Why is Adultery Worse in the Case of Women?

Ibn Al-Qayyim rahimahullah states:

«الزِنى من المرأة أقبحُ منه بالرجل، لأنها تزيد على هتكِ حقِّ الله: إفسادَ فراشِ بعلها، وتعليقَ نسبٍ من غيره عليه، وفضيحةَ أهلها وأقاربها، والجناية على محض حق الزوج، وخيانته فيه، وإسقاط حرمته عند الناس، وتعييره بإمساك البغى، وغير ذلك من مفاسد زناها».

“Adultery is more repulsive in the case of a woman compared to a man, because she doesn't just violate the right of Allāh, she exceeds that by: contaminating her husband’s bed, tying someone else’s lineage to him, dishonouring her family and relatives, violating her husband’s right and betraying him as it relates to that, disgracing his reputation with the people, causing him to be shamed for staying married to an adultress, and other evils which arise due to her (committing) adultery.”

[Zaad Al-Ma’ād (5/377)]

-Hauwa Abdulrahman

Sufyan bin Uyaynah said:

"Whoever seeks honor (due to marriage) may be tested with humiliation, whoever seeks wealth may be tested with poverty, but whoever seeks religion, Allah will gather for him honor, wealth, and religion altogether."

(Hilya tul Auliya 7/289 )

From a sister

Women never love themselves even without polygyny.

There's too much envy and jealousy in their heart.

A woman will hate another because she's more beautiful.

A woman will hate another because she's successful.

A woman will hate another if she sees her husband caring for her genuinely, take mum in law for example.

And the list is endless

It is narrated that Shu'ayb ibn Harb wanted to marry a woman.

He said to her:
I have a short temper (quick to anger)

She replied: The one with worse character is the person who forces you to have short temper.

He said: Then you are my wife

Note: She acknowledged that a bad temper is often a reaction to provocations or lack of understanding from partner or an external stress

She meant I don't do things to trigger your short temperment

A man's happiness matters too.

Not just her mood swings and emotions.

Do you have a grudge, worldly dispute, enmity, or trial involving someone? Do you wish to resolve it? Do you want that person to love you?

Then seek Allah’s forgiveness for them and make duʿāʾ for them in their absence.

— Shaykh ʿAbdus-Salām al-Shuwayʿir حفظه الله
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A Reminder Benefits the Believers.

Many Muslim marriages collapse today because people are entering marriage with culture, emotions, trauma, pride, and social media expectations — but not enough Qur’an, Sunnah, patience, mercy, and fear of Allah.

Marriage in Islam is not just “love.” It is عبادَة (worship), responsibility, sacrifice, loyalty, mercy, forgiveness, and teamwork through hardship. Allah says He placed between spouses love and mercy, but many people today are nurturing ego instead of mercy.

Too many couples:
• expose their marriages online
• compare their lives to social media
• lack proper Islamic knowledge before marriage
• enter relationships while spiritually damaged
• abandon communication and patience
• refuse accountability
• choose desires over deen

A successful Muslim marriage cannot survive without:
🤍 Salah
🤍 Respect
🤍 Sabr
🤍 Good character
🤍 Lowering the ego
🤍 Fear of Allah in private and public

The Prophet ﷺ said: “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.”

And sadly many people want the rights of marriage while neglecting the duties that come with it. A home without remembrance of Allah becomes heavy very quickly.

May Allah protect our marriages, soften our hearts, grant us righteous spouses upon Qur’an and Sunnah, and place barakah, mercy, and tranquility in our homes. Ameen. 🌸

Marry only if you are ready to face challenges together, only if you are ready to accept each other's pros & cons, only if you can focus more on positives than negatives, only if U can give & accept love. Remember, There is no marriage which doesn't face challenges, highs & lows.

Marriage is not easy. It can be difficult. It can also be amazing and beautiful. Your partner is not perfect. Neither are you. So why demand perfection? The grass is not always greener on the other side. Today, let us pray for all those marriages which are causing heartache and may Allah protect, bless and guide us all. Ameen.

Every Woman Should Know This (Men’s Language)

1. Men don’t express love with long words — they show it through action.
If he’s there for you, that’s his real language.

2. Men pull away sometimes to reset their mind.
Give him space, he returns stronger.

3. His silence isn’t disrespect — he’s trying to solve things in his head first.

4. Men fall in love with peace, loyalty, and respect... not drama.

5. Men open up slowly.
If he shares his fears with you, that means you matter.

6. A man protects what he cares about.
If he guides you, supports you, or stands by you — that’s love in his language.

7. Men stay loyal to the woman who gives them trust, not tests.
Make him feel trusted, and he’ll give you everything.

Divorcing the Wife for No Reason

Does a man sin for divorcing his wife for no reason?

