Imam Malik رحمه الله said:
“I have been informed that Luqman said to his son:
‘O my son, the first thing you should acquire from this world, after a righteous friend, is a righteous wife.’”
- Al-Bayan wa al-Tahseel 323/4
“I have been informed that Luqman said to his son:
‘O my son, the first thing you should acquire from this world, after a righteous friend, is a righteous wife.’”
- Al-Bayan wa al-Tahseel 323/4
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Ibn Rajab رحمه الله said,
Whoever cannot afford a slaughter then let him slaughter his own lusts and desires.
[Lataaif Pg. 402]
Whoever cannot afford a slaughter then let him slaughter his own lusts and desires.
[Lataaif Pg. 402]
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In Islam, marriage is not only about providing food, clothing, and financial support — it is also about love, mercy, emotional comfort, and companionship. Allah says: “And He placed between you affection and mercy” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21). Many good husbands sincerely fulfill financial responsibilities but may not naturally understand emotional needs unless they are gently expressed and communicated. This does not always mean there is no love; sometimes people show love differently based on personality, upbringing, or emotional understanding. Try speaking to your husband calmly and honestly, not only about what hurts you, but also about what makes you feel loved, valued, and emotionally safe. Small moments of kindness, appreciation, conversation, and shared time can slowly strengthen emotional closeness in a marriage.
At the same time, do not lose hope in your relationship simply because emotional connection feels weak right now. Hearts can soften and relationships can grow stronger with patience, dua, and mutual effort. The Prophet ﷺ was emotionally gentle, affectionate, and caring toward his wives, showing that emotional support is also part of good character in marriage. Continue making dua for love and understanding between your hearts, and encourage healthy communication instead of silent sadness. Sometimes marriages are not broken — they are simply waiting for deeper understanding and emotional openness to grow.
May Allah place deep love, mercy, understanding, and emotional closeness between you and your husband, and make your marriage a source of peace, comfort, and barakah. Ameen 🤲
At the same time, do not lose hope in your relationship simply because emotional connection feels weak right now. Hearts can soften and relationships can grow stronger with patience, dua, and mutual effort. The Prophet ﷺ was emotionally gentle, affectionate, and caring toward his wives, showing that emotional support is also part of good character in marriage. Continue making dua for love and understanding between your hearts, and encourage healthy communication instead of silent sadness. Sometimes marriages are not broken — they are simply waiting for deeper understanding and emotional openness to grow.
May Allah place deep love, mercy, understanding, and emotional closeness between you and your husband, and make your marriage a source of peace, comfort, and barakah. Ameen 🤲
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Never fall for Zina because it brings
darkness to the face,
Tightness in the chest, Curses in the tongue, Restlessness in the soul,
And brokeness in rizq .
It is the Enemy of Light, clarity and honour !!
darkness to the face,
Tightness in the chest, Curses in the tongue, Restlessness in the soul,
And brokeness in rizq .
It is the Enemy of Light, clarity and honour !!
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A woman is not obligated to serve her husband according to Shāfi‘ī and some of the Mālikī scholars
This is the outcome of the feminist cancer that has crept into the ranks of the Muslims and has taken some of the Muslim ladies for a ride. I will keep this brief before those with fake nails have an opportunity to scratch, and before scratching, take the time to actually read until the end.
1. The very same schools of Fiqh, despite their statements that a woman is not obligated to serve her husband, stated that it is still better for her to do so. Therefore, those who claim to follow the two schools of Fiqh and refuse to serve their husbands are in reality not adhering to the better teachings in those schools. Of course, the Ḥanafī school holds the view that it is an obligation on the woman to do so and she is not to be paid any compensation for that aside from the husband spending on her as required normally.
2. There are no definitive and direct texts that prove that it is an obligation on the woman to serve her husband in the same way that there are no definitive and direct texts that state that it is NOT an obligation, the outcome? This is a matter of custom, or ‘Urf, and custom is a proof in the Sharī‘ah and we see this in the Noble Qur’ān in which Allāh mentions the word Ma‘rūf many times, for example, Allāh says in Noble Qur’ān 2:228 ~
"And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable (b-il-'Ma‘rūf). But the men have a degree over them"
So here, the term بالمعروف means according to what is customarily known among people.
3. Based on the previous points, it is a gross error to take the statements of scholars which were based on the customs of their time, and attempt to superimpose them to satisfy the feminist agenda of today.
