One of the greatest gifts in marriage is emotional support.
Life brings stress, work pressure, and personal struggles, and a spouse should be a source of comfort, not additional stress. The Prophet ﷺ showed emotional care to his wives, listening to them and comforting them in moments of difficulty. In an Islamic marriage, partners should be each other’s safe place—someone who listens without judgment, encourages growth, and stands together in times of hardship.
Life brings stress, work pressure, and personal struggles, and a spouse should be a source of comfort, not additional stress. The Prophet ﷺ showed emotional care to his wives, listening to them and comforting them in moments of difficulty. In an Islamic marriage, partners should be each other’s safe place—someone who listens without judgment, encourages growth, and stands together in times of hardship.
👍18💯9😢1
Let's have a very serious conversation
There is a disturbing trend spreading among some married Muslim sisters and even some brothers that we must address as a matter of urgency.
Some married women claim they have “fallen out of love” with their husbands. Instead of seeking solutions within the boundaries of Islam, they open the door to something far more dangerous. A colleague, an acquaintance, or even a stranger begins to give them attention. What starts as casual conversation gradually turns into emotional attachment. Before anyone knows what's happening, the conversation leads to s*x chatting, they share each other's nude photos and videos. In fact, they chat with each other while seeing each other naked.
There is another category: married sisters whose husbands live abroad. These women often face loneliness, lack of attention, and unmet emotional and physical needs. Instead of seeking halal solutions, some fall into the trap of filling that void with another man. They begin secret relationships with another man, s*x chatting and sharing of their nude photos and videos.
What makes this even more heartbreaking is that some of these sisters outwardly appear very religious. Some wear the niqab, presenting themselves as symbols of modesty and piety. Yet behind closed doors, their actions contradict the very essence of what they represent.
On the other side, there are Muslim men who engage in the same shameful behaviour. Some lie beside their wives at night while secretly s*x chatting with another man’s wife. They exchange inappropriate messages, photos and videos.
Subhanallah!
I don't know if they don't understand that they're committing zina. zina is not only when there's sexual intercourse. When all these shameful behaviours happen, zina has been committed.
Allah says in the Quran:
“And do not come near to zina. Indeed, it is an immorality and an evil way.” (Surah Al-Isra 17:32)
Notice that Allah did not just forbid zina, He forbade going near it. This includes s*x chats, emotional attachments, and any form of indecent interaction.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) also warned:
“The eyes commit zina, the hands commit zina, and the private parts confirm it or deny it.”
This means that even what we see, type, and share can be a form of zina if it crosses the boundaries set by Allah.
Dear brothers and sisters, these actions have serious consequences:
They destroy marriages and families. They break trust beyond repair. They expose individuals to blackmail and disgrace.
Most pathetically, they invite the wrath of Allah.
Dear Married Men,
If you truly care about your marriage, try your best not to leave your wives behind for long periods while you travel abroad, especially without a clear plan to reunite. Marriage in Islam is built on companionship, mercy, and closeness.
Distance, when prolonged, creates emotional and physical gaps that can become dangerous. If it is possible, take your wife along. Protect your home and protect your wife.
Dear Married Sisters In This Category,
What you are doing in private is not hidden from the One who created you.
Those late-night chats, the exchange of intimate messages, nude pictures, nude videos, subhanallah, these are destructive ways. You're following the footsteps of Shaytan, you're gradually pulling away from your dignity, your marriage, and your relationship with Allah.
You may tell yourself: “It’s just chatting.” “It’s not physical.” “I need attention.” “I feel unloved.” But the whispering of Shaytan is what you're listening to.
If you are lonely, address it the right way: Talk to your husband. Seek counselling. Turn to Allah in dua. Strengthen your iman.
Don’t fill an emotional gap with something that will create a spiritual disaster.
And if your husband is far away, be patient and wise. Know that distance is a test, but failing that test in this way only brings regret.
Remember: The same hands typing those messages will testify. The same eyes reading those chats will testify. The same body being exposed will testify.
There is a disturbing trend spreading among some married Muslim sisters and even some brothers that we must address as a matter of urgency.
Some married women claim they have “fallen out of love” with their husbands. Instead of seeking solutions within the boundaries of Islam, they open the door to something far more dangerous. A colleague, an acquaintance, or even a stranger begins to give them attention. What starts as casual conversation gradually turns into emotional attachment. Before anyone knows what's happening, the conversation leads to s*x chatting, they share each other's nude photos and videos. In fact, they chat with each other while seeing each other naked.
There is another category: married sisters whose husbands live abroad. These women often face loneliness, lack of attention, and unmet emotional and physical needs. Instead of seeking halal solutions, some fall into the trap of filling that void with another man. They begin secret relationships with another man, s*x chatting and sharing of their nude photos and videos.
What makes this even more heartbreaking is that some of these sisters outwardly appear very religious. Some wear the niqab, presenting themselves as symbols of modesty and piety. Yet behind closed doors, their actions contradict the very essence of what they represent.
On the other side, there are Muslim men who engage in the same shameful behaviour. Some lie beside their wives at night while secretly s*x chatting with another man’s wife. They exchange inappropriate messages, photos and videos.
Subhanallah!
I don't know if they don't understand that they're committing zina. zina is not only when there's sexual intercourse. When all these shameful behaviours happen, zina has been committed.
Allah says in the Quran:
“And do not come near to zina. Indeed, it is an immorality and an evil way.” (Surah Al-Isra 17:32)
Notice that Allah did not just forbid zina, He forbade going near it. This includes s*x chats, emotional attachments, and any form of indecent interaction.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) also warned:
“The eyes commit zina, the hands commit zina, and the private parts confirm it or deny it.”
