House chores
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“When a person is at home then it is from the Sunnah, that for example he makes his own tea, cooks if he knows how to and washes up that which needs washing, all of this is from the Sunnah.
If you do this then you get the reward of following the Sunnah, with imitating the Messenger ﷺ and in humbling yourself for Allaah - the Mighty and Majestic.
This also brings about love between you and your wife. When your family sense that you help them in their chores they will love you and your value to them will increase, therefore, this will end up being a great benefit.”
[Sharh Riyadh As-Saliheen, (3/529)]
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“When a person is at home then it is from the Sunnah, that for example he makes his own tea, cooks if he knows how to and washes up that which needs washing, all of this is from the Sunnah.
If you do this then you get the reward of following the Sunnah, with imitating the Messenger ﷺ and in humbling yourself for Allaah - the Mighty and Majestic.
This also brings about love between you and your wife. When your family sense that you help them in their chores they will love you and your value to them will increase, therefore, this will end up being a great benefit.”
[Sharh Riyadh As-Saliheen, (3/529)]
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Forwarded from Insightful Couples Marriage Guide Platform
On the Quiet Harm of Careless Matchmaking
بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم
A reflection occasioned by an online Salafi marriage platform's refusal to entertain clarification about a prospective suitor.
It is worth noting, at the outset, that the majority of scholars have not looked favorably upon these online marriage platforms — only a few have offered them qualified endorsement. Perhaps this caution itself deserves more attention than it receives.
There is a difference, after all, between vouching for someone whose reality you know and vouching for someone whose digital persona you have merely observed. A polished online presence — fluency in translation, proximity to a shaykh's channel, an appearance of affluence — tells you almost nothing about a man's character.
In an age of AI-generated personas and internet fraud, such markers are easier than ever to fabricate, and harder than ever to verify. Matchmaking, by contrast, was always meant to rest on testimony from those who actually know a person to exist as he presents himself — not merely to perform himself.
When a platform dismisses a sincere, firsthand testimony — from someone who has truly dealt with the man, traveled with him, shared close company with him — in favor of an internet impression, something quietly serious may be happening.
سَأَلَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ عَنْ رَجُلٍ، فَقَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ جَارُهُ، فَالْجَارُ أَعْلَمُ النَّاسِ بِأَخْلَاقِ جِيرَانِهِ؟" قَالَ: لاَ. قَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ صَاحَبْتَهُ فِي سَفَرٍ، فَالْأَسْفَارُ مُكَشِّفَةٌ لِلطِّبَاعِ؟" قَالَ: لاَ. قَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ تَاجَرْتَ مَعَهُ، فَعَامَلْتَهُ بِالدِّرْهَمِ وَالدِّينَارِ، فَالدِّرْهَمُ وَالدِّينَارُ يَكْشِفَانِ مَعَادِنَ الرِّجَالِ؟" قَالَ: لاَ. قَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ رَأَيْتَهُ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ يَهُزُّ رَأْسَهُ قَائِمًا وَقَاعِدًا؟" قَالَ: أَجَلْ. فَقَالَ عُمَرُ: "اجْلِسْ، فَإِنَّكَ لاَ تَعْرِفُهُ". (رواه الحكيم الترمذي وابن قتيبة)
ʿUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb asked about a man (when someone praised him). He asked: 'Are you his neighbor? For the neighbor knows best the character of his neighbors.' The man said: 'No.' He asked: 'Have you accompanied him on a journey? For journeys reveal the true nature of people.' The man said: 'No.' He asked: 'Have you had business dealings with him? For the dirham and the dinar reveal the true metal of men.' The man said: 'No.' He asked: 'Have you only seen him in the masjid, moving his head while standing and sitting (i.e., in prayer)?' The man said: 'Yes.' ʿUmar said: 'Then sit down, for you do not truly know him.'" end quote.
I say: What if you did not see his head moving in the masjid?
Thus, an innocent soul's life may be placed at risk. And beyond that individual, the broader reputation of Salafiyyah itself is put in harm's way, as outsiders begin to associate the name with negligence and deception, or even worse, with fraud.
If a marriage is built upon such deception, then — Allaah ta'aalaa knows best — those who enabled it through silence or dismissal may bear a portion of that burden.
لِيَحْمِلُوا أَوْزَارَهُمْ كَامِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ ۙ وَمِنْ أَوْزَارِ الَّذِينَ يُضِلُّونَهُم بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ ۗ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يَزِرُونَ
“They will bear their own burdens in full on the Day of Resurrection, and also of the burdens of those whom they misled without knowledge. Evil indeed is that which they shall bear!” Surah An-Nahl (16:25)
وَلَيَحْمِلُنَّ أَثْقَالَهُمْ وَأَثْقَالًا مَّعَ أَثْقَالِهِمْ ۖ وَلَيُسْأَلُنَّ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ عَمَّا كَانُوا يَفْتَرُونَ
“They will certainly bear their own burdens and other burdens along with their own, and they will surely be questioned on the Day of Resurrection about what they used to fabricate.” Surah Al-‘Ankabut (29:13).
عن جرير بن عبدالله:قال قال رسول الله ﷺ : مَن سَنَّ سُنَّةً حَسنةً فعمِلَ بِها، كانَ لَهُ أجرُها وَمِثْلُ أجرِ مَن عملَ بِها، لا يَنقُصُ مِن أجورِهِم شيئًا ومن سنَّ سنَّةً سيِّئةً فعملَ بِها، كانَ عليهِ وزرُها وَوِزْرُ مَن عملَ بِها من بعده لا ينقصُ من أوزارِهِم شيئًا. صحيح ابن ماجه (١٦٩) و أخرجه ابن ماجة (٢٠٣) واللفظ له، ومسلم (١٠١٧) بنحوه وفيه قصة، والترمذي (٢٦٧٥) بنحوه.
بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم
A reflection occasioned by an online Salafi marriage platform's refusal to entertain clarification about a prospective suitor.
It is worth noting, at the outset, that the majority of scholars have not looked favorably upon these online marriage platforms — only a few have offered them qualified endorsement. Perhaps this caution itself deserves more attention than it receives.
There is a difference, after all, between vouching for someone whose reality you know and vouching for someone whose digital persona you have merely observed. A polished online presence — fluency in translation, proximity to a shaykh's channel, an appearance of affluence — tells you almost nothing about a man's character.
