Sisters engaging, talking and developing feelings for men behind the Wali's back, then enter into a secret marriage (where you keep it secret from the world), which obviously fails, then cry about it on social media..
I don't feel sorry for you even one bit, you knew what you were doing, you got what you deserved and it takes two to tango! Don't come crying after you are to blame just as much as the wolf you chose, you're two wolves who danced together!
A Wali is there to chase away the dogs, but you chose the dog and to do it secretly behind the back of the one who has haqq over you so what does that make you?
Never accept a "secret marriage" which involves you being treated as a second hand merchandise, no matter what.
It is like begging for trouble. And if a man is not man enough to face your Wali and go through the front door OR if you don't have a Wali and he insists on his buddie being your Wali.. run. Run fast and don't look back or don't come crying later on.
Those aren't men but the women are the same filth and deserves every bit of what happens as they both took the same steps. But many women are allergic to accountability today.
Obviously this does not apply to someone who was genuinely cheated because of her genuine loneliness (being without a Wali to start with). But this sister needs to very careful so she doesn't encounter those wolves.
Secret marriage is not without a Wali. But it is often without a valid Wali. Unjust takfir of fathers, brothers, uncles and then jump to the guys best buddy.
Then they keep it a secret from the world while a marriage is to be declared openly.
All this because they were thinking with their genitals and wanted a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
Then when the woman is abused, naturally because she doesn't have a rightful Wali to protect her interests and the guys buddy won't step up, she comes running crying and NOW want the shari'aa.. where were you and where was the shari'aa when you were dancing along the same game? Suit yourself and don't cry now.
If she really doesn't have a Wali and it has been investigated to be true, there are steps.
If there is no one on the paternal side at all, then the Imam of the Muslims, then the Qadi (judge), then a renowned Imam, then the Imam in the local masjid with sound Aqidah, then a responsible renowned brother with knowledge who takes his part seriously and is safeguarding the interest of the woman. Never the man's friend.
I might have missed a step so don't take it at face value but ask the people of knowledge.
Brother Ibn Ahmad
I don't feel sorry for you even one bit, you knew what you were doing, you got what you deserved and it takes two to tango! Don't come crying after you are to blame just as much as the wolf you chose, you're two wolves who danced together!
A Wali is there to chase away the dogs, but you chose the dog and to do it secretly behind the back of the one who has haqq over you so what does that make you?
Never accept a "secret marriage" which involves you being treated as a second hand merchandise, no matter what.
It is like begging for trouble. And if a man is not man enough to face your Wali and go through the front door OR if you don't have a Wali and he insists on his buddie being your Wali.. run. Run fast and don't look back or don't come crying later on.
Those aren't men but the women are the same filth and deserves every bit of what happens as they both took the same steps. But many women are allergic to accountability today.
Obviously this does not apply to someone who was genuinely cheated because of her genuine loneliness (being without a Wali to start with). But this sister needs to very careful so she doesn't encounter those wolves.
Secret marriage is not without a Wali. But it is often without a valid Wali. Unjust takfir of fathers, brothers, uncles and then jump to the guys best buddy.
Then they keep it a secret from the world while a marriage is to be declared openly.
All this because they were thinking with their genitals and wanted a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
Then when the woman is abused, naturally because she doesn't have a rightful Wali to protect her interests and the guys buddy won't step up, she comes running crying and NOW want the shari'aa.. where were you and where was the shari'aa when you were dancing along the same game? Suit yourself and don't cry now.
If she really doesn't have a Wali and it has been investigated to be true, there are steps.
If there is no one on the paternal side at all, then the Imam of the Muslims, then the Qadi (judge), then a renowned Imam, then the Imam in the local masjid with sound Aqidah, then a responsible renowned brother with knowledge who takes his part seriously and is safeguarding the interest of the woman. Never the man's friend.
I might have missed a step so don't take it at face value but ask the people of knowledge.
Brother Ibn Ahmad
💯12👍2
In the end, we won't remember the most beautiful face and body. We will remember the most beautiful heart and soul and special moments.
💯21👍6
Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله:
“There is a difference between someone who tells you with his tongue, “I love you”, and there is no evidence of his condition, and the one who is silent and does not say it, but you see evidence of all his conditions that speak of his love for you.”
