Secrets of your Spouse ...
1. To Marry: Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love: Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search: Mostly Women Search for the character of Men. So it's easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of women, so if he finds a better one, he can forget her, but if she makes any mistake to him, it's difficult to forgive her.
Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse 😊
Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love ❤
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing; Allah is the Provider, and the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you; don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love ❤
1. Behave like a female, i.e., all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a homemaker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “What are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example, don't say, "Well, her husband doesn't do that, why do you?" (That's a killer!)
11. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allâh subhanahu wa ta’ala preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners. Ameen
1. To Marry: Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love: Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search: Mostly Women Search for the character of Men. So it's easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of women, so if he finds a better one, he can forget her, but if she makes any mistake to him, it's difficult to forgive her.
Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse 😊
Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love ❤
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing; Allah is the Provider, and the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you; don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love ❤
1. Behave like a female, i.e., all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a homemaker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “What are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example, don't say, "Well, her husband doesn't do that, why do you?" (That's a killer!)
11. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allâh subhanahu wa ta’ala preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners. Ameen
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“What is meant for you will reach you, even if it is beneath two mountains. And what isn’t meant for you won’t reach you, even if it is between your lips.”
— [Imam al-Ghazali]
🌙 Trust Allah’s timing. Patience and tawakkul bring peace.
📖 #Qadr #IslamicReminder #Tawakkul #HalalMindset
— [Imam al-Ghazali]
🌙 Trust Allah’s timing. Patience and tawakkul bring peace.
📖 #Qadr #IslamicReminder #Tawakkul #HalalMindset
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The Trap of "Waiting in Line" for Marriage.
There is a common dilemma many young Muslim men face: You want to complete half your deen and guard your chastity, but you are currently financially incapacitated.
The immediate temptation is to find a suitable lady now, establish
a mutual understanding, and "hold onto her" until your finances improve. But here is the hard reality: holding onto someone without the immediate means to marry almost always devolves into dating, which is haram no matter how pure the initial intentions were.
The Prophet ﷺ addressedthis issue, but we like to put the cart before the horse when it comes to this issue.
The Prophet ﷺ addressed young men directly:
"O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding chastity. And whoever can not afford it, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him."
Notice the order of operations: Financial capability (al-ba'ah) comes before active pursuit.
Why are you even pursuing when you don't have the means to keep what is being pursued?
When you court a woman without the financial means to execute the nikkah, several things happen:
1) You risk her time and youth: Asking a sister to put her life on pause while you navigate financial instability is unfair to her and her family.
2) Boundary erosion: Contact without the legal protection of marriage naturally leads to emotional intimacy, private conversations, and cross-boundary interactions over time.
3) Unnecessary pressure: Entering a family dynamic unable to meet basic requirements creates friction,resentment, and loss of respect before the marriage even begins.
In Islamic jurisprudence, there is no middle ground between being strangers (ajnabi) and being married. You are either actively pursuing a structured, short-timeline path to nikkah with her guardian's knowledge, or you step back.
If financial stability is far off, pause the search. Channel that desire into fasting, building your skills, and striving for rizq (provision). If you have already met someone suitable, be completely transparent with her wali about your precise timeline or step away entirely - and trust that what is written for you will not pass you by.
Protecting your purity and respecting a sister’s time requires discipline, but a halal union built on a stable foundation is always worth the patience.
Allahul Musta'an
https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips
There is a common dilemma many young Muslim men face: You want to complete half your deen and guard your chastity, but you are currently financially incapacitated.
The immediate temptation is to find a suitable lady now, establish
a mutual understanding, and "hold onto her" until your finances improve. But here is the hard reality: holding onto someone without the immediate means to marry almost always devolves into dating, which is haram no matter how pure the initial intentions were.
The Prophet ﷺ addressedthis issue, but we like to put the cart before the horse when it comes to this issue.
The Prophet ﷺ addressed young men directly:
"O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding chastity. And whoever can not afford it, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him."
Notice the order of operations: Financial capability (al-ba'ah) comes before active pursuit.
Why are you even pursuing when you don't have the means to keep what is being pursued?
When you court a woman without the financial means to execute the nikkah, several things happen:
1) You risk her time and youth: Asking a sister to put her life on pause while you navigate financial instability is unfair to her and her family.
