Whoever does not recognize his mother except for one day of the year is disobedient to her. As for he who upholds relations with her, gives her gifts and is loyal and honours her every day, then #Mothers_Day is meaningless to him, as Mother’s Day is appropriate for the disobedient, not the loyal.
من لا يعرف أمه إلا يوما في السنة فهو عاق لها، ومن يصلها ويهديها ويبرها كل يوم فلا معنى لـ عيد الأم عنده، فعيد الأم مناسبة للعاقين لا للبررة
من لا يعرف أمه إلا يوما في السنة فهو عاق لها، ومن يصلها ويهديها ويبرها كل يوم فلا معنى لـ عيد الأم عنده، فعيد الأم مناسبة للعاقين لا للبررة
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"BECOMING... not SEEKING
Some men say, "How hard it is to find a righteous woman in this era." And some women also say, "How hard it is to find a righteous man these days." Maybe the statement above is true, although not absolute. However, what's more important is how good it would be if we directed that statement to ourselves first before saying it to others. "Have I become a righteous man? Have I become a righteous woman?"
Sometimes we're too busy judging others that we forget to judge ourselves. We're too busy SEEKING someone who we think is righteous. We're too busy SEEKING someone who's good. Meanwhile, we forget to strive to BECOME a righteous person ourselves.
A question should arise, "Are we worthy of hoping to get a righteous partner?" The answer lies within ourselves. Don't dream of getting a righteous woman if you're not yet able to become a righteous man. Don't dream of getting a righteous man if you're not yet able to become a righteous woman.
Why keep SEEKING? Why not BECOME? Don't seek what's good; become the best. Don't seek a righteous person; become a righteous woman. Don't seek a righteous man; become a righteous man. Because even if we seek, if we ourselves don't become, Allah won't give.
However, if we become, without seeking,Allah has already prepared, because when it comes to a partner, Allah will give according to our personality and level of faith. The more we seek perfection, the more we won't get it, because true perfection doesn't exist; what exists is the sincerity of our hearts to accept imperfection.
Realize that what we get today is the best according to Allah..and never doubt, because that realization will make us..."
Some men say, "How hard it is to find a righteous woman in this era." And some women also say, "How hard it is to find a righteous man these days." Maybe the statement above is true, although not absolute. However, what's more important is how good it would be if we directed that statement to ourselves first before saying it to others. "Have I become a righteous man? Have I become a righteous woman?"
Sometimes we're too busy judging others that we forget to judge ourselves. We're too busy SEEKING someone who we think is righteous. We're too busy SEEKING someone who's good. Meanwhile, we forget to strive to BECOME a righteous person ourselves.
A question should arise, "Are we worthy of hoping to get a righteous partner?" The answer lies within ourselves. Don't dream of getting a righteous woman if you're not yet able to become a righteous man. Don't dream of getting a righteous man if you're not yet able to become a righteous woman.
Why keep SEEKING? Why not BECOME? Don't seek what's good; become the best. Don't seek a righteous person; become a righteous woman. Don't seek a righteous man; become a righteous man. Because even if we seek, if we ourselves don't become, Allah won't give.
However, if we become, without seeking,Allah has already prepared, because when it comes to a partner, Allah will give according to our personality and level of faith. The more we seek perfection, the more we won't get it, because true perfection doesn't exist; what exists is the sincerity of our hearts to accept imperfection.
Realize that what we get today is the best according to Allah..and never doubt, because that realization will make us..."
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*Al-Husayn ◌ؓ said:*
The Prophet ﷺ asked a lady, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.”
He ﷺ said, “How are you with him?” She said, “I do not fall short in serving him, except in what I am unable to do.”
He ﷺ said, “Then pay attention to how you are with him, for he is your Paradise or your Hell.”
📚 Sahih al-Jami‘ 1509
The Prophet ﷺ asked a lady, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.”
He ﷺ said, “How are you with him?” She said, “I do not fall short in serving him, except in what I am unable to do.”
He ﷺ said, “Then pay attention to how you are with him, for he is your Paradise or your Hell.”
📚 Sahih al-Jami‘ 1509
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Marriage is not a photoshoot. Not matching outfits, cinematic reels, or one night of applause.
Marriage is two exhausted people still choosing each other after life has broken them differently.
It is holding hands in hospital corridors. Eating cold food after long arguments. Paying bills with silent anxiety. Watching dreams fail, parents age, health collapse, and still saying:
“I am here.”
Real marriage is not built on butterflies. It is built on endurance. On forgiveness repeated a thousand times. On staying soft when life turns hard.
Anyone can celebrate together in one night light. The rare ones survive together in darkness, may be for life.
Marriage is two exhausted people still choosing each other after life has broken them differently.
It is holding hands in hospital corridors. Eating cold food after long arguments. Paying bills with silent anxiety. Watching dreams fail, parents age, health collapse, and still saying:
“I am here.”
Real marriage is not built on butterflies. It is built on endurance. On forgiveness repeated a thousand times. On staying soft when life turns hard.
Anyone can celebrate together in one night light. The rare ones survive together in darkness, may be for life.
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The story of Uwais Al-Qarni رحمه الله
“The story of Uwais Al-Qarni was mentioned in Sahih Muslim as well as in other books. Now even though he was from the Tabi’een and did not see the Messenger [ صلى الله عليه و سلم], the Messenger [صلى الله عليه و سلم ] had advised Umar ibn Al Khattaab رضي الله عنه that if he meets [Uwais] then he, Umar, should ask [Uwais] to ask Allah to forgive him and to make supplication for him.
