The earlier generations measured the excellence of women based upon their knowledge of Hadith, Fiqh, their piety and their memorisation of Qur’an. These are the factors that define the greatness of our women.

Greatness is not defined by: Can you make Biryani? How round is your Roti? Are you good at making tea? Are you confident when it comes to making Kebabs?

We need to raise women who are ennobled and great - not for marriage, men or future children, but for the sole reason that they deserve to be great. They are the followers of the Messenger of Allah. ﷺ

(Shaykh Aslam)

Let the Muslim woman fear Allaah and prepare...

"Let her remember that one day she will depart from this life. There will come a day when she, along with her beautiful body, her tempting good looks, her adorning of herself, and her tribulation of men will be placed in a hole, dirt will be heaved on her, and worms will eat her; her beauty and glamour will leave her, and she will be in that hole, dependant upon her actions and shackled to what she put forth in this life.

There were women before her who lived in castles, then they lived in graves wherein there were petrifying conditions, heads detached from bodies, and eyes hanging on cheeks. So, let the Muslim woman fear Allaah and prepare for this day it’s proper preparation.”

[“A Piece Of Advice And Admonition For The Women” By Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzāq Ibn ‘Abd Al-Muhsin Al-Abbād, Page 68 | Translated By Jameel Finch]

Having co-wives is viewed as a crime nowadays. We should be ashamed for shaming them... we've lost our way as Muslims.!

If every woman on the earth starts wearing a Burqa, men would still be answerable to God for what they see. And if all the men in this world get blind, women would still have to be answerable about appropriate clothing.

Rather than playing the blame game, just do your part. Ignore such useless debates. Just do what is your responsibility.

MUSLIM MARRIAGE 💎 TIPS

Women, if you want a peaceful marriage, stop competing with your husband.

Support him, respect him. Let him lead.

A man who feels respected at home will move mountains for you..

https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips

Its that simple.

ALL OF US MEN/WOMEN WERE CREATED ONLY TO WORSHIP ALLAAH
Sisters, You might be married to the worst man ever, like ASIYA ('alayha salam) was married to Pharaoh – but it didn’t change her and her loyalty and love to Allah SWT
You might be married to the best of men, and still not be saved from Allah's punishment – like the wife of Prophet Lut ('alaihi salam)
You might be a mature woman assisting your man in his 'mission', like the praised KHADIJAH (radiallahu 'anha) with her business empire. Yet her devotion was foremost to the Rabb of her Messenger (sallalahu 'alayhi wassallam)
You might not be married to any man, like MARYAM ('alaiha salam), and Allah SWT can make your rank higher than any women on the Earth
You might be a lifelong student of knowledge, aspiring to follow in the footsteps of the greatest female scholar AISHA (radiallahu 'anha), working hard for your Deen and for your Akhirah, while living your dunya
You might be a divorcee or a widow like UMM SALAMAH (radiallahu 'anha) whose complete trust in Allah's Plan allowed her to overcome the agony of her husband's death. To thereafter be rewarded with the love of the greatest man to have ever lived, Muhammad (sallallahu 'alayhi wassallam)
You might be a young mother striving hard with young children like FATIMAH (radiallahu 'anha). And striving to strike that balance in being woman, wife and mother for the Sake of your Rabb to attain His Pleasure
⌚ Know your priorities. Know your purpose in this dunya. Love and trust is with Allah SWT first
Whatever your reality, the ONLY relationship in this dunya where you will NEVER have your heart broken is the relationship between you and Allah SWT
Successful truly are those relationships which bring you closer to Allah SWT. Aspiring to walk hand in hand with your man in Jannah. Everlasting, blissful, true, complete love. Aim for that. Work for that.
- Sheikh Umran Kader

From a brother

Widow and divorcee are similar. A divorcee who was the oppressed is likely going to value an averagely good man but a widow whose husband was extraordinary good will be difficult to satisfy.

Dear singles,

May Allâh make Nikkah easy for you, and grant you a spouse who'd be the coolness of your eyes, and make you a good significant half to your spouse, and grant you offspring on the fitrah of Islaam, who'd be a good ambassador of Islaam.

Aameen

Shaykh Bashir al-Ibrahimi رحمه الله:

"If a woman is ignorant of the religious sciences, she burdens her husband, corrupts her children, and destroys the Ummah."

[Al-Athar, 4/50]

The story that shall make you cry, for the great manners of the Prophet (pbuh), and for the man who wanted to commit zina:

Imam Ahmad recorded Abu Umamah saying that a young man came to the Prophet and said,

"O Messenger of Allah! Give me permission to commit Zina (unlawful sex).'' The people surrounded him and rebuked him, saying, "Stop! Stop!'' But the Prophet said,

"Come close."
The young man came to him, and he said:
"Sit down."
So he sat down.