2) Boundary erosion: Contact without the legal protection of marriage naturally leads to emotional intimacy, private conversations, and cross-boundary interactions over time.
3) Unnecessary pressure: Entering a family dynamic unable to meet basic requirements creates friction,resentment, and loss of respect before the marriage even begins.
In Islamic jurisprudence, there is no middle ground between being strangers (ajnabi) and being married. You are either actively pursuing a structured, short-timeline path to nikkah with her guardian's knowledge, or you step back.
If financial stability is far off, pause the search. Channel that desire into fasting, building your skills, and striving for rizq (provision). If you have already met someone suitable, be completely transparent with her wali about your precise timeline or step away entirely - and trust that what is written for you will not pass you by.
Protecting your purity and respecting a sister’s time requires discipline, but a halal union built on a stable foundation is always worth the patience.
Allahul Musta'an
https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips
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Ibn al-Jawzi said:
“The most foolish of people is an old man seeking a young woman!”
[Captured Thoughts pg. 696].
“The most foolish of people is an old man seeking a young woman!”
[Captured Thoughts pg. 696].
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Before you marry, ask yourself one brutal question:
Am I truly prepared to serve something bigger than my moods, my ego, and my comfort for the rest of my life?
If not, do not drag a spouse and children into that lack of readiness.
Am I truly prepared to serve something bigger than my moods, my ego, and my comfort for the rest of my life?
If not, do not drag a spouse and children into that lack of readiness.
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🚩 BASIC RED FLAGS WHEN SEEKING A WIFE.
1. Her expenditure is beyond what you can tolerate.
2. Her actions are almost always controlled by parents and friends, without a mind of her own.
3. She complains every time about the basic time demands of your job and means of livelihood.
4. She has a sharp tongue. (Especially the Unity School spec)
5. She has a red-hot temper.
6. She has an overboard level of interaction with other people you are not comfortable with.
7. She is a party addict.
8. Her virtual life doesn't tally with what you see in real life.
9. She is overly argumentative.
10. She has questionable spirituality, e.g. tendencies to 'check' and 'seek', etc.
11. She is never wrong and has an excuse for everything.
1. Her expenditure is beyond what you can tolerate.
2. Her actions are almost always controlled by parents and friends, without a mind of her own.
3. She complains every time about the basic time demands of your job and means of livelihood.
4. She has a sharp tongue. (Especially the Unity School spec)
5. She has a red-hot temper.
6. She has an overboard level of interaction with other people you are not comfortable with.
7. She is a party addict.
8. Her virtual life doesn't tally with what you see in real life.
9. She is overly argumentative.
10. She has questionable spirituality, e.g. tendencies to 'check' and 'seek', etc.
11. She is never wrong and has an excuse for everything.
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The Blessings of Marriage according to the Sunnah
Yahyâ b. Yahyâ Al-NaysâbûrÎ reports:
I was once with Sufyân b. ‘Uyainah – Allah have mercy on him, when a man came to him and said, “O Abû Muhammad, I complain to you of so-and-so”, meaning his wife, “I am the lowest and most despicable thing to her.”
[Sufyân] lowered his head for a few moments, then said, “Perhaps you wanted her in order to better your status.”
The man said, “Indeed, o Abû Muhammad.” Sufyân said, “Whoever goes for glory will be tried with ignominy, whoever goes for wealth will be tried with poverty, but whoever goes for religiousness, Allah will bring together for him glory and wealth with the religion.”
He then started to narrate to him:
We were four brothers: Muhammad, ‘Umrân, IbrâhÎm and I. Muhammad was the eldest, ‘Umrân was the youngest, and I was in the middle.
When Muhammad wanted to marry, he desired status and married a woman of higher standing, so Allah tried him with ignominy. ‘Umrân desired wealth, so he married a richer woman and Allah tried him with poverty: [her family] took everything from him and gave him nothing.
I pondered their situation. Mu’ammar b. Râshid once came to us so I consulted him on the situation and told him the story of my brothers. He reminded me of the hadÎth of Yahyâ b. Ja’dah and the hadÎth of ‘Âishah.
The hadÎth of Yahyâ b. Ja’dah states that the Prophet – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – said,
“A woman is married for four things:
her religion, her status (lineage),
her wealth or her beauty; so take the religious one and be successful.”
The hadÎth of ‘Âishah states that the Prophet – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – said, “The most blessed woman is she who is easiest to maintain.”