For instance, the very same scholars who said that a woman is not obligated to serve the husband are the same ones who stated that a husband is not obligated to pay for his wife's medical bills, and that this goes back to the father of the lady.
At the same time, the proofs used by proponents of both opinions, such as the one about ‘Alī Ibn Abī Ṭālib and Fāṭimah, may Allāh be pleased with them, with the latter asking for a prisoner of war to be her servant (Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2727) or the narration about Fāṭimah being given a servant later on (Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4106) both point to something very important. It was a known custom back then to have slaves who were taken as prisoners of war, meaning, women would have those slaves doing the work at home. Therefore, it was part of custom back then to have slaves doing the work. This is not the case today. Jihād is not taking place today as it was back then with the outcomes of taking war booty and prisoners of war.
In addition, the very same scholars of the Fiqh schools give the requirements on the husband, such as providing one garment for the summer and another for the winter. Are we to apply those minimum requirements today?
Today, men go way above and beyond this minimum, women have much more than just two garments, shoes, purses, and many other things. This is a matter of custom, just as it is also a matter of custom for Muslims that the wife serves her husband at home, and even in Muslim regions and countries which are Shāfi‘ī, it is the custom that the wife is responsible for cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the home while the husband is out working a job and even more than one job and perhaps running a business at the same time.
When a matter in the Sharī‘ah is based on custom, it becomes mandatory to take changing customs into consideration. Custom can never supersede or cancel out definitive rulings in the Sharī‘ah as proven in the Divine Texts and consensus of the scholars, but custom, as long as it does not go against the Sharī‘ah, is a proof and is a part of the legislation.
In Noble Qur’ān 4:34 Allāh ends the verse by saying:
{But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them}
This is the outcome of the feminist cancer that has crept into the ranks of the Muslims and has taken some of the Muslim ladies for a ride. I will keep this brief before those with fake nails have an opportunity to scratch, and before scratching, take the time to actually read until the end.
1. The very same schools of Fiqh, despite their statements that a woman is not obligated to serve her husband, stated that it is still better for her to do so. Therefore, those who claim to follow the two schools of Fiqh and refuse to serve their husbands are in reality not adhering to the better teachings in those schools. Of course, the Ḥanafī school holds the view that it is an obligation on the woman to do so and she is not to be paid any compensation for that aside from the husband spending on her as required normally.
2. There are no definitive and direct texts that prove that it is an obligation on the woman to serve her husband in the same way that there are no definitive and direct texts that state that it is NOT an obligation, the outcome? This is a matter of custom, or ‘Urf, and custom is a proof in the Sharī‘ah and we see this in the Noble Qur’ān in which Allāh mentions the word Ma‘rūf many times, for example, Allāh says in Noble Qur’ān 2:228 ~
"And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable (b-il-'Ma‘rūf). But the men have a degree over them"
So here, the term بالمعروف means according to what is customarily known among people.
3. Based on the previous points, it is a gross error to take the statements of scholars which were based on the customs of their time, and attempt to superimpose them to satisfy the feminist agenda of today.
For instance, the very same scholars who said that a woman is not obligated to serve the husband are the same ones who stated that a husband is not obligated to pay for his wife's medical bills, and that this goes back to the father of the lady.
At the same time, the proofs used by proponents of both opinions, such as the one about ‘Alī Ibn Abī Ṭālib and Fāṭimah, may Allāh be pleased with them, with the latter asking for a prisoner of war to be her servant (Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2727) or the narration about Fāṭimah being given a servant later on (Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4106) both point to something very important. It was a known custom back then to have slaves who were taken as prisoners of war, meaning, women would have those slaves doing the work at home. Therefore, it was part of custom back then to have slaves doing the work. This is not the case today. Jihād is not taking place today as it was back then with the outcomes of taking war booty and prisoners of war.
In addition, the very same scholars of the Fiqh schools give the requirements on the husband, such as providing one garment for the summer and another for the winter. Are we to apply those minimum requirements today?
Today, men go way above and beyond this minimum, women have much more than just two garments, shoes, purses, and many other things. This is a matter of custom, just as it is also a matter of custom for Muslims that the wife serves her husband at home, and even in Muslim regions and countries which are Shāfi‘ī, it is the custom that the wife is responsible for cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the home while the husband is out working a job and even more than one job and perhaps running a business at the same time.
When a matter in the Sharī‘ah is based on custom, it becomes mandatory to take changing customs into consideration. Custom can never supersede or cancel out definitive rulings in the Sharī‘ah as proven in the Divine Texts and consensus of the scholars, but custom, as long as it does not go against the Sharī‘ah, is a proof and is a part of the legislation.