The Prophet pbuh said:
"Would you like it (unlawful sex) for your mother."
He said, "No, by Allah, may I be ransomed for you.''
The Prophet said,
"Neither do the people like it for their mothers."

The Prophet said,
"Would you like it for your daughter."
He said, "No, by Allah, may I be ransomed for you.''
The Prophet said,
"Neither do the people like it for their daughters."

The Prophet said,
"Would you like it for your sister."
He said, "No, by Allah, may I be ransomed for you.''
The Prophet said,
"Neither do the people like it for their sisters."

The Prophet said,
"Would you like it for your paternal aunt."
He said, "No, by Allah, O Allah's Messenger! may I be ransomed for you.''
The Prophet said,
"Neither do the people like it for their paternal aunts.

The Prophet said,
"Would you like it for your maternal aunt."
He said, "No, by Allah, O Allah's Messenger! may I be ransomed for you.''
The Prophet said,
"Neither do the people like it for their maternal aunts."

Then the Prophet put his hand on him and said,
"O Allah, forgive his sin, purify his heart and guard his chastity."

After that, it is said, the young man never paid attention to anything of that nature.

Find yourself a wife who shares your purpose, and there is no purpose higher than seeking the pleasure of الله.

If thats the goal that truly unites you,

then your marriage will be blessed, your bond will be strong, and your love will rest upon the strongest foundation a marriage can have.

Never trade that away for greater beauty, and never be deceived by pictures.

By الله, even if you married the most beautiful woman you have ever seen,

you'll never find peace if your purpose, your priorities, your way of living, and your direction aren't one.

Beauty cannot hold together what conflicting hearts pull apart.

Instead of becoming your place of comfort, the marriage becomes a source of chaos, exhaustion, and sorrow.

Our Creator, said, "A believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she may please you."

And the Prophet ﷺ said, "Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be covered with dust."

The wise man chooses a woman of religion, adorned with modesty and beautiful character,

A woman who seeks to please her husband because she knows that in doing so she seeks the pleasure of her Lord, and who helps him remain firm upon his faith and draws him closer to الله.

I am not telling you to marry a woman who brings you no joy when you look at her.

Physical attraction has its place.

But let your first priority always be her religion, because thats what remains when everything else fades.

Beauty, no matter how extraordinary, eventually becomes familiar.

Faith, character, and righteousness only grow more beautiful with time.

Teach Your DAUGHTER'S That PolygamY Is SUNNAH So That They Won't See It As A WICKEDNESS If Their Husbands Practice It.

Women, there are some words you should never say to your husband:

1.“You are very lucky to have me”
2.“I had other men who wanted to marry me, I just settled for you”
3.“My friends’ husbands are better than you”
4.“I regret marrying you”
5.“You will never be enough”
6..“I don’t need you, I can take care of myself”
7.“You’re acting like a child”
8.“I should have listened when people warned me about you”

These words destroy a man’s spirit slowly. Even if you reconcile, things will never be the same again.

Always be careful with what you say to your husbands, words can never be taken back.

Women from hell

There has been an increase in domestic violence of sisters against brothers. Some of them not only physically and verbally abuse, but they also force their husbands to take antidepressants, earn haram income, take riba loans, all under the threat of “I'm going to leave you old and alone, take the kids, the house and tell people lies about you”. These husbands are left subdued, emasculated, anxious, traumatised, drugged and alone.

This is financial, physical, spiritual and psychological abuse and even substance abuse! Why do such women enjoy such neutered, emasculated men out of fear of being controlled and led? Why do the men tolerate being poodles, doormats and victims? It is all so unnatural.

How can men live under such a raging, manipulative woman that resembles all the nasty, depraved women in the Quran and not like any of the virtuous, obedient and submissive women of the Quran? And yet these munafiqaat masquerade around in public and at their workplaces like they are decent people?

A safe space needs to be provided for men to come forward and not feel ashamed or feel like less of a man. Insha'Allah, I will build that space soon as part of my khateeb duties at Al-Madad Outreach. If the system doesn't care, the sharia of Allah (swa) cares. So we should care.