In an age of AI-generated personas and internet fraud, such markers are easier than ever to fabricate, and harder than ever to verify. Matchmaking, by contrast, was always meant to rest on testimony from those who actually know a person to exist as he presents himself — not merely to perform himself.
When a platform dismisses a sincere, firsthand testimony — from someone who has truly dealt with the man, traveled with him, shared close company with him — in favor of an internet impression, something quietly serious may be happening.
سَأَلَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ عَنْ رَجُلٍ، فَقَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ جَارُهُ، فَالْجَارُ أَعْلَمُ النَّاسِ بِأَخْلَاقِ جِيرَانِهِ؟" قَالَ: لاَ. قَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ صَاحَبْتَهُ فِي سَفَرٍ، فَالْأَسْفَارُ مُكَشِّفَةٌ لِلطِّبَاعِ؟" قَالَ: لاَ. قَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ تَاجَرْتَ مَعَهُ، فَعَامَلْتَهُ بِالدِّرْهَمِ وَالدِّينَارِ، فَالدِّرْهَمُ وَالدِّينَارُ يَكْشِفَانِ مَعَادِنَ الرِّجَالِ؟" قَالَ: لاَ. قَالَ: "لَعَلَّكَ رَأَيْتَهُ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ يَهُزُّ رَأْسَهُ قَائِمًا وَقَاعِدًا؟" قَالَ: أَجَلْ. فَقَالَ عُمَرُ: "اجْلِسْ، فَإِنَّكَ لاَ تَعْرِفُهُ". (رواه الحكيم الترمذي وابن قتيبة)
ʿUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb asked about a man (when someone praised him). He asked: 'Are you his neighbor? For the neighbor knows best the character of his neighbors.' The man said: 'No.' He asked: 'Have you accompanied him on a journey? For journeys reveal the true nature of people.' The man said: 'No.' He asked: 'Have you had business dealings with him? For the dirham and the dinar reveal the true metal of men.' The man said: 'No.' He asked: 'Have you only seen him in the masjid, moving his head while standing and sitting (i.e., in prayer)?' The man said: 'Yes.' ʿUmar said: 'Then sit down, for you do not truly know him.'" end quote.
I say: What if you did not see his head moving in the masjid?
Thus, an innocent soul's life may be placed at risk. And beyond that individual, the broader reputation of Salafiyyah itself is put in harm's way, as outsiders begin to associate the name with negligence and deception, or even worse, with fraud.
If a marriage is built upon such deception, then — Allaah ta'aalaa knows best — those who enabled it through silence or dismissal may bear a portion of that burden.
لِيَحْمِلُوا أَوْزَارَهُمْ كَامِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ ۙ وَمِنْ أَوْزَارِ الَّذِينَ يُضِلُّونَهُم بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ ۗ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يَزِرُونَ
“They will bear their own burdens in full on the Day of Resurrection, and also of the burdens of those whom they misled without knowledge. Evil indeed is that which they shall bear!” Surah An-Nahl (16:25)
وَلَيَحْمِلُنَّ أَثْقَالَهُمْ وَأَثْقَالًا مَّعَ أَثْقَالِهِمْ ۖ وَلَيُسْأَلُنَّ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ عَمَّا كَانُوا يَفْتَرُونَ
“They will certainly bear their own burdens and other burdens along with their own, and they will surely be questioned on the Day of Resurrection about what they used to fabricate.” Surah Al-‘Ankabut (29:13).
عن جرير بن عبدالله:قال قال رسول الله ﷺ : مَن سَنَّ سُنَّةً حَسنةً فعمِلَ بِها، كانَ لَهُ أجرُها وَمِثْلُ أجرِ مَن عملَ بِها، لا يَنقُصُ مِن أجورِهِم شيئًا ومن سنَّ سنَّةً سيِّئةً فعملَ بِها، كانَ عليهِ وزرُها وَوِزْرُ مَن عملَ بِها من بعده لا ينقصُ من أوزارِهِم شيئًا. صحيح ابن ماجه (١٦٩) و أخرجه ابن ماجة (٢٠٣) واللفظ له، ومسلم (١٠١٧) بنحوه وفيه قصة، والترمذي (٢٦٧٥) بنحوه.
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Brother!
Don't marry a woman simply because she's fun to be around.
Fun is important, but marriage is built for far more than holidays, date nights, and good times.
Life will test you.
There will be financial pressures, family challenges, disappointments, setbacks, health issues, difficult decisions, and moments when you question yourself.
That is why you should marry a woman who strengthens what is weak in you.
A woman who sees your blind spots before they become your downfall.
A woman who tells you the truth when everyone else tells you what you want to hear.
A woman who believes in your dreams and helps you build them.
A woman whose intuition, wisdom, and sincerity become an asset to your future.
A woman who brings solutions instead of drama.
A woman who stands beside you during the storms, not just the sunshine.
Most importantly, marry a woman who fears Allah.
Because when a woman prioritises Allah, she will strive to be fair even when she is upset, fulfil your rights even when it is difficult, protect your honour in your presence and absence, and encourage you towards what pleases Allah.
The quality of your life will be heavily influenced by the person you choose to share it with.
Don't just ask yourself:
"Can I have fun with her?"
Ask yourself:
"Can I build a life with her?"
"Can I face hardship with her?"
"Can I trust her with my future, my children, my weaknesses, and my dreams?"
Because marriage is not a test of how well two people enjoy the good times.
It is a test of how well they navigate the difficult times together.
Choose the woman who will help you become the man Allah created you to be.
Don't marry the woman who only makes your happy days better.
Marry the woman who helps you suvive your difficult days.
Don't marry a woman simply because she's fun to be around.
Fun is important, but marriage is built for far more than holidays, date nights, and good times.
Life will test you.
There will be financial pressures, family challenges, disappointments, setbacks, health issues, difficult decisions, and moments when you question yourself.
That is why you should marry a woman who strengthens what is weak in you.
A woman who sees your blind spots before they become your downfall.
A woman who tells you the truth when everyone else tells you what you want to hear.
A woman who believes in your dreams and helps you build them.
A woman whose intuition, wisdom, and sincerity become an asset to your future.
A woman who brings solutions instead of drama.
A woman who stands beside you during the storms, not just the sunshine.
Most importantly, marry a woman who fears Allah.
Because when a woman prioritises Allah, she will strive to be fair even when she is upset, fulfil your rights even when it is difficult, protect your honour in your presence and absence, and encourage you towards what pleases Allah.
The quality of your life will be heavily influenced by the person you choose to share it with.
