Remember Fatimah رضي الله عنها
Before saying, “I deserve an easy life,” remember Fatimah رضي الله عنها.
She was the beloved daughter of the Prophet ﷺ, yet the hardships of daily life were not hidden from her. Her hands became rough from grinding grain, but she continued with Sabr, dignity, and trust in Allah.
This doesn’t mean women should never seek comfort or that hardship is their only role. Rather, it reminds us that comfort is not the measure of a blessed life. Sometimes patience through difficulty carries a reward far greater than worldly ease.
🤍 A believer’s strength is not in having an easy life, but in remaining close to Allah through every condition.
🤲 May Allah grant us Sabr, contentment, and a heart that remains grateful in both ease and hardship. Ameen.
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Before saying, “I deserve an easy life,” remember Fatimah رضي الله عنها.
She was the beloved daughter of the Prophet ﷺ, yet the hardships of daily life were not hidden from her. Her hands became rough from grinding grain, but she continued with Sabr, dignity, and trust in Allah.
This doesn’t mean women should never seek comfort or that hardship is their only role. Rather, it reminds us that comfort is not the measure of a blessed life. Sometimes patience through difficulty carries a reward far greater than worldly ease.
🤍 A believer’s strength is not in having an easy life, but in remaining close to Allah through every condition.
🤲 May Allah grant us Sabr, contentment, and a heart that remains grateful in both ease and hardship. Ameen.
📖 Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim
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Every pain needs time, but it’s not time that heals it.
It’s when the heart slowly learns to accept,
the soul slowly learns to make peace.
And when that happens, the heavy wounds turn into lessons.
Believe this:
All pain will heal, not because time heals,
but because the heart finally makes peace with the pain.
It’s when the heart slowly learns to accept,
the soul slowly learns to make peace.
And when that happens, the heavy wounds turn into lessons.
Believe this:
All pain will heal, not because time heals,
but because the heart finally makes peace with the pain.
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If u want barakah in ur marriage, then spend less on the wedding keep it simple & remember going on honeymoon is an imitation of kuffar:
"Having very expensive dowers and extravagant wedding parties is something that goes against the Shariah . The marriage which has the greatest blessing is the one with lesser financial burden. Any time the burdens are lessened, the blessings are increased.
This is a matter that is many times caused by women. Women are the ones that often insist upon their husbands to set very high dower [for their daughter]. If a lesser dower is offered, they will say their daughter is deserving of such and such. Furthermore, expensive and luxurious wedding parties are prohibited by the Shariah . they fall under the command of the verse.
''But be not extravagant. Verily, He loves not those who are extravagant ” (Surah Al- Anam 7:141)
Again, many times it is the women who force their husbands to do such things. They say that so and so’s party they had this and that. However, such gatherings must be according to the Shariah .The person should not spend what is beyond his means. He must also never be extravagant for Allah has prohibited extravagance.
'' Verily, He loves not those who are extravagant .” (Surah Al- Anam 7:141)
Honeymoons are WORSE and even MORE EVIL. This is because they are an IMITATION of the non-Muslims. They are a waste of lots of wealth. It also leads to people being lax with respect to their religious duties when such honeymoons take place in non- Muslim areas. The people come back with customs and behaviour that are harmful for them and for the Muslim community . This is something that is to be feared for the Ummah . However there is no harm, Allah Willing, if a man travels with his wife to make Umrah or to visit Madinah"
Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen
Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women - Darussalam Pg. 193-194
Taken from http://www.fatwaislam.com/fis/index.cfm?scn=fd&ID=637
"Having very expensive dowers and extravagant wedding parties is something that goes against the Shariah . The marriage which has the greatest blessing is the one with lesser financial burden. Any time the burdens are lessened, the blessings are increased.
This is a matter that is many times caused by women. Women are the ones that often insist upon their husbands to set very high dower [for their daughter]. If a lesser dower is offered, they will say their daughter is deserving of such and such. Furthermore, expensive and luxurious wedding parties are prohibited by the Shariah . they fall under the command of the verse.
''But be not extravagant. Verily, He loves not those who are extravagant ” (Surah Al- Anam 7:141)
Again, many times it is the women who force their husbands to do such things. They say that so and so’s party they had this and that. However, such gatherings must be according to the Shariah .The person should not spend what is beyond his means. He must also never be extravagant for Allah has prohibited extravagance.
