The right man is simple.
He calls. He shows up. He tells the truth. He protects the connection.

He does not leave you guessing about where you stand in his life. His actions speak clearly, and his consistency says more than empty promises ever could. With him, love is not a game of confusion, mixed signals, or emotional distance. It is calm, steady, intentional, and real.

The right man understands that love is not built only in big moments. It is built through the small things repeated daily — checking in, keeping his word, listening carefully, and staying present even when life becomes difficult. He does not disappear when things get heavy, and he does not punish you with silence when conversations become uncomfortable. He communicates because he values the connection more than his ego.

A strong man is not the loudest man in the room. Strength is shown through reliability, emotional discipline, honesty, and protection. The right man protects your heart by being clear about his intentions. He protects the relationship by choosing loyalty when distractions appear. He protects trust by telling the truth, even when it would be easier to avoid it.

Real love feels safe, not because life becomes perfect, but because you know you are standing beside someone genuine. Someone who chooses you with clarity. Someone who makes an effort without being asked. Someone who understands that commitment is not control — it is care, consistency, and responsibility.

The right man brings peace, not confusion. Stability, not chaos. Presence, not excuses. And when you meet a man like that, you stop chasing words because his actions answer every question.(via_HerUntoldFeelings)

𝗕𝗘𝗡𝗘𝗙𝗜𝗧𝗦 𝗢𝗡 '𝗔𝗥𝗔𝗙𝗔𝗛

𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔:
1 - Fasting the Day of 'Arafah
2 - The Supplication (Dhikr) of the Day of 'Arafah
3 - Virtues of the Day of 'Arafah
4 - Some Benefits on Hajj

📌 FASTING: Yawm al-'Arafah this year (2026 | 1447H) - Tuesday 26th May.

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A Reminder Benefits the Believers.

My husband is a good person. He is very honest, loyal, and responsible. But he does not understand my emotional needs. We have been married for more than 3 years, yet I still feel that we are not emotionally close enough.

To be honest, he provides me with food, clothes, and fulfills his responsibilities, but what I truly need is emotional support, understanding, affection, and connection. What should I do now?

#Anonymous

In Islam, marriage is not only about providing food, clothing, and financial support — it is also about love, mercy, emotional comfort, and companionship. Allah says: “And He placed between you affection and mercy” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21). Many good husbands sincerely fulfill financial responsibilities but may not naturally understand emotional needs unless they are gently expressed and communicated. This does not always mean there is no love; sometimes people show love differently based on personality, upbringing, or emotional understanding. Try speaking to your husband calmly and honestly, not only about what hurts you, but also about what makes you feel loved, valued, and emotionally safe. Small moments of kindness, appreciation, conversation, and shared time can slowly strengthen emotional closeness in a marriage.

At the same time, do not lose hope in your relationship simply because emotional connection feels weak right now. Hearts can soften and relationships can grow stronger with patience, dua, and mutual effort. The Prophet ﷺ was emotionally gentle, affectionate, and caring toward his wives, showing that emotional support is also part of good character in marriage. Continue making dua for love and understanding between your hearts, and encourage healthy communication instead of silent sadness. Sometimes marriages are not broken — they are simply waiting for deeper understanding and emotional openness to grow.

May Allah place deep love, mercy, understanding, and emotional closeness between you and your husband, and make your marriage a source of peace, comfort, and barakah. Ameen 🤲

Sheikh al Fawzan حفظه الله stated:

“Also among women are believers and callers to Islam. Among them are those who enjoin good and forbid evil. This is not exclusive to men. Women should be aware of this and begin within their homes with their daughters and sons. They should start by nurturing them upon obedience to Allah.”