Asir ibn Jaabir رضي الله عنه narrated:
Whenever people would come from Yemen, Umar رضي الله عنه would ask them, “Is Uways Al-Qaranee amongst you?” until, one year, he met Uways.
He said, “Are you Uways Al-Qaranee?” He said, “Yes.”
Umar continued, “From Muraad, then Qaran?” He said, “Yes.”
Umar then asked, “Were you once afflicted with leprosy and your skin healed except for a dirham’s area?” Uways said, “Yes.”
Umar finally asked, “Do you have a mother (that is alive)?” He said, “Yes.”
Umar then said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و say, ‘Uways ibn Aamir will come to you with the delegations from Yemen, from Muraad, then from Qaran. He was once afflicted with leprosy and his skin healed except for a dirham’s area. He has a mother, and he treats her kindly. If he was to ever swear by Allah (for something) Allah would fulfill his oath. If you can, request that he ask forgiveness for you.”
Umar then requested from Uways, “Ask forgiveness for me.” And Uways Al-Qaranee did.
[Sahih Muslim]
“The story of Uwais Al-Qarni was mentioned in Sahih Muslim as well as in other books. Now even though he was from the Tabi’een and did not see the Messenger [ صلى الله عليه و سلم], the Messenger [صلى الله عليه و سلم ] had advised Umar ibn Al Khattaab رضي الله عنه that if he meets [Uwais] then he, Umar, should ask [Uwais] to ask Allah to forgive him and to make supplication for him.
Asir ibn Jaabir رضي الله عنه narrated:
Whenever people would come from Yemen, Umar رضي الله عنه would ask them, “Is Uways Al-Qaranee amongst you?” until, one year, he met Uways.
He said, “Are you Uways Al-Qaranee?” He said, “Yes.”
Umar continued, “From Muraad, then Qaran?” He said, “Yes.”
Umar then asked, “Were you once afflicted with leprosy and your skin healed except for a dirham’s area?” Uways said, “Yes.”
Umar finally asked, “Do you have a mother (that is alive)?” He said, “Yes.”
Umar then said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و say, ‘Uways ibn Aamir will come to you with the delegations from Yemen, from Muraad, then from Qaran. He was once afflicted with leprosy and his skin healed except for a dirham’s area. He has a mother, and he treats her kindly. If he was to ever swear by Allah (for something) Allah would fulfill his oath. If you can, request that he ask forgiveness for you.”
Umar then requested from Uways, “Ask forgiveness for me.” And Uways Al-Qaranee did.
[Sahih Muslim]
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Marriage is one of the easiest thing in Islam but I don't even understand some of you and your family.
The problem of your family is just to show off and your problem too is just to show off to your friends.
Maybe already you even made someone who did not pay your bride price to have sex with you free and now someone want to marry you and you are even given the person headache with plenty things, don't your family know you are already cheap for haven sex already with someone or even that so call man who came home to marry you?
I beg let someone son breath, make marriage simple and easy for it is in Islam.
If he has the means Alhamdulillaah but if he do not, don't stress him let him do what he is capable of without borrowing.
The problem of your family is just to show off and your problem too is just to show off to your friends.
Maybe already you even made someone who did not pay your bride price to have sex with you free and now someone want to marry you and you are even given the person headache with plenty things, don't your family know you are already cheap for haven sex already with someone or even that so call man who came home to marry you?
I beg let someone son breath, make marriage simple and easy for it is in Islam.
If he has the means Alhamdulillaah but if he do not, don't stress him let him do what he is capable of without borrowing.
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Why is Adultery Worse in the Case of Women?
Ibn Al-Qayyim rahimahullah states:
«الزِنى من المرأة أقبحُ منه بالرجل، لأنها تزيد على هتكِ حقِّ الله: إفسادَ فراشِ بعلها، وتعليقَ نسبٍ من غيره عليه، وفضيحةَ أهلها وأقاربها، والجناية على محض حق الزوج، وخيانته فيه، وإسقاط حرمته عند الناس، وتعييره بإمساك البغى، وغير ذلك من مفاسد زناها».
“Adultery is more repulsive in the case of a woman compared to a man, because she doesn't just violate the right of Allāh, she exceeds that by: contaminating her husband’s bed, tying someone else’s lineage to him, dishonouring her family and relatives, violating her husband’s right and betraying him as it relates to that, disgracing his reputation with the people, causing him to be shamed for staying married to an adultress, and other evils which arise due to her (committing) adultery.”
[Zaad Al-Ma’ād (5/377)]
-Hauwa Abdulrahman
Ibn Al-Qayyim rahimahullah states:
«الزِنى من المرأة أقبحُ منه بالرجل، لأنها تزيد على هتكِ حقِّ الله: إفسادَ فراشِ بعلها، وتعليقَ نسبٍ من غيره عليه، وفضيحةَ أهلها وأقاربها، والجناية على محض حق الزوج، وخيانته فيه، وإسقاط حرمته عند الناس، وتعييره بإمساك البغى، وغير ذلك من مفاسد زناها».
“Adultery is more repulsive in the case of a woman compared to a man, because she doesn't just violate the right of Allāh, she exceeds that by: contaminating her husband’s bed, tying someone else’s lineage to him, dishonouring her family and relatives, violating her husband’s right and betraying him as it relates to that, disgracing his reputation with the people, causing him to be shamed for staying married to an adultress, and other evils which arise due to her (committing) adultery.”
[Zaad Al-Ma’ād (5/377)]
-Hauwa Abdulrahman
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Every man wants to marry a woman who gives him peace, but many men forget that a woman's peace is a reflection of how he treats her.