📖[طريق الهجرتين 314]
“There is a difference between someone who tells you with his tongue, “I love you”, and there is no evidence of his condition, and the one who is silent and does not say it, but you see evidence of all his conditions that speak of his love for you.”
📖[طريق الهجرتين 314]
💯27👍5😢3
Did the husband act correctly?
The husband was planning to marry a second wife, he didn't tell his wife. Somehow the wife got to know. She got the sister's number, called her to issue threats and insults. When the husband came back from work, it was serious, a lot of drama, in the process she slapped her husband.
The next morning, the husband left the house. He went to his parents and explained everything. The funny thing is, they didn't call the wife. She thought the husband would return in the evening. She started calling, the husband has switched off his phone.
She was worried since the husband did not come home. In the morning, she went to report to her inlaw. The husband’s parents really warned her; 'don't kill our son because of jealousy, if you don't want a co-wife, leave the marriage, let him marry another woman in peace..'
She met her husband there. They really scolded her. The husband said before he'd return home, the wife must call the intending second wife, apologize and promise not to insult her again.
The husband was planning to marry a second wife, he didn't tell his wife. Somehow the wife got to know. She got the sister's number, called her to issue threats and insults. When the husband came back from work, it was serious, a lot of drama, in the process she slapped her husband.
The next morning, the husband left the house. He went to his parents and explained everything. The funny thing is, they didn't call the wife. She thought the husband would return in the evening. She started calling, the husband has switched off his phone.
She was worried since the husband did not come home. In the morning, she went to report to her inlaw. The husband’s parents really warned her; 'don't kill our son because of jealousy, if you don't want a co-wife, leave the marriage, let him marry another woman in peace..'
She met her husband there. They really scolded her. The husband said before he'd return home, the wife must call the intending second wife, apologize and promise not to insult her again.
👍17💔5😢2💯2
Forwarded from Authentic Duas
Ibn Rajab رحمه الله:
Many of the Salaf recommended making
an abundance of supplication on the days of at-Tashriq.
'Akramah said: It is recommended to supplicate on the days of at-Tashriq:
رَبَّنَآ ءَاتِنَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةًۭ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ حَسَنَةًۭ وَقِنَا عَذَابَ ٱلنَّارِ
(Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire)
[al-Baqarah: 201]
This supplication is from the most comprehensive of supplications of good. The Prophet ﷺ used to supplicate with it abundantly.
It is narrated that he ﷺ would supplicate with it the most, and when he be would supplicate [with other supplications], he ﷺ would combine it with them.
The supplication combines the good of this life and the hereafter.
al-Hasan said: The good in this life is knowledge and worship and in the hereafter, paradise.
Sufyan said: The good in this life is knowledge and good, wholesome provisions, and in the hereafter, paradise.
📖لطائف المعارف 505
Many of the Salaf recommended making
an abundance of supplication on the days of at-Tashriq.
'Akramah said: It is recommended to supplicate on the days of at-Tashriq:
رَبَّنَآ ءَاتِنَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةًۭ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ حَسَنَةًۭ وَقِنَا عَذَابَ ٱلنَّارِ
(Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire)
[al-Baqarah: 201]
This supplication is from the most comprehensive of supplications of good. The Prophet ﷺ used to supplicate with it abundantly.
It is narrated that he ﷺ would supplicate with it the most, and when he be would supplicate [with other supplications], he ﷺ would combine it with them.
The supplication combines the good of this life and the hereafter.
al-Hasan said: The good in this life is knowledge and worship and in the hereafter, paradise.
Sufyan said: The good in this life is knowledge and good, wholesome provisions, and in the hereafter, paradise.
📖لطائف المعارف 505
👍7
A Wife of Love and Tranquility
She is not loud, yet her love is felt,
In quiet acts where sincerity dwells.
Not in words alone—but in all she does,
A mercy sent, a gift from Allah.
When he returns, tired from the day,
From teaching, from stress, worn and drained—
He finds in her a place of rest,
A home of peace within her chest.
The house is calm, the food prepared,
Not just with hands—but love and care.
In every meal, in every bite,
She serves with a heart that feels just right.
Breakfast in bed, a gentle smile,
Simple acts that make it all worthwhile.
A massage to ease the weight he bears,
Soft hands that answer silent prayers.
When he is sick, she does not tire,
She cares for him with quiet desire—
To see him healed, to see him strong,
To stand beside him all along.