In Noble Qur’ān 4:34 Allāh ends the verse by saying:
{But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them}
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And obedience, of course, again, goes back to what is customarily known, in addition to guidelines in both the Qur’ān and the Sunnah on certain things which are obligations on the wife, such as not allowing people in her home which the husband doesn't approve, such as the wife not doing voluntary fasting if the husband doesn't allow that, and so on.
In conclusion, do not fall prey to those who open up books of Fiqh without having proper insight on the context of the rulings and differences among the scholars. It is not a condition that all four schools have consensus on matter for it to become binding, and even if they do have a consensus, the four schools are not the only sources of Fiqh.
Just imagine if a man tells his father-in-law that his daughter, meaning, the man's wife, was in the hospital for a week and required a lot of medication, that her father has to cover the bill, and gives his proof from the four schools of Fiqh, how would that be taken given today's customs? Is a man required to take his wife with him to Ḥajj? No, but many men who can afford that will in fact take their wives with them to Ḥajj, because that has become a matter of custom as well.
والله أعلم
In conclusion, do not fall prey to those who open up books of Fiqh without having proper insight on the context of the rulings and differences among the scholars. It is not a condition that all four schools have consensus on matter for it to become binding, and even if they do have a consensus, the four schools are not the only sources of Fiqh.
Just imagine if a man tells his father-in-law that his daughter, meaning, the man's wife, was in the hospital for a week and required a lot of medication, that her father has to cover the bill, and gives his proof from the four schools of Fiqh, how would that be taken given today's customs? Is a man required to take his wife with him to Ḥajj? No, but many men who can afford that will in fact take their wives with them to Ḥajj, because that has become a matter of custom as well.
والله أعلم
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Al-Qasim ibn Abi Ayyub رحمه الله reported,
"When Sa’id ibn Jubayr رحمه الله reached the first ten days of Dhul-Hijjah, he would exert himself in worship so greatly that he would nearly overwhelm himself."
[Sunan al-Darimi, 1774]
"When Sa’id ibn Jubayr رحمه الله reached the first ten days of Dhul-Hijjah, he would exert himself in worship so greatly that he would nearly overwhelm himself."
[Sunan al-Darimi, 1774]
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Maryam (R.A) had no partner.
Aishah (R.A) had no children.
Khadijah (R.A) only found her best partner at the age of 40.
Fatimah (R.A) was tested by
Economic hardships.
Asiyah (A.S) lived with The worst man in History.
And yet Allah chose them, as the best women of All-time. The leaders of women in paradise (Jannah).
So, stop measuring your worth with Dunya's broken scale. Struggle in this world doesn't mean Allah hates you.
Always remember that, Imperfect lives make perfect Legacies!
Aishah (R.A) had no children.
Khadijah (R.A) only found her best partner at the age of 40.
Fatimah (R.A) was tested by
Economic hardships.
Asiyah (A.S) lived with The worst man in History.
And yet Allah chose them, as the best women of All-time. The leaders of women in paradise (Jannah).
So, stop measuring your worth with Dunya's broken scale. Struggle in this world doesn't mean Allah hates you.
Always remember that, Imperfect lives make perfect Legacies!
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Marrying an already proposed or engaged woman
Engagement expresses a desire to marry and involves notifying the woman's guardian, either directly or through family. It becomes final if agreed upon, but is not a binding commitment; marriage requires a recognised contract. The betrothed are still considered strangers, allowing only limited interactions, and actions like reciting the Fatiha or receiving gifts do not constitute marriage.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ..And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her." [Bukhari 5143]
The hadith suggests that harming others is prohibited, similar to the prohibition against taking someone's property or harming them. Marrying an engaged woman is considered valid by the majority, though it is sinful, and no separation occurs post-marriage. However, Imam Malik argues it is invalid due to its forbidden nature. The Maliki school requires annulment before consummation if proven in court. [Wahbah al-Zuhayli]
Said Ibn Hajar,
''Dawud said the marriage is annulled both before and after consummation. The Malikis have a similar difference of opinion, with some saying it is annulled before consummation but not after. The majority's argument is that the prohibited act is the engagement, and engagement is not a condition for the validity of marriage, so the marriage is not annulled if it is invalid. '[Fath al Bari]
Said Ibn Battal,
''As for his statement that it is dissolved before consummation and remains valid afterwards, this is similar to repeating the prayer within its prescribed time to ensure the act is performed completely and according to its recommended practices.''
