Marriage is one of the easiest thing in Islam but I don't even understand some of you and your family.
The problem of your family is just to show off and your problem too is just to show off to your friends.
Maybe already you even made someone who did not pay your bride price to have sex with you free and now someone want to marry you and you are even given the person headache with plenty things, don't your family know you are already cheap for haven sex already with someone or even that so call man who came home to marry you?
I beg let someone son breath, make marriage simple and easy for it is in Islam.
If he has the means, alhamdulillaah but if he do not, don't stress him let him do what he is capable of without borrowing.
The problem of your family is just to show off and your problem too is just to show off to your friends.
Maybe already you even made someone who did not pay your bride price to have sex with you free and now someone want to marry you and you are even given the person headache with plenty things, don't your family know you are already cheap for haven sex already with someone or even that so call man who came home to marry you?
I beg let someone son breath, make marriage simple and easy for it is in Islam.
If he has the means, alhamdulillaah but if he do not, don't stress him let him do what he is capable of without borrowing.
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A Woman Without a Male Guardian is Easy Prey
A woman once came to Makkah to perform Hajj and ʿUmrah. She was very beautiful. When she went to throw the stones at the Jamarāt, the famous poet ʿUmar ibn Abī Rabīʿah, who was known for admiring and praising women, saw her. He spoke to her, but she did not answer.
On the second night, he approached her again. She shouted at him, saying: “Stay away from me! I am in the Sacred Sanctuary of Allah, during days of great holiness.”
He kept insisting, so she became afraid that people might notice. She left quickly and returned to her tent.
On the third night, she said to her brother: “Come with me and show me the rites.”
When ʿUmar ibn Abī Rabīʿah saw her brother with her, he stayed where he was and did not approach her. She laughed and said her famous words:
تعدو الكلابُ على من لا أسود له
وتتَّقي صولة المستأسد الضاري
“Dogs attack the one who has no lion to protect him, but they fear the charge of a strong, fierce lion.”
When the Caliph Abū Jaʿfar Al-Manṣūr heard this story, he said:
“I wish that every young woman of Quraysh could hear this story.”
In another land, there was a wise and righteous woman. She lived with a young girl. Whenever the girl wanted to go out, the woman would say to her son:
“Go with your sister. A woman without a man to protect her is like a sheep among wolves—even the weakest of them becomes bold toward her.”
A message to fathers, mothers, brothers, and husbands:
If she was bothered even in the Sacred House of Allah, then what about our markets and streets? O protectors of women, do not leave them alone—not because you doubt them, but because you want to protect them and safeguard their honour.
[Uyūn Al-Akhbār by Ibn Qutaybah (107/4)]
A woman once came to Makkah to perform Hajj and ʿUmrah. She was very beautiful. When she went to throw the stones at the Jamarāt, the famous poet ʿUmar ibn Abī Rabīʿah, who was known for admiring and praising women, saw her. He spoke to her, but she did not answer.
On the second night, he approached her again. She shouted at him, saying: “Stay away from me! I am in the Sacred Sanctuary of Allah, during days of great holiness.”
He kept insisting, so she became afraid that people might notice. She left quickly and returned to her tent.
On the third night, she said to her brother: “Come with me and show me the rites.”
When ʿUmar ibn Abī Rabīʿah saw her brother with her, he stayed where he was and did not approach her. She laughed and said her famous words:
تعدو الكلابُ على من لا أسود له
وتتَّقي صولة المستأسد الضاري
“Dogs attack the one who has no lion to protect him, but they fear the charge of a strong, fierce lion.”
When the Caliph Abū Jaʿfar Al-Manṣūr heard this story, he said:
“I wish that every young woman of Quraysh could hear this story.”
In another land, there was a wise and righteous woman. She lived with a young girl. Whenever the girl wanted to go out, the woman would say to her son:
“Go with your sister. A woman without a man to protect her is like a sheep among wolves—even the weakest of them becomes bold toward her.”
A message to fathers, mothers, brothers, and husbands:
If she was bothered even in the Sacred House of Allah, then what about our markets and streets? O protectors of women, do not leave them alone—not because you doubt them, but because you want to protect them and safeguard their honour.