This means that even what we see, type, and share can be a form of zina if it crosses the boundaries set by Allah.
Dear brothers and sisters, these actions have serious consequences:
They destroy marriages and families. They break trust beyond repair. They expose individuals to blackmail and disgrace.
Most pathetically, they invite the wrath of Allah.
Dear Married Men,
If you truly care about your marriage, try your best not to leave your wives behind for long periods while you travel abroad, especially without a clear plan to reunite. Marriage in Islam is built on companionship, mercy, and closeness.
Distance, when prolonged, creates emotional and physical gaps that can become dangerous. If it is possible, take your wife along. Protect your home and protect your wife.
Dear Married Sisters In This Category,
What you are doing in private is not hidden from the One who created you.
Those late-night chats, the exchange of intimate messages, nude pictures, nude videos, subhanallah, these are destructive ways. You're following the footsteps of Shaytan, you're gradually pulling away from your dignity, your marriage, and your relationship with Allah.
You may tell yourself: “It’s just chatting.” “It’s not physical.” “I need attention.” “I feel unloved.” But the whispering of Shaytan is what you're listening to.
If you are lonely, address it the right way: Talk to your husband. Seek counselling. Turn to Allah in dua. Strengthen your iman.
Don’t fill an emotional gap with something that will create a spiritual disaster.
And if your husband is far away, be patient and wise. Know that distance is a test, but failing that test in this way only brings regret.
Remember: The same hands typing those messages will testify. The same eyes reading those chats will testify. The same body being exposed will testify.
👍9💯2
Fear Allah, sisters. Protect your dignity. Protect your home. Protect your akhirah.
Turn back now before it is too late.
Dear Single Sisters,
Be wise in your marital choices. Don’t rush into marrying a man who lives abroad without certainty that you will join him soon. The fact that he has money and you're financially secure is not enough reason to jeopardise your life.
Long-distance marriages can be extremely difficult, and not everyone has the strength to endure them with patience and discipline. Be wise.
Dear Married Brothers In This Category,
Engaging in inappropriate chats with another man’s wife is a serious betrayal, of your own marriage, of another man’s trust, and of your duty to Allah. Subhanallah! Where's your fear of Allah? With your physical appearance? What may seem like “just conversation” can quickly become emotional attachment and spiritual disaster. What are you teaching your children and those who look up to you with this disgraceful act?
Remember, Allah sees what is hidden. Every message, every word, every intention is recorded. You may delete chats, but you cannot erase them from your record with Allah.
Ask yourself: would you accept another man speaking to your wife in the same way? Would you like your wife to send her nude to another man? If the answer is no, then fear Allah in how you treat the wives of others.
Guard your eyes, your heart, and your actions. Honour your wife by being loyal, both publicly and privately. Most importantly, fear the wrath of Allah. Turn away from what displeases Him before it costs you your peace, your home, and your hereafter.
This is not just a naseeha, it's a naseeha borne out of real life occurrences. Let's fear Allah and the last day. May we not be unfortunate in this life and the next. Aamin
Lajfingers
Turn back now before it is too late.
Dear Single Sisters,
Be wise in your marital choices. Don’t rush into marrying a man who lives abroad without certainty that you will join him soon. The fact that he has money and you're financially secure is not enough reason to jeopardise your life.
Long-distance marriages can be extremely difficult, and not everyone has the strength to endure them with patience and discipline. Be wise.
Dear Married Brothers In This Category,
Engaging in inappropriate chats with another man’s wife is a serious betrayal, of your own marriage, of another man’s trust, and of your duty to Allah. Subhanallah! Where's your fear of Allah? With your physical appearance? What may seem like “just conversation” can quickly become emotional attachment and spiritual disaster. What are you teaching your children and those who look up to you with this disgraceful act?
Remember, Allah sees what is hidden. Every message, every word, every intention is recorded. You may delete chats, but you cannot erase them from your record with Allah.
Ask yourself: would you accept another man speaking to your wife in the same way? Would you like your wife to send her nude to another man? If the answer is no, then fear Allah in how you treat the wives of others.
Guard your eyes, your heart, and your actions. Honour your wife by being loyal, both publicly and privately. Most importantly, fear the wrath of Allah. Turn away from what displeases Him before it costs you your peace, your home, and your hereafter.
This is not just a naseeha, it's a naseeha borne out of real life occurrences. Let's fear Allah and the last day. May we not be unfortunate in this life and the next. Aamin
Lajfingers
💯12👍2💔2
The housewife looks at the working woman and wishes she had a job so she could be "empowered and independent."
The working woman looks at the housewife and wishes she could have slower-paced days with less stress than at the office.
The stay-at-home mom looks at the working mom and wishes she could get away from the kids for a bit sometimes by going to a paid job, plus the paid part would be nice too.
The working mom looks at the stay-at-home mom and wishes she could soak in her children's company and be present for their full childhood and not feel pulled apart from all different directions of home and kids and work.
The unmarried woman looks at the married woman and wishes that she could have the stability and security of a home, a husband, a loving family of her own.
The married woman looks at the single woman and wishes she could have the freedom, lightness, and excitement of the single life unencumbered by heavy responsibility.
Women look at men and wish they could be like them. (Thank you, feminism!)
The older woman looks at the younger girl and wishes she could be as youthful and fresh and energetic as she had once been.
The younger girl looks at the older woman and wishes she had the authority and freedom that comes with age.
This is the state of most people. Living one life but looking longingly at the lives of others opposite from themselves and feeling bad about their lot in life. Feeling sorry for themselves, especially in today's culture of overplaying the victim card.
