Marry someone who will encourage you, elevate your Imaan and most importantly, bring to closer to Allâh.
Make the deen your primary criteria in choosing a spouse, every other factors should come after.
Make the deen your primary criteria in choosing a spouse, every other factors should come after.
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Dear Dad,
I miss you in ways that break me every single day. Sometimes it feels like the world kept moving, but I stayed behind, stuck in the moment you left. I search for you in the stars, in the quiet, in the pieces of my heart that will never feel whole again.
I would give anything for one more hug, one more laugh, one more chance to hear your voice. The silence without you is unbearable. People say time heals, but time has only taught me how to carry the pain, never erase it.
You were more than just my father—you were my strength, my safe place, my home. Now I walk through life with tears that no one sees, carrying a love that will never fade, and a longing that will never end.
I miss you, Dad. Always.
Dear Dad,
I miss you in ways that break me every single day. Sometimes it feels like the world kept moving, but I stayed behind, stuck in the moment you left. I search for you in the stars, in the quiet, in the pieces of my heart that will never feel whole again.
I would give anything for one more hug, one more laugh, one more chance to hear your voice. The silence without you is unbearable. People say time heals, but time has only taught me how to carry the pain, never erase it.
You were more than just my father—you were my strength, my safe place, my home. Now I walk through life with tears that no one sees, carrying a love that will never fade, and a longing that will never end.
I miss you, Dad. Always.
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A man who cannot lead will always be frustrated by a strong woman.
A strong woman carries herself with confidence and purpose. She knows what she wants and where she is going. She is not looking for someone to complete her because she is already whole.
She wants a partner, not a project or a boy pretending to be a man.
But a man who lacks direction, maturity, or ambition will not admire her strength. He will see it as a threat. He will mistake her independence for arrogance and her standards for being too much. He will feel insecure beside a woman who chooses him but does not need him.
A man who cannot lead will feel small next to a woman who leads herself. He will try to control what he cannot compete with. He will try to silence what he cannot match. Instead of rising to meet her, he will try to bring her down.
But a strong woman does not need control. She needs leadership rooted in wisdom, integrity, and love. A man secure enough to respect her voice. A man who knows leadership is not about control but about guidance and partnership.
Many men want the benefits of a strong woman....her loyalty, her love, her support...but they are not prepared to lead her. Leadership means creating a safe space where she can trust, rest, and be soft without sacrificing her strength.
A man who cannot lead will want her to shrink so he feels big. But a real man will step up. He will lead in a way that honors her strength. He will walk beside her, building a path they can walk together.
Ladies, never dim your light for a man’s comfort. A real leader will not be intimidated by you....he will be inspired.
And men? If you are praying for a strong woman, make sure you are prepared to be a strong man. She is not looking for someone to crown. She is looking for someone already walking in wisdom, strength, and love.
A strong woman carries herself with confidence and purpose. She knows what she wants and where she is going. She is not looking for someone to complete her because she is already whole.
She wants a partner, not a project or a boy pretending to be a man.
But a man who lacks direction, maturity, or ambition will not admire her strength. He will see it as a threat. He will mistake her independence for arrogance and her standards for being too much. He will feel insecure beside a woman who chooses him but does not need him.
A man who cannot lead will feel small next to a woman who leads herself. He will try to control what he cannot compete with. He will try to silence what he cannot match. Instead of rising to meet her, he will try to bring her down.
But a strong woman does not need control. She needs leadership rooted in wisdom, integrity, and love. A man secure enough to respect her voice. A man who knows leadership is not about control but about guidance and partnership.
Many men want the benefits of a strong woman....her loyalty, her love, her support...but they are not prepared to lead her. Leadership means creating a safe space where she can trust, rest, and be soft without sacrificing her strength.
A man who cannot lead will want her to shrink so he feels big. But a real man will step up. He will lead in a way that honors her strength. He will walk beside her, building a path they can walk together.