[At Taliq ala Risalah: Wujub al Amr bil Ma’ruf Pg. 62]

Sisters going for Eid Salah
Remember
No tabarruj
No makeup
No tights
No perfume

*what Husband and wife should do for each other To create a happy family.❤️*

Sisters, Whenever your husband is returning home, the moment he enters the house, as a wife, halt whatever you are doing immediately:

-If you are on a call, end it.
-If you are surfing the net, drop the phone.
-If you are on a chat, suspend it.
-If you have visitors, leave them and walk up to your husband.
-Whatever chore you are doing, abandon it, if it can't be abandoned, say something positive.
-If you are in an online live event, suspend it.
-If you are watching TV, abandon it.

For indeed, your husband is your king and if a king enters his palace, it's not befitting that he shouldn't be welcomed, so hurry up to welcome your king, collect his brief case/load, sit him down, switch on the fan/AC for him, clean the sweat on his forehead, collect his car/bike keys from him and place them on the table, remove his shoes and socks, prepare the bathroom for his bath and serve his meal.

Brothers, Whenever your wife is returning home from work or the market too, whatever it is you are doing, suspend it if possible:

-Collect the load from her.
-Give her a warm hug.
-Give her a kiss or a peck.
-Shake hands with her.
-Remove her Hijab or Niqab.

For indeed, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wassalam used to welcome even His daughter Fatima radiAllahu anha by walking up to meet her, kissing her and making her sit in his place.

All these and more will make your wife feel relieved and cherished, it will make her forget the stress she passed through out there.

It's an act of disregard for your husband to return home, and you keep doing whatever you are doing, for you never can tell what he passed throughout there while hustling for the family.

As long as we refuse to implement these 'little' things in our lives, many marriages will not stand the test of time, for its the combination of stones that makes a mountain and droplets of water makes an ocean.

May our homes be rectified. Aameen 🤲🤲

*© ABU ANAS WA ANEESAH THE COUNSELOR AND THE LINK ✍️*

𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 (585)
The Danger of a Woman Speaking Too Freely with Men

Question:
Some women continue talking with a seller in unnecessary ways. What is the ruling on this?

Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
It is not permissible for a woman to continue unnecessary conversation with a man who is not closely related to her, because this can lead to fitnah. Allah, the Most High, said: “Do not speak in a soft manner, lest someone with sickness in his heart should be moved with desire, but speak in an appropriate manner.” [Al-Ahzab: 32]

A woman should speak to the seller only as much as needed and not go beyond that. This is because Shaytan influences people strongly. Many women may think they are safe from fitnah, but Shaytan continues working on them until they are affected. After leaving a conversation that went beyond what was necessary, Shaytan may put thoughts in her mind that lead her back to the man. What begins as a small spark in conversation can turn into a blaze—may Allah protect us.

So women should be mindful of Allah, avoid soft or suggestive speech, and not talk excessively unless necessary. A clear example of this serious issue is what happens over the phone. Many foolish men call random numbers, and when a woman answers, they speak sweetly to her and gradually draw her into repeated conversations. Then they may record these conversations. This is the real danger—they do not leave her alone but trap her. Later, they may threaten her by saying: either do what they want or they will expose her voice to her father, brother, or others.

For this reason, women must be careful about continuing conversations with men. It is a serious danger. We ask Allah to protect us from trials.

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It Is from the Sunnah That If You Love Someone, You Inform Him

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

In the hadith of Muʿādh, may Allah be pleased with him, the Prophet ﷺ informed him that he loved him. Likewise, his statement to Anas when he said to him: “Indeed, I love this man.”

He ﷺ said to him:

“Have you informed him?”

This indicates that it is from the Sunnah that if you love a person, you say: “Indeed, I love you.” This is because of what this statement contains of placing love into his heart. For indeed, when a person knows that you love him, he will love you in return.

Furthermore, hearts naturally recognise and become attached to one another even if the tongues do not speak.

As the Prophet ﷺ said:

“Souls are like recruited soldiers: those among them that recognise one another become united, and those among them that do not recognise one another become divided.”

However, if a person says it with his tongue, then this increases the love within the heart. So you say:

“Indeed, I love you for the sake of Allah.”

