on their lifestyle even after hundreds of years of conversion. Look at the way wedding , funeral and even worships are done, so much similarities with Hinduism.
Why we have this stigma in our society that divorce is a black label on women's head which she never able to wash off her entire life.
Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your daughter's the wrong thing about love.
Nobody ever died of "Divorce". Divorce in Middle Eastern Islamic countries or in European countries is normal thing and its not thought to be a black label. Muslims of subcontinent couldn’t finish the influence of Hinduism on their lifestyle even after hundreds of years of conversion. Look at the way wedding , funeral and even worships are done, so much similarities with Hinduism.
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