It doesn't matter what we have--we still ignore it and wish for what we don't have. What we don't have always looks a little better.
But the grass is always greener on the other side.
The only solution to this problem of perpetual discontent and constant comparisons is one given to us by Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم :
لا تنظروا الى من هو أعلى منكم ولكن انظوا الى من هو أسفل منكم فحري أن لا تزدروا نعمة الله عليكم
"Don't look at the people who are higher than you. Rather look at the people who are below you, so that you don't deprive yourself of the blessings of Allah upon you."
The constant looking over our shoulder and comparing and complaining is one way to lose the blessings we do have.
Instead of wanting everything that others have, we need to understand that these are the biggest necessities and biggest blessings:
من أصبح منكم آمنا في سربه، معافى في جسده، عنده قوت يومه، فكأنما حيزت له الدنيا بحذافيرها
"Whoever of you wakes up safe in his home, healthy and sound of body, and has food for the day, then it's like the dunya has granted him its treasures."
He also teaches us, عليه الصلاة و السلام, that:
القناعة كنز لا يفنى.
"Contentment is a treasure unending."
So instead of looking around and longing for what was given to others, we should inculcate within ourselves the treasure of feelings of قناعة (contentment) and زهد (zuhd, or asceticism). The Beloved also says:
ازهد في الدنيا يحبك الله، وازهد فيما في أيدي الناس يحبك الناس " (رواه ابن ماجه وصححه الألباني).
"Have zuhd (look away from and let go) of the dunya and Allah will love you. And have zuhd (look away from and let go) of what's in people's hands and people will love you."
[Narrated by Ibn Majah and classified as Sahih by Al-Albany]
The working woman looks at the housewife and wishes she could have slower-paced days with less stress than at the office.
The stay-at-home mom looks at the working mom and wishes she could get away from the kids for a bit sometimes by going to a paid job, plus the paid part would be nice too.
The working mom looks at the stay-at-home mom and wishes she could soak in her children's company and be present for their full childhood and not feel pulled apart from all different directions of home and kids and work.
The unmarried woman looks at the married woman and wishes that she could have the stability and security of a home, a husband, a loving family of her own.
The married woman looks at the single woman and wishes she could have the freedom, lightness, and excitement of the single life unencumbered by heavy responsibility.
Women look at men and wish they could be like them. (Thank you, feminism!)
The older woman looks at the younger girl and wishes she could be as youthful and fresh and energetic as she had once been.
The younger girl looks at the older woman and wishes she had the authority and freedom that comes with age.
This is the state of most people. Living one life but looking longingly at the lives of others opposite from themselves and feeling bad about their lot in life. Feeling sorry for themselves, especially in today's culture of overplaying the victim card.
It doesn't matter what we have--we still ignore it and wish for what we don't have. What we don't have always looks a little better.
But the grass is always greener on the other side.
The only solution to this problem of perpetual discontent and constant comparisons is one given to us by Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم :
لا تنظروا الى من هو أعلى منكم ولكن انظوا الى من هو أسفل منكم فحري أن لا تزدروا نعمة الله عليكم
"Don't look at the people who are higher than you. Rather look at the people who are below you, so that you don't deprive yourself of the blessings of Allah upon you."
The constant looking over our shoulder and comparing and complaining is one way to lose the blessings we do have.
Instead of wanting everything that others have, we need to understand that these are the biggest necessities and biggest blessings:
من أصبح منكم آمنا في سربه، معافى في جسده، عنده قوت يومه، فكأنما حيزت له الدنيا بحذافيرها
"Whoever of you wakes up safe in his home, healthy and sound of body, and has food for the day, then it's like the dunya has granted him its treasures."
He also teaches us, عليه الصلاة و السلام, that:
القناعة كنز لا يفنى.
"Contentment is a treasure unending."
So instead of looking around and longing for what was given to others, we should inculcate within ourselves the treasure of feelings of قناعة (contentment) and زهد (zuhd, or asceticism). The Beloved also says:
ازهد في الدنيا يحبك الله، وازهد فيما في أيدي الناس يحبك الناس " (رواه ابن ماجه وصححه الألباني).
"Have zuhd (look away from and let go) of the dunya and Allah will love you. And have zuhd (look away from and let go) of what's in people's hands and people will love you."
[Narrated by Ibn Majah and classified as Sahih by Al-Albany]
👍7💯7
Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,
Alhamdulillah, by the mercy and guidance of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى, we have been managing several channels with the sincere intention of sharing authentic and beneficial information for the betterment of our Ummah.
We kindly request you to join the official channels listed below and share them with your family and friends. Each channel is focused on a specific area of benefit, and all content is based on authentic and verified sources.
➡️Our Official Channels:
1. Muslim Marriage Tips – Knowledge and guidance on marriage life in the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah, suitable for those who are married, unmarried, or engaged.
https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips
2. Muslim Children Tips – Parenting advice and Islamic guidance for raising children of all ages in accordance with the teachings of Islam and as well as content to help children learn how to behave with their parents and others, in line with Islamic values.
https://t.me/MuslimChildrenTips
3. Muslim Health Tips – Tips on maintaining good health through halal, Sunnah-based, and natural approaches to physical and mental well-being.
https://t.me/health049
4. Authentic Duas – A collection of authentic duas from the Qur’an and Sunnah for various aspects of life.
https://t.me/authenticduas
5. Evil Eye & Black Magic – Protection and cure based on Islamic principles to safeguard against the evil eye, black magic, and spiritual harm.
https://t.me/EvilEyes_BlackMagic
6. Jannah is Our Dream – Islamic reminders, motivation, and reflections to inspire us in our journey toward the Hereafter.
https://t.me/AuthenticHadith
7. Food Foody – Tried and tested recipes, food inspiration, and creative cooking ideas for daily life.
https://t.me/food22foody
8. Signs Before the Day of Judgement– Authentic information, hadeeth, and reminders about the minor and major signs of the Last Day, helping deepen awareness of the Akhirah and strengthen faith.
https://t.me/Signsb4DayOfJudgement
Our Primary Goal Is Simple: If even one post benefits one person, we are grateful to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى. This entire effort is done solely for the sake of Allah ﷻ — to bring positive change and be a source of goodness for the Ummah.