[Uyūn Al-Akhbār by Ibn Qutaybah (107/4)]
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*Some married men cannot take a second wife, they are just sampling different ladies using the claim, 'I want to marry a second wife', to exploit sisters sexually. Be mindful!!!*
Abu Sheikh
Abu Sheikh
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Al-Qurṭubī rahimahuLlaah said:
❝Amongst humans, the ones shayṭān most often target are women, especially during their menstruation.❞
Tafsīr al-Qurṭubī 2/283
❝Amongst humans, the ones shayṭān most often target are women, especially during their menstruation.❞
Tafsīr al-Qurṭubī 2/283
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In our circle, most brothers get married while struggling. Family members and friends will have to support him, to wed. Some brothers started in one room before living in flats. If you know any brother who wants to get married, and shoulders the responsibilities, he deserves accolades, because uncultured men will rather seek haram sex for free without responsibilities.
To be a man is not a joke, it requires consistent prayer and efforts. He makes his money alone, but spend more than 80% on his wife and children. It takes a religious understanding to do this. Unrefined men want 'baby mamas', impregnate these women and refuse to be involved in responsibilities, being a responsible husband and father is a virtue.
Many married men feel this weight deeply, even if they don't always say it out loud. As a man, you're expected to be the rock provider of accommodation, food, clothing, protector, lover, handyman, emotional supporter, and sometimes even the villain when things get tough. The society does not forgive a man who is unable to provide.
While a married man is going through tough time, he needs a supportive wife. If you're feeling overwhelmed right now, you're not alone and it's okay to admit it. Talk to your wife if you can, or find trusted mentors, or even a counselor to vent to. Bottling it up makes it heavier.
Abu Sheikh
To be a man is not a joke, it requires consistent prayer and efforts. He makes his money alone, but spend more than 80% on his wife and children. It takes a religious understanding to do this. Unrefined men want 'baby mamas', impregnate these women and refuse to be involved in responsibilities, being a responsible husband and father is a virtue.
Many married men feel this weight deeply, even if they don't always say it out loud. As a man, you're expected to be the rock provider of accommodation, food, clothing, protector, lover, handyman, emotional supporter, and sometimes even the villain when things get tough. The society does not forgive a man who is unable to provide.
While a married man is going through tough time, he needs a supportive wife. If you're feeling overwhelmed right now, you're not alone and it's okay to admit it. Talk to your wife if you can, or find trusted mentors, or even a counselor to vent to. Bottling it up makes it heavier.
Abu Sheikh
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🚧Advice to the Youth regarding Haraam Communications with the Opposite Sex Via Social Media Texting Etc 🚧
_The Mufti Shaykh Abdul-Azeez Aaalish-Shaykh_
O Muslims, youth from the Muslim males and females have engaged in these websites and have regretted that; but their regret did not benefit them. They regretted that which has occurred and their error became clear to them. (It also became clear) that some of the youth of the Ummah are wolves in the images of men; they deceive and delude; they do not bring benefit. They exhaust their resources in the Haraam without the fear of Allaah to prevent them from their falsehood and deter them from continuing in their crimes.
An article was written regarding (people) who were tried with this calamity and affliction; and that which occurred from (impermissible) communication and that which occurred as a result of these websites from the destruction of homes and corruption of characters and the dissolving modesty, chastity, and nobility.
It says regarding some of those who were tried with this calamity that a woman spent a number of years with her husband in tranquility and goodness; security and chastity, until she was tried with these websites at the prompting of a friend, or the likes of that. She began a relationship with a youth who deceived her and deluded her; he corrupted her against her husband and promised her that if she separates from her husband then he would be her husband. She worked until she separated from her husband due to the scheme of that despicable person.
When he caused her to fall into that which she fell into and the affair resulted in Faahishah with her, he separated from her. She called him repeatedly, but he said: "I cannot trust someone who is lowly (like you); one who deceives once would deceive again (i.e., if you deceived your husband you would deceive me) I know good women and I have proposed to them in a legislative manner, and not by way of those devices."
This, O brother, is the result of these matters. So have Taqwa of Allaah O Muslim youth. Do not begin relationships by way of these forums; such that it would harm you in your religion and corrupt your character.
Source: http://ar.miraath.net/article/1521
Summary translation by Raha ibn Donald Batts
_The Mufti Shaykh Abdul-Azeez Aaalish-Shaykh_
O Muslims, youth from the Muslim males and females have engaged in these websites and have regretted that; but their regret did not benefit them. They regretted that which has occurred and their error became clear to them. (It also became clear) that some of the youth of the Ummah are wolves in the images of men; they deceive and delude; they do not bring benefit. They exhaust their resources in the Haraam without the fear of Allaah to prevent them from their falsehood and deter them from continuing in their crimes.