Engagement expresses a desire to marry and involves notifying the woman's guardian, either directly or through family. It becomes final if agreed upon, but is not a binding commitment; marriage requires a recognised contract. The betrothed are still considered strangers, allowing only limited interactions, and actions like reciting the Fatiha or receiving gifts do not constitute marriage.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ..And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her." [Bukhari 5143]
The hadith suggests that harming others is prohibited, similar to the prohibition against taking someone's property or harming them. Marrying an engaged woman is considered valid by the majority, though it is sinful, and no separation occurs post-marriage. However, Imam Malik argues it is invalid due to its forbidden nature. The Maliki school requires annulment before consummation if proven in court. [Wahbah al-Zuhayli]
Said Ibn Hajar,
''Dawud said the marriage is annulled both before and after consummation. The Malikis have a similar difference of opinion, with some saying it is annulled before consummation but not after. The majority's argument is that the prohibited act is the engagement, and engagement is not a condition for the validity of marriage, so the marriage is not annulled if it is invalid. '[Fath al Bari]
Said Ibn Battal,
''As for his statement that it is dissolved before consummation and remains valid afterwards, this is similar to repeating the prayer within its prescribed time to ensure the act is performed completely and according to its recommended practices.''
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The right man is simple.
He calls. He shows up. He tells the truth. He protects the connection.
He does not leave you guessing about where you stand in his life. His actions speak clearly, and his consistency says more than empty promises ever could. With him, love is not a game of confusion, mixed signals, or emotional distance. It is calm, steady, intentional, and real.
The right man understands that love is not built only in big moments. It is built through the small things repeated daily — checking in, keeping his word, listening carefully, and staying present even when life becomes difficult. He does not disappear when things get heavy, and he does not punish you with silence when conversations become uncomfortable. He communicates because he values the connection more than his ego.
A strong man is not the loudest man in the room. Strength is shown through reliability, emotional discipline, honesty, and protection. The right man protects your heart by being clear about his intentions. He protects the relationship by choosing loyalty when distractions appear. He protects trust by telling the truth, even when it would be easier to avoid it.
Real love feels safe, not because life becomes perfect, but because you know you are standing beside someone genuine. Someone who chooses you with clarity. Someone who makes an effort without being asked. Someone who understands that commitment is not control — it is care, consistency, and responsibility.
The right man brings peace, not confusion. Stability, not chaos. Presence, not excuses. And when you meet a man like that, you stop chasing words because his actions answer every question.(via_HerUntoldFeelings)
He calls. He shows up. He tells the truth. He protects the connection.
He does not leave you guessing about where you stand in his life. His actions speak clearly, and his consistency says more than empty promises ever could. With him, love is not a game of confusion, mixed signals, or emotional distance. It is calm, steady, intentional, and real.
The right man understands that love is not built only in big moments. It is built through the small things repeated daily — checking in, keeping his word, listening carefully, and staying present even when life becomes difficult. He does not disappear when things get heavy, and he does not punish you with silence when conversations become uncomfortable. He communicates because he values the connection more than his ego.
A strong man is not the loudest man in the room. Strength is shown through reliability, emotional discipline, honesty, and protection. The right man protects your heart by being clear about his intentions. He protects the relationship by choosing loyalty when distractions appear. He protects trust by telling the truth, even when it would be easier to avoid it.
Real love feels safe, not because life becomes perfect, but because you know you are standing beside someone genuine. Someone who chooses you with clarity. Someone who makes an effort without being asked. Someone who understands that commitment is not control — it is care, consistency, and responsibility.
The right man brings peace, not confusion. Stability, not chaos. Presence, not excuses. And when you meet a man like that, you stop chasing words because his actions answer every question.(via_HerUntoldFeelings)
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Forwarded from Authentic Du’a & Supplications
𝗕𝗘𝗡𝗘𝗙𝗜𝗧𝗦 𝗢𝗡 '𝗔𝗥𝗔𝗙𝗔𝗛
𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔:
1 - Fasting the Day of 'Arafah
2 - The Supplication (Dhikr) of the Day of 'Arafah
3 - Virtues of the Day of 'Arafah
4 - Some Benefits on Hajj
📌 FASTING: Yawm al-'Arafah this year (2026 | 1447H) - Tuesday 26th May.