May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى accept this humble work, make it a means of ongoing reward, and allow us all to take part in spreading beneficial knowledge,Aameen.
Jazakum Allahu Khairan
— Admin & Team
Alhamdulillah, by the mercy and guidance of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى, we have been managing several channels with the sincere intention of sharing authentic and beneficial information for the betterment of our Ummah.
We kindly request you to join the official channels listed below and share them with your family and friends. Each channel is focused on a specific area of benefit, and all content is based on authentic and verified sources.
➡️Our Official Channels:
1. Muslim Marriage Tips – Knowledge and guidance on marriage life in the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah, suitable for those who are married, unmarried, or engaged.
https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips
2. Muslim Children Tips – Parenting advice and Islamic guidance for raising children of all ages in accordance with the teachings of Islam and as well as content to help children learn how to behave with their parents and others, in line with Islamic values.
https://t.me/MuslimChildrenTips
3. Muslim Health Tips – Tips on maintaining good health through halal, Sunnah-based, and natural approaches to physical and mental well-being.
https://t.me/health049
4. Authentic Duas – A collection of authentic duas from the Qur’an and Sunnah for various aspects of life.
https://t.me/authenticduas
5. Evil Eye & Black Magic – Protection and cure based on Islamic principles to safeguard against the evil eye, black magic, and spiritual harm.
https://t.me/EvilEyes_BlackMagic
6. Jannah is Our Dream – Islamic reminders, motivation, and reflections to inspire us in our journey toward the Hereafter.
https://t.me/AuthenticHadith
7. Food Foody – Tried and tested recipes, food inspiration, and creative cooking ideas for daily life.
https://t.me/food22foody
8. Signs Before the Day of Judgement– Authentic information, hadeeth, and reminders about the minor and major signs of the Last Day, helping deepen awareness of the Akhirah and strengthen faith.
https://t.me/Signsb4DayOfJudgement
Our Primary Goal Is Simple: If even one post benefits one person, we are grateful to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى. This entire effort is done solely for the sake of Allah ﷻ — to bring positive change and be a source of goodness for the Ummah.
May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى accept this humble work, make it a means of ongoing reward, and allow us all to take part in spreading beneficial knowledge,Aameen.
Jazakum Allahu Khairan
— Admin & Team
Telegram
Muslim Marriage Tips
Most successful couples,r thse,who don’t live according to d expectations of others.Thy don’t look around&try to copy others, instead, thy look towards1 another&start this journey of marriage with trust in Allaah&eachOther.
muslimmarriagetips77@gmail.com
muslimmarriagetips77@gmail.com
🕊6⚡2👍1
A woman is raised in her father’s home for many years, and when she gets married, *she wants her husband to fulfill all her dreams in the very first year of marriage... as if she married Aladdin’s lamp.*
Be gentle with your expectations. Your husband is not a source of instant perfection, but a partner *who is also trying, striving, and carrying responsibilities* you may not always see.
Just as you need understanding and care, he too needs *support, appreciation, and kindness.*
_So have mercy on your men…_
Be gentle with your expectations. Your husband is not a source of instant perfection, but a partner *who is also trying, striving, and carrying responsibilities* you may not always see.
Just as you need understanding and care, he too needs *support, appreciation, and kindness.*
_So have mercy on your men…_
💯27👍6🕊1
Before we get married, may Allah give us all the ability to understand these 3 important points 📌
"Sakinah, Mawaddah, and Rahmah."
These three words are the foundation of an Islamic in the marriage, directly mentioned by Allah Qur'an in Surah Ar-Rum, Ayah 21:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم
مودة ورحمة
"And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you love and mercy."
(Qur'an 30: 21)
So these are not just words they're divine ingredients for peace between two souls.
*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*
1. Sakinah )سكينة( - Tranquility
Meaning: peace, calmness, emotional rest.
In marriage: your spouse becomes your safe space.
It means that when the world feels heavy, your heart finds rest beside them.
It's not about perfection it's about feeling at peace in each other's presence.
"Sakinah" is Allah's gift that turns a house into a home.
*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*
2. Mawaddah ( مودة) - Affectionate Love
Meaning: deep, pure love shown through kind actions.
In marriage: it's the warmth, care, and gentle effort you show not just feelings. Mawaddah is when you give love for Allah's sake, not only when things are easy.
It's love that survives ego, and grows with patience...
*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*
2. Mawaddah ( مودة) - Affectionate Love
Meaning: deep, pure love shown through kind actions.
In marriage: it's the warmth, care, and gentle effort you show not just feelings. Mawaddah is when you give love for Allah's sake, not only when things are easy.
It's love that survives ego, and grows with patience.
https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips
https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VbBsZqXH5JLy9dng2V1L
"Sakinah, Mawaddah, and Rahmah."