An article was written regarding (people) who were tried with this calamity and affliction; and that which occurred from (impermissible) communication and that which occurred as a result of these websites from the destruction of homes and corruption of characters and the dissolving modesty, chastity, and nobility.
It says regarding some of those who were tried with this calamity that a woman spent a number of years with her husband in tranquility and goodness; security and chastity, until she was tried with these websites at the prompting of a friend, or the likes of that. She began a relationship with a youth who deceived her and deluded her; he corrupted her against her husband and promised her that if she separates from her husband then he would be her husband. She worked until she separated from her husband due to the scheme of that despicable person.
When he caused her to fall into that which she fell into and the affair resulted in Faahishah with her, he separated from her. She called him repeatedly, but he said: "I cannot trust someone who is lowly (like you); one who deceives once would deceive again (i.e., if you deceived your husband you would deceive me) I know good women and I have proposed to them in a legislative manner, and not by way of those devices."
This, O brother, is the result of these matters. So have Taqwa of Allaah O Muslim youth. Do not begin relationships by way of these forums; such that it would harm you in your religion and corrupt your character.
Source: http://ar.miraath.net/article/1521
Summary translation by Raha ibn Donald Batts
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Keep this Zikr moist on the tongue for the next 9 days..
اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ
لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللَّهُ
اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ
و للَّهِ الحمد
Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar
Lā ilāha illAllāh
Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar
Wa lillāhil-ḥamd
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
There is no god worthy of worship except Allah.
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
And to Allah belongs all praise.
اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ
لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللَّهُ
اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ
و للَّهِ الحمد
Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar
Lā ilāha illAllāh
Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar
Wa lillāhil-ḥamd
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
There is no god worthy of worship except Allah.
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
And to Allah belongs all praise.
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"In the end, what we need is someone who brings out the best in us:
someone who inspires us to grow and become better versions of ourselves in the eyes of Allah.
. A partner who uplifts and guides us to achieve our dreams, rather than tearing us down.
Someone who loves us unconditionally, yet encourages us to work on our flaws and become better.
A person who is humble, honest, and authentic in every way. With a heart full of forgiveness, patience, and wisdom to teach and guide.
Someone who shows genuine gratitude for the journey we share, despite our imperfections. Together, we can navigate life's challenges and grow, even in our imperfection."
someone who inspires us to grow and become better versions of ourselves in the eyes of Allah.
. A partner who uplifts and guides us to achieve our dreams, rather than tearing us down.
Someone who loves us unconditionally, yet encourages us to work on our flaws and become better.
A person who is humble, honest, and authentic in every way. With a heart full of forgiveness, patience, and wisdom to teach and guide.
Someone who shows genuine gratitude for the journey we share, despite our imperfections. Together, we can navigate life's challenges and grow, even in our imperfection."
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Marriage isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the right partner.
True love is built on self-reflection, patience, & growth.
Allah describes marriage as a source of "tranquility, love, & mercy." That starts with working on our own character first
True love is built on self-reflection, patience, & growth.
Allah describes marriage as a source of "tranquility, love, & mercy." That starts with working on our own character first
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We are living in a time, where men and women justify fornication and adultery, may Allah protect us... Aameen
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Why Does Allah Call Spouses “Clothing”? 🤍
Not friends.
Not partners.
But clothing.
Allah ﷻ says:
“Your spouses are a garment for you as you are for them.”
(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187)
This word was not chosen randomly.
It carries layers of meaning… deeper than anything else.
💭 What does “clothing” really mean?
1. Clothing covers flaws
Just as clothes hide imperfections…
spouses are meant to protect each other’s faults — not expose them.
2. Clothing is the closest thing
Nothing is closer to your body than your clothes.
Marriage is not distant… it is deep emotional and spiritual closeness.
3. Clothing provides comfort
Good clothing brings ease and peace.
A healthy marriage brings sakinah… not stress.
4. Clothing protects
From heat, cold, and harm.
Spouses protect each other - physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
5. Clothing enhances beauty
Clothes make you look better.
A good spouse elevates your life, your character, your deen.
6. Clothing needs care
Without care… it wears out.
Marriage needs effort, patience, communication, and mercy.
💭 Why not “friend” or “partner”?
Because those words can carry distance.
But “clothing”…
is intimate.
attached.
protective.
a part of you.