Whenever she sees him in pain, she prays—
That Allah forgives him for any shortcomings,
That he is cured and granted ease.
And if he ever wronged her unintentionally,
She has already forgiven him—before he even knows.
She cannot bear to see him suffer,
Especially the pain he carries in his skin.
There are nights she spends long hours caring,
Gently soothing, just to give him relief.
In every touch, in every moment she stays,
Her only wish is to ease his pain.
She reminds him of faith when days feel heavy,
Guides him gently with wisdom and care.
Not forcing, but nurturing what is right,
Drawing both their hearts closer to Allah.
She honors his family with kindness and respect,
For love extends beyond just the two.
She understands what matters to him,
And carries it with grace too.
When they argue, her pride is small,
She softens first, she ends the wall.
Not out of weakness—but out of care,
Unwilling to sleep with anger there.
She guards her words, she chooses right,
Speaking peace, not starting fights.
For she knows a careless tongue can break
What love is trying to protect.
His happiness becomes her light,
His smile her quiet delight.
She asks for little, grateful for all,
Seeing him as a blessing from Allah.
She sees him as her path to Paradise,
And she strives to be a righteous wife.
For she remembers the teaching of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
That if a wife fulfills her duties to Allah, guards her faith,
and her husband is pleased with her,
she will be called to enter Paradise from whichever gate she wishes.
Not a slave, not less, not confined—
But a partner with a giving mind.
In obedience within what is right,
She walks beside him, not beneath his sight.
She thanks him often, big and small,
Recognizing his efforts in it all.
Through words and actions, she makes it clear,
He is valued, loved, and held dear
And in her heart, a constant prayer remains:
To love him in a way that pleases Allah.
For to her,
He is not just her husband—
But a blessing written into her life.
She is not loud, yet her love is felt,
In quiet acts where sincerity dwells.
Not in words alone—but in all she does,
A mercy sent, a gift from Allah.
When he returns, tired from the day,
From teaching, from stress, worn and drained—
He finds in her a place of rest,
A home of peace within her chest.
The house is calm, the food prepared,
Not just with hands—but love and care.
In every meal, in every bite,
She serves with a heart that feels just right.
Breakfast in bed, a gentle smile,
Simple acts that make it all worthwhile.
A massage to ease the weight he bears,
Soft hands that answer silent prayers.
When he is sick, she does not tire,
She cares for him with quiet desire—
To see him healed, to see him strong,
To stand beside him all along.
Whenever she sees him in pain, she prays—
That Allah forgives him for any shortcomings,
That he is cured and granted ease.
And if he ever wronged her unintentionally,
She has already forgiven him—before he even knows.
She cannot bear to see him suffer,
Especially the pain he carries in his skin.
There are nights she spends long hours caring,
Gently soothing, just to give him relief.
In every touch, in every moment she stays,
Her only wish is to ease his pain.
She reminds him of faith when days feel heavy,
Guides him gently with wisdom and care.
Not forcing, but nurturing what is right,
Drawing both their hearts closer to Allah.
She honors his family with kindness and respect,
For love extends beyond just the two.
She understands what matters to him,
And carries it with grace too.
When they argue, her pride is small,
She softens first, she ends the wall.
Not out of weakness—but out of care,
Unwilling to sleep with anger there.
She guards her words, she chooses right,
Speaking peace, not starting fights.
For she knows a careless tongue can break
What love is trying to protect.
His happiness becomes her light,
His smile her quiet delight.
She asks for little, grateful for all,
Seeing him as a blessing from Allah.
She sees him as her path to Paradise,
And she strives to be a righteous wife.
For she remembers the teaching of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
That if a wife fulfills her duties to Allah, guards her faith,
and her husband is pleased with her,
she will be called to enter Paradise from whichever gate she wishes.
Not a slave, not less, not confined—
But a partner with a giving mind.
In obedience within what is right,
She walks beside him, not beneath his sight.
She thanks him often, big and small,
Recognizing his efforts in it all.
Through words and actions, she makes it clear,
He is valued, loved, and held dear
And in her heart, a constant prayer remains:
To love him in a way that pleases Allah.
For to her,
He is not just her husband—
But a blessing written into her life.
⚡6💯4👍3🕊3😢1
Marriage is not your mission. Allah is.
I say that because some of us quietly believe a spouse will end our loneliness. No. Allah is the One who ends loneliness.