These three words are the foundation of an Islamic in the marriage, directly mentioned by Allah Qur'an in Surah Ar-Rum, Ayah 21:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم
مودة ورحمة
"And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you love and mercy."
(Qur'an 30: 21)
So these are not just words they're divine ingredients for peace between two souls.
*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*
1. Sakinah )سكينة( - Tranquility
Meaning: peace, calmness, emotional rest.
In marriage: your spouse becomes your safe space.
It means that when the world feels heavy, your heart finds rest beside them.
It's not about perfection it's about feeling at peace in each other's presence.
"Sakinah" is Allah's gift that turns a house into a home.
*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*
2. Mawaddah ( مودة) - Affectionate Love
Meaning: deep, pure love shown through kind actions.
In marriage: it's the warmth, care, and gentle effort you show not just feelings. Mawaddah is when you give love for Allah's sake, not only when things are easy.
It's love that survives ego, and grows with patience...
*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*_*
2. Mawaddah ( مودة) - Affectionate Love
Meaning: deep, pure love shown through kind actions.
In marriage: it's the warmth, care, and gentle effort you show not just feelings. Mawaddah is when you give love for Allah's sake, not only when things are easy.
It's love that survives ego, and grows with patience.
https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips
https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VbBsZqXH5JLy9dng2V1L
👍7🕊4💯1
ibn al-Qayyim (may Allāh have mercy on him) writes:
“As for loving one’s wives, there is no blame in this; rather, it is from [a man’s] completeness, and Allah has blessed His worshippers with it (i.e. love).
[ad-Dā wad-Dawā p.219 | Trans. ibn Akhḍar]
Grab the eBook 'Love For Wives' - http://alrahmaniyyah.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Love-for-WivesIbn-Qayyim-1.pdf
“As for loving one’s wives, there is no blame in this; rather, it is from [a man’s] completeness, and Allah has blessed His worshippers with it (i.e. love).
[ad-Dā wad-Dawā p.219 | Trans. ibn Akhḍar]
Grab the eBook 'Love For Wives' - http://alrahmaniyyah.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Love-for-WivesIbn-Qayyim-1.pdf
👍7🕊3
The husband is a gift to the wife and the wife a gift to the husband. Each has been wrapped up beautifully by Allah SWT and it takes one spouse to unwrap the other.
May Allah SWT bless us with pious spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes, Ameen.
May Allah SWT bless us with pious spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes, Ameen.
🕊17💯11⚡2😢2👍1
The Prophet of Allah (ﷺ) said,
“In Paradise there is a street to which they would come every Friday.
The north wind will blow and would scatter fragrance on their faces and on their clothes and would add to their beauty and loveliness Then they would go back to their family after having an added lustre to their beauty and loveliness, and their family would say to them: By Allah, you have been increased in beauty and loveliness after leaving us, and they would say: By Allah, you have also increased in beautyand loveliness after us.”
[Muslim 2833]
“In Paradise there is a street to which they would come every Friday.
The north wind will blow and would scatter fragrance on their faces and on their clothes and would add to their beauty and loveliness Then they would go back to their family after having an added lustre to their beauty and loveliness, and their family would say to them: By Allah, you have been increased in beauty and loveliness after leaving us, and they would say: By Allah, you have also increased in beautyand loveliness after us.”
[Muslim 2833]
👍9💯5🕊3
Shaykh ul-Islām Ibn Taymīyyah rh said:
“When a man has the means and fears falling into sin, marriage becomes obligatory upon him.
And if by marrying he can protect a woman who needs protection, then it is among the best of deeds.”
“When a man has the means and fears falling into sin, marriage becomes obligatory upon him.
And if by marrying he can protect a woman who needs protection, then it is among the best of deeds.”
👍18🕊1
💯18👍1🕊1
A message I sent my family today:
My beloved wives,
This is a reminder first and foremost for myself, and then for you, because we are all striving together for the pleasure of Allah.
As the weather begins to heat up and the days grow longer, I know that the test becomes heavier. The feeling of being wrapped, covered, and layered in the heat is not something light. And I want to be clear about something: I, as a man, cannot fully understand what you feel. No man can truly say he understands what it is like to be in your position—covered in the heat, enduring discomfort, while seeing other women around you dressed in ways that seem easier, lighter, and more appealing to the nafs.
I know that when you see women exposing their beauty, showing their bodies, their shape, their adornment, it can plant thoughts. It can whisper ideas—“Why not me?” “Just a little less covering…” “It’s so hot…” These thoughts are real, and I don’t dismiss them. But the victory is not in the absence of these thoughts—the victory is in obedience to Allah and His Messenger despite them.
Allah sees the struggle.
Remember the women who came before you—the righteous women of this Ummah. They endured hardship, discomfort, pressure, and sacrifice for the sake of Allah. They covered not because it was easy, but because it was beloved to Allah. And that is where honor lies.
And reflect as well: the heat of this dunya, no matter how intense, is nothing compared to the heat of the Hellfire. The Prophet ﷺ warned us about women who are “dressed yet naked”—those who appear clothed but in reality expose their bodies through tightness, thinness, or revealing their shape. He informed us that they will not enter Jannah nor smell its fragrance. This is not something small.
From the meanings of this hadith is that clothing is not just about covering skin—it is about modesty, concealment, and عدم إظهار الزينة (not displaying adornment). Tight clothing, transparent garments, or clothing that outlines the body all fall into this dangerous category, even if a person outwardly claims to be “covered.”
And there are narrations that speak about punishment—of women being punished for beautifying themselves in ways that displease Allah, for exposing themselves, for seeking attention. These are not meant to crush you, but to protect you. To remind you that this path you are on is a path of safety, dignity, and success.