🌙 Marriage in Islam is not just living together…
it is becoming a source of peace for each other.
💎 Not exposing… but covering.
Not hurting… but protecting.
💭 Final Reminder:
Be the kind of “clothing”…
that brings warmth…
not discomfort.
Not friends.
Not partners.
But clothing.
Allah ﷻ says:
“Your spouses are a garment for you as you are for them.”
(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187)
This word was not chosen randomly.
It carries layers of meaning… deeper than anything else.
💭 What does “clothing” really mean?
1. Clothing covers flaws
Just as clothes hide imperfections…
spouses are meant to protect each other’s faults — not expose them.
2. Clothing is the closest thing
Nothing is closer to your body than your clothes.
Marriage is not distant… it is deep emotional and spiritual closeness.
3. Clothing provides comfort
Good clothing brings ease and peace.
A healthy marriage brings sakinah… not stress.
4. Clothing protects
From heat, cold, and harm.
Spouses protect each other - physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
5. Clothing enhances beauty
Clothes make you look better.
A good spouse elevates your life, your character, your deen.
6. Clothing needs care
Without care… it wears out.
Marriage needs effort, patience, communication, and mercy.
💭 Why not “friend” or “partner”?
Because those words can carry distance.
But “clothing”…
is intimate.
attached.
protective.
a part of you.
🌙 Marriage in Islam is not just living together…
it is becoming a source of peace for each other.
💎 Not exposing… but covering.
Not hurting… but protecting.
💭 Final Reminder:
Be the kind of “clothing”…
that brings warmth…
not discomfort.
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Marriage has six stages,
But most couples give up at stage three.
Stage 1: The Honeymoon Stage....
In the honeymoon stage, everything feels easy.
You both try harder.
You forgive faster. You overlook flaws because you're still learning each other.
Love feels automatic because life hasn't tested you yet.
This is where everyone wants to stay.
Everything is new. Every touch is electric.
Every conversation feels like a discovery.
The hormones are flooding your system.
You feel like you've finally found what you've been looking for.
This stage is beautiful. But it is not real. It is nature's way of bonding you before reality sets in.
Stage 2: The Reality Stage
This is where the newness wears off.
The hormones settle.
You start to notice the things you overlooked.
He leaves his socks everywhere.
She needs more reassurance than you expected.
The conversations become less about dreams and more about logistics.
This stage is where many couples panic.
They think something has gone wrong.
Nothing has gone wrong.
You are just meeting the real person behind the chemistry.
This is where the real work begins.
Stage 3: The Disappointment Stage
This is the stage where most couples give up.
You realize your partner is not who you thought they were.
Or rather, they are not who you projected onto them.
The disappointment is real. The fantasy has died.
You may feel betrayed, even though no one betrayed you.
You may think you married the wrong person. You didn't.
You just met the real them.
The question is not whether they are perfect.
The question is whether you can love them as they are.
Stage 4: The Adjustment Stage
If you survive stage three, you enter adjustment.
This is where you stop trying to change each other and start learning to work with each other.
You negotiate. You compromise.
You learn what battles to fight and what to let go.
This stage is not romantic. It is practical.
But it is where real partnership is built.
You stop asking "why aren't you different?" and start asking "how can we make this work?"
Stage 5: The Companionship Stage
This is where the marriage becomes solid.
You know each other now.
The surprises are mostly gone, replaced by deep knowing.
You finish each other's sentences.
You know what the other needs before they ask.
This stage feels less exciting than the beginning, but it is richer.
The passion is quieter, but deeper.
You have become teammates who have survived battles together.
That bond is stronger than any honeymoon.
Stage 6: The Deep Love Stage
Few couples reach this stage.
This is where love becomes unconditional.
Not because you don't see each other's flaws, but because you have chosen to love through them.
This is the stage where you can be silent together and feel closer than when you talked.
Where you can fight and know the fight won't break you.
Where you have seen each other at your worst and still choose to stay.
This stage is not given. It is earned. Over years. Over tears. Over forgiveness.
And it is worth every hard stage that came before it.
But most couples give up at stage three.
Stage 1: The Honeymoon Stage....
In the honeymoon stage, everything feels easy.
You both try harder.
You forgive faster. You overlook flaws because you're still learning each other.
Love feels automatic because life hasn't tested you yet.
This is where everyone wants to stay.
Everything is new. Every touch is electric.
Every conversation feels like a discovery.