Thus, I chose [to marry a woman of] religion and modest dowry, in accordance with the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, and Allah gave me status and wealth along with the religion.
Abû Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyâ` 7:289, 290.
https://www.sayingsofthesalaf.net/the-blessings-of-marriage-according-to-the-sunnah/
Yahyâ b. Yahyâ Al-NaysâbûrÎ reports:
I was once with Sufyân b. ‘Uyainah – Allah have mercy on him, when a man came to him and said, “O Abû Muhammad, I complain to you of so-and-so”, meaning his wife, “I am the lowest and most despicable thing to her.”
[Sufyân] lowered his head for a few moments, then said, “Perhaps you wanted her in order to better your status.”
The man said, “Indeed, o Abû Muhammad.” Sufyân said, “Whoever goes for glory will be tried with ignominy, whoever goes for wealth will be tried with poverty, but whoever goes for religiousness, Allah will bring together for him glory and wealth with the religion.”
He then started to narrate to him:
We were four brothers: Muhammad, ‘Umrân, IbrâhÎm and I. Muhammad was the eldest, ‘Umrân was the youngest, and I was in the middle.
When Muhammad wanted to marry, he desired status and married a woman of higher standing, so Allah tried him with ignominy. ‘Umrân desired wealth, so he married a richer woman and Allah tried him with poverty: [her family] took everything from him and gave him nothing.
I pondered their situation. Mu’ammar b. Râshid once came to us so I consulted him on the situation and told him the story of my brothers. He reminded me of the hadÎth of Yahyâ b. Ja’dah and the hadÎth of ‘Âishah.
The hadÎth of Yahyâ b. Ja’dah states that the Prophet – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – said,
“A woman is married for four things:
her religion, her status (lineage),
her wealth or her beauty; so take the religious one and be successful.”
The hadÎth of ‘Âishah states that the Prophet – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – said, “The most blessed woman is she who is easiest to maintain.”
Thus, I chose [to marry a woman of] religion and modest dowry, in accordance with the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, and Allah gave me status and wealth along with the religion.
Abû Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyâ` 7:289, 290.
https://www.sayingsofthesalaf.net/the-blessings-of-marriage-according-to-the-sunnah/
Sayings of the Salaf
The Blessings of Marriage according to the Sunnah - Sayings of the Salaf
Yaḥyā b. Yaḥyā Al-NaysābūrĪ reports: I was once with Sufyān b. 'Uyainah - Allah have mercy on him, when a man came to him and said, "O Abū Muḥammad, I
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Every women should know this:
When he goes silent,
he’s problem solving.
When he gets distant,
he’s protecting his peace.
When he jokes too much,
he’s hiding how tired he really is.
When he says “I’m fine”
he just doesn’t want to burden you
When he gets angry,
it’s frustration, not lack of love.
When he doesn’t talk about feelings
it’s because it’s been used for weakness
When he finally opens up….
don’t make him regret it.
When he goes silent,
he’s problem solving.
When he gets distant,
he’s protecting his peace.
When he jokes too much,
he’s hiding how tired he really is.
When he says “I’m fine”
he just doesn’t want to burden you
When he gets angry,
it’s frustration, not lack of love.
When he doesn’t talk about feelings
it’s because it’s been used for weakness
When he finally opens up….
don’t make him regret it.
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This is just a reminder that Nikah can be conducted:
1. In the absence of bride and groom
2. In a sitting room
3. In just 10 - 15 minutes
4. If you fry small meat with small rice and serve 10 people, you will have performed waleemah.
Any part of your Nikah that is expensive is either as a result of human desires or cultural influence. These aren't bad by default, as long as you are doing it within your means, without haram activities.
1. In the absence of bride and groom
2. In a sitting room
3. In just 10 - 15 minutes
4. If you fry small meat with small rice and serve 10 people, you will have performed waleemah.
Any part of your Nikah that is expensive is either as a result of human desires or cultural influence. These aren't bad by default, as long as you are doing it within your means, without haram activities.
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Never marry just because you have to fullfill someone else's wish or command. Marry when you feel you have found your mate for the sake of Allâh.
May Allah make Nikkah easy for those in search, and grant couples who are trying to conceive offsprings.
May Allah make Nikkah easy for those in search, and grant couples who are trying to conceive offsprings.