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5 Things Your Marriage Probably Needs EVERY DAY...
1. PRAISE: Tell your spouse every day that you appreciate them and tell them what they do well. Make it your daily goal to focus on what they do right ... more than you do what that do wrong.
2. AFFECTION: Kind words, touching, hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc should be a daily activity in your marriage. Say "I love you," each day. Give a hug and a kiss.
3. CHECK IN: Take a few moments everyday to check in. Ask your spouse, "How was your day?" or "Are you doing okay?" or "Is there anything I could do to help you?"
4. PRAY: Pray for your marriage, spouse and family every day. This is one of the greatest ways to bless your marriage and family.
5. TIME: Spend some quality time together each day. Quality time is giving your undivided attention, not just being in the same room together.
1. PRAISE: Tell your spouse every day that you appreciate them and tell them what they do well. Make it your daily goal to focus on what they do right ... more than you do what that do wrong.
2. AFFECTION: Kind words, touching, hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc should be a daily activity in your marriage. Say "I love you," each day. Give a hug and a kiss.
3. CHECK IN: Take a few moments everyday to check in. Ask your spouse, "How was your day?" or "Are you doing okay?" or "Is there anything I could do to help you?"
4. PRAY: Pray for your marriage, spouse and family every day. This is one of the greatest ways to bless your marriage and family.
5. TIME: Spend some quality time together each day. Quality time is giving your undivided attention, not just being in the same room together.
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Cultrual Forced Marriages Vs Islam.
1. The Prophet’s (ﷺ) Response When a Guardian Prioritized His Own Preference Over a Woman’s #Choice
Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported:
A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have an orphan girl under my care. A wealthy man and a poor man have proposed to her. I prefer the wealthy one, but she wants the poor one. What should I do?”
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) replied:
“There is nothing like marriage for two who love one another.”
(Mustadrak al-Haakim 2/160, Bayhaqi in Kitab al-Nikah 7/78; authenticated by al-Albani in as-Saheehah and Saheeh al-Jaami’)
2. A Case of #Forced Marriage Involving the Great Companion Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him)
Ibn Umar narrated:
When Uthman bin Maz’oon (may Allah be pleased with him) passed away, he left behind a daughter under the guardianship of his brother, Qudamah bin Maz’oon.
Ibn Umar said: “Uthman and Qudamah were my maternal uncles. I went to Qudamah to propose to Uthman’s daughter, and he married her to me. However, her mother wanted her to marry Mughirah bin Shu’bah (a wealthy man), and the girl herself agreed with her mother. When the matter was brought to the Prophet (ﷺ), Qudamah said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, she is my brother’s daughter, and he entrusted her to me. I married her to her cousin, Ibn Umar, without neglecting her best interests. But she is a young woman, and she has inclined toward her mother’s preference.’
The Prophet (ﷺ) responded: ‘She is an orphan, and she cannot be married without her permission.’”
Ibn Umar added: “By Allah, she was taken away from me after the marriage had already taken place, and they married her to Mughirah bin Shu’bah.”
(Musnad Ahmad 17/181 — hasan chain, authenticated by Ahmad Shakir and al-Haythami)
3. Women Have the Right to Reject Forced Marriages
A. A #Woman Who Wanted Other Women to Know That Forced Marriages Are Not Permissible
Narrated by Ibn Buraidah from his father (may Allah be pleased with him):
A girl came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said: “My father married me to his brother’s son to elevate his status, but I do not consent.”
The Prophet (ﷺ) gave her the choice, and she said: “I accept what my father did, but I wanted women to know that their fathers have no right to force them into marriage.”
(Ibn Majah 1874)
B. Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) Reports Another Incident
A girl came to Aisha and said: “My father married me to his nephew against my will.”
Aisha seated her until the Prophet (ﷺ) arrived. When he heard her complaint, he summoned her father and left the decision to her.
She said: “O Messenger of Allah, I accept my father’s decision, but I wanted to know whether women have any say in this matter.”
(Sunan an-Nasa’i 3269)
C. The Prophet (ﷺ) Annulled a Forced Marriage
Abdur Rahman bin Yazid reported:
A man named Khidam married off his daughter without her consent. She went to the Prophet (ﷺ), and he annulled the marriage. Later, she married Abu Lubabah bin Abdul Mundhir.
(Ibn Majah 1873)
D. A #Virgin’s Right to Choose
Abdullah ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:
A virgin came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said her father had married her against her will. The Prophet (ﷺ) gave her the choice to decide.
(Sunan Abi Dawud 2096)
1. The Prophet’s (ﷺ) Response When a Guardian Prioritized His Own Preference Over a Woman’s #Choice
Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported:
A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have an orphan girl under my care. A wealthy man and a poor man have proposed to her. I prefer the wealthy one, but she wants the poor one. What should I do?”
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) replied:
“There is nothing like marriage for two who love one another.”
(Mustadrak al-Haakim 2/160, Bayhaqi in Kitab al-Nikah 7/78; authenticated by al-Albani in as-Saheehah and Saheeh al-Jaami’)
2. A Case of #Forced Marriage Involving the Great Companion Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him)
Ibn Umar narrated:
When Uthman bin Maz’oon (may Allah be pleased with him) passed away, he left behind a daughter under the guardianship of his brother, Qudamah bin Maz’oon.