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1 - Fasting the Day of 'Arafah
2 - The Supplication (Dhikr) of the Day of 'Arafah
3 - Virtues of the Day of 'Arafah
4 - Some Benefits on Hajj
📌 FASTING: Yawm al-'Arafah this year (2026 | 1447H) - Tuesday 26th May.
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𝗕𝗘𝗡𝗘𝗙𝗜𝗧𝗦 𝗢𝗡 '𝗔𝗥𝗔𝗙𝗔𝗛
𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔:
1 - Fasting the Day of 'Arafah
2 - The Supplication (Dhikr) of the Day of 'Arafah
3 - Virtues of the Day of 'Arafah
4 - Some Benefits on Hajj
📌 FASTING: Yawm al-'Arafah this year (2026 | 1447H) - Tuesday 26th May.
𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔:
1 - Fasting the Day of 'Arafah
2 - The Supplication (Dhikr) of the Day of 'Arafah
3 - Virtues of the Day of 'Arafah
4 - Some Benefits on Hajj
📌 FASTING: Yawm al-'Arafah this year (2026 | 1447H) - Tuesday 26th May.
My husband is a good person. He is very honest, loyal, and responsible. But he does not understand my emotional needs. We have been married for more than 3 years, yet I still feel that we are not emotionally close enough.
To be honest, he provides me with food, clothes, and fulfills his responsibilities, but what I truly need is emotional support, understanding, affection, and connection. What should I do now?
#Anonymous
In Islam, marriage is not only about providing food, clothing, and financial support — it is also about love, mercy, emotional comfort, and companionship. Allah says: “And He placed between you affection and mercy” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21). Many good husbands sincerely fulfill financial responsibilities but may not naturally understand emotional needs unless they are gently expressed and communicated. This does not always mean there is no love; sometimes people show love differently based on personality, upbringing, or emotional understanding. Try speaking to your husband calmly and honestly, not only about what hurts you, but also about what makes you feel loved, valued, and emotionally safe. Small moments of kindness, appreciation, conversation, and shared time can slowly strengthen emotional closeness in a marriage.
At the same time, do not lose hope in your relationship simply because emotional connection feels weak right now. Hearts can soften and relationships can grow stronger with patience, dua, and mutual effort. The Prophet ﷺ was emotionally gentle, affectionate, and caring toward his wives, showing that emotional support is also part of good character in marriage. Continue making dua for love and understanding between your hearts, and encourage healthy communication instead of silent sadness. Sometimes marriages are not broken — they are simply waiting for deeper understanding and emotional openness to grow.
May Allah place deep love, mercy, understanding, and emotional closeness between you and your husband, and make your marriage a source of peace, comfort, and barakah. Ameen 🤲
To be honest, he provides me with food, clothes, and fulfills his responsibilities, but what I truly need is emotional support, understanding, affection, and connection. What should I do now?
#Anonymous
In Islam, marriage is not only about providing food, clothing, and financial support — it is also about love, mercy, emotional comfort, and companionship. Allah says: “And He placed between you affection and mercy” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21). Many good husbands sincerely fulfill financial responsibilities but may not naturally understand emotional needs unless they are gently expressed and communicated. This does not always mean there is no love; sometimes people show love differently based on personality, upbringing, or emotional understanding. Try speaking to your husband calmly and honestly, not only about what hurts you, but also about what makes you feel loved, valued, and emotionally safe. Small moments of kindness, appreciation, conversation, and shared time can slowly strengthen emotional closeness in a marriage.
At the same time, do not lose hope in your relationship simply because emotional connection feels weak right now. Hearts can soften and relationships can grow stronger with patience, dua, and mutual effort. The Prophet ﷺ was emotionally gentle, affectionate, and caring toward his wives, showing that emotional support is also part of good character in marriage. Continue making dua for love and understanding between your hearts, and encourage healthy communication instead of silent sadness. Sometimes marriages are not broken — they are simply waiting for deeper understanding and emotional openness to grow.
May Allah place deep love, mercy, understanding, and emotional closeness between you and your husband, and make your marriage a source of peace, comfort, and barakah. Ameen 🤲
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Sheikh al Fawzan حفظه الله stated:
“Also among women are believers and callers to Islam. Among them are those who enjoin good and forbid evil. This is not exclusive to men. Women should be aware of this and begin within their homes with their daughters and sons. They should start by nurturing them upon obedience to Allah.”