Question: Does the husband incur sin if he divorces his wife for no reason?

Sheikh Zayd ibn Muhammad al-Madkhalee رحمه الله says:

The reason behind him divorcing her must be looked into. If he has a valid excuse for why he divorced her, then there is no problem (in him doing so).

However, if he mistreated her and divorced her for no reason whatsoever, she doesn't have any (outstanding) flaws in her manners or physical makeup or any offense transpired on her behalf, then there is no doubt that he sins.

Because he treated her wrongly and probably she has no family hence becoming a victim of poverty and destitution. So it is upon the men to fear Allaah.

The marital life of the believing men and women is connected (i.e. between them in this worldly life and the next). The wife of a slave in this world will be his wife in Paradise in the highest degree of beauty and perfection, more superior than the hoor al- 'eeyn due to her prayers, fasting and belief in Allaah.

So it is upon the Muslim to be very diligent (upon holding onto his wife) if Allaah facilitates for him a woman from amongst the people of Tawheed, prayer and fasting.

And if certain things occur from her of crookedness or mistakes, then he corrects them to the best of his ability. (And know!) That there isn't any person except that they have faults and are prone to make mistakes. However sticking to and applying patience is (from) the mannerisms of the Mu'mineen..... Na’m.

The reader of the question states: He's (also) asking about the statement of The Most High: But if you intend to replace a wife with another.... 4:20?

The Sheikh says: Na'm if he wants to however because of a reason. It isn't intended for the man to change (i.e. divorce) his wife who he has taken care of and lived with for sometime except because of a reason that forces him to divorce (her). (If that is the case) then there isn't anything wrong with it.

Source: http://z-salafi.com/v2/action?s_menu=23&idFatwa=2785

Translator: Abu Fouzaan Qaasim

http://mtws.posthaven.com/divorcing-the-wife-for-no-reason

"Getting married is easy but the hardest thing is finding the right partner who's going to help you maintain and increase your level of Imaan and Taqwa."🖤🥀

Do you wish to be among the women of Paradise?

The Prophet ﷺ said:

Shall I not inform you about your women from the people of Paradise?

They are the loving, fertile ones, who return to their husbands; when she harms or is harmed, she comes until she takes her husband’s hand, then she says: ‘By Allah, I will not taste sleep until you are pleased with me.’

[Authenticated by al-Albānī in Ṣaḥīḥ al-Jāmiʿ.]


Reflect, my dear sister!!

A woman who hastens to reconcile even when she has been wronged. Then what about the one who herself was at fault?

Sadly, today we often see those who:

• Abandon their husbands over the smallest disagreements.

• Raise their voices without restraint.

• Refuse to apologize and wait for him to fix everything.

But this is not the description of the women of Paradise.

Remember:

The woman who takes the initiative in doing good, softens during disputes, and seeks her husband's pleasure for the sake of Allah, such a woman is from the women of Paradise.

If the women of Paradise are known for this quality...

Shouldn't we strive to be among them?

Marriage isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the right partner.

​True love is built on self-reflection, patience, & growth.

​Allah describes marriage as a source of "tranquility, love, & mercy." That starts with working on our own character first

Not everyone who longs for love is seeking love..

Many are searching for a place to rest their fears, a mirror to soften their doubts, a hand to quiet the ache of being unseen.

But love is not a remedy for emptiness.

Love asks for honesty. It asks for freedom. It asks two whole souls to meet without chains.

Attachment clings.
Love expands..

Attachment fears loss.
Love honors growth..

Not every soul is ready for a frequency that asks them to grow instead of cling, to liberate rather than possess.

And that is why true love remains rare..
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Umar Ibn Al Khattab Radhiyallahu Anhu;

"Nothing harms a man, after unbelief in Allah, as much as a wife with evil character and a sharp tongue"

📚 Hilyat Al-Awliya' 10666

In reality bid’ah is actually pleasing to the nafs because it breaks lose from the confinement of strictly follow the Sunnah. Whereas strictly following the Sunnah is hard on the nafs because the nafs is contained to follow established practice without say.

In fact, the Quran is enough to show you that the very reasons which lead the People of the Book astray was due to breaking the confinements of the Sunnah of their Prophet’s and innovating for themselves additions or subtractions in deen they argued for themselves were practices of goodness.

So if you really want to rectify the nafs try sticking to the confinements of “established” Sunnah until the nafs is broken and the heart tastes the sweetness of the branches of faith due to consistent practice of the Sunnah.

means she doesn't even care 😁😁 about you . Looolz

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