Ibn Umar said: “Uthman and Qudamah were my maternal uncles. I went to Qudamah to propose to Uthman’s daughter, and he married her to me. However, her mother wanted her to marry Mughirah bin Shu’bah (a wealthy man), and the girl herself agreed with her mother. When the matter was brought to the Prophet (ﷺ), Qudamah said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, she is my brother’s daughter, and he entrusted her to me. I married her to her cousin, Ibn Umar, without neglecting her best interests. But she is a young woman, and she has inclined toward her mother’s preference.’
The Prophet (ﷺ) responded: ‘She is an orphan, and she cannot be married without her permission.’”
Ibn Umar added: “By Allah, she was taken away from me after the marriage had already taken place, and they married her to Mughirah bin Shu’bah.”
(Musnad Ahmad 17/181 — hasan chain, authenticated by Ahmad Shakir and al-Haythami)
3. Women Have the Right to Reject Forced Marriages
A. A #Woman Who Wanted Other Women to Know That Forced Marriages Are Not Permissible
Narrated by Ibn Buraidah from his father (may Allah be pleased with him):
A girl came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said: “My father married me to his brother’s son to elevate his status, but I do not consent.”
The Prophet (ﷺ) gave her the choice, and she said: “I accept what my father did, but I wanted women to know that their fathers have no right to force them into marriage.”
(Ibn Majah 1874)
B. Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) Reports Another Incident
A girl came to Aisha and said: “My father married me to his nephew against my will.”
Aisha seated her until the Prophet (ﷺ) arrived. When he heard her complaint, he summoned her father and left the decision to her.
She said: “O Messenger of Allah, I accept my father’s decision, but I wanted to know whether women have any say in this matter.”
(Sunan an-Nasa’i 3269)
C. The Prophet (ﷺ) Annulled a Forced Marriage
Abdur Rahman bin Yazid reported:
A man named Khidam married off his daughter without her consent. She went to the Prophet (ﷺ), and he annulled the marriage. Later, she married Abu Lubabah bin Abdul Mundhir.
(Ibn Majah 1873)
D. A #Virgin’s Right to Choose
Abdullah ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:
A virgin came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said her father had married her against her will. The Prophet (ﷺ) gave her the choice to decide.
(Sunan Abi Dawud 2096)
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𝙄 𝙝𝙤𝙥𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙙𝙖𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙁𝙞𝙦𝙝'𝙣𝙞𝙠𝙖𝙝 𝙗𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚–
…rather than busying themselves looking for glamour gowns, bridal showers, and prenup shoots as “preparation.”
A wedding is 1 day only, A marriage is a long journey.
The gown will be in a box. The cake will be eaten. The flowers will wilt.
–But her knowledge of her rights, her husband’s rights, and Allāh’s limits? That stays forever.
Teach her:
💎What is mahr and why it’s hers alone.
— not for the caterer, not for the in-laws to “keep.”
💎What is nushuz, what is qiwamah.
— so she knows leadership isn’t dictatorship, and obedience isn’t slavery.
💎What breaks a marriage vs what breaks her spirit.
— so she doesn’t cry to sleep thinking abuse is “sabr.”
💎How to do ghusl, iddah, khul‘
— because death, divorce, and discharge are real, not just “in sickness and in health.”
A bride who knows Fiqh an-Nikah walks into marriage with dignity, not just henna, fake nails&lashes and expensive gowns.
She knows when to compromise and when to say: “This is my haqq from Allāh.”
She raises children who see Islam as guidance, not just culture.
Parents: If you spend 6 months planning her wedding, spend 6 weeks teaching her the fiqh of it.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“When Allah wishes good for someone, He gives him understanding of the religion.”
Let’s wish good for our daughters in their marriage journey —start with Fiqh an-Nikah.
Marriage in Islam is not only a sacred bond between a man and a woman, but also a Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. It is a noble act that brings Peace (Sakinah) , Love (mawaddah) , and Mercy (Rahma) into the lives of believers.
💌 Religion should drive the culture and not the other way around ✨
– أم صالحة 🕊
…rather than busying themselves looking for glamour gowns, bridal showers, and prenup shoots as “preparation.”
A wedding is 1 day only, A marriage is a long journey.
The gown will be in a box. The cake will be eaten. The flowers will wilt.
–But her knowledge of her rights, her husband’s rights, and Allāh’s limits? That stays forever.
Teach her:
💎What is mahr and why it’s hers alone.
— not for the caterer, not for the in-laws to “keep.”
💎What is nushuz, what is qiwamah.
— so she knows leadership isn’t dictatorship, and obedience isn’t slavery.
💎What breaks a marriage vs what breaks her spirit.
— so she doesn’t cry to sleep thinking abuse is “sabr.”
💎How to do ghusl, iddah, khul‘
— because death, divorce, and discharge are real, not just “in sickness and in health.”
A bride who knows Fiqh an-Nikah walks into marriage with dignity, not just henna, fake nails&lashes and expensive gowns.
She knows when to compromise and when to say: “This is my haqq from Allāh.”
She raises children who see Islam as guidance, not just culture.
Parents: If you spend 6 months planning her wedding, spend 6 weeks teaching her the fiqh of it.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“When Allah wishes good for someone, He gives him understanding of the religion.”
Let’s wish good for our daughters in their marriage journey —start with Fiqh an-Nikah.
Marriage in Islam is not only a sacred bond between a man and a woman, but also a Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. It is a noble act that brings Peace (Sakinah) , Love (mawaddah) , and Mercy (Rahma) into the lives of believers.
💌 Religion should drive the culture and not the other way around ✨
– أم صالحة 🕊
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Divorces Have Gone Crazy — Because of the Tongue, Too Many Demands, and Being Ungrateful
1️⃣ The Tongue Has Become the Biggest Weapon in Marriage
Marriages today aren’t breaking because of poverty or illness — they’re breaking because of words.