Have you not met/heard of married people who feel deeply alone? A ring doesn’t cure emptiness. A wedding doesn’t heal the heart.
Nothing fills that void except the One who created it.
A spouse can be a comfort. A spouse can be mercy. But only if Allah places barakah in it.
If you expect a human to meet needs, only Allah can fulfil,
you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
People are limited, but Allah is not. Let your mission be closeness to Him.
If marriage comes, it will be a gift… not a god.
I say that because some of us quietly believe a spouse will end our loneliness. No. Allah is the One who ends loneliness.
Have you not met/heard of married people who feel deeply alone? A ring doesn’t cure emptiness. A wedding doesn’t heal the heart.
Nothing fills that void except the One who created it.
A spouse can be a comfort. A spouse can be mercy. But only if Allah places barakah in it.
If you expect a human to meet needs, only Allah can fulfil,
you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
People are limited, but Allah is not. Let your mission be closeness to Him.
If marriage comes, it will be a gift… not a god.
👍12💯7💔3
As a young lady, be careful around married men. You can easily become a married man's "side chick" accidentally under the pretext of marital intention. A married man typically has a stable family so there is no real urgency for marriage irrespective of what he tells you. You are the one that has your clock ticking. More so, he understands women much more than single unmarried folks so likely knows how to treat you better and make it difficult for you to consider leaving. Some might even have a better financial standing, willing to splash money on you. Even more ironic is that some women's nature seem to find a married man's attention on them more valuable because they believe it means he placed them on a higher level of relevance than his wife, so the competition creates more value in their twisted minds.
With a combination of care, attention and may be money (if available), you can ever so easily get stuck as a married man's side attraction. There are things that he may no longer enjoy from his wife because of the realistic changes in the different phases of marriage, so he uses you to fill up the void while hanging the promise of marriage over your head as bait that keeps you in. Do not throw away your dignity that way.
A promise of marriage has no legal value.
"I am just waiting for things to get better before I see your family"
My sister better start reconsidering your options or in the least play it safe. Restrict any access to you including unnecessary chitchats till he is ready to do the right thing. I am a man who loves gadgets and I usually wouldn't mind how much I spend to acquire one even if the benefit from it is shortlived. This is just to tell you how men are wired around money. We don't always spend it as a measure of value. Sometimes the amount is irrelevant as long as we get what we want. So if you are a lady easily carried away by a man spending on you, you are cheap bait for some married men. Particularly for those men that have specialised in spending money to catch women, trust me, the moment he believes the hunt is over, along goes the inclination to be generous.
If a married man is interested in you, let him meet your parents and do the right thing. The moment he is reluctant to be known beyond you two, you just might be a dispensable temporary fill for his fantasies.
Islam permits polygyny while at the same time expecting chastity and modesty. Whatever you are doing with a married man that is outside the bounds of chastity and modesty isn't connected to polygyny. It is either just you fulfilling your desires, or you being a pawn in a married man's chess game.
If he truly wants you, he would do the right thing the right away. Being open to polygyny should not imply being open to promiscuity, and you are more dignified as a woman than being a married man's pastime.
Abu Imrān
With a combination of care, attention and may be money (if available), you can ever so easily get stuck as a married man's side attraction. There are things that he may no longer enjoy from his wife because of the realistic changes in the different phases of marriage, so he uses you to fill up the void while hanging the promise of marriage over your head as bait that keeps you in. Do not throw away your dignity that way.
A promise of marriage has no legal value.
"I am just waiting for things to get better before I see your family"
My sister better start reconsidering your options or in the least play it safe. Restrict any access to you including unnecessary chitchats till he is ready to do the right thing. I am a man who loves gadgets and I usually wouldn't mind how much I spend to acquire one even if the benefit from it is shortlived. This is just to tell you how men are wired around money. We don't always spend it as a measure of value. Sometimes the amount is irrelevant as long as we get what we want. So if you are a lady easily carried away by a man spending on you, you are cheap bait for some married men. Particularly for those men that have specialised in spending money to catch women, trust me, the moment he believes the hunt is over, along goes the inclination to be generous.
If a married man is interested in you, let him meet your parents and do the right thing. The moment he is reluctant to be known beyond you two, you just might be a dispensable temporary fill for his fantasies.