'' Verily, He loves not those who are extravagant .” (Surah Al- Anam 7:141)
Honeymoons are WORSE and even MORE EVIL. This is because they are an IMITATION of the non-Muslims. They are a waste of lots of wealth. It also leads to people being lax with respect to their religious duties when such honeymoons take place in non- Muslim areas. The people come back with customs and behaviour that are harmful for them and for the Muslim community . This is something that is to be feared for the Ummah . However there is no harm, Allah Willing, if a man travels with his wife to make Umrah or to visit Madinah"
Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen
Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women - Darussalam Pg. 193-194
Taken from http://www.fatwaislam.com/fis/index.cfm?scn=fd&ID=637
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Men Need Respect and Women Need Love.
💘Men and women have different needs in relationships, with men prioritising respect and women prioritising love.
💘When men feel disrespected, they tend to react in unloving ways, and when women feel unloved, they tend to react in disrespectful ways.
💞Be sure to communicate what makes you feel loved as a wife and respected as a husband.
💞Once you've done this, be intentional about communicating in the language of love or respect of your partner.
💘Men and women have different needs in relationships, with men prioritising respect and women prioritising love.
💘When men feel disrespected, they tend to react in unloving ways, and when women feel unloved, they tend to react in disrespectful ways.
💞Be sure to communicate what makes you feel loved as a wife and respected as a husband.
💞Once you've done this, be intentional about communicating in the language of love or respect of your partner.
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
The Duʿā of the Oppressed Has No Barrier
Imām Muḥammad ibn Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn (رحمه الله) explained:
Even when the one who has been wronged is a disbeliever, if you have oppressed him and he turns to Allāh in supplication, Allāh may answer his duʿā.
This is not because of love for his disbelief, but because Allāh loves justice and does not approve of oppression.
📚 Riyāḍ al-Ṣāliḥīn, 4/616
Imām Muḥammad ibn Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn (رحمه الله) explained:
Even when the one who has been wronged is a disbeliever, if you have oppressed him and he turns to Allāh in supplication, Allāh may answer his duʿā.
This is not because of love for his disbelief, but because Allāh loves justice and does not approve of oppression.
📚 Riyāḍ al-Ṣāliḥīn, 4/616
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*Don't Speak ill of your Wife*
It is mentioned, there was a villager who divorced his wife.
People went to enquire the reason for his divorce.
He said: ❝I have given her one talaq, and she is still in my nikah, if I take her back during her Iddah (waiting period), and if I am going to open to you her faults, how will it be possible to take her back?❞
They waited till her Iddah was over, and they returned to the villager with the same question.
He said: ❝If I open up her faults to you; how will it be possible for her to find a suitable person to get married to?❞
As soon as she remarried, these people were back again at the villagers door with the same question.
The villager replied: ❝How can it possible for me to tell you about another man's wife, destroy her reputation and honour, whilst I'm a stranger to her?❞
Subhan'Allah Here is a fine example of how a husband and wife should ❝BEHAVE❞ for the sake of Allah! (The Most High)
All those years that a husband and wife spend together whether happy or sad a special bond is formed.
May Allah (The Most High) never let us become bitter towards each other no matter what the outcome.
Ameen!
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❝One who guides to something good has a reward similar to that of it’s doer.❞
[Saheeh Muslim Vol: 3, No; 4665]
It is mentioned, there was a villager who divorced his wife.
People went to enquire the reason for his divorce.
He said: ❝I have given her one talaq, and she is still in my nikah, if I take her back during her Iddah (waiting period), and if I am going to open to you her faults, how will it be possible to take her back?❞
They waited till her Iddah was over, and they returned to the villager with the same question.
He said: ❝If I open up her faults to you; how will it be possible for her to find a suitable person to get married to?❞
As soon as she remarried, these people were back again at the villagers door with the same question.
The villager replied: ❝How can it possible for me to tell you about another man's wife, destroy her reputation and honour, whilst I'm a stranger to her?❞
Subhan'Allah Here is a fine example of how a husband and wife should ❝BEHAVE❞ for the sake of Allah! (The Most High)
All those years that a husband and wife spend together whether happy or sad a special bond is formed.
May Allah (The Most High) never let us become bitter towards each other no matter what the outcome.
Ameen!