Sharp tongues.
Constant criticism.
Sarcasm.
Insults thrown in anger.
One sentence can destroy trust that took years to build.
And Allah hears every word spoken behind closed doors.
2️⃣ Too Many Demands, Too Little Patience
People want a spouse who is perfect, wealthy, emotionally available, always calm, always giving — but they forget that marriage is built on sacrifice, not shopping lists.
Expectations keep rising.
Patience keeps shrinking.
And when expectations aren’t met, the tongue becomes violent.
3️⃣ Ungratefulness Has Become Normal
Instead of appreciating what they do have, couples focus on what they don’t have.
A spouse’s efforts go unnoticed.
Their kindness is taken for granted.
Their flaws are magnified.
Ungratefulness kills love faster than any argument.
Allah warns us clearly:
“If you are grateful, I will increase you.”
But when gratitude disappears, blessings disappear with it.
4️⃣ Social Media Has Poisoned Hearts
People compare their marriage to filtered, fake “perfect couples” online.
They start believing their spouse is not enough.
They chase lifestyles, not loyalty.
They chase attention, not commitment.
This comparison disease destroys contentment.
5️⃣ Ego Has Replaced Mercy
No one wants to apologise.
No one wants to admit fault.
No one wants to soften their heart.
But Allah loves those who forgive, those who reconcile, those who humble themselves.
Ego turns small issues into mountains.
6️⃣ Couples Forget That Marriage Is Worship
Marriage is not a contract of convenience — it is an act of ibadah.
Every smile, every compromise, every moment of patience is written by the angels.
But when people forget Allah, they forget the purpose of marriage.
7️⃣ The Wrath of Allah Is Real
Hurting a spouse with your tongue…
Breaking their heart…
Humiliating them…
Being ungrateful for their efforts…
These are not small sins.
The Prophet Peace be upon him warned that the dua of the oppressed goes straight to Allah — and there is no barrier between it and acceptance.
Many marriages collapse not because of “compatibility,” but because one spouse has taken the wrath of Allah lightly.
8️⃣ Divorce Has Become the First Option, Not the Last
Instead of patience, people choose escape.
Instead of communication, they choose silence.
Instead of fixing the problem, they throw away the marriage.
Divorce is allowed in Islam — but it was never meant to be the first reaction to every disagreement.
9️⃣ Homes Lose Barakah When Gratitude Leaves
A house filled with complaints becomes a house empty of peace.
A heart filled with demands becomes a heart empty of love.
Barakah disappears when appreciation disappears.
🔟 Healing Starts With the Tongue and the Heart
Speak gently.
Lower expectations.
Increase gratitude.
Fear Allah in how you treat your spouse.
Because the same tongue that destroys a marriage can also save it — with one sincere apology, one kind word, one moment of humility. #shadi #nikah #muslim #MuslimParenting #dawah
1️⃣ The Tongue Has Become the Biggest Weapon in Marriage
Marriages today aren’t breaking because of poverty or illness — they’re breaking because of words.
Sharp tongues.
Constant criticism.
Sarcasm.
Insults thrown in anger.
One sentence can destroy trust that took years to build.
And Allah hears every word spoken behind closed doors.
2️⃣ Too Many Demands, Too Little Patience
People want a spouse who is perfect, wealthy, emotionally available, always calm, always giving — but they forget that marriage is built on sacrifice, not shopping lists.
Expectations keep rising.
Patience keeps shrinking.
And when expectations aren’t met, the tongue becomes violent.
3️⃣ Ungratefulness Has Become Normal
Instead of appreciating what they do have, couples focus on what they don’t have.
A spouse’s efforts go unnoticed.
Their kindness is taken for granted.
Their flaws are magnified.
Ungratefulness kills love faster than any argument.
Allah warns us clearly:
“If you are grateful, I will increase you.”
But when gratitude disappears, blessings disappear with it.
4️⃣ Social Media Has Poisoned Hearts
People compare their marriage to filtered, fake “perfect couples” online.
They start believing their spouse is not enough.
They chase lifestyles, not loyalty.
They chase attention, not commitment.
This comparison disease destroys contentment.
5️⃣ Ego Has Replaced Mercy
No one wants to apologise.
No one wants to admit fault.
No one wants to soften their heart.
But Allah loves those who forgive, those who reconcile, those who humble themselves.
Ego turns small issues into mountains.
6️⃣ Couples Forget That Marriage Is Worship
Marriage is not a contract of convenience — it is an act of ibadah.
Every smile, every compromise, every moment of patience is written by the angels.
But when people forget Allah, they forget the purpose of marriage.
7️⃣ The Wrath of Allah Is Real
Hurting a spouse with your tongue…
Breaking their heart…
Humiliating them…
Being ungrateful for their efforts…
These are not small sins.
The Prophet Peace be upon him warned that the dua of the oppressed goes straight to Allah — and there is no barrier between it and acceptance.
Many marriages collapse not because of “compatibility,” but because one spouse has taken the wrath of Allah lightly.
8️⃣ Divorce Has Become the First Option, Not the Last
Instead of patience, people choose escape.
Instead of communication, they choose silence.
Instead of fixing the problem, they throw away the marriage.
Divorce is allowed in Islam — but it was never meant to be the first reaction to every disagreement.
9️⃣ Homes Lose Barakah When Gratitude Leaves
A house filled with complaints becomes a house empty of peace.