Islam permits polygyny while at the same time expecting chastity and modesty. Whatever you are doing with a married man that is outside the bounds of chastity and modesty isn't connected to polygyny. It is either just you fulfilling your desires, or you being a pawn in a married man's chess game.
If he truly wants you, he would do the right thing the right away. Being open to polygyny should not imply being open to promiscuity, and you are more dignified as a woman than being a married man's pastime.
Abu Imrān
⚡13💯7👍1😢1
Marriage isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. If you’re unwilling to make sacrifices, compromise, and sometimes put someone else’s needs alongside your own, then marriage may not be for you. Better to recognize that early than make yourself and another person miserable.
👍19💯5
Before you step into marriage, sit down and face these conversations most couples are too scared to touch:
-Talk about the wounds you carry from childhood.
-Talk about family health history on both sides.
-Talk about how bills will be paid, how credit will be managed, and how responsibilities will be divided.
-Talk about beliefs, values, and what you want your children to grow up learning.
-Talk about sexual expectations and boundaries.
These aren’t “uncomfortable topics.” Ignore these conversations now and you’ll pay for them late
-Talk about the wounds you carry from childhood.
-Talk about family health history on both sides.
-Talk about how bills will be paid, how credit will be managed, and how responsibilities will be divided.
-Talk about beliefs, values, and what you want your children to grow up learning.
-Talk about sexual expectations and boundaries.
These aren’t “uncomfortable topics.” Ignore these conversations now and you’ll pay for them late
👍13💯8
The Balance of Roles in a Woman’s Life
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (Rahimaullah) said: For a married woman, obeying her husband is better than obeying her father.
[Majmoo’ al-Fataawa Ibn Taymiyyah (Rahimaullah), 10/428]
🔹 Before marriage, the father is a woman’s guardian and protector.
🔹 After marriage, the husband becomes her new guardian, and their relationship forms the foundation of a family.
It’s not about competition between parents and spouses, but about honoring the roles Allaah has assigned in different phases of one's life.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (Rahimaullah) said: For a married woman, obeying her husband is better than obeying her father.
[Majmoo’ al-Fataawa Ibn Taymiyyah (Rahimaullah), 10/428]
🔹 Before marriage, the father is a woman’s guardian and protector.
🔹 After marriage, the husband becomes her new guardian, and their relationship forms the foundation of a family.
It’s not about competition between parents and spouses, but about honoring the roles Allaah has assigned in different phases of one's life.
👍11💯2
Marrying an already proposed or engaged woman
Engagement expresses a desire to marry and involves notifying the woman's guardian, either directly or through family. It becomes final if agreed upon, but is not a binding commitment; marriage requires a recognised contract. The betrothed are still considered strangers, allowing only limited interactions, and actions like reciting the Fatiha or receiving gifts do not constitute marriage.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ..And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her." [Bukhari 5143]
The hadith suggests that harming others is prohibited, similar to the prohibition against taking someone's property or harming them. Marrying an engaged woman is considered valid by the majority, though it is sinful, and no separation occurs post-marriage. However, Imam Malik argues it is invalid due to its forbidden nature. The Maliki school requires annulment before consummation if proven in court. [Wahbah al-Zuhayli]
Said Ibn Hajar,
''Dawud said the marriage is annulled both before and after consummation. The Malikis have a similar difference of opinion, with some saying it is annulled before consummation but not after. The majority's argument is that the prohibited act is the engagement, and engagement is not a condition for the validity of marriage, so the marriage is not annulled if it is invalid. '[Fath al Bari]
Said Ibn Battal [Maliki],
''As for his statement that it is dissolved before consummation and remains valid afterwards, this is similar to repeating the prayer within its prescribed time to ensure the act is performed completely and according to its recommended practices.''
Engagement expresses a desire to marry and involves notifying the woman's guardian, either directly or through family. It becomes final if agreed upon, but is not a binding commitment; marriage requires a recognised contract. The betrothed are still considered strangers, allowing only limited interactions, and actions like reciting the Fatiha or receiving gifts do not constitute marriage.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ..And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her." [Bukhari 5143]
The hadith suggests that harming others is prohibited, similar to the prohibition against taking someone's property or harming them. Marrying an engaged woman is considered valid by the majority, though it is sinful, and no separation occurs post-marriage. However, Imam Malik argues it is invalid due to its forbidden nature. The Maliki school requires annulment before consummation if proven in court. [Wahbah al-Zuhayli]
Said Ibn Hajar,
''Dawud said the marriage is annulled both before and after consummation. The Malikis have a similar difference of opinion, with some saying it is annulled before consummation but not after. The majority's argument is that the prohibited act is the engagement, and engagement is not a condition for the validity of marriage, so the marriage is not annulled if it is invalid. '[Fath al Bari]
Said Ibn Battal [Maliki],
''As for his statement that it is dissolved before consummation and remains valid afterwards, this is similar to repeating the prayer within its prescribed time to ensure the act is performed completely and according to its recommended practices.''