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Ibn Taymiyyah on Love |
When you love a person for the sake of Allāh, your love for them is rooted in your love for Allāh. You love them because of their faith, obedience, and closeness to Him. Remembering such a person reminds you of the obedience to Allāh that you love, and this strengthens your love for Allāh and your love for those who are beloved to Him.
In contrast, love that is based only on worldly benefit, such as what someone gives you, does for you, or how they make you feel, is connected to those benefits. When the benefit comes to an end, that love often weakens or disappears. The strongest and most lasting love is the love that is for the sake of Allāh.
Love is at the heart of worship. True worship is founded upon complete love of Allāh together with humility and submission to Him. It is from the creed of Ahl al Sunnah to love Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ more than anyone or anything else. Every other righteous love follows from this foundation.
The Prophet ﷺ informed us that among the seven who will be shaded by Allāh on the Day when there is no shade but His is "two people who loved one another for the sake of Allāh, meeting and parting upon that."
May Allāh make us among them. May He fill our hearts with love for Him and make His love and the love of His Messenger ﷺ the greatest love in our hearts. Āmīn. ✨
When you love a person for the sake of Allāh, your love for them is rooted in your love for Allāh. You love them because of their faith, obedience, and closeness to Him. Remembering such a person reminds you of the obedience to Allāh that you love, and this strengthens your love for Allāh and your love for those who are beloved to Him.
In contrast, love that is based only on worldly benefit, such as what someone gives you, does for you, or how they make you feel, is connected to those benefits. When the benefit comes to an end, that love often weakens or disappears. The strongest and most lasting love is the love that is for the sake of Allāh.
Love is at the heart of worship. True worship is founded upon complete love of Allāh together with humility and submission to Him. It is from the creed of Ahl al Sunnah to love Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ more than anyone or anything else. Every other righteous love follows from this foundation.
The Prophet ﷺ informed us that among the seven who will be shaded by Allāh on the Day when there is no shade but His is "two people who loved one another for the sake of Allāh, meeting and parting upon that."
May Allāh make us among them. May He fill our hearts with love for Him and make His love and the love of His Messenger ﷺ the greatest love in our hearts. Āmīn. ✨
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18+ post.
Intimacy is a major component of marriages. A Muslim, man or woman, cannot get it outside of wedlock as this is Zina. Hence, we should have principled focus on this. Sex is almost mechanical for men, it doesn't take much effort to be aroused and it even takes lesser effort to attain sexual gratification or satisfaction. It's not so for women or some women.
She needs to be emotionally positive with you before she allows you take her. And even after marriage when she has reasons for not being emotionally in tune with you, she won't be enjoying sex , even if she makes herself available. This availability also begins to dwindle as such emotional stressor continues.
When we share bed with our partner we need to understand that this is the closest we will get with a fellow human being , our body has odours , smells that we may not even be aware of. Take for instance , the beard smells if it's wet, has food particles in it , or even picks up odours you may be unaware of. And at times you are oblivious of this odour. Your partner will be aware. Our clothing too. Particularly our inner wears. For both spouses it is essential we take care of personal hygiene Particularly when your spouse is calling your attention to it.
It doesn't make any sense, if your partner tells you she wants you to touch her in a certain way ( which is not haram) and you flat out refuse. Or even doesn't want you to do it in a way. Again, s/he won't be getting this elsewhere. You're the only one especially in a monogamous relationship.
There's no reason to feel ego-bruised if your partner is telling you she hasn't derived the maximum satisfaction, it's rather a time for discussions on how to make it better. Ideally , sex improves with time in marriage, and there's always room for improvement, so you wont be needing any external support apart from the teo of you. The only time you need help will be if there are underlying medical or emotional reasons militating against intimacy.
Talk to your partner. Ask matured people. Consult a doctor if need be. A sexually unsatisfied partner is an angry partner. If Zina becomes an alternative because of sexual inadequacy, she can demand for a separation.
Do it properly.
-Kabir Al Asfar
Intimacy is a major component of marriages. A Muslim, man or woman, cannot get it outside of wedlock as this is Zina. Hence, we should have principled focus on this. Sex is almost mechanical for men, it doesn't take much effort to be aroused and it even takes lesser effort to attain sexual gratification or satisfaction. It's not so for women or some women.
She needs to be emotionally positive with you before she allows you take her. And even after marriage when she has reasons for not being emotionally in tune with you, she won't be enjoying sex , even if she makes herself available. This availability also begins to dwindle as such emotional stressor continues.