Wallahi, I am proud of you.
Proud that you choose obedience over desire. Proud that you are consistent—not like those who are on and off, covering one day and uncovering the next, chasing the acceptance of people or the attention of men. You have chosen something higher. Something ثابت (firm).
Know that your niqab and your jilbab are not burdens—they are honors. They are banners of the believing woman. They distinguish you as women who submit to Allah, not to society, not to trends, not to desires.
And I want you to also remember: while it is not obligatory upon me to wear a thawb every day, I choose to do so. I choose to identify myself openly as a Muslim man. I feel the heat. I receive the looks. I carry that weight publicly—not because it equals your struggle, but because I want to share in it in my own way.
We are a family striving together.
So be patient. Be firm. When it gets hard, remind yourselves why you started. Remind yourselves Who you are doing it for.
And know that every drop of sweat, every moment of discomfort, every time you lower your gaze from what could weaken your resolve—it is all seen by Allah, recorded by Allah, and rewarded by Allah.
May Allah keep you firm, increase you in modesty, beautify you with taqwa, and make you among the women of Jannah.
Your husband:
Kaashif Muhammad
Copied
My beloved wives,
This is a reminder first and foremost for myself, and then for you, because we are all striving together for the pleasure of Allah.
As the weather begins to heat up and the days grow longer, I know that the test becomes heavier. The feeling of being wrapped, covered, and layered in the heat is not something light. And I want to be clear about something: I, as a man, cannot fully understand what you feel. No man can truly say he understands what it is like to be in your position—covered in the heat, enduring discomfort, while seeing other women around you dressed in ways that seem easier, lighter, and more appealing to the nafs.
I know that when you see women exposing their beauty, showing their bodies, their shape, their adornment, it can plant thoughts. It can whisper ideas—“Why not me?” “Just a little less covering…” “It’s so hot…” These thoughts are real, and I don’t dismiss them. But the victory is not in the absence of these thoughts—the victory is in obedience to Allah and His Messenger despite them.
Allah sees the struggle.
Remember the women who came before you—the righteous women of this Ummah. They endured hardship, discomfort, pressure, and sacrifice for the sake of Allah. They covered not because it was easy, but because it was beloved to Allah. And that is where honor lies.
And reflect as well: the heat of this dunya, no matter how intense, is nothing compared to the heat of the Hellfire. The Prophet ﷺ warned us about women who are “dressed yet naked”—those who appear clothed but in reality expose their bodies through tightness, thinness, or revealing their shape. He informed us that they will not enter Jannah nor smell its fragrance. This is not something small.
From the meanings of this hadith is that clothing is not just about covering skin—it is about modesty, concealment, and عدم إظهار الزينة (not displaying adornment). Tight clothing, transparent garments, or clothing that outlines the body all fall into this dangerous category, even if a person outwardly claims to be “covered.”
And there are narrations that speak about punishment—of women being punished for beautifying themselves in ways that displease Allah, for exposing themselves, for seeking attention. These are not meant to crush you, but to protect you. To remind you that this path you are on is a path of safety, dignity, and success.
Wallahi, I am proud of you.
Proud that you choose obedience over desire. Proud that you are consistent—not like those who are on and off, covering one day and uncovering the next, chasing the acceptance of people or the attention of men. You have chosen something higher. Something ثابت (firm).
Know that your niqab and your jilbab are not burdens—they are honors. They are banners of the believing woman. They distinguish you as women who submit to Allah, not to society, not to trends, not to desires.
And I want you to also remember: while it is not obligatory upon me to wear a thawb every day, I choose to do so. I choose to identify myself openly as a Muslim man. I feel the heat. I receive the looks. I carry that weight publicly—not because it equals your struggle, but because I want to share in it in my own way.
We are a family striving together.
So be patient. Be firm. When it gets hard, remind yourselves why you started. Remind yourselves Who you are doing it for.
And know that every drop of sweat, every moment of discomfort, every time you lower your gaze from what could weaken your resolve—it is all seen by Allah, recorded by Allah, and rewarded by Allah.
May Allah keep you firm, increase you in modesty, beautify you with taqwa, and make you among the women of Jannah.
Your husband:
Kaashif Muhammad
Copied
💯12🕊4👍1😢1
Forwarded from Muslim Health Tips
If you don’t know this… you might be missing your fertile days every month
You’re tracking your period…
But are you calculating your ovulation correctly?
Let me show you simply
STEP 1: Know Your Cycle
Your cycle starts on:
✔ Day 1 = first day of your period
Ends:
✔ The day before your next period
Example:
Period starts March 1
Next period starts March 29
Cycle = 28 days
STEP 2: Calculate Ovulation
Ovulation happens about:
✔ 14 days before your next period
Example:
Cycle = 28 days
28 – 14 = Day 14
✔ You ovulate around Day 14
STEP 3: Find Your Fertile Window
This is when pregnancy can happen
✔ 5 days before ovulation + ovulation day
Example:
Ovulation = Day 14
Fertile window = Day 9 to Day 14
- STEP 4: Best Time to Try
✔ Have sex every 1–2 days
✔ Focus on the days BEFORE ovulation
Don’t wait for ovulation day only
IMPORTANT
❗ Not everyone has a 28-day cycle
❗ Normal cycle = 21–35 days
❗ Ovulation changes if your cycle changes
CONFIRM OVULATION
Watch for:
✔ Clear stretchy discharge
✔ Slight temperature rise
✔ Mild lower abdominal pain
Simple Summary
✔ Cycle – 14 = Ovulation day
✔ Fertile window = 5 days before
✔ Timing = everything
Many women are trying…
But missing their fertile window because of wrong calculations
Everlyn Mutinda
Clinician
You’re tracking your period…
But are you calculating your ovulation correctly?