[At Taliq ala Risalah: Wujub al Amr bil Ma’ruf Pg. 62]
“Also among women are believers and callers to Islam. Among them are those who enjoin good and forbid evil. This is not exclusive to men. Women should be aware of this and begin within their homes with their daughters and sons. They should start by nurturing them upon obedience to Allah.”
[At Taliq ala Risalah: Wujub al Amr bil Ma’ruf Pg. 62]
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Sisters going for Eid Salah
Remember
No tabarruj
No makeup
No tights
No perfume
Remember
No tabarruj
No makeup
No tights
No perfume
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*what Husband and wife should do for each other To create a happy family.❤️*
Sisters, Whenever your husband is returning home, the moment he enters the house, as a wife, halt whatever you are doing immediately:
-If you are on a call, end it.
-If you are surfing the net, drop the phone.
-If you are on a chat, suspend it.
-If you have visitors, leave them and walk up to your husband.
-Whatever chore you are doing, abandon it, if it can't be abandoned, say something positive.
-If you are in an online live event, suspend it.
-If you are watching TV, abandon it.
For indeed, your husband is your king and if a king enters his palace, it's not befitting that he shouldn't be welcomed, so hurry up to welcome your king, collect his brief case/load, sit him down, switch on the fan/AC for him, clean the sweat on his forehead, collect his car/bike keys from him and place them on the table, remove his shoes and socks, prepare the bathroom for his bath and serve his meal.
Brothers, Whenever your wife is returning home from work or the market too, whatever it is you are doing, suspend it if possible:
-Collect the load from her.
-Give her a warm hug.
-Give her a kiss or a peck.
-Shake hands with her.
-Remove her Hijab or Niqab.
For indeed, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wassalam used to welcome even His daughter Fatima radiAllahu anha by walking up to meet her, kissing her and making her sit in his place.
All these and more will make your wife feel relieved and cherished, it will make her forget the stress she passed through out there.
It's an act of disregard for your husband to return home, and you keep doing whatever you are doing, for you never can tell what he passed throughout there while hustling for the family.
As long as we refuse to implement these 'little' things in our lives, many marriages will not stand the test of time, for its the combination of stones that makes a mountain and droplets of water makes an ocean.
May our homes be rectified. Aameen 🤲🤲
*© ABU ANAS WA ANEESAH THE COUNSELOR AND THE LINK ✍️*
Sisters, Whenever your husband is returning home, the moment he enters the house, as a wife, halt whatever you are doing immediately:
-If you are on a call, end it.
-If you are surfing the net, drop the phone.
-If you are on a chat, suspend it.
-If you have visitors, leave them and walk up to your husband.
-Whatever chore you are doing, abandon it, if it can't be abandoned, say something positive.
-If you are in an online live event, suspend it.
-If you are watching TV, abandon it.
For indeed, your husband is your king and if a king enters his palace, it's not befitting that he shouldn't be welcomed, so hurry up to welcome your king, collect his brief case/load, sit him down, switch on the fan/AC for him, clean the sweat on his forehead, collect his car/bike keys from him and place them on the table, remove his shoes and socks, prepare the bathroom for his bath and serve his meal.
Brothers, Whenever your wife is returning home from work or the market too, whatever it is you are doing, suspend it if possible:
-Collect the load from her.
-Give her a warm hug.
-Give her a kiss or a peck.
-Shake hands with her.
-Remove her Hijab or Niqab.
For indeed, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wassalam used to welcome even His daughter Fatima radiAllahu anha by walking up to meet her, kissing her and making her sit in his place.
All these and more will make your wife feel relieved and cherished, it will make her forget the stress she passed through out there.
It's an act of disregard for your husband to return home, and you keep doing whatever you are doing, for you never can tell what he passed throughout there while hustling for the family.
As long as we refuse to implement these 'little' things in our lives, many marriages will not stand the test of time, for its the combination of stones that makes a mountain and droplets of water makes an ocean.
May our homes be rectified. Aameen 🤲🤲
*© ABU ANAS WA ANEESAH THE COUNSELOR AND THE LINK ✍️*
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𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (585)
The Danger of a Woman Speaking Too Freely with Men
Question:
Some women continue talking with a seller in unnecessary ways. What is the ruling on this?