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❝One who guides to something good has a reward similar to that of it’s doer.❞
[Saheeh Muslim Vol: 3, No; 4665]
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“Always keep your relationship information private from others. This is another one of the causes of marriages breaking apart and infidelity creeping in, as you would be sharing your concerns about your relationship with a person other than your own spouse. This may cause feelings to develop and then Shaytaan will takeover. Always make sure to talk to your spouse directly with regards to any issues within your relationship instead of an outsider. May Allah SWT bless all our marriages Ameen.”
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Sisters,
Protect Yourselves!
How many sisters are walking around unknowingly possessed by jinns and some even married to them? You don't understand why up till now you're not married? You don't know why every Suitor suddenly looses interest in you and backs out? You are having numerous dreams of sexual encounter with strange Men? You don't know why you feel so distant from your spouse or emotionally unavailable when with your spouse? Check yourself!
Your hair is all exposed, tight jeans and exposed cleavage. You think it's fashion, No sister, it's an open invitation to the jinns, that's what mostly attract them(Jinns). Allah ordered you to cover up not only as a sign of modesty but to also protect yourself from the unseen.
Protect Yourselves Sisters!
May Allaah Subuhanahu Wa Ta'ala protect us all. Aameen
Protect Yourselves!
How many sisters are walking around unknowingly possessed by jinns and some even married to them? You don't understand why up till now you're not married? You don't know why every Suitor suddenly looses interest in you and backs out? You are having numerous dreams of sexual encounter with strange Men? You don't know why you feel so distant from your spouse or emotionally unavailable when with your spouse? Check yourself!
Your hair is all exposed, tight jeans and exposed cleavage. You think it's fashion, No sister, it's an open invitation to the jinns, that's what mostly attract them(Jinns). Allah ordered you to cover up not only as a sign of modesty but to also protect yourself from the unseen.
Protect Yourselves Sisters!
May Allaah Subuhanahu Wa Ta'ala protect us all. Aameen
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Marry someone you love and who loves you for the sake of Allah. When love is rooted in taqwa, mercy and sincerity, forgiveness becomes easier and both spouses are more willing to stand by each other through life’s difficulties.
Marry for mutual love and it becomes easier to forgive, grow, and stay. When both hearts choose each other, loyalty follows naturally. 💞
Marry for mutual love and it becomes easier to forgive, grow, and stay. When both hearts choose each other, loyalty follows naturally. 💞
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"The young man thinks he will face poverty & unemployment.
The young woman thinks she will never get married.
The married woman thinks she will not conceive.
The old man thinks he will face illness.
The student thinks he will not pass his exams.
All of these thoughts come to you from Shaytan...
"Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to immorality, while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is Ample-giving and All-Knowing."
[2: 268]
Trust, and have good thoughts of Allah."
The young woman thinks she will never get married.
The married woman thinks she will not conceive.
The old man thinks he will face illness.
The student thinks he will not pass his exams.
All of these thoughts come to you from Shaytan...
"Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to immorality, while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is Ample-giving and All-Knowing."
[2: 268]
Trust, and have good thoughts of Allah."
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Mothers:
I’m going to be brutally honest here.
Stop raising your sons to become entitled, pampered, self-indulgent man-children by serving them hand and foot. Or worse yet, expecting your daughters to clean up after them just because he possesses a magical Y chromosome and they don’t.
Stop raising your sons to lack emotional intelligence by teaching them that being in touch with their emotions and feelings means that they lack masculinity. Real men do cry.
Stop raising your sons with the expectation that you will be there to financially compensate when they demonstrate a lack of ambition, drive or a decent work ethic.
Stop raising your sons to think that they are magnanimously ‘helping’ their wives when they are called upon to parent their own children or contribute around the house.
And please, stop raising your sons to think that they can defile and use other girls so long as at the end of the day it’s a pure virginal woman that he makes his wife.
Your brand of ‘love’ is crippling your sons. And it’s spawning a breed of man incapable of competently navigating the financial, emotional and physical challenges of marriage.
Because if there is anything in life that I have learned, through decades of listening to the problems of other sisters, it’s this: A wife is not a centre to rehabilitate badly raised men.
The attributes necessary to be a good husband don’t miraculously materialise upon marriage. The attributes of a good husband are nurtured, developed and taught from the example you set for your son in your home as they were raised.