The hormones are flooding your system.
You feel like you've finally found what you've been looking for.
This stage is beautiful. But it is not real. It is nature's way of bonding you before reality sets in.
Stage 2: The Reality Stage
This is where the newness wears off.
The hormones settle.
You start to notice the things you overlooked.
He leaves his socks everywhere.
She needs more reassurance than you expected.
The conversations become less about dreams and more about logistics.
This stage is where many couples panic.
They think something has gone wrong.
Nothing has gone wrong.
You are just meeting the real person behind the chemistry.
This is where the real work begins.
Stage 3: The Disappointment Stage
This is the stage where most couples give up.
You realize your partner is not who you thought they were.
Or rather, they are not who you projected onto them.
The disappointment is real. The fantasy has died.
You may feel betrayed, even though no one betrayed you.
You may think you married the wrong person. You didn't.
You just met the real them.
The question is not whether they are perfect.
The question is whether you can love them as they are.
Stage 4: The Adjustment Stage
If you survive stage three, you enter adjustment.
This is where you stop trying to change each other and start learning to work with each other.
You negotiate. You compromise.
You learn what battles to fight and what to let go.
This stage is not romantic. It is practical.
But it is where real partnership is built.
You stop asking "why aren't you different?" and start asking "how can we make this work?"
Stage 5: The Companionship Stage
This is where the marriage becomes solid.
You know each other now.
The surprises are mostly gone, replaced by deep knowing.
You finish each other's sentences.
You know what the other needs before they ask.
This stage feels less exciting than the beginning, but it is richer.
The passion is quieter, but deeper.
You have become teammates who have survived battles together.
That bond is stronger than any honeymoon.
Stage 6: The Deep Love Stage
Few couples reach this stage.
This is where love becomes unconditional.
Not because you don't see each other's flaws, but because you have chosen to love through them.
This is the stage where you can be silent together and feel closer than when you talked.
Where you can fight and know the fight won't break you.
Where you have seen each other at your worst and still choose to stay.
This stage is not given. It is earned. Over years. Over tears. Over forgiveness.
And it is worth every hard stage that came before it.
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The default state of a Muslim woman is:
"And abide in your homes and do not display yourselves as (in) the display of the former times of ignorance." (Qur'an 33:33)
If she is compelled to go out:
"And not reveal their adornment" (Qur'an 24:31)
If she walks:
"And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment" (Qur'an 24:31)
If she speaks:
"Then do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is disease should be moved with desire, but speak with appropriate speech." (Qur'an 33:32)
This is how Islam teaches manners to the Muslim woman in the Qur'an. 🤍
"And abide in your homes and do not display yourselves as (in) the display of the former times of ignorance." (Qur'an 33:33)
If she is compelled to go out:
"And not reveal their adornment" (Qur'an 24:31)
If she walks:
"And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment" (Qur'an 24:31)
If she speaks:
"Then do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is disease should be moved with desire, but speak with appropriate speech." (Qur'an 33:32)
This is how Islam teaches manners to the Muslim woman in the Qur'an. 🤍
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Sis, a marriage built on taqwa
where both people fear Allah more than they fear losing each other
is the most stable thing in this dunya.
don't settle for less just because you're tired of waiting.
tired passes. a bad nikah doesn't.
where both people fear Allah more than they fear losing each other
is the most stable thing in this dunya.
don't settle for less just because you're tired of waiting.
tired passes. a bad nikah doesn't.
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YOU WILL CRY WHEN YOU READ
THIS
~A parent's home is always a child's home. But a child's home is not always a place their parents are welcome to stay.
~A parent's money is always for their children. But a child's money is not always set aside for their parents
~A parent's wealth will surely be enjoyed by their children. But a child's wealth is not always shared with their parents
So love your parents while you still can. Because in this world, there is no love more sincere than the love of your parents.
THIS
~A parent's home is always a child's home. But a child's home is not always a place their parents are welcome to stay.
~A parent's money is always for their children. But a child's money is not always set aside for their parents
~A parent's wealth will surely be enjoyed by their children. But a child's wealth is not always shared with their parents
So love your parents while you still can. Because in this world, there is no love more sincere than the love of your parents.
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A MOTHER'S ADVICE TO HER DAUGHTER.