When we share bed with our partner we need to understand that this is the closest we will get with a fellow human being , our body has odours , smells that we may not even be aware of. Take for instance , the beard smells if it's wet, has food particles in it , or even picks up odours you may be unaware of. And at times you are oblivious of this odour. Your partner will be aware. Our clothing too. Particularly our inner wears. For both spouses it is essential we take care of personal hygiene Particularly when your spouse is calling your attention to it.
It doesn't make any sense, if your partner tells you she wants you to touch her in a certain way ( which is not haram) and you flat out refuse. Or even doesn't want you to do it in a way. Again, s/he won't be getting this elsewhere. You're the only one especially in a monogamous relationship.
There's no reason to feel ego-bruised if your partner is telling you she hasn't derived the maximum satisfaction, it's rather a time for discussions on how to make it better. Ideally , sex improves with time in marriage, and there's always room for improvement, so you wont be needing any external support apart from the teo of you. The only time you need help will be if there are underlying medical or emotional reasons militating against intimacy.
Talk to your partner. Ask matured people. Consult a doctor if need be. A sexually unsatisfied partner is an angry partner. If Zina becomes an alternative because of sexual inadequacy, she can demand for a separation.
Do it properly.
-Kabir Al Asfar
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Forwarded from EvilEyes&BlackMagic
How Surah Al-Baqarah Can Change Your Life‼️
There was a girl who kept receiving proposals. Many families visited. She was kind, practicing, and well-mannered.
Everyone praised her but after every visit, they’d reject her.Again and again. Over 20 times.
No one explained why. One day, after yet another rejection,
Her father gently asked the guest,
“Please, not to argue, just to understand. Why did you say no?”
The man was uncomfortable.
But finally, he said:“I don’t know how to explain this… but I kept smelling something strange. It wasn’t normal.”
No one else smelled anything.
Not her. Not her family.
The scent was real to him but it wasn’t physical.SubhanAllah.
Sometimes, we don’t know why life is stuck.
Your deen is strong
Your character is good
You’re doing everything “right”
And still nothing moves.
It’s not always laziness or qadr.
Sometimes, it’s a spiritual block.What did she do?
She turned to the one thing guaranteed to cleanse:
The Qur’an.
She began reciting Surah Al-Baqarah consistently.
Every day. No matter what.
And along with it:
– Ruqyah on herself
– Daily Istighfar
– Salawat upon the Prophet ﷺ
– Morning & evening Adhkar
– Deep du’a, full of sincerity
And slowly… the invisible heaviness lifted.
Her path opened.
She got married.Some delays aren’t logical.
Some rejections aren’t personal.
Some barriers are spiritual and need spiritual tools.
Why Surah Al-Baqarah?
Because the Prophet ﷺ said:
“Recite Surah Al-Baqarah, for taking it is a blessing and leaving it is a regret.”
(Muslim)It protects from:
– Evil eye
– Black magic
– Jinn
– Depression
– Emotional blocks
– Stagnation
So if life feels blocked…Don’t panic. Don’t give up. Just begin.
Start with Surah Al-Baqarah.
Let Allah’s words shift what you cannot see.
Because nothing can stand in the way…
when He decides it’s your time.
There was a girl who kept receiving proposals. Many families visited. She was kind, practicing, and well-mannered.
Everyone praised her but after every visit, they’d reject her.Again and again. Over 20 times.
No one explained why. One day, after yet another rejection,
Her father gently asked the guest,
“Please, not to argue, just to understand. Why did you say no?”
The man was uncomfortable.
But finally, he said:“I don’t know how to explain this… but I kept smelling something strange. It wasn’t normal.”
No one else smelled anything.
Not her. Not her family.
The scent was real to him but it wasn’t physical.SubhanAllah.
Sometimes, we don’t know why life is stuck.
Your deen is strong
Your character is good
You’re doing everything “right”
And still nothing moves.
It’s not always laziness or qadr.
Sometimes, it’s a spiritual block.What did she do?
She turned to the one thing guaranteed to cleanse:
The Qur’an.
She began reciting Surah Al-Baqarah consistently.
Every day. No matter what.
And along with it:
– Ruqyah on herself
– Daily Istighfar
– Salawat upon the Prophet ﷺ
– Morning & evening Adhkar
– Deep du’a, full of sincerity
And slowly… the invisible heaviness lifted.