📚Sharḥ Riyāḍ al-Ṣāliḥīn (2/486)

Al-Hasan al-Basra  رحمه الله stated:

The first thing the woman will be questioned about on the Day of Judgment is her Salah, then she will be questioned about her husband, how did she treat him.

[Ibn Kathir رحمه الله 774, al-Bidayah wan Nihayah, 2/54]

Many homes today are burning not because there is no love, but because too many outsiders are pouring kerosene into small misunderstandings.

Social media has given everyone a microphone.

-A girl who can’t keep one relationship for six months is teaching wives how to handle husbands.
-A man who has never paid school fees is teaching husbands how to control women.
-A divorcee still bleeding from yesterday’s pain is advising with anger instead of wisdom.

Instead of learning from marriages that have survived storms, many people carry their ears like baskets and collect every foolish opinion flying around.

Be careful who you take your advice from.

#copied

If marriage is what you're asking Allah for
and nothing is moving —

there is one thing most people skip
that the scholars say
unlocks the door faster than any other du'a.

Most people ask for a spouse.

The scholars said: ask to "become"
the person the right spouse is being sent to.

Because Allah said:

"And Allah has made for you
from yourselves mates."
(16:72)

From yourselves.

The spouse is already in the system.
Already written.
Already existing.

The question is not:
will Allah send them?

The question is:
"am I becoming the version of myself
they are being sent to meet?"

The du'a that changes this:

"Allāhumma aṣliḥ lī dīnī
alladhī huwa 'iṣmatu amrī —
wa aṣliḥ lī dunyāya
allatī fīhā ma'āshī."

"O Allah — rectify my deen
which is the safeguard of my affairs —
and rectify my worldly life
in which is my livelihood."
(Muslim 2720)

Rectify "me."
Not: send "them."

And then this —
the du'a specifically for a righteous spouse:

"Rabbi hab lī min ladunka
dhurriyyatan ṭayyibah —
innaka samī'ud-du'ā'."

"My Lord — grant me from Yourself
righteous offspring,
indeed You are the Hearer of du'a."
(3:38)

Used by Zakariyyah (AS) —
when everything said it was impossible.

He received Yahya (AS).
A Prophet.

Most people ask for a spouse. The scholars say: ask to become who the right spouse is being sent to. The spouse is already written. The question is whether you are becoming who they are meant to meet.

Sisters engaging, talking and developing feelings for men behind the Wali's back, then enter into a secret marriage (where you keep it secret from the world), which obviously fails, then cry about it on social media..

I don't feel sorry for you even one bit, you knew what you were doing, you got what you deserved and it takes two to tango! Don't come crying after you are to blame just as much as the wolf you chose, you're two wolves who danced together!

A Wali is there to chase away the dogs, but you chose the dog and to do it secretly behind the back of the one who has haqq over you so what does that make you?

Never accept a "secret marriage" which involves you being treated as a second hand merchandise, no matter what.

It is like begging for trouble. And if a man is not man enough to face your Wali and go through the front door OR if you don't have a Wali and he insists on his buddie being your Wali.. run. Run fast and don't look back or don't come crying later on.

Those aren't men but the women are the same filth and deserves every bit of what happens as they both took the same steps. But many women are allergic to accountability today.

Obviously this does not apply to someone who was genuinely cheated because of her genuine loneliness (being without a Wali to start with). But this sister needs to very careful so she doesn't encounter those wolves.

Secret marriage is not without a Wali. But it is often without a valid Wali. Unjust takfir of fathers, brothers, uncles and then jump to the guys best buddy.

Then they keep it a secret from the world while a marriage is to be declared openly.

All this because they were thinking with their genitals and wanted a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

Then when the woman is abused, naturally because she doesn't have a rightful Wali to protect her interests and the guys buddy won't step up, she comes running crying and NOW want the shari'aa.. where were you and where was the shari'aa when you were dancing along the same game? Suit yourself and don't cry now.