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
It is not permissible for a woman to continue unnecessary conversation with a man who is not closely related to her, because this can lead to fitnah. Allah, the Most High, said: “Do not speak in a soft manner, lest someone with sickness in his heart should be moved with desire, but speak in an appropriate manner.” [Al-Ahzab: 32]
A woman should speak to the seller only as much as needed and not go beyond that. This is because Shaytan influences people strongly. Many women may think they are safe from fitnah, but Shaytan continues working on them until they are affected. After leaving a conversation that went beyond what was necessary, Shaytan may put thoughts in her mind that lead her back to the man. What begins as a small spark in conversation can turn into a blaze—may Allah protect us.
So women should be mindful of Allah, avoid soft or suggestive speech, and not talk excessively unless necessary. A clear example of this serious issue is what happens over the phone. Many foolish men call random numbers, and when a woman answers, they speak sweetly to her and gradually draw her into repeated conversations. Then they may record these conversations. This is the real danger—they do not leave her alone but trap her. Later, they may threaten her by saying: either do what they want or they will expose her voice to her father, brother, or others.
For this reason, women must be careful about continuing conversations with men. It is a serious danger. We ask Allah to protect us from trials.
Source: https://t.me/womensbenefits/1598
The Danger of a Woman Speaking Too Freely with Men
Question:
Some women continue talking with a seller in unnecessary ways. What is the ruling on this?
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
It is not permissible for a woman to continue unnecessary conversation with a man who is not closely related to her, because this can lead to fitnah. Allah, the Most High, said: “Do not speak in a soft manner, lest someone with sickness in his heart should be moved with desire, but speak in an appropriate manner.” [Al-Ahzab: 32]
A woman should speak to the seller only as much as needed and not go beyond that. This is because Shaytan influences people strongly. Many women may think they are safe from fitnah, but Shaytan continues working on them until they are affected. After leaving a conversation that went beyond what was necessary, Shaytan may put thoughts in her mind that lead her back to the man. What begins as a small spark in conversation can turn into a blaze—may Allah protect us.
So women should be mindful of Allah, avoid soft or suggestive speech, and not talk excessively unless necessary. A clear example of this serious issue is what happens over the phone. Many foolish men call random numbers, and when a woman answers, they speak sweetly to her and gradually draw her into repeated conversations. Then they may record these conversations. This is the real danger—they do not leave her alone but trap her. Later, they may threaten her by saying: either do what they want or they will expose her voice to her father, brother, or others.
For this reason, women must be careful about continuing conversations with men. It is a serious danger. We ask Allah to protect us from trials.
Source: https://t.me/womensbenefits/1598
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𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (585)
The Danger of a Woman Speaking Too Freely with Men
Question:
Some women continue talking with a seller in unnecessary ways. What is the ruling on this?
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
It is not permissible for a woman to continue unnecessary…
The Danger of a Woman Speaking Too Freely with Men
Question:
Some women continue talking with a seller in unnecessary ways. What is the ruling on this?
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
It is not permissible for a woman to continue unnecessary…
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It Is from the Sunnah That If You Love Someone, You Inform Him
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
In the hadith of Muʿādh, may Allah be pleased with him, the Prophet ﷺ informed him that he loved him. Likewise, his statement to Anas when he said to him: “Indeed, I love this man.”
He ﷺ said to him:
“Have you informed him?”
This indicates that it is from the Sunnah that if you love a person, you say: “Indeed, I love you.” This is because of what this statement contains of placing love into his heart. For indeed, when a person knows that you love him, he will love you in return.
Furthermore, hearts naturally recognise and become attached to one another even if the tongues do not speak.
As the Prophet ﷺ said:
“Souls are like recruited soldiers: those among them that recognise one another become united, and those among them that do not recognise one another become divided.”
However, if a person says it with his tongue, then this increases the love within the heart. So you say:
“Indeed, I love you for the sake of Allah.”
📚Sharḥ Riyāḍ al-Ṣāliḥīn (2/486)
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
In the hadith of Muʿādh, may Allah be pleased with him, the Prophet ﷺ informed him that he loved him. Likewise, his statement to Anas when he said to him: “Indeed, I love this man.”
He ﷺ said to him:
“Have you informed him?”
This indicates that it is from the Sunnah that if you love a person, you say: “Indeed, I love you.” This is because of what this statement contains of placing love into his heart. For indeed, when a person knows that you love him, he will love you in return.
Furthermore, hearts naturally recognise and become attached to one another even if the tongues do not speak.
As the Prophet ﷺ said:
“Souls are like recruited soldiers: those among them that recognise one another become united, and those among them that do not recognise one another become divided.”
However, if a person says it with his tongue, then this increases the love within the heart. So you say:
“Indeed, I love you for the sake of Allah.”