Ladies, never dim your light for a man’s comfort. A real leader will not be intimidated by you....he will be inspired.
And men? If you are praying for a strong woman, make sure you are prepared to be a strong man. She is not looking for someone to crown. She is looking for someone already walking in wisdom, strength, and love.
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There should be a pre-marital islamic counselling school where would-be couples attend for 6 months or so to understand the rights of spouses intensively, it’s like a lot of us are ready for marriage financially and age wise but no sense or any knowledge of what marriage really entails. The moment we satisfy our lust, we start misbehaving. Too bad!
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One of the greatest fitan of our time is the rise of so-called 'hijabi influencers' and 'dawah bros' who sugarcoat Islam, romanticize the deen, and present a version of it that pleases the nafs, not Allah ﷻ.
Stay away from them.
Stay away from them.
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Polygany is not just about a man having many wives but for every woman having a husband because Allah has created more women than men. Dear sisters, Allah made polygamy lawful and for you hating it, is an act of disbelief! Don't let jealousy make you hate what Allah has made lawful!!!🌹
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said: “Polygyny in this age is more necessary than it was in the past due to the large number of women, the abundance of temptations, and women’s need for those who will preserve their chastity.”
📚 •Sharḥ Ḥilyat Ṭālib al-‘Ilm
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله said: “Polygyny in this age is more necessary than it was in the past due to the large number of women, the abundance of temptations, and women’s need for those who will preserve their chastity.”
📚 •Sharḥ Ḥilyat Ṭālib al-‘Ilm
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Finding the right man for marriage is the second challenge. The first challenge is to be the right woman that a right man wants to marry.
And Vice Versa.
Are you a good marriage candidate?
And Vice Versa.
Are you a good marriage candidate?
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“When the women of the city heard of what the wife of the azīz did (as in the story of Prophet Yūsuf عليه السلام), they said, out of astonishment and condemning, ‘Verily we see her in a clear error.’ [Sūrat Yūsuf 30] Then, it wasn’t long until they fell into the same fitnah!
So do not look to the one who fell into a sin as if you are better than them, because nothing is between you and this sin except the mercy of Allāh upon you [that He did not let you do this]. So do not remove your cover by your arrogance, and make du’ā for them for repentance, and for yourself for salvation.”
So do not look to the one who fell into a sin as if you are better than them, because nothing is between you and this sin except the mercy of Allāh upon you [that He did not let you do this]. So do not remove your cover by your arrogance, and make du’ā for them for repentance, and for yourself for salvation.”
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Hadith : Dua to get love of Allah Subhanhu
RasoolAllah SallAllahu Alahi Wasallam supplicated like this
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ حُبَّكَ وَحُبَّ مَنْ يُحِبُّكَ وَحُبَّ عَمَلٍ يُقَرِّبُ إِلَى حُبِّكَ
Allahumma inni AsAluka Hubbak, Wa Hubba mann Yuhibbuk, Wa Hubba Amalin Yuqarribu ila Hubbik.
O Allah I ask You for Your love and the love of whomever You love, and the of the deeds that bring one nearer to Your love.
Jamia Tirmizi, Book 44, 3235-Hasan
RasoolAllah SallAllahu Alahi Wasallam supplicated like this
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ حُبَّكَ وَحُبَّ مَنْ يُحِبُّكَ وَحُبَّ عَمَلٍ يُقَرِّبُ إِلَى حُبِّكَ
Allahumma inni AsAluka Hubbak, Wa Hubba mann Yuhibbuk, Wa Hubba Amalin Yuqarribu ila Hubbik.
O Allah I ask You for Your love and the love of whomever You love, and the of the deeds that bring one nearer to Your love.
Jamia Tirmizi, Book 44, 3235-Hasan
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يُقال قديماً:
كان الفرق بين الجارية والحرة في الأماكن العامة أن الحرة تتحجب والجاريّة تتزين لأنها تُباع وتُشترى.