Let me show you simply
STEP 1: Know Your Cycle
Your cycle starts on:
✔ Day 1 = first day of your period
Ends:
✔ The day before your next period
Example:
Period starts March 1
Next period starts March 29
Cycle = 28 days
STEP 2: Calculate Ovulation
Ovulation happens about:
✔ 14 days before your next period
Example:
Cycle = 28 days
28 – 14 = Day 14
✔ You ovulate around Day 14
STEP 3: Find Your Fertile Window
This is when pregnancy can happen
✔ 5 days before ovulation + ovulation day
Example:
Ovulation = Day 14
Fertile window = Day 9 to Day 14
- STEP 4: Best Time to Try
✔ Have sex every 1–2 days
✔ Focus on the days BEFORE ovulation
Don’t wait for ovulation day only
IMPORTANT
❗ Not everyone has a 28-day cycle
❗ Normal cycle = 21–35 days
❗ Ovulation changes if your cycle changes
CONFIRM OVULATION
Watch for:
✔ Clear stretchy discharge
✔ Slight temperature rise
✔ Mild lower abdominal pain
Simple Summary
✔ Cycle – 14 = Ovulation day
✔ Fertile window = 5 days before
✔ Timing = everything
Many women are trying…
But missing their fertile window because of wrong calculations
Everlyn Mutinda
Clinician
👍7⚡2🕊1
When is a wife a joy to her husband’s eye?
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymīn رحمه الله said:
تكون الزوجة قُرَّةَ عينٍ لزوجها، والزوج قُرَّةَ عينٍ لزوجته، إذا قاما بما يجب عليهما في دين الله
A wife is a joy to her husband’s eye and a husband is the joy to his wife’s eye if they fulfill their obligations in the deen of Allaah.
[Source:
اللقاء الشهري Al-Liqā’ ash-Shahrī
Meeting no. 52
Question no. 12 (regarding marital rights and harmony)]
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymīn رحمه الله said:
تكون الزوجة قُرَّةَ عينٍ لزوجها، والزوج قُرَّةَ عينٍ لزوجته، إذا قاما بما يجب عليهما في دين الله
A wife is a joy to her husband’s eye and a husband is the joy to his wife’s eye if they fulfill their obligations in the deen of Allaah.
[Source:
اللقاء الشهري Al-Liqā’ ash-Shahrī
Meeting no. 52
Question no. 12 (regarding marital rights and harmony)]
🕊11👍9⚡2💯2
Allah hasn't forgotten you.
He knows your desire to be married.
To be in love. To complete the other half of your deen.
You will soon realise why He made you wait.
Your future marriage is going to be blessed not only for you, but those around you also.
Happiness will be filled in your heart and homes.
Just trust Allah and wait a little bit more. You could be one dua away.
He knows your desire to be married.
To be in love. To complete the other half of your deen.
You will soon realise why He made you wait.
Your future marriage is going to be blessed not only for you, but those around you also.
Happiness will be filled in your heart and homes.
Just trust Allah and wait a little bit more. You could be one dua away.
💯34👍11🕊3😢2
The Most " Pious Man " of the end of times :
HE WHO HAS SEX BEHIND CLOSED DOORS
When I was a teenager, I used to think to myself: "Is it really possible that people would consider having sexual intercourse in public as something normal?"
This thought crossed my mind because I had heard a hadith:
The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:
"The Hour will not be established until people have sexual intercourse in the streets just like donkeys do."
I (Abdullah bin Amr) asked:
"Will that really happen?" He replied: "Yes, it most certainly will."
Narrated by:
Al-Hakim: In the book Al-Mustadrak, No. 8384.
Ibnu Hibban: In the book Shahih Ibnu Hibban, No. 6767 or No. 6850.
As I looked into it, it turns out this is indeed a sahih (authentic) hadith. And when I sought clarification on what was meant by the hadith, whether it referred to mere flirting or actual intimacy, I found the answer: it means sexual intercourse! Yes! Actual sex!
My mind went into denial dozens of times. Forget imagining two people having sexual intercourse in public; my brain can’t even process the idea of people making out in public! It’s honestly disgusting...
Up until now, the only living creatures considered "normal" for having sex in the streets, markets, or various other public places are cats!
Even that, I am reluctant to watch, so what about humans doing something so revolting?! Astaghfirullah...
But referring to the explanations from scholars, the hadith above applies to the time nearing the end of the world, when there will no longer be any believers left, even those with faith as small as a mustard seed.
Because in that era, only the worst of people will remain, as stated in the hadith:
The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:
"The Hour will not be established except upon the worst of creatures."
And the worst of creatures are those who are given an intellect but behave like animals.
It makes sense, then, why Prophet Muhammad SAW analogized humans who have sexual intercourse in public to donkeys.
Because when a male donkey's sexual desire suddenly strikes upon seeing a female, he will immediately approach her and perform the act of sexual intercourse right then and there. He doesn't care about the people around him. There isn't even a "chase" like you see with male and female cats before they have sex, let alone seeking out a quiet place first, since even some cats look for a secluded spot before having sex.
What’s even more terrifying is that the "most pious" the person in the time nearing the end of the world is the one who has sexual intercourse in a hidden place. It is truly bone-chilling!
As narrated in Musnad Abu Ya'la No. 6183, the Messenger of Allah SAW described :
" The best among them as the one who says: " If only you had hidden behind this wall (to do it), it would have been better"
But make no mistake; this 'piety' is not true holiness, but rather a tragic irony for humanity.