A heart filled with demands becomes a heart empty of love.
Barakah disappears when appreciation disappears.
🔟 Healing Starts With the Tongue and the Heart
Speak gently.
Lower expectations.
Increase gratitude.
Fear Allah in how you treat your spouse.
Because the same tongue that destroys a marriage can also save it — with one sincere apology, one kind word, one moment of humility. #shadi #nikah #muslim #MuslimParenting #dawah
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Even if the reason a husband is staying away from his wife for a long period is to provide food for the family, he still needs to seek his wife's understanding to wave her right to intimacy for that period. Her right to food does not eliminate her right to intimacy as we must strive to meet both, to the best of our ability. As for simply expecting her to understand and accept without trying to discuss it with her, this is unfair. As a matter of fact, hunger will hardly push someone to steal as sexual starvation will push someone into an evil act.
On a general note, couples should plan their life such that they avoid staying away from each other for long periods, and even if it becomes a necessity, the needs of the other should not be made to seem excessive, irrelevant or inconsiderate. As they say "body no be firewood".
"I am so sorry love, I promise to make it up to you"
Is a much better consolation than
"What's your problem woman? Can't you see I am out here striving for the family? Are we going to eat sex?".
First we need to understand that intimacy is a right both couples enjoy, not a privilege. Secondly, even as the head, if you want your wife to waive a right, you beg not impose.
Abu Imrān
On a general note, couples should plan their life such that they avoid staying away from each other for long periods, and even if it becomes a necessity, the needs of the other should not be made to seem excessive, irrelevant or inconsiderate. As they say "body no be firewood".
"I am so sorry love, I promise to make it up to you"
Is a much better consolation than
"What's your problem woman? Can't you see I am out here striving for the family? Are we going to eat sex?".
First we need to understand that intimacy is a right both couples enjoy, not a privilege. Secondly, even as the head, if you want your wife to waive a right, you beg not impose.
Abu Imrān
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TO DIVORCED WOMEN:
1)Your divorce was willed and decreed by Allah. That was why it occurred. It could not have been avoided. So do not over-grieve over it. Instead read those prayers meant to be read when unpleasant happenings occur.
2)Ponder over what happened honestly, accept your errors, and learn your lessons.
3)Be calm, and patient, and avoid excesses of emotionally driven actions.
4)Avoid friending all manners of men, with the motives of moving your former husband to jealousy. "I wish to punish him with the jealousy of seeing me with other men"! You might end up punishing yourself by becoming worthless in the society. You might find it difficult to get married to any worthy person, by the time they discovered nearly everybody around known to them have slept with you.
5)Fortify yourself morally and spiritually, as much as possible. See if you can use the intervening periods to acquire some skills before your next settlement.
6)The earlier you remarries the better, but it must not be at the expense of the right, competent and righteous person.
7)Avoid joining the groups of divorced persons who have stayed unmarried for a long time. Most such groups do not have good reputations. Joining them immediately get you stigmatized with whatever they are known for, and these are usually not good qualities.
8)Avoid associating with those exes you were not in halaal relationship with, before your last, dissolved marriage, except such of them as have become changed persons, seeking lawful, neat Nikaah.
9)Do not seek to live on your own without the controlling and regulating authorities of some guardians. It will leave you open to exploitation, deception, and manipulations, by some insincere, cunning men. Islam rules that a divorced woman returns back to her parents, until she remarries. Parents are ordered to receive and care for her fully, pending when she remarries.
10)If you return back to your parents and they accept you as ordered by Islam, remember, you are subject to their authorities under Islamic Law. No going to places without their knowledge and approval. And no hosting of dubious and questionable visitors, and expect them to keep silent.
11)Etc, etc.
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1)Your divorce was willed and decreed by Allah. That was why it occurred. It could not have been avoided. So do not over-grieve over it. Instead read those prayers meant to be read when unpleasant happenings occur.
2)Ponder over what happened honestly, accept your errors, and learn your lessons.
3)Be calm, and patient, and avoid excesses of emotionally driven actions.
4)Avoid friending all manners of men, with the motives of moving your former husband to jealousy. "I wish to punish him with the jealousy of seeing me with other men"! You might end up punishing yourself by becoming worthless in the society. You might find it difficult to get married to any worthy person, by the time they discovered nearly everybody around known to them have slept with you.
5)Fortify yourself morally and spiritually, as much as possible. See if you can use the intervening periods to acquire some skills before your next settlement.
6)The earlier you remarries the better, but it must not be at the expense of the right, competent and righteous person.
7)Avoid joining the groups of divorced persons who have stayed unmarried for a long time. Most such groups do not have good reputations. Joining them immediately get you stigmatized with whatever they are known for, and these are usually not good qualities.
8)Avoid associating with those exes you were not in halaal relationship with, before your last, dissolved marriage, except such of them as have become changed persons, seeking lawful, neat Nikaah.
9)Do not seek to live on your own without the controlling and regulating authorities of some guardians. It will leave you open to exploitation, deception, and manipulations, by some insincere, cunning men. Islam rules that a divorced woman returns back to her parents, until she remarries. Parents are ordered to receive and care for her fully, pending when she remarries.
10)If you return back to your parents and they accept you as ordered by Islam, remember, you are subject to their authorities under Islamic Law. No going to places without their knowledge and approval. And no hosting of dubious and questionable visitors, and expect them to keep silent.
11)Etc, etc.
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VIRGINITY!!!!!!
This post will not sit well with many, but I’m going to say it anyway.
People should please stop spreading the narrative that virgins no longer exist. Just because some young ladies have chosen to normalize what is wrong does not make it right in the sight of the Almighty.