"ما أكثر الجواري اليوم"!
والله المُستعان...
It used to be said in the past:
The difference in public places between a slave woman and a free woman was that the free woman would veil herself, while the slave woman would adorn herself because she was bought and sold.
"How numerous are the slave women today!"
And Allah is the One whose help is sought...
كان الفرق بين الجارية والحرة في الأماكن العامة أن الحرة تتحجب والجاريّة تتزين لأنها تُباع وتُشترى.
"ما أكثر الجواري اليوم"!
والله المُستعان...
It used to be said in the past:
The difference in public places between a slave woman and a free woman was that the free woman would veil herself, while the slave woman would adorn herself because she was bought and sold.
"How numerous are the slave women today!"
And Allah is the One whose help is sought...
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Some of our sisters are suffering in their marriages because their parents didn't teach them how to be good wives, and these sisters do not bother to learn either.
Marriage is not just about speaking English or acquiring certificates.
Marriage is beyond the 'rosy' things you see on social media and in movies.
If you cannot take proper care of the home and your husband, you're not wife material.
And if you think you can outsource every single thing, you'll later outsource your husband to a caring and homely co-wife.
My advice to our single sisters is for them to learn everything possible to be a homely wife before stepping into marriage.
Know how to cook.
Know how to keep the home sparkling clean 🫧.
Know how to lay your beddings.
Know how to pamper your husband.
Know how to take care of the kids.
Know your duties as a wife and a mother.
Allah has blessed you with a caring and responsible man; the best way to show gratitude is to make the home a place of peace for him and not of worries.
Barakallahu feekum.
Marriage is not just about speaking English or acquiring certificates.
Marriage is beyond the 'rosy' things you see on social media and in movies.
If you cannot take proper care of the home and your husband, you're not wife material.
And if you think you can outsource every single thing, you'll later outsource your husband to a caring and homely co-wife.
My advice to our single sisters is for them to learn everything possible to be a homely wife before stepping into marriage.
Know how to cook.
Know how to keep the home sparkling clean 🫧.
Know how to lay your beddings.
Know how to pamper your husband.
Know how to take care of the kids.
Know your duties as a wife and a mother.
Allah has blessed you with a caring and responsible man; the best way to show gratitude is to make the home a place of peace for him and not of worries.
Barakallahu feekum.
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Some wives are waiting for their husbands to become more romantic.
Some husbands are waiting for their wives to become more affectionate.
Both are sitting there waiting.
Nobody makes the moves, no one wants to try
Then both complain:
"My spouse has changed."
Sometimes the marriage doesn't need a miracle.
It needs somebody to make the first move.
Some husbands are waiting for their wives to become more affectionate.
Both are sitting there waiting.
Nobody makes the moves, no one wants to try
Then both complain:
"My spouse has changed."
Sometimes the marriage doesn't need a miracle.
It needs somebody to make the first move.
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Sister, why is "Khadijah was a businesswoman” the only thing you remember about her?
You forget that she was:
• A righteous woman with modesty
• A woman with noble manners.
• She was a wonderful mother.
• A loving wife.
• She obeyed her husband.
• She had no trouble following him.
• She was his biggest supporter.
• She suffered hardship after hardship, but remained faithful to her dīn and to her husband.
• She made her home righteous!
Next time you mention Khadijah bint Khuwaylid radiallahu ‘anha, try to mention these qualities and characteristics as well.
You forget that she was:
• A righteous woman with modesty
• A woman with noble manners.
• She was a wonderful mother.
• A loving wife.
• She obeyed her husband.
• She had no trouble following him.
• She was his biggest supporter.
• She suffered hardship after hardship, but remained faithful to her dīn and to her husband.
• She made her home righteous!
Next time you mention Khadijah bint Khuwaylid radiallahu ‘anha, try to mention these qualities and characteristics as well.