👍1
Keep Talking - It Keeps Your Marriage Alive
Talk with your partner. Really talk. And listen - truly listen. Not to win. Not to fix. But to understand. Silence builds walls. Shouting builds wounds. But kind words build bridges.
Put down your phone. Turn off the TV. Look into your partner’s eyes. Let your heart speak. Ask how they’re doing. Then listen with care. Listen with your heart. Listen with a still soul.
Don’t assume they know what you feel. Say it before silence steals it. Say “I miss you.” Say “I’m proud of you.” Say “I love you.” Speak often. Speak softly. Speak love into your marriage.
When you’re hurt, don’t attack. When angry, don’t shout. Use words that heal, not harm. Say sorry quickly. Forgive freely. Words can crush or comfort. Use them to lift up your partner.
Communication keeps your marriage alive. The more you talk, the stronger your bond. Your words breathe life into love. So, talk daily. Listen deeply. Speak kindly. Love listens - and love speaks.
Talk with your partner. Really talk. And listen - truly listen. Not to win. Not to fix. But to understand. Silence builds walls. Shouting builds wounds. But kind words build bridges.
Put down your phone. Turn off the TV. Look into your partner’s eyes. Let your heart speak. Ask how they’re doing. Then listen with care. Listen with your heart. Listen with a still soul.
Don’t assume they know what you feel. Say it before silence steals it. Say “I miss you.” Say “I’m proud of you.” Say “I love you.” Speak often. Speak softly. Speak love into your marriage.
When you’re hurt, don’t attack. When angry, don’t shout. Use words that heal, not harm. Say sorry quickly. Forgive freely. Words can crush or comfort. Use them to lift up your partner.
Communication keeps your marriage alive. The more you talk, the stronger your bond. Your words breathe life into love. So, talk daily. Listen deeply. Speak kindly. Love listens - and love speaks.
👍20💯8😢5
At this point I realized that marriage is not for lovers. It's for forgivers, sacrificers, grown adults. Why? You can love someone and still hurt them. Still disappoint them. Still forget their needs. Love alone is not enough.
At this point I realized that real marriage needs emotional maturity, conflict resolution, humility, communication and a lots of forgiveness. You'll forgive things you swore you never could.
At this point I realized that real marriage needs emotional maturity, conflict resolution, humility, communication and a lots of forgiveness. You'll forgive things you swore you never could.
💯20👍18🕊5
Polygyny did not
fail. Some men
failed at practising
it correctly
Some wives opposed to follow n never encourages
fail. Some men
failed at practising
it correctly
Some wives opposed to follow n never encourages
💯13💔7👍1
HUSBANDS GLORIFY, WIVES RESPECT. TOGETHER, PURSUING JANNAH...