Don't just ask yourself:
"Can I have fun with her?"
Ask yourself:
"Can I build a life with her?"
"Can I face hardship with her?"
"Can I trust her with my future, my children, my weaknesses, and my dreams?"
Because marriage is not a test of how well two people enjoy the good times.
It is a test of how well they navigate the difficult times together.
Choose the woman who will help you become the man Allah created you to be.
Don't marry the woman who only makes your happy days better.
Marry the woman who helps you suvive your difficult days.
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The difference between Ajwa Al Alia and Ajwa Al Madinah
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The Prophet ﷺ said:
"Indeed, in the Ajwa dates of Al-Aliyah taken early in the morning, there is a cure or an antidote."
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It is one of the most sought-after dates among date lovers, especially given the high spiritual and nutritional value of this luxurious type of date associated with Madinah. The important distinction between the two lies in the fact that Ajwa Alia is considered one of the rarest and finest varieties, while Ajwa Medina enjoys a widespread presence and great popularity among consumers.
But the most important question is: How can I identify authentic Ajwa dates amidst the plethora of them available in the market? The answer lies in knowing the distinguishing characteristics of each type, understanding the differences in taste, texture, and source, and purchasing authentic Ajwa dates from a trusted store.
Distinguishing between Ajwa Alia and Ajwa Madinah is important for anyone seeking authenticity and quality, as each has its own distinct characteristics in terms of source, taste, texture, and even price. Here are the most notable differences:
Ajwa Aliyah dates are a premium variety of Ajwa dates grown exclusively in the Al-Aliyah region southwest of Al-Madinah, Saudi Arabia, near Masjid Quba, a historical region known for its abundant production of the finest dates. Ajwa dates, on the other hand, are grown in various orchards and farms in Madinah, making them more widely available and diverse in terms of quality and source.
Ajwa Alia has a deep flavor and balanced sweetness with a firm texture, making it a premium choice for date lovers. Ajwa Madinah, on the other hand, has a milder flavor and a softer texture, making it suitable for everyday consumption and a variety of tastes.
Ajwa Alia fruits are typically larger and darker, almost black in color, giving them a distinctive appearance. Ajwa Madinah fruits, on the other hand, are relatively smaller and lighter in color, yet retain their distinctive flavor that distinguishes them from other types of dates.
Due to their rarity and high nutritional value, Ajwa Alia is considered the most expensive in the market and is often classified as a luxury item. Ajwa Madinah, on the other hand, is relatively lower-priced and more affordable, making it an accessible option for a wider range of consumers.
Thus, it becomes clear that the difference between Ajwa Alia and Ajwa Madinah is not limited to taste alone, but also includes location, physical characteristics, and even market value.
Average price: the Aliyah can be found at 70 SR/kg and the standard Madinah Ajwa for 20 SR/kg (prices may vary on produce).
Map location: https://maps.app.goo.gl/NLBk96SC9zNTPPDb7?g_st=ic
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The Prophet ﷺ said:
"Indeed, in the Ajwa dates of Al-Aliyah taken early in the morning, there is a cure or an antidote."
_
It is one of the most sought-after dates among date lovers, especially given the high spiritual and nutritional value of this luxurious type of date associated with Madinah. The important distinction between the two lies in the fact that Ajwa Alia is considered one of the rarest and finest varieties, while Ajwa Medina enjoys a widespread presence and great popularity among consumers.
But the most important question is: How can I identify authentic Ajwa dates amidst the plethora of them available in the market? The answer lies in knowing the distinguishing characteristics of each type, understanding the differences in taste, texture, and source, and purchasing authentic Ajwa dates from a trusted store.
Distinguishing between Ajwa Alia and Ajwa Madinah is important for anyone seeking authenticity and quality, as each has its own distinct characteristics in terms of source, taste, texture, and even price. Here are the most notable differences:
Ajwa Aliyah dates are a premium variety of Ajwa dates grown exclusively in the Al-Aliyah region southwest of Al-Madinah, Saudi Arabia, near Masjid Quba, a historical region known for its abundant production of the finest dates. Ajwa dates, on the other hand, are grown in various orchards and farms in Madinah, making them more widely available and diverse in terms of quality and source.
Ajwa Alia has a deep flavor and balanced sweetness with a firm texture, making it a premium choice for date lovers. Ajwa Madinah, on the other hand, has a milder flavor and a softer texture, making it suitable for everyday consumption and a variety of tastes.
Ajwa Alia fruits are typically larger and darker, almost black in color, giving them a distinctive appearance. Ajwa Madinah fruits, on the other hand, are relatively smaller and lighter in color, yet retain their distinctive flavor that distinguishes them from other types of dates.
Due to their rarity and high nutritional value, Ajwa Alia is considered the most expensive in the market and is often classified as a luxury item. Ajwa Madinah, on the other hand, is relatively lower-priced and more affordable, making it an accessible option for a wider range of consumers.
Thus, it becomes clear that the difference between Ajwa Alia and Ajwa Madinah is not limited to taste alone, but also includes location, physical characteristics, and even market value.
Average price: the Aliyah can be found at 70 SR/kg and the standard Madinah Ajwa for 20 SR/kg (prices may vary on produce).
Map location: https://maps.app.goo.gl/NLBk96SC9zNTPPDb7?g_st=ic
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Forwarded from ʀᴇᴍɪɴᴅᴇʀ ʙᴇɴᴇғɪᴛs ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇʟɪᴇᴠᴇʀ
🆕 Allah Tests Us So that West Can Grow: Reframing Hardship & Trauma with Sound Islamic Beliefs
🖊️Imam Ibn Al Qayyim (d. 751 AH رحمه الله) said [in al Fawā’id]:
• إِذَا جَرَى عَلَى الْعَبْدِ مَقْدُورٌ يَكْرَهُهُ؛ فَلَهُ فِيهِ سِتَّةُ مَشَاهِدَ:
"If a servant experiences a predestined event that he dislikes, he has six perspectives regarding it:
أَحَدُهَا: مَشْهَدُ التَّوْحِيدِ، وَأَنَّ اللَّهَ هُوَ الَّذِي قَدَّرَهُ وَشَاءَهُ وَخَلَقَهُ، وَمَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ كَانَ، وَمَا لَمْ يَشَأْ لَمْ يَكُنْ.
1️⃣ First: The perspective of monotheism, recognizing that Allah is the one who decreed, willed, and created it. Whatever Allah wills happens, and whatever He does not will does not happen.