#DomesticViolenceAgainstMen

MARRIAGE WITHOUT PICTURES .
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Dear newlyweds,
We understand that during the honeymoon season, the euphoria and ecstacy of being with your beloved ones over clouds your sights and your hearing, hence you are tempted to do some crazy things, but please don't sell out your honour and modesty in the name of expressing your joy and love to the world.
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What we see here and there are pictures of grooms in beards and brides on niqab either chasing eachother under the palm kernel tree or doing jangolova together, no one is declaring it haram to play with your spouse, but not within the glare of the public eye, else it with will cause fitnah to you and to the people.
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When you upload your wife's picture on the Internet, do you know the number of strange men out there that will download it and be steering at her pix as if she is their own wife? Do you know that some men can even start fantasizing about your wife's picture, they can even inflict the evil on her, the jinn can attack her via her picture and the evil people can even cast sihr against her. Your wife is not an object that you have to display to people as if she is a UEFA champions League trophy.
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Dear brides,
You and your husband can have all the loved dovey fun at home without bringing it to social media, we are not your in-laws, you don't have to show us that you are living happily ever after. Each time you display your husband's picture on the net, you are not only exposing him to harm, but also displaying him to potential co-wives, so if you put your husband on the show glass and a buyer comes, you will have to sell, since you have presented your husband to be a mere commodity.
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You refuse to reveal your ATM passwords, you refuse to reveal your BVN number, you refuse to reveal your purse and wallets, you refuse to reveal your device passwords, but you find it so easy to reveal your spouse's pictures to the world? A good matrimonial home can exist without pictures, and it begins with YOU.

Must-do blood tests for couples planning to get married

1. HIV

2. Hepatitis B (HBsAg)

3. Hepatitis C (Anti-HCV)

4. Syphilis (VDRL/RPR)

5. Haemoglobinopathy screening (CBC + HPLC) – thalassaemia, sickle cell, other common variants

6. Blood group + Rh typing

7. HbA1c / fasting blood sugar

8. TSH

❌️Not recommended as routine premarital tests

-Fertility profile (hormone panels, AMH, semen analysis etc. in asymptomatic couples)
-Broad “other STIs” panel without risk factors
-Mental health lab tests
-Vague “common chronic medical conditions” screening without prioritisation
-Routine genetic panels beyond haemoglobinopathies (unless family history or specific indication)

My husband married
another woman. I tried to accept it, but it hurts me deeply and disturbs my peace when I think about it. Am I sinful if I ask for a divorce? (Q&A)

In Islam, a man is permitted to marry more than one wife, provided that he deals with justice and fairness between them. The Qur'an says: “If you fear that you cannot deal justly, then marry only one” (Surah An-Nisa 4:3). Therefore, if a husband has married again while intending to fulfill the rights of both wives, this action itself is not considered a sin in Islam. In such situations, it is often advised that the wife try to remain patient and handle the matter with wisdom, calmness, and dignity, especially if the husband continues to fulfill her rights, maintenance, and responsibilities properly. Patience and tolerance in difficult situations can bring great reward from Allah.

However, Islam also acknowledges a woman’s emotional wellbeing. If the wife finds that the situation causes her serious distress or if the husband fails to fulfill her rights properly, then she may seek separation or divorce. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasized kindness, justice, and fairness within marriage. Therefore, the best approach is first to try communication, patience, and mutual understanding. If the husband is fulfilling his responsibilities and treating both wives fairly, then remaining patient may help preserve the family. But if injustice, neglect, or harm occurs, Islam allows the woman to seek a lawful solution.

O Allah, grant peace and patience to our hearts, guide our families with justice and wisdom, and bless our homes with mercy and understanding. Ameen 🤲

And Allāh knows best.

Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about this very issue. A man came and said: “My father is telling me to divorce my wife.” Imam Ahmad said to him: “Do not divorce her.” He said: “Didn’t the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) tell Ibn ‘Umar to divorce his wife when ‘Umar told him to do that?” He said: “ (Don’t be full of yourself) Is your father like ‘Umar (who has the insight and wisdom to know which woman is good and which isn’t)?”

Ref: Al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah li’l-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/671.

If you meet a MARRIED COUPLE who are still in love after many years, you may think, “How lucky they are.” BUT in marriage, there is no such thing as luck. They made many compromises and learned to overlook one another’s faults.

They forgave many mistakes and endured many difficult seasons. They spent years learning to understand one another.

Love has never been a matter of luck. It’s mutual giving, compromise, shared dreams, care, respect, kindness, and patience.

ARE YOU A FEMINIST?

-If you don't believe in gender roles then you are true feminist.

-If you believe that men and women have equal rights then you are true feminist.

-If you believe that women can also become ruler then again congratulations you are clear feminist.

-If you believe that men and women should have equal opportunities then you are a hard core feminist.

-If you think women should be empowered by making them career ladies then again you are a feminist.