At the end of the day, women want a man they can partner, not parent.
-Dr Sara Hassan
I’m going to be brutally honest here.
Stop raising your sons to become entitled, pampered, self-indulgent man-children by serving them hand and foot. Or worse yet, expecting your daughters to clean up after them just because he possesses a magical Y chromosome and they don’t.
Stop raising your sons to lack emotional intelligence by teaching them that being in touch with their emotions and feelings means that they lack masculinity. Real men do cry.
Stop raising your sons with the expectation that you will be there to financially compensate when they demonstrate a lack of ambition, drive or a decent work ethic.
Stop raising your sons to think that they are magnanimously ‘helping’ their wives when they are called upon to parent their own children or contribute around the house.
And please, stop raising your sons to think that they can defile and use other girls so long as at the end of the day it’s a pure virginal woman that he makes his wife.
Your brand of ‘love’ is crippling your sons. And it’s spawning a breed of man incapable of competently navigating the financial, emotional and physical challenges of marriage.
Because if there is anything in life that I have learned, through decades of listening to the problems of other sisters, it’s this: A wife is not a centre to rehabilitate badly raised men.
The attributes necessary to be a good husband don’t miraculously materialise upon marriage. The attributes of a good husband are nurtured, developed and taught from the example you set for your son in your home as they were raised.
At the end of the day, women want a man they can partner, not parent.
-Dr Sara Hassan
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MARRIAGE IS A TRUST
Islam emphasizes the importance of fulfilling the rights of one’s spouse and maintaining affection, intimacy, and mutual care within marriage.
This hadith reminds spouses not to neglect each other’s legitimate rights—while kindness, consideration, and mutual respect remain essential in a healthy marriage.
What has been related about the husband's rights over the wife
Talq bin Ali narrated that The Messenger of Allah ﷺ
said:
“When a man calls his wife to fulfill his need, then let her come, even if she is at the oven.”
﴾ Jami‘ at-Tirmidhi 1160﴿
Islam emphasizes the importance of fulfilling the rights of one’s spouse and maintaining affection, intimacy, and mutual care within marriage.
This hadith reminds spouses not to neglect each other’s legitimate rights—while kindness, consideration, and mutual respect remain essential in a healthy marriage.
What has been related about the husband's rights over the wife
Talq bin Ali narrated that The Messenger of Allah ﷺ
said:
“When a man calls his wife to fulfill his need, then let her come, even if she is at the oven.”
﴾ Jami‘ at-Tirmidhi 1160﴿
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The Dangers of Zina
Speaking about the destructive consequences of zina, Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
“Among the effects of zina is that it can lead to the severing of family ties, disobedience towards parents, unlawful earnings, mistreatment of others, and neglect of one’s wife and children. It may even lead a person to unlawfully shed blood.
A person may seek the help of sihr (witchcraft) or shirk in order to commit zina. Whether he realises it or not, this sin is often accompanied by other sins that come before it, alongside it, and after it.
Zina is surrounded by a multitude of sins. It is among the things most likely to bring about evil in this world and the Hereafter, and among the things most likely to prevent good in both.
When a person falls into its traps and snares, it can become extremely difficult to escape. Its prisoner is not easily freed, and its victim is not easily rescued.
It can also become a means of losing blessings. When a person falls into this trap, let him fear for the blessings of Allah, for blessings can depart from a person and disappear.”
Zina is not merely a private sin with private consequences. It can open the door to a chain of other sins and cause harm far beyond the moment itself.
So protect your heart, your eyes, your private moments, and your boundaries.
And if you have fallen into sin, do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Leave the sin, sincerely repent, and return to Him before the door closes.
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله — Rawdat al-Muhibbeen
Speaking about the destructive consequences of zina, Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
“Among the effects of zina is that it can lead to the severing of family ties, disobedience towards parents, unlawful earnings, mistreatment of others, and neglect of one’s wife and children. It may even lead a person to unlawfully shed blood.
A person may seek the help of sihr (witchcraft) or shirk in order to commit zina. Whether he realises it or not, this sin is often accompanied by other sins that come before it, alongside it, and after it.
Zina is surrounded by a multitude of sins. It is among the things most likely to bring about evil in this world and the Hereafter, and among the things most likely to prevent good in both.