As adults, we have a responsibility to guide the younger generation and teach them that there is dignity in preserving themselves until marriage. What is wrong remains wrong, no matter how much society tries to redefine it.
Take a moment to sincerely reflect and ask yourself the truth: what did you truly gain after giving your virginity to that man? Did he marry you, or did it simply open the door for others to continue from where he stopped? Was it really worth it in the end?
Always remember, we will all stand before the King of Kings on the Day of Reckoning.
This post will not sit well with many, but I’m going to say it anyway.
People should please stop spreading the narrative that virgins no longer exist. Just because some young ladies have chosen to normalize what is wrong does not make it right in the sight of the Almighty.
As adults, we have a responsibility to guide the younger generation and teach them that there is dignity in preserving themselves until marriage. What is wrong remains wrong, no matter how much society tries to redefine it.
Take a moment to sincerely reflect and ask yourself the truth: what did you truly gain after giving your virginity to that man? Did he marry you, or did it simply open the door for others to continue from where he stopped? Was it really worth it in the end?
Always remember, we will all stand before the King of Kings on the Day of Reckoning.
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"She married a non-Muslim because there aren't any good Muslim men left"
"She took off her hijab because her father lacked wisdom"
"She cheated on her husband because he wasn't giving her enough attention"
"She embraced feminism because she was wronged by her menfolk"
"She doesn't respect her husband because he doesn't know how to lead"
"She left Islam because of the sexist Muslim clerics"
Notice a pattern yet?
Today, a Muslimah can commit the most egregious of sins & even kufr, but instead of warranted condemnation, she's depicted as the poor victim.
I have no issue in acknowledging how people can be pushed to making bad decisions based on how others have wronged them.
However, the serious issue here is when a woman's wrongdoing is always justified by blanket statements such as the ones mentioned above.
The easy option today is to point the finger at a man & the problem is pretty much solved.
We talk about women as if they're beyond reproach!?
Maybe the woman did what she did because she's defiant, evil, vile, corrupt, careless, delusional, self-entitled & on & on. Are these not possibilities?
This skewed approach will only bring about a generation of women that knows nothing about accountability & self-introspection. Sadly, we're seeing much of it already. Just look at the divorce rate.
Such women will never be taken seriously until they own up to their blunders & handle them as mature adults. Until then, many will continue to dismiss them as emotional, unreasonable & intolerable.
Women are NOT always the victim & men are NOT always to blame.
"She took off her hijab because her father lacked wisdom"
"She cheated on her husband because he wasn't giving her enough attention"
"She embraced feminism because she was wronged by her menfolk"
"She doesn't respect her husband because he doesn't know how to lead"
"She left Islam because of the sexist Muslim clerics"
Notice a pattern yet?
Today, a Muslimah can commit the most egregious of sins & even kufr, but instead of warranted condemnation, she's depicted as the poor victim.
I have no issue in acknowledging how people can be pushed to making bad decisions based on how others have wronged them.
However, the serious issue here is when a woman's wrongdoing is always justified by blanket statements such as the ones mentioned above.
The easy option today is to point the finger at a man & the problem is pretty much solved.
We talk about women as if they're beyond reproach!?
Maybe the woman did what she did because she's defiant, evil, vile, corrupt, careless, delusional, self-entitled & on & on. Are these not possibilities?
This skewed approach will only bring about a generation of women that knows nothing about accountability & self-introspection. Sadly, we're seeing much of it already. Just look at the divorce rate.
Such women will never be taken seriously until they own up to their blunders & handle them as mature adults. Until then, many will continue to dismiss them as emotional, unreasonable & intolerable.
Women are NOT always the victim & men are NOT always to blame.
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Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan حفظه الله said: “The two spouses are the foundation of the family. If the relationship between the two of them is bad, then there will be no stability in the home.”
📚 •Dawr al-Mar’ah fī Tarbiyat al-Usrah
📚 •Dawr al-Mar’ah fī Tarbiyat al-Usrah
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Marriage has become more like
business deal these days people follow culture way more than religion.
business deal these days people follow culture way more than religion.
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After getting married, there will always be someone prettier than your wife, someone richer than your husband,
that's why you better marry your spouse for their soul. So you'll realize that no one on earth could ever be them. So you'll stop searching and stay beside them.
that's why you better marry your spouse for their soul. So you'll realize that no one on earth could ever be them. So you'll stop searching and stay beside them.
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THE STORY OF OUR MOTHER HAAJAR.
Many orientalists and modern Muslims criticise the decision of Ibrahim AS to leave Haajar and his infant son in the desert.
These individuals fail to grasp the Divine wisdom in such a decision, to Act in perfect obedience to the Will of Allah whether it makes sense to us or not. This is the test of submission. This was as much a test for Ebrahim As as it was for Haajar.
In the home with Sarah AS and Ibrahim (As) she was the second wife. Did Allah chastise Sarah for resenting the young Haajar and her son? This was Sarah, wife of Ibrahim AS. One of the greatest women in history. Was she told that her feelings were unfounded and as the wife of a Nabi she should conduct herself differently?
No, Allah decided the destiny of each of them and He is Most Compassionate , Most Wise.
On her own, in the desert Allah would Test the faith and resolve of Haajar. This is where she would come into her own, away from the influence of others. This is where Allah would test the choices Haajar would make all on her own when there was no husband to guide her and no society to watch her.