Advice of Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith to her Daughter Umm Iyyās on the Night of her Marriage
Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith said to her daughter when she was being sent off to her husband:
My dear daughter, if advice were to be left off due to the refinement of one's manners then you would be in no need of that. However, it is a reminder for the heedless and useful tool for the intelligent. If it were that a woman could go without a husband due to the wealth of her parents and their great need for her then you would be the least of the people in need for that. However, the women have been created for men and men for women.
My dear daughter, you have left the environment from which you have sprouted and left the life which you have grown up in, going to a home that you do not know and a companion that you are unfamiliar with. He has become, by his authority over you, an overseer and a king. So be a servant to him and he will be a willing servant to you.
My dear daughter, take from me ten qualities and they will be for you an asset and a reminder:
Accompany him in contentment and be amicable with him by hearing and obeying.
Safeguard where his eyes land and safeguard what his nose smells, so that his eyes never see anything ugly from you and his nose never smells any repugnant odor. Kohl is the best make-up and water (i.e., good hygiene) is the best perfume.
Safeguard his meal times and keep tranquil his sleep times. The heat of hunger is infuriating and deprivation of sleep is irritating.
Safeguard his home and his money and take good care of him, his relatives, and take care of his children. Safeguarding his money is a sign of good judgement and taking care of his children and relatives is a sign of good management.
Don't spread his secrets and don't disobey his commands. If you spread his secrets you will not be safe of him lying to you and if you oppose his commands he will resent you.
Beware of displaying joy when he is upset and and sadness when he is happy. The first is irresponsible and the second is antagonistic.
The more you honor him the more veneration he will have for you; the more you are in agreement with him the longer your time will be with him.
And know, that you will not attain that which you want from him until you give preference to pleasing him over pleasing yourself and to his desire over your own in whether you like it or not. And may Allāh give good to all.
Source: Bulūgh Al-Arb by Al-Alūsī 2/19
Translated by Raha Batts.
AL WAHYAIN CENTRE.
Toronto, Canada 🇨🇦.
Striving to be upon Salafiyyah.
_The Salaf are the first three generations of Islam. They were the Sahabah, Tabieen and Atba-Tabieen. Allah Azzawajal praised them and commanded us to follow them exactly (read Al Qurʾān 9:100)._
Advice of Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith to her Daughter Umm Iyyās on the Night of her Marriage
Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith said to her daughter when she was being sent off to her husband:
My dear daughter, if advice were to be left off due to the refinement of one's manners then you would be in no need of that. However, it is a reminder for the heedless and useful tool for the intelligent. If it were that a woman could go without a husband due to the wealth of her parents and their great need for her then you would be the least of the people in need for that. However, the women have been created for men and men for women.
My dear daughter, you have left the environment from which you have sprouted and left the life which you have grown up in, going to a home that you do not know and a companion that you are unfamiliar with. He has become, by his authority over you, an overseer and a king. So be a servant to him and he will be a willing servant to you.
My dear daughter, take from me ten qualities and they will be for you an asset and a reminder:
Accompany him in contentment and be amicable with him by hearing and obeying.
Safeguard where his eyes land and safeguard what his nose smells, so that his eyes never see anything ugly from you and his nose never smells any repugnant odor. Kohl is the best make-up and water (i.e., good hygiene) is the best perfume.
Safeguard his meal times and keep tranquil his sleep times. The heat of hunger is infuriating and deprivation of sleep is irritating.
Safeguard his home and his money and take good care of him, his relatives, and take care of his children. Safeguarding his money is a sign of good judgement and taking care of his children and relatives is a sign of good management.
Don't spread his secrets and don't disobey his commands. If you spread his secrets you will not be safe of him lying to you and if you oppose his commands he will resent you.
Beware of displaying joy when he is upset and and sadness when he is happy. The first is irresponsible and the second is antagonistic.
The more you honor him the more veneration he will have for you; the more you are in agreement with him the longer your time will be with him.
And know, that you will not attain that which you want from him until you give preference to pleasing him over pleasing yourself and to his desire over your own in whether you like it or not. And may Allāh give good to all.
Source: Bulūgh Al-Arb by Al-Alūsī 2/19
Translated by Raha Batts.
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_The Salaf are the first three generations of Islam. They were the Sahabah, Tabieen and Atba-Tabieen. Allah Azzawajal praised them and commanded us to follow them exactly (read Al Qurʾān 9:100)._
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Quote of the day
Sufyan bin Uyaynah said:
"Whoever seeks honor (due to marriage) may be tested with humiliation, whoever seeks wealth may be tested with poverty, but whoever seeks religion, Allah will gather for him honor, wealth, and religion altogether."