When a person falls into its traps and snares, it can become extremely difficult to escape. Its prisoner is not easily freed, and its victim is not easily rescued.
It can also become a means of losing blessings. When a person falls into this trap, let him fear for the blessings of Allah, for blessings can depart from a person and disappear.”
Zina is not merely a private sin with private consequences. It can open the door to a chain of other sins and cause harm far beyond the moment itself.
So protect your heart, your eyes, your private moments, and your boundaries.
And if you have fallen into sin, do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Leave the sin, sincerely repent, and return to Him before the door closes.
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله — Rawdat al-Muhibbeen
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Imām Abū Bakr ibn al-‘Arabī (may God have mercy on him):
"The righteous woman does not come through searching; rather, she is a sustenance that is placed on the path of those who fear their Lord."
📖 - Aḥkām al-Qurʾān
"The righteous woman does not come through searching; rather, she is a sustenance that is placed on the path of those who fear their Lord."
📖 - Aḥkām al-Qurʾān
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س: أهل زوجتي يكدرون علي وعلى زوجتي، فما حكم هجرهم وترك زيارتهم ؟
ج: لك أن تهجرهم وأن لا تزورهم إذا كان في زيارتهم مفسدة عليك أو إفساد لزوجتك، فلك أن تمتنع من زيارتهم، ولك أن تمنع زوجتك من زيارتهم أيضاً، وإني لأنصح بعض الناس الذين يفسدون بين المرء وزوجه وأقول: إن فعلهم هذا كفعل السحرة والعياذ بالله. فالواجب الكف عما يكون بين الزوجين، وإذا قدر أن أحد الزوجين تساهل في الواجب عليه فلينصح دون أن يذكر لصاحبه فيكون في قلبه غيرة عليه وحقد والإفصاح واجب بقدر المستطاع وهو خير على كل حال. نعم.
- الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله تعالى من فتاوى نور على الدرب / ش رقم [369]
Q: My wife's family is causing distress for me and my wife. What is the ruling on shunning them and stopping visits to them?
Sh. Ibn Uthaymeen: You have the right to shun them and not visit them if visiting them causes harm to you or corrupts your wife. You have the right to refrain from visiting them, and you also have the right to prevent your wife from visiting them. I strongly advise those who drive a wedge between a man and his wife, and I say: Their action is like the action of sorcerers -and refuge is sought with Allah.
It is obligatory to refrain from interfering in what happens between spouses. If it happens that one of the spouses falls short in their duties, they should be advised directly, without bringing it up to their partner in a way that creates jealousy or resentment in their heart. Being clear and straightforward is obligatory to the best of one's ability, and it is better in all circumstances. Yes.
Fatawa Nur 'ala al-Darb, Tape no.369
ج: لك أن تهجرهم وأن لا تزورهم إذا كان في زيارتهم مفسدة عليك أو إفساد لزوجتك، فلك أن تمتنع من زيارتهم، ولك أن تمنع زوجتك من زيارتهم أيضاً، وإني لأنصح بعض الناس الذين يفسدون بين المرء وزوجه وأقول: إن فعلهم هذا كفعل السحرة والعياذ بالله. فالواجب الكف عما يكون بين الزوجين، وإذا قدر أن أحد الزوجين تساهل في الواجب عليه فلينصح دون أن يذكر لصاحبه فيكون في قلبه غيرة عليه وحقد والإفصاح واجب بقدر المستطاع وهو خير على كل حال. نعم.
- الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله تعالى من فتاوى نور على الدرب / ش رقم [369]
Q: My wife's family is causing distress for me and my wife. What is the ruling on shunning them and stopping visits to them?
Sh. Ibn Uthaymeen: You have the right to shun them and not visit them if visiting them causes harm to you or corrupts your wife. You have the right to refrain from visiting them, and you also have the right to prevent your wife from visiting them. I strongly advise those who drive a wedge between a man and his wife, and I say: Their action is like the action of sorcerers -and refuge is sought with Allah.
It is obligatory to refrain from interfering in what happens between spouses. If it happens that one of the spouses falls short in their duties, they should be advised directly, without bringing it up to their partner in a way that creates jealousy or resentment in their heart. Being clear and straightforward is obligatory to the best of one's ability, and it is better in all circumstances. Yes.
Fatawa Nur 'ala al-Darb, Tape no.369
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