As she watched her husband walk away, she ran after him, but the moment she realized that this was the decree of Allah, she became content in the knowledge that He would NEVER forsake her. That Allah would never burden a soul more than it can bear, that Allah would Never command anything except that there is goodness in it, even if it is not apparent at that precise moment. Haajar agreed to remain behind, alone in the desert for Allah's sake. Allah appreciates every effort done for His sake.
Our mother Haajar did not allow her faith to waiver in the least. She could have made dua then sat and waited, but she understood that she needed to do her bit and make effort. She exerted herself, running up and down from Safaa to Marwa and back again. No one exerts themselves in such a manner unless they are certain that it will yield results.
Tawakkul means using every means, while the heart is content in the knowledge that Allah will grant relief.
Allah does not disappoint the ones who put their trust in Him, for those who Trust in Allah, he Will provide relief from sources beyond belief. This relief came in the form of a spring that sprouted at the feet of Ismaeel AS. The waters gushed forth a welcome relief for the exhausted mother.
A means of quenching their thirst, and attracting passing caravans to settle in the area honouring Haajar and her son as keepers of the sacred well.
A symbol foretelling of a miracle to come that will quench humanity's thirst for guidance until the end of time.
Haajar had aced her test and honoured her covenant to Allah. She put her trust entirely in Allah alone then she exerted herself in effort. She did what she had to do and the relief came. Even though the effort was in no way related to the relief. Allah does not need our efforts and Allah does not need any means. He provides for whomever He wills and there is none who can question Him.
This effort of Haajar will be commemorated until the end of time. No person who wants to be complete Hajj or Umrah can do so without following in the blessed footsteps of Haajar AS.
Allah does not allow the good deeds of any person to be in vain
There is a lesson in this for us. Trust in Allah and sincere effort is the recipe that will get us through any test. A dedicated effort is a sign that we truly trust in a favourable outcome from Allah. Even if the relief is not related to the effort. Although the effort is necessary, the relief from Allah does not depend on on it. Relief can come from any source, known or unknown, expected or unexpected. The ultimate Decision lies with Allah Alone.
O Allah grant us the opportunity to walk in the footsteps of Haajar once again. Only You are aware of the burning desire and the yearning within our hearts to be close to you house once more. Grant us a way out of every difficulty and unite us with Your Close Ones on the Day of Qiyamah.
Ameen
©️ The Millennial Muslimah
Many orientalists and modern Muslims criticise the decision of Ibrahim AS to leave Haajar and his infant son in the desert.
These individuals fail to grasp the Divine wisdom in such a decision, to Act in perfect obedience to the Will of Allah whether it makes sense to us or not. This is the test of submission. This was as much a test for Ebrahim As as it was for Haajar.
In the home with Sarah AS and Ibrahim (As) she was the second wife. Did Allah chastise Sarah for resenting the young Haajar and her son? This was Sarah, wife of Ibrahim AS. One of the greatest women in history. Was she told that her feelings were unfounded and as the wife of a Nabi she should conduct herself differently?
No, Allah decided the destiny of each of them and He is Most Compassionate , Most Wise.
On her own, in the desert Allah would Test the faith and resolve of Haajar. This is where she would come into her own, away from the influence of others. This is where Allah would test the choices Haajar would make all on her own when there was no husband to guide her and no society to watch her.
As she watched her husband walk away, she ran after him, but the moment she realized that this was the decree of Allah, she became content in the knowledge that He would NEVER forsake her. That Allah would never burden a soul more than it can bear, that Allah would Never command anything except that there is goodness in it, even if it is not apparent at that precise moment. Haajar agreed to remain behind, alone in the desert for Allah's sake. Allah appreciates every effort done for His sake.
Our mother Haajar did not allow her faith to waiver in the least. She could have made dua then sat and waited, but she understood that she needed to do her bit and make effort. She exerted herself, running up and down from Safaa to Marwa and back again. No one exerts themselves in such a manner unless they are certain that it will yield results.
Tawakkul means using every means, while the heart is content in the knowledge that Allah will grant relief.
Allah does not disappoint the ones who put their trust in Him, for those who Trust in Allah, he Will provide relief from sources beyond belief. This relief came in the form of a spring that sprouted at the feet of Ismaeel AS. The waters gushed forth a welcome relief for the exhausted mother.
A means of quenching their thirst, and attracting passing caravans to settle in the area honouring Haajar and her son as keepers of the sacred well.
A symbol foretelling of a miracle to come that will quench humanity's thirst for guidance until the end of time.
Haajar had aced her test and honoured her covenant to Allah. She put her trust entirely in Allah alone then she exerted herself in effort. She did what she had to do and the relief came. Even though the effort was in no way related to the relief. Allah does not need our efforts and Allah does not need any means. He provides for whomever He wills and there is none who can question Him.
This effort of Haajar will be commemorated until the end of time. No person who wants to be complete Hajj or Umrah can do so without following in the blessed footsteps of Haajar AS.
Allah does not allow the good deeds of any person to be in vain
There is a lesson in this for us. Trust in Allah and sincere effort is the recipe that will get us through any test. A dedicated effort is a sign that we truly trust in a favourable outcome from Allah. Even if the relief is not related to the effort. Although the effort is necessary, the relief from Allah does not depend on on it. Relief can come from any source, known or unknown, expected or unexpected. The ultimate Decision lies with Allah Alone.
O Allah grant us the opportunity to walk in the footsteps of Haajar once again. Only You are aware of the burning desire and the yearning within our hearts to be close to you house once more. Grant us a way out of every difficulty and unite us with Your Close Ones on the Day of Qiyamah.
Ameen
©️ The Millennial Muslimah
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