(Hilya tul Auliya 7/289 )
Sufyan bin Uyaynah said:
"Whoever seeks honor (due to marriage) may be tested with humiliation, whoever seeks wealth may be tested with poverty, but whoever seeks religion, Allah will gather for him honor, wealth, and religion altogether."
(Hilya tul Auliya 7/289 )
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“I will not taste sleep until you are pleased.”
(Characteristics of a righteous wife)
The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said:
“Shall I not inform you about the best of your women from the people of Paradise (al-Jannah)?
They are loving, child-bearing, those who return to their husbands. The one who, if she causes harm to her husband or is harmed by him, and in another narration: if her husband becomes angry with her, she comes to him until she takes hold of his hand and says:
‘By Allāh, I will not taste sleep until you are pleased.’”
[رواه النسائي والطبراني وحسنه الألباني]
Shaykh Sulaymān ar-Ruḥaylī حفظه الله said in its explanation:
From the rights of the husband upon his wife is that she is diligent in not angering him and not becoming angry with him. And if she becomes angry with him or she makes him angry, she returns to him seeking to please him.
[Taken from the book: Rights of the Spouses, p. 36]
A righteous wife does not compete with her husband, she protects the peace of the home and seeks the pleasure of Allah through it.
(Characteristics of a righteous wife)
The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said:
“Shall I not inform you about the best of your women from the people of Paradise (al-Jannah)?
They are loving, child-bearing, those who return to their husbands. The one who, if she causes harm to her husband or is harmed by him, and in another narration: if her husband becomes angry with her, she comes to him until she takes hold of his hand and says:
‘By Allāh, I will not taste sleep until you are pleased.’”
[رواه النسائي والطبراني وحسنه الألباني]
Shaykh Sulaymān ar-Ruḥaylī حفظه الله said in its explanation:
From the rights of the husband upon his wife is that she is diligent in not angering him and not becoming angry with him. And if she becomes angry with him or she makes him angry, she returns to him seeking to please him.
[Taken from the book: Rights of the Spouses, p. 36]
A righteous wife does not compete with her husband, she protects the peace of the home and seeks the pleasure of Allah through it.
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The mind-blowing love between Qadi Shurayh (Student of Umar bin khattab) and his wife.
Shurayh said to his student Sha‘bi:
"I lived with Zaynab (his wife) for twenty years. I never got angry with her, day or night, except for one day and even that day, I was the one in the wrong.
I had prayed the two rak‘ahs of Fajr and saw a scorpion. I hurried to deal with it, flipped a bowl over it, and rushed to my prayer. I said: 'O Zaynab, don’t touch the bowl.' But she rushed to it, moved it, and the scorpion stung her.
Sha‘bi, if only you had seen me sucking her fingers and reciting the two protective surahs over her.
Then he spoke about his neighbour and spoke about his worst trait of beating his wife.
'I saw men beating their wives
May my right hand be paralised the day I would beat Zaynab.'
Shurayh also said:
'Zaynab is the sun, and all other women are stars
When she rises, no star remains visible.'
Adapted from Al-Jalis al-Ṣāliḥ, vol. 1, p. 568 onward. Authenticated by the author Al-Muʿāfā ibn Zakariyyā (305–390 AH).
Courtesy: Brother Asim Ul Haq
Shurayh said to his student Sha‘bi:
"I lived with Zaynab (his wife) for twenty years. I never got angry with her, day or night, except for one day and even that day, I was the one in the wrong.
I had prayed the two rak‘ahs of Fajr and saw a scorpion. I hurried to deal with it, flipped a bowl over it, and rushed to my prayer. I said: 'O Zaynab, don’t touch the bowl.' But she rushed to it, moved it, and the scorpion stung her.
Sha‘bi, if only you had seen me sucking her fingers and reciting the two protective surahs over her.
Then he spoke about his neighbour and spoke about his worst trait of beating his wife.
'I saw men beating their wives
May my right hand be paralised the day I would beat Zaynab.'
Shurayh also said:
'Zaynab is the sun, and all other women are stars
When she rises, no star remains visible.'
Adapted from Al-Jalis al-Ṣāliḥ, vol. 1, p. 568 onward. Authenticated by the author Al-Muʿāfā ibn Zakariyyā (305–390 AH).
Courtesy: Brother Asim Ul Haq
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