🌼 FOR HUSBANDS
1. Gentleness: Speak politely, call her by terms of endearment.
2. Appreciation: Don't criticize her cooking/housework; appreciate her efforts.
3. Help: Help out with household chores.
4. Honor: Don't compare her to other women.
5. Support: Give generously, consider it an act of worship.
6. Patience: Face her shortcomings with patience and humor.
7. Manners of Anger: Remain calm and don't insult her even when you're emotional.
🌼 FOR WIVES
1. Obedience: Compliance with good deeds for the sake of Allah's pleasure.
2. Respect: Speak politely, maintain your husband's dignity and secrets.
3. Gratitude: Be content and don't demand beyond your means.
4. Support: Be an encouragement in your husband's endeavors and preaching.
5. Calm: Defuse conflicts, don't escalate the situation.
6. Patience: Accept your husband's shortcomings with an open heart.
7. Prayer: Always pray for your husband during every prostration.
🌼 FOR HUSBANDS
1. Gentleness: Speak politely, call her by terms of endearment.
2. Appreciation: Don't criticize her cooking/housework; appreciate her efforts.
3. Help: Help out with household chores.
4. Honor: Don't compare her to other women.
5. Support: Give generously, consider it an act of worship.
6. Patience: Face her shortcomings with patience and humor.
7. Manners of Anger: Remain calm and don't insult her even when you're emotional.
🌼 FOR WIVES
1. Obedience: Compliance with good deeds for the sake of Allah's pleasure.
2. Respect: Speak politely, maintain your husband's dignity and secrets.
3. Gratitude: Be content and don't demand beyond your means.
4. Support: Be an encouragement in your husband's endeavors and preaching.
5. Calm: Defuse conflicts, don't escalate the situation.
6. Patience: Accept your husband's shortcomings with an open heart.
7. Prayer: Always pray for your husband during every prostration.
🕊13💯7👍1
Choosing a husband is one of the most important decisions a woman will ever make.
It should never be based only on love, money, or pressure from society. Look beyond sweet words and focus on character, respect, and emotional maturity.
A good man will not only love you but will value your dignity, listen to you, and treat you with kindness even in difficult moments.
Pay attention to how he handles anger. If he cannot control his temper while dating, it may become worse in marriage. Respect is not something to beg for, it should come naturally. 📌
It should never be based only on love, money, or pressure from society. Look beyond sweet words and focus on character, respect, and emotional maturity.
A good man will not only love you but will value your dignity, listen to you, and treat you with kindness even in difficult moments.
Pay attention to how he handles anger. If he cannot control his temper while dating, it may become worse in marriage. Respect is not something to beg for, it should come naturally. 📌
💯19😢6👍1
My husband married
another woman. I tried to accept it, but it hurts me deeply and disturbs my peace when I think about it. Am I sinful if I ask for a divorce? (Q&A)
In Islam, a man is permitted to marry more than one wife, provided that he deals with justice and fairness between them. The Qur'an says: “If you fear that you cannot deal justly, then marry only one” (Surah An-Nisa 4:3). Therefore, if a husband has married again while intending to fulfill the rights of both wives, this action itself is not considered a sin in Islam. In such situations, it is often advised that the wife try to remain patient and handle the matter with wisdom, calmness, and dignity, especially if the husband continues to fulfill her rights, maintenance, and responsibilities properly. Patience and tolerance in difficult situations can bring great reward from Allah.
However, Islam also acknowledges a woman’s emotional wellbeing. If the wife finds that the situation causes her serious distress or if the husband fails to fulfill her rights properly, then she may seek separation or divorce. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasized kindness, justice, and fairness within marriage. Therefore, the best approach is first to try communication, patience, and mutual understanding. If the husband is fulfilling his responsibilities and treating both wives fairly, then remaining patient may help preserve the family. But if injustice, neglect, or harm occurs, Islam allows the woman to seek a lawful solution.
O Allah, grant peace and patience to our hearts, guide our families with justice and wisdom, and bless our homes with mercy and understanding. Ameen 🤲
another woman. I tried to accept it, but it hurts me deeply and disturbs my peace when I think about it. Am I sinful if I ask for a divorce? (Q&A)
In Islam, a man is permitted to marry more than one wife, provided that he deals with justice and fairness between them. The Qur'an says: “If you fear that you cannot deal justly, then marry only one” (Surah An-Nisa 4:3). Therefore, if a husband has married again while intending to fulfill the rights of both wives, this action itself is not considered a sin in Islam. In such situations, it is often advised that the wife try to remain patient and handle the matter with wisdom, calmness, and dignity, especially if the husband continues to fulfill her rights, maintenance, and responsibilities properly. Patience and tolerance in difficult situations can bring great reward from Allah.
However, Islam also acknowledges a woman’s emotional wellbeing. If the wife finds that the situation causes her serious distress or if the husband fails to fulfill her rights properly, then she may seek separation or divorce. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasized kindness, justice, and fairness within marriage. Therefore, the best approach is first to try communication, patience, and mutual understanding. If the husband is fulfilling his responsibilities and treating both wives fairly, then remaining patient may help preserve the family. But if injustice, neglect, or harm occurs, Islam allows the woman to seek a lawful solution.
O Allah, grant peace and patience to our hearts, guide our families with justice and wisdom, and bless our homes with mercy and understanding. Ameen 🤲
😢10👍4💯4