Her path opened.
She got married.Some delays aren’t logical.
Some rejections aren’t personal.
Some barriers are spiritual and need spiritual tools.
Why Surah Al-Baqarah?
Because the Prophet ﷺ said:
“Recite Surah Al-Baqarah, for taking it is a blessing and leaving it is a regret.”
(Muslim)It protects from:
– Evil eye
– Black magic
– Jinn
– Depression
– Emotional blocks
– Stagnation
So if life feels blocked…Don’t panic. Don’t give up. Just begin.
Start with Surah Al-Baqarah.
Let Allah’s words shift what you cannot see.
Because nothing can stand in the way…
when He decides it’s your time.
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Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said :
" If the heart loves Allaah alone and is sincerely devoted to Him, it will not even think of loving anyone else in the first place, let alone falling in love. When a heart falls in love, that is due to the lack of love for Allaah alone. Hence because Yoosuf loved Allaah and was sincerely devoted to Him, he did not fall into the trap of love, rather Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, (guided) slaves”
[Yoosuf 12:24]
As for the wife of al-‘Azeez, she was a mushrik as were her people, hence she fell into this trap."
(Majmoo’ al-Fataawa 10/135)
" If the heart loves Allaah alone and is sincerely devoted to Him, it will not even think of loving anyone else in the first place, let alone falling in love. When a heart falls in love, that is due to the lack of love for Allaah alone. Hence because Yoosuf loved Allaah and was sincerely devoted to Him, he did not fall into the trap of love, rather Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, (guided) slaves”
[Yoosuf 12:24]
As for the wife of al-‘Azeez, she was a mushrik as were her people, hence she fell into this trap."
(Majmoo’ al-Fataawa 10/135)
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Men who marry for looks and women who marry for wealth are both equally robbed in the end.
Deen should be the first criterion in choosing a spouse; other factors can follow.
Deen should be the first criterion in choosing a spouse; other factors can follow.
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Why Is the Blood Money [Diyah, دية] for Women Half That of Men in Islamic Law?
Imam al-Shāfiʿī رحمه الله wrote in '𝘈𝘭-𝘜𝘮𝘮', (6/106):
قال الإمام الشافعي في كتابه "الأم" (6\ 106): «لم أعلم مخالفاً من أهل العلم –قديماً ولا حديثاً– في أن دية المرأة نصف دية الرجل».
"𝗜 𝗱𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘀𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗿, 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁, 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝘆𝗮𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗺𝗮𝗻."
According to the classical consensus of Muslim jurists, in cases of accidental killing, the prescribed compensation (diyah) is:
Man: 𝟭𝟬𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀 🐪🐪
Woman: 𝟱𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀 🐪
Does this mean a woman’s blood is cheaper and her life is worth less than a man's?
The answer is 𝗻𝗼.
This ruling concerns 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵.
The male and female are the same in the sight of God, the Diya (bloodmoney) is simply a financial compensation for the damage caused in worldly life.
The 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 of the family, when he falls, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿, as his 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿, so his wife and family get a 𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀, the emotional impact is equally, if not more davastating, but 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘂𝘀𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀, because the main provider [the man] is still alive, so he gets a 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
This is absolutely fair and makes 100% sense.
The dead person does not take the blood money with them to the grave, it goes to the living relatives to manage their lives.
And if you think about it:
- When a wife (female) dies, her 𝗵𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 (𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗲) and family 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝟱𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀.
- When a husband (male) dies, his 𝘄𝗶𝗳𝗲 (𝗳𝗲𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗲) and family 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝟭𝟬𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀.
If anything, it should be the men who create an uproar, because men receive less compensation than women!
Imam al-Shāfiʿī رحمه الله wrote in '𝘈𝘭-𝘜𝘮𝘮', (6/106):
قال الإمام الشافعي في كتابه "الأم" (6\ 106): «لم أعلم مخالفاً من أهل العلم –قديماً ولا حديثاً– في أن دية المرأة نصف دية الرجل».
"𝗜 𝗱𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘀𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗿, 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁, 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝘆𝗮𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗺𝗮𝗻."
According to the classical consensus of Muslim jurists, in cases of accidental killing, the prescribed compensation (diyah) is:
Man: 𝟭𝟬𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀 🐪🐪
Woman: 𝟱𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀 🐪
Does this mean a woman’s blood is cheaper and her life is worth less than a man's?