📚Sharḥ Riyāḍ al-Ṣāliḥīn (2/486)
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Al-Hasan al-Basra رحمه الله stated:
The first thing the woman will be questioned about on the Day of Judgment is her Salah, then she will be questioned about her husband, how did she treat him.
[Ibn Kathir رحمه الله 774, al-Bidayah wan Nihayah, 2/54]
The first thing the woman will be questioned about on the Day of Judgment is her Salah, then she will be questioned about her husband, how did she treat him.
[Ibn Kathir رحمه الله 774, al-Bidayah wan Nihayah, 2/54]
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Many homes today are burning not because there is no love, but because too many outsiders are pouring kerosene into small misunderstandings.
Social media has given everyone a microphone.
-A girl who can’t keep one relationship for six months is teaching wives how to handle husbands.
-A man who has never paid school fees is teaching husbands how to control women.
-A divorcee still bleeding from yesterday’s pain is advising with anger instead of wisdom.
Instead of learning from marriages that have survived storms, many people carry their ears like baskets and collect every foolish opinion flying around.
Be careful who you take your advice from.
Social media has given everyone a microphone.
-A girl who can’t keep one relationship for six months is teaching wives how to handle husbands.
-A man who has never paid school fees is teaching husbands how to control women.
-A divorcee still bleeding from yesterday’s pain is advising with anger instead of wisdom.
Instead of learning from marriages that have survived storms, many people carry their ears like baskets and collect every foolish opinion flying around.
Be careful who you take your advice from.
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#copied
If marriage is what you're asking Allah for
and nothing is moving —
there is one thing most people skip
that the scholars say
unlocks the door faster than any other du'a.
Most people ask for a spouse.
The scholars said: ask to "become"
the person the right spouse is being sent to.
Because Allah said:
"And Allah has made for you
from yourselves mates."
(16:72)
From yourselves.
The spouse is already in the system.
Already written.
Already existing.
The question is not:
will Allah send them?
The question is:
"am I becoming the version of myself
they are being sent to meet?"
The du'a that changes this:
"Allāhumma aṣliḥ lī dīnī
alladhī huwa 'iṣmatu amrī —
wa aṣliḥ lī dunyāya
allatī fīhā ma'āshī."
"O Allah — rectify my deen
which is the safeguard of my affairs —
and rectify my worldly life
in which is my livelihood."
(Muslim 2720)
Rectify "me."
Not: send "them."
And then this —
the du'a specifically for a righteous spouse:
"Rabbi hab lī min ladunka
dhurriyyatan ṭayyibah —
innaka samī'ud-du'ā'."
"My Lord — grant me from Yourself
righteous offspring,
indeed You are the Hearer of du'a."
(3:38)
Used by Zakariyyah (AS) —
when everything said it was impossible.
He received Yahya (AS).
A Prophet.
Most people ask for a spouse. The scholars say: ask to become who the right spouse is being sent to. The spouse is already written. The question is whether you are becoming who they are meant to meet.
If marriage is what you're asking Allah for
and nothing is moving —
there is one thing most people skip
that the scholars say
unlocks the door faster than any other du'a.
Most people ask for a spouse.
The scholars said: ask to "become"
the person the right spouse is being sent to.
Because Allah said:
"And Allah has made for you
from yourselves mates."
(16:72)
From yourselves.
The spouse is already in the system.
Already written.
Already existing.
The question is not:
will Allah send them?
The question is:
"am I becoming the version of myself
they are being sent to meet?"
The du'a that changes this:
"Allāhumma aṣliḥ lī dīnī
alladhī huwa 'iṣmatu amrī —
wa aṣliḥ lī dunyāya
allatī fīhā ma'āshī."
"O Allah — rectify my deen
which is the safeguard of my affairs —
and rectify my worldly life
in which is my livelihood."
(Muslim 2720)
Rectify "me."
Not: send "them."
And then this —
the du'a specifically for a righteous spouse:
"Rabbi hab lī min ladunka
dhurriyyatan ṭayyibah —
innaka samī'ud-du'ā'."
"My Lord — grant me from Yourself
righteous offspring,
indeed You are the Hearer of du'a."
(3:38)
Used by Zakariyyah (AS) —
when everything said it was impossible.
He received Yahya (AS).
A Prophet.
Most people ask for a spouse. The scholars say: ask to become who the right spouse is being sent to. The spouse is already written. The question is whether you are becoming who they are meant to meet.
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