الثَّانِي: مَشْهَدُ الْعَدْلِ، وَأَنَّهُ مَاضٍ فِيهِ حُكْمُهُ، عَدْلٌ فِيهِ قَضَاؤُهُ.
2️⃣ Second: The perspective of justice, recognizing that His judgment is carried out in it, and His decree is just.
الثَّالِثُ: مَشْهَدُ الرَّحْمَةِ، وَأَنَّ رَحْمَتَهُ فِي هَذَا الْمَقْدُورِ غَالِبَةٌ لِغَضَبِهِ وَانْتِقَامِهِ، وَرَحْمَتُهُ حَشْوُهُ.
3️⃣ Third: The perspective of mercy, recognizing that His mercy in this predestined event outweighs His wrath and vengeance, and His mercy permeates it.
الرَّابِعُ: مَشْهَدُ الْحِكْمَةِ، وَأَنَّ حِكْمَتَهُ سُبْحَانَهُ اقْتَضَتْ ذَلِكَ، لَمْ يُقَدِّرْهُ سُدًى وَلَا قَضَاهُ عَبَثًا.
4️⃣Fourth: The perspective of wisdom, recognizing that His wisdom, Glorified be He, necessitated this. He did not decree it in vain, nor did He judge it arbitrarily.
الْخَامِسُ: مَشْهَدُ الْحَمْدِ، وَأَنَّ لَهُ سُبْحَانَهُ الْحَمْدَ التَّامَّ عَلَى ذَلِكَ مِنْ جَمِيعِ وُجُوهِهِ.
5️⃣Fifth: The perspective of praise, recognizing that He, Glorified be He, deserves complete praise for it from all aspects.
السَّادِسُ: مَشْهَدُ الْعُبُودِيَّةِ، وَأَنَّهُ عَبْدٌ مَحْضٌ مِنْ كُلِّ وَجْهٍ، تَجْرِي عَلَيْهِ أَحْكَامُ سَيِّدِهِ وَأَقْضِيَتُهُ بِحُكْمِ كَوْنِهِ مِلْكَهُ وَعَبْدَهُ،
6️⃣ Sixth: The perspective of servitude, recognizing that he is purely a servant in every respect, subjected to the judgments and decrees of his Master due to his status as His property and servant.
فَيُصَرِّفُهُ تَحْتَ أَحْكَامِهِ الْقَدَرِيَّةِ كَمَا يُصَرِّفُهُ تَحْتَ أَحْكَامِهِ الدِّينِيَّةِ؛ فَهُوَ مَحَلٌّ لِجَرَيَانِ هَذِهِ الْأَحْكَامِ عَلَيْهِ.
He is directed under His (universal) decrees (of predestination) as he is directed under His religious commands; he is a locus for the operation of these judgments upon him."
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🖊️Imam Ibn Al Qayyim (d. 751 AH رحمه الله) said [in al Fawā’id]:
• إِذَا جَرَى عَلَى الْعَبْدِ مَقْدُورٌ يَكْرَهُهُ؛ فَلَهُ فِيهِ سِتَّةُ مَشَاهِدَ:
"If a servant experiences a predestined event that he dislikes, he has six perspectives regarding it:
أَحَدُهَا: مَشْهَدُ التَّوْحِيدِ، وَأَنَّ اللَّهَ هُوَ الَّذِي قَدَّرَهُ وَشَاءَهُ وَخَلَقَهُ، وَمَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ كَانَ، وَمَا لَمْ يَشَأْ لَمْ يَكُنْ.
1️⃣ First: The perspective of monotheism, recognizing that Allah is the one who decreed, willed, and created it. Whatever Allah wills happens, and whatever He does not will does not happen.
الثَّانِي: مَشْهَدُ الْعَدْلِ، وَأَنَّهُ مَاضٍ فِيهِ حُكْمُهُ، عَدْلٌ فِيهِ قَضَاؤُهُ.
2️⃣ Second: The perspective of justice, recognizing that His judgment is carried out in it, and His decree is just.
الثَّالِثُ: مَشْهَدُ الرَّحْمَةِ، وَأَنَّ رَحْمَتَهُ فِي هَذَا الْمَقْدُورِ غَالِبَةٌ لِغَضَبِهِ وَانْتِقَامِهِ، وَرَحْمَتُهُ حَشْوُهُ.
3️⃣ Third: The perspective of mercy, recognizing that His mercy in this predestined event outweighs His wrath and vengeance, and His mercy permeates it.
الرَّابِعُ: مَشْهَدُ الْحِكْمَةِ، وَأَنَّ حِكْمَتَهُ سُبْحَانَهُ اقْتَضَتْ ذَلِكَ، لَمْ يُقَدِّرْهُ سُدًى وَلَا قَضَاهُ عَبَثًا.
4️⃣Fourth: The perspective of wisdom, recognizing that His wisdom, Glorified be He, necessitated this. He did not decree it in vain, nor did He judge it arbitrarily.
الْخَامِسُ: مَشْهَدُ الْحَمْدِ، وَأَنَّ لَهُ سُبْحَانَهُ الْحَمْدَ التَّامَّ عَلَى ذَلِكَ مِنْ جَمِيعِ وُجُوهِهِ.
5️⃣Fifth: The perspective of praise, recognizing that He, Glorified be He, deserves complete praise for it from all aspects.
السَّادِسُ: مَشْهَدُ الْعُبُودِيَّةِ، وَأَنَّهُ عَبْدٌ مَحْضٌ مِنْ كُلِّ وَجْهٍ، تَجْرِي عَلَيْهِ أَحْكَامُ سَيِّدِهِ وَأَقْضِيَتُهُ بِحُكْمِ كَوْنِهِ مِلْكَهُ وَعَبْدَهُ،
6️⃣ Sixth: The perspective of servitude, recognizing that he is purely a servant in every respect, subjected to the judgments and decrees of his Master due to his status as His property and servant.
فَيُصَرِّفُهُ تَحْتَ أَحْكَامِهِ الْقَدَرِيَّةِ كَمَا يُصَرِّفُهُ تَحْتَ أَحْكَامِهِ الدِّينِيَّةِ؛ فَهُوَ مَحَلٌّ لِجَرَيَانِ هَذِهِ الْأَحْكَامِ عَلَيْهِ.
He is directed under His (universal) decrees (of predestination) as he is directed under His religious commands; he is a locus for the operation of these judgments upon him."