The answer is 𝗻𝗼.
This ruling concerns 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵.
The male and female are the same in the sight of God, the Diya (bloodmoney) is simply a financial compensation for the damage caused in worldly life.
The 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 of the family, when he falls, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿, as his 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿, so his wife and family get a 𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀, the emotional impact is equally, if not more davastating, but 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘂𝘀𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀, because the main provider [the man] is still alive, so he gets a 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
This is absolutely fair and makes 100% sense.
The dead person does not take the blood money with them to the grave, it goes to the living relatives to manage their lives.
And if you think about it:
- When a wife (female) dies, her 𝗵𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 (𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗲) and family 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝟱𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀.
- When a husband (male) dies, his 𝘄𝗶𝗳𝗲 (𝗳𝗲𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗲) and family 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝟭𝟬𝟬 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗹𝘀.
If anything, it should be the men who create an uproar, because men receive less compensation than women!
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Nowadays some of our Brothers are too proud to display their wives most especially in social media. Remember my dear Brothers in Islām the beauty of your wives is for your eyes only and not for everyone’s eyes.
BE A MAN WITH GHEERAH 👍🏻 AND NOT A DAYOOTH 👊🏻
And sistters make sure to never marry a “Dayooth” !! Never marry a man who won’t enter Jannah!! The prophet Muhammad sallaAllahu alaihi wa sallam said “The Dayooth will not enter Jannah.” Who is the The Dayooth? He is the man who doesn’t have jealousy on his Maharaim(his mother, sister, wife …) He is the man who would show off his wife, her beauty and her style in front of men He is the one who doesn’t protect her from the eager eyes of strangers (non Mahram) He is the one who accepts that his wife go out with him wearing perfume, putting make up and wearing attractive clothes as if she is an item for sale to others He is the man who is pleased by the admiring glances from stranger men toward his wife He is pleased by sharing her with them!! He would let his sister/his daughter go out with tight clothes, without her Hijab He is the man who knows that his sister/his daughter has a boyfriend but he doesn’t care He never has Jealousy on her and would let her show her charm to any one!! So dear sister, never marry a Dayooth! Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar(rA) reported that the Prophet (saw) said: “Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.” (Ahmad) Ad-Dayooth is the man who permits women for whom he is responsible (eg: mother, wife, sister etc.) to engage in illicit relations, or to display their beauty to strange men, thereby stimulating their sexual desires
BE A MAN WITH GHEERAH 👍🏻 AND NOT A DAYOOTH 👊🏻
And sistters make sure to never marry a “Dayooth” !! Never marry a man who won’t enter Jannah!! The prophet Muhammad sallaAllahu alaihi wa sallam said “The Dayooth will not enter Jannah.” Who is the The Dayooth? He is the man who doesn’t have jealousy on his Maharaim(his mother, sister, wife …) He is the man who would show off his wife, her beauty and her style in front of men He is the one who doesn’t protect her from the eager eyes of strangers (non Mahram) He is the one who accepts that his wife go out with him wearing perfume, putting make up and wearing attractive clothes as if she is an item for sale to others He is the man who is pleased by the admiring glances from stranger men toward his wife He is pleased by sharing her with them!! He would let his sister/his daughter go out with tight clothes, without her Hijab He is the man who knows that his sister/his daughter has a boyfriend but he doesn’t care He never has Jealousy on her and would let her show her charm to any one!! So dear sister, never marry a Dayooth! Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar(rA) reported that the Prophet (saw) said: “Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.” (Ahmad) Ad-Dayooth is the man who permits women for whom he is responsible (eg: mother, wife, sister etc.) to engage in illicit relations, or to display their beauty to strange men, thereby stimulating their sexual desires
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In our society, there are many issues which hide behind the curtain. Youngsters don't even possess the courage to present their personal issues before the scholars or counselors, as a result, strange diseases prevail in the society and lives get shattered. One such issue is that many youngsters, especially men, who are suffering from excessive desire, their marriages are delayed and they want to masturbate or watch porn movies to relieve that. They think and assume that instead of doing zina (committing adultery) this might be less sinful. We would like to address this issue in this post.
They want to obtain relief from this sexual anxiety, but masturbation or watching movies will NOT solve the problem and will NOT weaken the desire. It will it make it WORSE and will ultimately lead them towards adultery.