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Dear sister in Islaam,
If you still have your virginity intact, keep it for your prospective husband; don't bend to any peer pressure or societal bashing by people who claim virginity isn't dignifying.
Chastity and modesty carry a lot of dignity; don't let anyone make you think otherwise.
Be chaste like Maryam the daughter of Imran, the mother of Prophet 'Eesa, the only woman to whom Allâh ﷻ dedicated a whole verse for in the only Qur'an, the mothers of the believers are meant to be your role model, not celebrities and influencer who share negative mentalities, nudity, excessive love for worldly things, promiscuity, lack of modesty, feminist ideologies that goes against the tenets of Islaam, there's nothing in this world that protect the rights of women and raise their rank than Islaam, read Suratul Maryam and Surah An-Nisâ, you'll certainly learn a lot.
If you still have your virginity intact, keep it for your prospective husband; don't bend to any peer pressure or societal bashing by people who claim virginity isn't dignifying.
Chastity and modesty carry a lot of dignity; don't let anyone make you think otherwise.
Be chaste like Maryam the daughter of Imran, the mother of Prophet 'Eesa, the only woman to whom Allâh ﷻ dedicated a whole verse for in the only Qur'an, the mothers of the believers are meant to be your role model, not celebrities and influencer who share negative mentalities, nudity, excessive love for worldly things, promiscuity, lack of modesty, feminist ideologies that goes against the tenets of Islaam, there's nothing in this world that protect the rights of women and raise their rank than Islaam, read Suratul Maryam and Surah An-Nisâ, you'll certainly learn a lot.
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What Goes Around Comes Around
A couple were once seated for meals. Suddenly a knock was heard at the door from a beggar standing outside. The husband in a fit of rage approached the beggar, scolded him and chased him away. As time passed it so happened that this wealthy man became poor. He lost his entire empire and eventually even ended up divorcing his wife.
Life continued. She remarried and now was seated for meals with her new husband. Again a knock was heard at the door from a beggar. Her husband told her: “Take this food which was prepared for us and give it to the beggar outside.” She did as he instructed her but she returned crying. She replied: “The beggar outside was my previous husband.” Then she related to him the entire incident which transpired between her previous husband and his abuse to that beggar. Her new husband then told her: “By the qasm of Allah, I am that very same beggar.” (Al Mustatraf vol 1 pg 24)
Lesson: If you have been blessed with prosperity and ease, never regard it as your achievement. Also, do not look down upon those who are less fortunate or treat them with pride and arrogance. Instead, be humble and grateful to Allah Ta’ala and treat His creation with compassion and kindness. Otherwise, the tables could turn
A couple were once seated for meals. Suddenly a knock was heard at the door from a beggar standing outside. The husband in a fit of rage approached the beggar, scolded him and chased him away. As time passed it so happened that this wealthy man became poor. He lost his entire empire and eventually even ended up divorcing his wife.
Life continued. She remarried and now was seated for meals with her new husband. Again a knock was heard at the door from a beggar. Her husband told her: “Take this food which was prepared for us and give it to the beggar outside.” She did as he instructed her but she returned crying. She replied: “The beggar outside was my previous husband.” Then she related to him the entire incident which transpired between her previous husband and his abuse to that beggar. Her new husband then told her: “By the qasm of Allah, I am that very same beggar.” (Al Mustatraf vol 1 pg 24)
Lesson: If you have been blessed with prosperity and ease, never regard it as your achievement. Also, do not look down upon those who are less fortunate or treat them with pride and arrogance. Instead, be humble and grateful to Allah Ta’ala and treat His creation with compassion and kindness. Otherwise, the tables could turn
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“Keep this in mind: You are not marrying the wedding, you are marrying the husband or wife. While the wedding might seem very important to you, what matters is life after the wedding. The wedding is only a few hours, so be smart when spending your money. The spouse is long term, so make sure that is where you are spending your time wisely.”
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