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🆕 Allah Tests Us So that West Can Grow: Reframing Hardship & Trauma with Sound Islamic Beliefs
🖊️Imam Ibn Al Qayyim (d. 751 AH رحمه الله) said [in al Fawā’id]:
• إِذَا جَرَى عَلَى الْعَبْدِ مَقْدُورٌ يَكْرَهُهُ؛ فَلَهُ فِيهِ سِتَّةُ مَشَاهِدَ:
"If a servant…
🖊️Imam Ibn Al Qayyim (d. 751 AH رحمه الله) said [in al Fawā’id]:
• إِذَا جَرَى عَلَى الْعَبْدِ مَقْدُورٌ يَكْرَهُهُ؛ فَلَهُ فِيهِ سِتَّةُ مَشَاهِدَ:
"If a servant…
Marriage used to be about lifelong vows - till death do us part. Unless there was abuse, violence or infidelity, couples used to be patient with each other, and grew together.
Feminism destroyed this beautiful institution by brain washing women. They made women believe that having a happy, stable family life was not enough. When you start to think that the grass is greener on the other side, you kill your own happiness.
And now marriages are breaking for reasons which are neither abuse, nor violence, nor infidelity. Here are some of the reasons, which has been implanted purely by the feminist ideology.
1. 'I felt bored and wanted excitement.'
He was loyal, a great provider, treated her like a queen, and never cheated but after a few years the daily routine felt flat to her.
Feminism taught her that marriage is supposed to be an endless romantic movie full of butterflies and adventure. So, she started looking outside for the thrill instead of building deeper connection with the solid man she already had.
2. 'I lost myself in the marriage.'
She had stability, kids, a nice home, and a husband who supported her, but she claimed she no longer knew who she was.
Feminism drilled into her brain that being a wife and mother is oppressive and that she must 'find herself' even if it means blowing up her family. So she left to chase 'personal growth' while destroying the home that actually gave her identity and security.
3. 'He was too nice and predictable.'
The same qualities that made him marriage material - calm, consistent, responsible, and non-dramatic suddenly became boring in her eyes.
Feminism romanticizes chaotic bad boys and 'excitement' while telling women that a stable, strong leader is beta and unworthy. She craved drama and challenge instead of appreciating the peace a good man provides.
4. 'My friends said I deserved better.'
Outside voices played a huge role - single girlfriends, online therapists, Instagram influencers, and feminist content constantly whispered that she was settling.
Feminism conditions women to always keep one eye on the upgrade instead of investing in and protecting what they already have with their husband.
5. 'I wanted to be independent and focus on my career.'
Even with a husband who supported her dreams, she felt marriage and family were holding her back from 'living her best life.'
Feminism sold her the lie that career success and solo independence are more fulfilling than building a legacy with a good man. Many regretted it later when the corporate world proved colder than home.
6. 'The spark was gone.'
No abuse, no major fights - just normal life after years together with kids and responsibilities. Instead of working on reigniting attraction, polarity, and intimacy, she bailed because feminism tells women that when the initial feelings fade, you should leave.
7. 'I needed to be happy and put myself first.'
This was the most repeated answer. Feminism turned marriage from a sacred team covenant into a personal happiness dispenser.
If it stopped making her feel constantly excited or fulfilled, she felt justified to walk away even from a 'perfect' husband. Selfishness disguised as self-love destroyed these homes."
8. 'I thought I could do better on my own.'
Hypergamy in full effect. They believed single life or a new man would be an upgrade from the loyal, providing husband they had.
Feminism removed any shame around breaking vows and destroying families. Most later realized the grass was not greener, but by then the damage to their children and ex-husband was already done.
Modern women are leaving good men not because of mistreatment, but because feminism has poisoned their minds with entitlement, unrealistic expectations, and zero loyalty.
Feminism destroyed this beautiful institution by brain washing women. They made women believe that having a happy, stable family life was not enough. When you start to think that the grass is greener on the other side, you kill your own happiness.
And now marriages are breaking for reasons which are neither abuse, nor violence, nor infidelity. Here are some of the reasons, which has been implanted purely by the feminist ideology.
1. 'I felt bored and wanted excitement.'
He was loyal, a great provider, treated her like a queen, and never cheated but after a few years the daily routine felt flat to her.
Feminism taught her that marriage is supposed to be an endless romantic movie full of butterflies and adventure. So, she started looking outside for the thrill instead of building deeper connection with the solid man she already had.
2. 'I lost myself in the marriage.'
She had stability, kids, a nice home, and a husband who supported her, but she claimed she no longer knew who she was.
Feminism drilled into her brain that being a wife and mother is oppressive and that she must 'find herself' even if it means blowing up her family. So she left to chase 'personal growth' while destroying the home that actually gave her identity and security.
3. 'He was too nice and predictable.'
The same qualities that made him marriage material - calm, consistent, responsible, and non-dramatic suddenly became boring in her eyes.
Feminism romanticizes chaotic bad boys and 'excitement' while telling women that a stable, strong leader is beta and unworthy. She craved drama and challenge instead of appreciating the peace a good man provides.
4. 'My friends said I deserved better.'
Outside voices played a huge role - single girlfriends, online therapists, Instagram influencers, and feminist content constantly whispered that she was settling.
Feminism conditions women to always keep one eye on the upgrade instead of investing in and protecting what they already have with their husband.
5. 'I wanted to be independent and focus on my career.'
Even with a husband who supported her dreams, she felt marriage and family were holding her back from 'living her best life.'
Feminism sold her the lie that career success and solo independence are more fulfilling than building a legacy with a good man. Many regretted it later when the corporate world proved colder than home.
6. 'The spark was gone.'
No abuse, no major fights - just normal life after years together with kids and responsibilities. Instead of working on reigniting attraction, polarity, and intimacy, she bailed because feminism tells women that when the initial feelings fade, you should leave.
7. 'I needed to be happy and put myself first.'
This was the most repeated answer. Feminism turned marriage from a sacred team covenant into a personal happiness dispenser.
If it stopped making her feel constantly excited or fulfilled, she felt justified to walk away even from a 'perfect' husband. Selfishness disguised as self-love destroyed these homes."
8. 'I thought I could do better on my own.'
Hypergamy in full effect. They believed single life or a new man would be an upgrade from the loyal, providing husband they had.
Feminism removed any shame around breaking vows and destroying families. Most later realized the grass was not greener, but by then the damage to their children and ex-husband was already done.