Actually, people who seek such a solution to control their sexual desires want to treat the disease with the thing that is itself the disease!!!
Believe us, those who opt for such options to relieve themselves will NEVER find healing or relief in either of these two options.
Something that is itself a disease cannot bring healing from a disease; rather it will only make the disease worse.
This is no more than a passing desire and transient pleasure, but what will be left is regret and remorse.
You must do is strive to keep yourself chaste by means of marriage at the earliest possible opportunity. You do not have to be restricted by traditional social requirements; rather you should try to reduce these restrictions as much as possible and hasten to marry someone who will keep you chaste.
Until you are able to do that, you must keep away from movies completely, lower your gaze, and refrain from this secret habit. You should also fast a great deal and strive hard therein and in other acts of worship and all kinds of permissible deeds that will benefit you in this world and in the Hereafter. Do not allow yourself any free time, because if you do not keep your nafs busy with the truth, it will keep you busy with falsehood.
Always bear in mind that Allah is watching you.
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) also said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it should marry, and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.”
Narrated by al-Bukhari (5065) and Muslim (1400).
They want to obtain relief from this sexual anxiety, but masturbation or watching movies will NOT solve the problem and will NOT weaken the desire. It will it make it WORSE and will ultimately lead them towards adultery.
Actually, people who seek such a solution to control their sexual desires want to treat the disease with the thing that is itself the disease!!!
Believe us, those who opt for such options to relieve themselves will NEVER find healing or relief in either of these two options.
Something that is itself a disease cannot bring healing from a disease; rather it will only make the disease worse.
This is no more than a passing desire and transient pleasure, but what will be left is regret and remorse.
You must do is strive to keep yourself chaste by means of marriage at the earliest possible opportunity. You do not have to be restricted by traditional social requirements; rather you should try to reduce these restrictions as much as possible and hasten to marry someone who will keep you chaste.
Until you are able to do that, you must keep away from movies completely, lower your gaze, and refrain from this secret habit. You should also fast a great deal and strive hard therein and in other acts of worship and all kinds of permissible deeds that will benefit you in this world and in the Hereafter. Do not allow yourself any free time, because if you do not keep your nafs busy with the truth, it will keep you busy with falsehood.
Always bear in mind that Allah is watching you.
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) also said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it should marry, and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.”
Narrated by al-Bukhari (5065) and Muslim (1400).
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🥷🏻 A woman does not want much from her husband… just three things—if the husband can provide these,the wife will fall in love with him,become gentle, and be loyal.
1. Attention: Seeing with the heart,listening with the heart.
The most important thing a woman seeks is,Am I important to him?
📗@The Prophet (ﷺ)said,The best among you is the one who is best to his wife.Listening to his wife,paying a little attention, giving her importance—these hold more value in her eyes than gold.
2. Protection: The warm shade of security
A woman’s heart is like a flower…it blooms in the sunlight of love and survives in the shade of security.Allah has said,Men are protectors and maintainers of women.This guardianship is not about harshness—rather,it is that affection where the wife can confidently say,No matter what,I have my husband.
3. Satisfaction: Providing refuge in peace
Allah has said,You are garments for one another.Just as clothing conceals the body, protects it, and enhances beauty—so too is the relationship between husband and wife.Providing each other with mental and marital peace is what brings them closest together.
In summary,when a husband gives his wife Attention, Protection,and Satisfaction—she will naturally love him, respect him,and be ready to do anything for him.
1. Attention: Seeing with the heart,listening with the heart.
The most important thing a woman seeks is,Am I important to him?
📗@The Prophet (ﷺ)said,The best among you is the one who is best to his wife.Listening to his wife,paying a little attention, giving her importance—these hold more value in her eyes than gold.
2. Protection: The warm shade of security
A woman’s heart is like a flower…it blooms in the sunlight of love and survives in the shade of security.Allah has said,Men are protectors and maintainers of women.This guardianship is not about harshness—rather,it is that affection where the wife can confidently say,No matter what,I have my husband.
3. Satisfaction: Providing refuge in peace
Allah has said,You are garments for one another.Just as clothing conceals the body, protects it, and enhances beauty—so too is the relationship between husband and wife.Providing each other with mental and marital peace is what brings them closest together.
In summary,when a husband gives his wife Attention, Protection,and Satisfaction—she will naturally love him, respect him,and be ready to do anything for him.
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