If she really doesn't have a Wali and it has been investigated to be true, there are steps.

If there is no one on the paternal side at all, then the Imam of the Muslims, then the Qadi (judge), then a renowned Imam, then the Imam in the local masjid with sound Aqidah, then a responsible renowned brother with knowledge who takes his part seriously and is safeguarding the interest of the woman. Never the man's friend.

I might have missed a step so don't take it at face value but ask the people of knowledge.

Brother Ibn Ahmad

In the end, we won't remember the most beautiful face and body. We will remember the most beautiful heart and soul and special moments.

Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله:

“There is a difference between someone who tells you with his tongue, “I love you”, and there is no evidence of his condition, and the one who is silent and does not say it, but you see evidence of all his conditions that speak of his love for you.”

📖[طريق الهجرتين 314]

Did the husband act correctly?

The husband was planning to marry a second wife, he didn't tell his wife. Somehow the wife got to know. She got the sister's number, called her to issue threats and insults. When the husband came back from work, it was serious, a lot of drama, in the process she slapped her husband.

The next morning, the husband left the house. He went to his parents and explained everything. The funny thing is, they didn't call the wife. She thought the husband would return in the evening. She started calling, the husband has switched off his phone.

She was worried since the husband did not come home. In the morning, she went to report to her inlaw. The husband’s parents really warned her; 'don't kill our son because of jealousy, if you don't want a co-wife, leave the marriage, let him marry another woman in peace..'

She met her husband there. They really scolded her. The husband said before he'd return home, the wife must call the intending second wife, apologize and promise not to insult her again.

Ibn Rajab رحمه الله:

Many of the Salaf recommended making
an abundance of supplication on the days of at-Tashriq.

'Akramah said: It is recommended to supplicate on the days of at-Tashriq:

رَبَّنَآ ءَاتِنَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةًۭ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ حَسَنَةًۭ وَقِنَا عَذَابَ ٱلنَّارِ

(Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire)
[al-Baqarah: 201]

This supplication is from the most comprehensive of supplications of good. The Prophet ﷺ used to supplicate with it abundantly.

It is narrated that he ﷺ would supplicate with it the most, and when he be would supplicate [with other supplications], he ﷺ would combine it with them.

The supplication combines the good of this life and the hereafter.

al-Hasan said: The good in this life is knowledge and worship and in the hereafter, paradise.

Sufyan said: The good in this life is knowledge and good, wholesome provisions, and in the hereafter, paradise.

📖لطائف المعارف 505

A Wife of Love and Tranquility

She is not loud, yet her love is felt,
In quiet acts where sincerity dwells.
Not in words alone—but in all she does,
A mercy sent, a gift from Allah.

When he returns, tired from the day,
From teaching, from stress, worn and drained—
He finds in her a place of rest,
A home of peace within her chest.

The house is calm, the food prepared,
Not just with hands—but love and care.
In every meal, in every bite,
She serves with a heart that feels just right.

Breakfast in bed, a gentle smile,
Simple acts that make it all worthwhile.
A massage to ease the weight he bears,
Soft hands that answer silent prayers.

When he is sick, she does not tire,
She cares for him with quiet desire—
To see him healed, to see him strong,
To stand beside him all along.

Whenever she sees him in pain, she prays—
That Allah forgives him for any shortcomings,
That he is cured and granted ease.
And if he ever wronged her unintentionally,
She has already forgiven him—before he even knows.

She cannot bear to see him suffer,
Especially the pain he carries in his skin.
There are nights she spends long hours caring,
Gently soothing, just to give him relief.

In every touch, in every moment she stays,
Her only wish is to ease his pain.

She reminds him of faith when days feel heavy,
Guides him gently with wisdom and care.
Not forcing, but nurturing what is right,
Drawing both their hearts closer to Allah.

She honors his family with kindness and respect,
For love extends beyond just the two.
She understands what matters to him,
And carries it with grace too.