Modern women are leaving good men not because of mistreatment, but because feminism has poisoned their minds with entitlement, unrealistic expectations, and zero loyalty.
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Inside The Mind of a Striving to be Righteous Salafi woman:
Just a small piece of advice to any brother that's looking for a salafi wife, when you have a lot of females on your friend list it's a turn off to the righteous salafi woman that is. When you're following women on social media and most of them are single, it's a turn off. When you are married but you hide your marital status on social media, it's a turn off. When you go back and forth with women on social media, it's a turn off. When you DM women with small talk, it's a turn off. When you're constantly posting pics of yourself, it's a turn off. When your post are distasteful it's a turn off. When you don't dress Islamically, it's a turn off. When you use foul language, it's a turn off. When you make posts pertaining to your single status so all the single women on your page can like, love, and comment, it's a turn off and I'm sure the flipside is the same for a righteous salafi man so sisters be mindful of being guilty of this as well. Brothers step up your game if you're looking for a righteous salafi wife and be mindful of these actions and vice versa. You will only attract the wrong type of woman or man by your actions and you will have no one to blame but yourself. If a sister is interested in you or sitting with you and you are on social media, know that she will go through your page with a fine tooth comb! She will investigate you better than any private investigator. She will investigate you even more than her wali or wakil because women have learned to be an advocate for themselves. Times have changed and sisters are not trying to be caught out there with the wrong brother. They are being extra cautious and one wrong move on your part may be considered a red flag. Just think of your actions on social media like you are auditioning for a part not just for a spouse but for your own soul because you'll be held accountable for your misdeeds. Cover you faults and stop exposing them on social media and you may just find that righteous salafi spouse of your dreams!
Just a small piece of advice to any brother that's looking for a salafi wife, when you have a lot of females on your friend list it's a turn off to the righteous salafi woman that is. When you're following women on social media and most of them are single, it's a turn off. When you are married but you hide your marital status on social media, it's a turn off. When you go back and forth with women on social media, it's a turn off. When you DM women with small talk, it's a turn off. When you're constantly posting pics of yourself, it's a turn off. When your post are distasteful it's a turn off. When you don't dress Islamically, it's a turn off. When you use foul language, it's a turn off. When you make posts pertaining to your single status so all the single women on your page can like, love, and comment, it's a turn off and I'm sure the flipside is the same for a righteous salafi man so sisters be mindful of being guilty of this as well. Brothers step up your game if you're looking for a righteous salafi wife and be mindful of these actions and vice versa. You will only attract the wrong type of woman or man by your actions and you will have no one to blame but yourself. If a sister is interested in you or sitting with you and you are on social media, know that she will go through your page with a fine tooth comb! She will investigate you better than any private investigator. She will investigate you even more than her wali or wakil because women have learned to be an advocate for themselves. Times have changed and sisters are not trying to be caught out there with the wrong brother. They are being extra cautious and one wrong move on your part may be considered a red flag. Just think of your actions on social media like you are auditioning for a part not just for a spouse but for your own soul because you'll be held accountable for your misdeeds. Cover you faults and stop exposing them on social media and you may just find that righteous salafi spouse of your dreams!
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Nothing raises the status of a woman like chastity. It's a strength, a dignity, and a reflection of inner purity and self-respect. Guarding one's chastity is a commitment to personal values and a choice that honors oneself. This choice is about embracing a life of integrity and purpose, knowing that one's worth comes from within, and virtue is a source of strength. Those who remain chaste are promised Allāh's profound forgiveness and immeasurable reward in the ākhirah.
“And they who guard their chastity [means, those who protect their private parts from unlawful actions and do not do that which Allāh has forbidden; fornication and homosexuality, and do not approach anyone]. Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed - But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors -” — Qur'ān, Tafsīr Ibn Kathīr (Abridged), Sūrah al-Mu'minun 23:5-7
Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d:
Allāh's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him."
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī 6474]
Only Allāh ﷻ possesses perfect knowledge.
“And they who guard their chastity [means, those who protect their private parts from unlawful actions and do not do that which Allāh has forbidden; fornication and homosexuality, and do not approach anyone]. Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed - But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors -” — Qur'ān, Tafsīr Ibn Kathīr (Abridged), Sūrah al-Mu'minun 23:5-7
Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d:
Allāh's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him."
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī 6474]
Only Allāh ﷻ possesses perfect knowledge.
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Forwarded from كنوز العلم
An Eye Opener for sisters!
#Shared
"I was married to a student of Islamic knowledge, yet he constantly reminded me of my illness and made me feel like a burden. That experience taught me one lesson: never be deceived by titles, appearances, or reputation.
Look at a person's character, for that is what you will live with every day."
You do not need more than a sensible husband with good character, who establishes the five daily prayers, earns from halal sources, and has a connection with the Qur'an and worship.
Remove from your list the conditions that social media has filled your mind with.
There are homes filled with oppression, abuse, and misery despite an abundance of beards, Islamic texts, certificates, and titles. And there are homes filled with mercy, tranquillity, and kindness among ordinary Muslims who may never have studied advanced Islamic sciences, yet understand what it means to fear Allah and treat others well.
A person's books, certificates, and reputation do not guarantee a successful marriage if they do not act upon what they know. So look first at their character, manners, and religion before looking at their memorization, status, or popularity.
The title of "
Knowledge alone will not benefit others if it is not accompanied by good character. A long beard will not show mercy if the heart is harsh and the tongue is hurtful.
A man is not measured by what he knows, but by how he lives. And the real test of a person's religion is often found in the way they treat those under their care when no one is watching.
Anyone can speak about good character. The real test is living by it.
#Shared
"I was married to a student of Islamic knowledge, yet he constantly reminded me of my illness and made me feel like a burden. That experience taught me one lesson: never be deceived by titles, appearances, or reputation.
Look at a person's character, for that is what you will live with every day."
You do not need more than a sensible husband with good character, who establishes the five daily prayers, earns from halal sources, and has a connection with the Qur'an and worship.
Remove from your list the conditions that social media has filled your mind with.
There are homes filled with oppression, abuse, and misery despite an abundance of beards, Islamic texts, certificates, and titles. And there are homes filled with mercy, tranquillity, and kindness among ordinary Muslims who may never have studied advanced Islamic sciences, yet understand what it means to fear Allah and treat others well.
A person's books, certificates, and reputation do not guarantee a successful marriage if they do not act upon what they know. So look first at their character, manners, and religion before looking at their memorization, status, or popularity.