Because only the worst people will be alive then, the standard for a "pious" person in that era will be someone who has sex inside a house or a place where others cannot see them.
Even more frightening, it is said that in those times, their impulses will be faster than those of wild beasts! Like a lion seeing a deer passing before its eyes and immediately pouncing, the same goes for humans in the days approaching the end.
I try to imagine it. For instance: in that era, if a girl simply passes by, she might be immediately subjected to sexual intercourse as casually as a male donkey mounts a female in front of a crowd, without a second thought, without a shred of shame, and without any marriage contract whatsoever. Again, this is just me trying to visualize it, based on the description that ''their impulses will be faster than those of wild beasts.'"
HE WHO HAS SEX BEHIND CLOSED DOORS
When I was a teenager, I used to think to myself: "Is it really possible that people would consider having sexual intercourse in public as something normal?"
This thought crossed my mind because I had heard a hadith:
The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:
"The Hour will not be established until people have sexual intercourse in the streets just like donkeys do."
I (Abdullah bin Amr) asked:
"Will that really happen?" He replied: "Yes, it most certainly will."
Narrated by:
Al-Hakim: In the book Al-Mustadrak, No. 8384.
Ibnu Hibban: In the book Shahih Ibnu Hibban, No. 6767 or No. 6850.
As I looked into it, it turns out this is indeed a sahih (authentic) hadith. And when I sought clarification on what was meant by the hadith, whether it referred to mere flirting or actual intimacy, I found the answer: it means sexual intercourse! Yes! Actual sex!
My mind went into denial dozens of times. Forget imagining two people having sexual intercourse in public; my brain can’t even process the idea of people making out in public! It’s honestly disgusting...
Up until now, the only living creatures considered "normal" for having sex in the streets, markets, or various other public places are cats!
Even that, I am reluctant to watch, so what about humans doing something so revolting?! Astaghfirullah...
But referring to the explanations from scholars, the hadith above applies to the time nearing the end of the world, when there will no longer be any believers left, even those with faith as small as a mustard seed.
Because in that era, only the worst of people will remain, as stated in the hadith:
The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:
"The Hour will not be established except upon the worst of creatures."
And the worst of creatures are those who are given an intellect but behave like animals.
It makes sense, then, why Prophet Muhammad SAW analogized humans who have sexual intercourse in public to donkeys.
Because when a male donkey's sexual desire suddenly strikes upon seeing a female, he will immediately approach her and perform the act of sexual intercourse right then and there. He doesn't care about the people around him. There isn't even a "chase" like you see with male and female cats before they have sex, let alone seeking out a quiet place first, since even some cats look for a secluded spot before having sex.
What’s even more terrifying is that the "most pious" the person in the time nearing the end of the world is the one who has sexual intercourse in a hidden place. It is truly bone-chilling!
As narrated in Musnad Abu Ya'la No. 6183, the Messenger of Allah SAW described :
" The best among them as the one who says: " If only you had hidden behind this wall (to do it), it would have been better"
But make no mistake; this 'piety' is not true holiness, but rather a tragic irony for humanity.
Because only the worst people will be alive then, the standard for a "pious" person in that era will be someone who has sex inside a house or a place where others cannot see them.
Even more frightening, it is said that in those times, their impulses will be faster than those of wild beasts! Like a lion seeing a deer passing before its eyes and immediately pouncing, the same goes for humans in the days approaching the end.
I try to imagine it. For instance: in that era, if a girl simply passes by, she might be immediately subjected to sexual intercourse as casually as a male donkey mounts a female in front of a crowd, without a second thought, without a shred of shame, and without any marriage contract whatsoever. Again, this is just me trying to visualize it, based on the description that ''their impulses will be faster than those of wild beasts.'"
😢8👍4
So, what about us who are living in this era ?
We, InshaAllah, are not living in that "era of donkeys" yet.
However, we can see the "seeds" of humans depicting the decay of intellect and morals starting to sprout before our eyes. Currently, they may not be performing sexual activities in public, but the precursors are already here through pornography, adult apps, and so on.
The only way to ensure we are not swept away by the seeds of that 'donkey community' in this era full of hoaxes and fitnah is by strengthening our faith and character/ akhlak.
A person with strong faith and good character / akhlak can control their intellect and sense of shame. Because the only thing that distinguishes humans from animals is one thing: Intellect.
If the intellect is gone, then the "vein of shame" has been severed.
And once the vein of shame is severed, nothing remains but the raw instincts of a beast.
Originally written by:
Tia Maryam
P. S : Feel free to share my writing by clicking the
share button below 👇
#islamicstory
#trialsoftheendoftimes
#islamiceducation
We, InshaAllah, are not living in that "era of donkeys" yet.
However, we can see the "seeds" of humans depicting the decay of intellect and morals starting to sprout before our eyes. Currently, they may not be performing sexual activities in public, but the precursors are already here through pornography, adult apps, and so on.
The only way to ensure we are not swept away by the seeds of that 'donkey community' in this era full of hoaxes and fitnah is by strengthening our faith and character/ akhlak.
A person with strong faith and good character / akhlak can control their intellect and sense of shame. Because the only thing that distinguishes humans from animals is one thing: Intellect.
If the intellect is gone, then the "vein of shame" has been severed.
And once the vein of shame is severed, nothing remains but the raw instincts of a beast.
Originally written by:
Tia Maryam
P. S : Feel free to share my writing by clicking the
share button below 👇
#islamicstory
#trialsoftheendoftimes
#islamiceducation
👍6💯2