When they argue, her pride is small,
She softens first, she ends the wall.
Not out of weakness—but out of care,
Unwilling to sleep with anger there.

She guards her words, she chooses right,
Speaking peace, not starting fights.
For she knows a careless tongue can break
What love is trying to protect.

His happiness becomes her light,
His smile her quiet delight.
She asks for little, grateful for all,
Seeing him as a blessing from Allah.

She sees him as her path to Paradise,
And she strives to be a righteous wife.
For she remembers the teaching of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
That if a wife fulfills her duties to Allah, guards her faith,
and her husband is pleased with her,
she will be called to enter Paradise from whichever gate she wishes.

Not a slave, not less, not confined—
But a partner with a giving mind.
In obedience within what is right,
She walks beside him, not beneath his sight.

She thanks him often, big and small,
Recognizing his efforts in it all.
Through words and actions, she makes it clear,
He is valued, loved, and held dear

And in her heart, a constant prayer remains:
To love him in a way that pleases Allah.

For to her,
He is not just her husband—
But a blessing written into her life.

Marriage is not your mission. Allah is.

I say that because some of us quietly believe a spouse will end our loneliness. No. Allah is the One who ends loneliness.

Have you not met/heard of married people who feel deeply alone? A ring doesn’t cure emptiness. A wedding doesn’t heal the heart.

Nothing fills that void except the One who created it.

A spouse can be a comfort. A spouse can be mercy. But only if Allah places barakah in it.

If you expect a human to meet needs, only Allah can fulfil,
you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

People are limited, but Allah is not. Let your mission be closeness to Him.

If marriage comes, it will be a gift… not a god.

As a young lady, be careful around married men. You can easily become a married man's "side chick" accidentally under the pretext of marital intention. A married man typically has a stable family so there is no real urgency for marriage irrespective of what he tells you. You are the one that has your clock ticking. More so, he understands women much more than single unmarried folks so likely knows how to treat you better and make it difficult for you to consider leaving. Some might even have a better financial standing, willing to splash money on you. Even more ironic is that some women's nature seem to find a married man's attention on them more valuable because they believe it means he placed them on a higher level of relevance than his wife, so the competition creates more value in their twisted minds.

With a combination of care, attention and may be money (if available), you can ever so easily get stuck as a married man's side attraction. There are things that he may no longer enjoy from his wife because of the realistic changes in the different phases of marriage, so he uses you to fill up the void while hanging the promise of marriage over your head as bait that keeps you in. Do not throw away your dignity that way.

A promise of marriage has no legal value.

"I am just waiting for things to get better before I see your family"

My sister better start reconsidering your options or in the least play it safe. Restrict any access to you including unnecessary chitchats till he is ready to do the right thing. I am a man who loves gadgets and I usually wouldn't mind how much I spend to acquire one even if the benefit from it is shortlived. This is just to tell you how men are wired around money. We don't always spend it as a measure of value. Sometimes the amount is irrelevant as long as we get what we want. So if you are a lady easily carried away by a man spending on you, you are cheap bait for some married men. Particularly for those men that have specialised in spending money to catch women, trust me, the moment he believes the hunt is over, along goes the inclination to be generous.

If a married man is interested in you, let him meet your parents and do the right thing. The moment he is reluctant to be known beyond you two, you just might be a dispensable temporary fill for his fantasies.

Islam permits polygyny while at the same time expecting chastity and modesty. Whatever you are doing with a married man that is outside the bounds of chastity and modesty isn't connected to polygyny. It is either just you fulfilling your desires, or you being a pawn in a married man's chess game.

If he truly wants you, he would do the right thing the right away. Being open to polygyny should not imply being open to promiscuity, and you are more dignified as a woman than being a married man's pastime.

Abu Imrān

Marriage isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. If you’re unwilling to make sacrifices, compromise, and sometimes put someone else’s needs alongside your own, then marriage may not be for you. Better to recognize that early than make yourself and another person miserable.