The title of "
Shaykh” will not lessen the pain of oppression.Knowledge alone will not benefit others if it is not accompanied by good character. A long beard will not show mercy if the heart is harsh and the tongue is hurtful.
Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymīn رحمه الله said:
“If the seeker of knowledge does not display virtuous character and good manners, then his pursuit of knowledge is futile."
[شرح حلية طالب العلم، للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله | ص ٨]
A man is not measured by what he knows, but by how he lives. And the real test of a person's religion is often found in the way they treat those under their care when no one is watching.
Anyone can speak about good character. The real test is living by it.
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ISSUES TO DISCUSS BEFORE MARRIAGE
No topic is off bounds when it comes to planning for marriage. If it is important to you, discuss it.
We are different so these issues will vary from person to person but here's a general guide.
Finance: This includes income, expenditure, plans, backup, contribution ratio, saving format, joint income.
Sex: Current status, expectations, limits and boundaries, handling disagreements.
Polygyny: Possibility of it, current status, limits and boundaries, acceptable terms.
Career: Dreams and desires, current status, limits and boundaries, time management, power of choice.
In-laws and family: welfare arrangement, accommodation agreement, structure, default united front, conflict management and resolutions, involvements, discussions and decisions, family traditions, current liabilities.
Conflicts and misunderstandings: Discussions, decisions, resolutions, acceptable third party.
Children: current status, desired number (as gifted), adoption.
Health: Current status and conditions, genotype and blood group. This, followed up by various medical tests including sex and reproduction tests.
Education and self development: plans and desires, current status, balancing with family.
Past: Very significant events from the past that can affect things going forward e.g. declaring a previously had child, significant records, anything you can be blackmailed with, etc
Religion: Current status, expectations and desires, limits and boundaries, procedure.
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This is not an exhaustive list, you can add as it applies to you. Way too many homes are getting lost because we are not taking the time to address these things upfront.
No topic is off bounds when it comes to planning for marriage. If it is important to you, discuss it.
We are different so these issues will vary from person to person but here's a general guide.
Finance: This includes income, expenditure, plans, backup, contribution ratio, saving format, joint income.
Sex: Current status, expectations, limits and boundaries, handling disagreements.
Polygyny: Possibility of it, current status, limits and boundaries, acceptable terms.
Career: Dreams and desires, current status, limits and boundaries, time management, power of choice.
In-laws and family: welfare arrangement, accommodation agreement, structure, default united front, conflict management and resolutions, involvements, discussions and decisions, family traditions, current liabilities.
Conflicts and misunderstandings: Discussions, decisions, resolutions, acceptable third party.
Children: current status, desired number (as gifted), adoption.
Health: Current status and conditions, genotype and blood group. This, followed up by various medical tests including sex and reproduction tests.
Education and self development: plans and desires, current status, balancing with family.
Past: Very significant events from the past that can affect things going forward e.g. declaring a previously had child, significant records, anything you can be blackmailed with, etc
Religion: Current status, expectations and desires, limits and boundaries, procedure.
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This is not an exhaustive list, you can add as it applies to you. Way too many homes are getting lost because we are not taking the time to address these things upfront.
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"THE BEST LOVE
The best love is when you love someone who makes your faith peak, your soul mature, and your heart as soft as anything soft.
The best love is when you love someone who makes you eager to spread out your prayer mat every night.
The best love is when you love someone who washes away your sins, reminds you of goodness, and becomes a great advisor when your piety declines.
The best love is when you love someone who can be a comfort when your spirit is crushed.
The best love is someone who can be a home for you, dedicating their soul only to you.
The best love is someone who can bear the patience for your imperfections.
The best love is someone who can build a paradise for you."
The best love is when you love someone who makes your faith peak, your soul mature, and your heart as soft as anything soft.
The best love is when you love someone who makes you eager to spread out your prayer mat every night.
The best love is when you love someone who washes away your sins, reminds you of goodness, and becomes a great advisor when your piety declines.
The best love is when you love someone who can be a comfort when your spirit is crushed.
The best love is someone who can be a home for you, dedicating their soul only to you.
The best love is someone who can bear the patience for your imperfections.
The best love is someone who can build a paradise for you."
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Not every marriage breaks because the husband and wife stop loving each other.
Sometimes, constant interference from in-laws slowly destroys trust, communication, and peace inside the home.
Islam teaches us to maintain family ties while also respecting the privacy
Sometimes, constant interference from in-laws slowly destroys trust, communication, and peace inside the home.
Islam teaches us to maintain family ties while also respecting the privacy
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P*rn is digital zina. And zina doesn’t just kill iman. It kills barakah, peace, focus, and rizq.
May Allah protect Us 🥺🤲 Aameen
May Allah protect Us 🥺🤲 Aameen
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Without men's sacrifices, the institution of marriage will be ignored. This is the only gender that will work morning and night alone to feed his wife and children. They do the most difficult jobs just to put food on the table. A very little of his earnings benefit him directly. If man no dey, marriage no go sweet.
A woman with zero account will seek marriage, knowing that the man will provide shelter, clothing, feeding etc. Through marriage, a large percentage of women have escaped poverty and hopelessness. Men are very important to the survival of marriage.
Abu Sheikh
A woman with zero account will seek marriage, knowing that the man will provide shelter, clothing, feeding etc. Through marriage, a large percentage of women have escaped poverty and hopelessness. Men are very important to the survival of marriage.
Abu Sheikh
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🌿 A Precious Advice from Āsh-Shaykh al-Islām Ibn Taymiyah رحمه الله
«“If the woman's tongue is long, then her days will be few with her husband.”
(i.e., excessive harshness, argumentation, and hurtful speech can shorten the harmony and longevity of a marriage.)»
📚 Majmūʿ al-Fatāwā, 23/360
This statement is a reminder about the importance of good character and guarding one's tongue. In Islam, both husbands and wives are instructed to speak with kindness, patience, and respect.
Allah ﷻ says:
«“And speak to people good words.” (Qur'an 2:83)»
A home is built upon mercy, gentle speech, forgiveness, and mutual respect. Harsh words can destroy hearts, while kind words strengthen love and bring blessings to a marriage.
May Allah ﷻ bless our homes with love, wisdom, and beautiful speech. Āmīn.
«“If the woman's tongue is long, then her days will be few with her husband.”
(i.e., excessive harshness, argumentation, and hurtful speech can shorten the harmony and longevity of a marriage.)»
📚 Majmūʿ al-Fatāwā, 23/360
This statement is a reminder about the importance of good character and guarding one's tongue. In Islam, both husbands and wives are instructed to speak with kindness, patience, and respect.
Allah ﷻ says:
«“And speak to people good words.” (Qur'an 2:83)»
A home is built upon mercy, gentle speech, forgiveness, and mutual respect. Harsh words can destroy hearts, while kind words strengthen love and bring blessings to a marriage.
May Allah ﷻ bless our homes with love, wisdom, and beautiful speech. Āmīn.
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Modern women enter marriage with a dangerous mindset:
“I want a traditional man who leads and provides… but I’m a strong independent woman who doesn’t have to submit.”
That contradiction is why so many marriages turn into battlegrounds. She wants the benefits of old-school marriage without the responsibility. Men are paying the price with dead bedrooms, constant drama, and eventual divorce.
“I want a traditional man who leads and provides… but I’m a strong independent woman who doesn’t have to submit.”
That contradiction is why so many marriages turn into battlegrounds. She wants the benefits of old-school marriage without the responsibility. Men are paying the price with dead bedrooms, constant drama, and eventual divorce.
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Piety isn't sexually transmitted.
An upright brother marrying a street baddie, with the hopes of changing her ways after marriage is only deceiving himself
A conscious sister marrying an unreligious man, with the hopes of changing him after marriage will either remain stagnant spiritually herself, or go down the drain and become like him.
Birds of different feathers do not flock together.
Marry your kind, from your spiritual niche.
Many of the striving sisters who married carelessly ended up abandoning their JILBAAB for scarf.
Many of the striving brothers who compromised in their choice of spouse ended up becoming a shadow of themselves.
You can't sexually transmit righteousness to someone else.
People can abandon certain habits or some lifestyle traits because of their love for you, but they hardly change 100% because of you.
Whoever has to change completely can only do so for the sake of Allah, not for the sake of a mortal.
That's why some husbands who imposed the JILBAAB on ignorant ladies and married them off without having them learn Islam, once such men die or divorce them, the first thing such ladies would do is to dump the same Hijab.
Men have four attempts at marriage, if they get one wrong, they can correct their flaws in subsequent shots.
As a woman, you have only one shot, you have to hit the bull's eye by all means, if you get it wrong, you don't get another chance unless you pass through divorce ..
You can't afford to gamble with your choice of spouse. May Allah right our wrongs. Amin.
Aboo Banaat
An upright brother marrying a street baddie, with the hopes of changing her ways after marriage is only deceiving himself
A conscious sister marrying an unreligious man, with the hopes of changing him after marriage will either remain stagnant spiritually herself, or go down the drain and become like him.
Birds of different feathers do not flock together.
Marry your kind, from your spiritual niche.
Many of the striving sisters who married carelessly ended up abandoning their JILBAAB for scarf.
Many of the striving brothers who compromised in their choice of spouse ended up becoming a shadow of themselves.
You can't sexually transmit righteousness to someone else.
People can abandon certain habits or some lifestyle traits because of their love for you, but they hardly change 100% because of you.
Whoever has to change completely can only do so for the sake of Allah, not for the sake of a mortal.
That's why some husbands who imposed the JILBAAB on ignorant ladies and married them off without having them learn Islam, once such men die or divorce them, the first thing such ladies would do is to dump the same Hijab.
Men have four attempts at marriage, if they get one wrong, they can correct their flaws in subsequent shots.
As a woman, you have only one shot, you have to hit the bull's eye by all means, if you get it wrong, you don't get another chance unless you pass through divorce ..
You can't afford to gamble with your choice of spouse. May Allah right our wrongs. Amin.
Aboo Banaat
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I asked several divorced men that I work with:
"When do you know a woman is for keeps?"
This this is what he said,
-If a woman calls you baby, darling, babu, love, it means nothing.
-If a woman gets intimate with you, it means nothing.
-If a woman marries you, it means nothing.
-If a woman becomes the mother of your child, it means nothing.
-If she is doing things for you, it means nothing.
-If she disconnects from all the social media platforms for you, it means nothing.
If she respects you when life gets hard, if she stands beside you when things are heavy and ready to build a world with you, then she means everything.
"When do you know a woman is for keeps?"
This this is what he said,
-If a woman calls you baby, darling, babu, love, it means nothing.
-If a woman gets intimate with you, it means nothing.
-If a woman marries you, it means nothing.
-If a woman becomes the mother of your child, it means nothing.
-If she is doing things for you, it means nothing.
-If she disconnects from all the social media platforms for you, it means nothing.
If she respects you when life gets hard, if she stands beside you when things are heavy and ready to build a world with you, then she means everything.
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Forwarded from Muslim Health Tips
STOP MORNING CHAI — START NABEEZ (SUNNAT MORNING DRINK)
Most people start their day with chai or coffee on an empty stomach ☕
That’s why gas, acidity, bloating, low energy, and brain fog have become normal.
But Prophet Muhammad ﷺ followed a simple morning routine: @naveed.inshape
👉 Soak 2–3 dates in water overnight
👉 Drink the water and eat the dates in the morning
👉 This Sunnah drink is called NABEEZ
🌿 Benefits of Nabeez:
✔ Natural energy without caffeine
✔ Improves digestion
✔ Reduces acidity & bloating
✔ Hydrates the body after sleep
✔ Gentle on stomach & liver
✔ Sunnah-based wellness
⚠️ Important: Consume within 24 hours only (avoid fermentation).
Chai is a habit.
Nabeez is Sunnah.
Start tonight. Feel the difference tomorrow.
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👉 Share with your family
👉 Follow for Sunnah-based health
Most people start their day with chai or coffee on an empty stomach ☕
That’s why gas, acidity, bloating, low energy, and brain fog have become normal.
But Prophet Muhammad ﷺ followed a simple morning routine: @naveed.inshape
👉 Soak 2–3 dates in water overnight
👉 Drink the water and eat the dates in the morning
👉 This Sunnah drink is called NABEEZ
🌿 Benefits of Nabeez:
✔ Natural energy without caffeine
✔ Improves digestion
✔ Reduces acidity & bloating
✔ Hydrates the body after sleep
✔ Gentle on stomach & liver
✔ Sunnah-based wellness
⚠️ Important: Consume within 24 hours only (avoid fermentation).
Chai is a habit.
Nabeez is Sunnah.
Start tonight. Feel the difference tomorrow.
👉 Save this
👉 Share with your family
👉 Follow for Sunnah-based health
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