A woman's true beauty is not in her features or shade of her skin, It is in her heart, her Iman, her Taqwa & her love for the Deen. So few men understand this, but even fewer women do.
We live in a world that constantly teaches women to measure their worth by mirrors, filters, and fleeting standards. Skin tone, facial features, body shape. All of it is made to seem like the definition of beauty. But the truth is far deeper, far more lasting.
A woman’s true beauty is not something the eye can fully capture. It is the softness of her heart when she remembers her Lord. It is the strength of her īmān when she is tested. It is her taqwā that holds her back when no one is watching. It is her love for the Deen that shapes her choices, her words, her silence, and her entire life.
Beauty fades. Youth slips away. Trends change. But a heart connected to Allah only grows more radiant with time.
How many women exhaust themselves trying to perfect their outer appearance yet neglect the very thing that gives them true value? And how many men fail to see beyond what is visible, overlooking the light of faith within a woman?
The real tragedy is not that people don’t understand this. It is that even women forget it themselves.
Work on your heart. Beautify your soul. Protect your modesty. Strengthen your connection with Allah. Because the beauty that is seen by people may earn admiration, but the beauty that is seen by Allah earns His love.
And what is greater than being loved by your Creator?
Choose a beauty that does not fade. A beauty that will stand for you on the day when nothing else will.
We live in a world that constantly teaches women to measure their worth by mirrors, filters, and fleeting standards. Skin tone, facial features, body shape. All of it is made to seem like the definition of beauty. But the truth is far deeper, far more lasting.
A woman’s true beauty is not something the eye can fully capture. It is the softness of her heart when she remembers her Lord. It is the strength of her īmān when she is tested. It is her taqwā that holds her back when no one is watching. It is her love for the Deen that shapes her choices, her words, her silence, and her entire life.
Beauty fades. Youth slips away. Trends change. But a heart connected to Allah only grows more radiant with time.
How many women exhaust themselves trying to perfect their outer appearance yet neglect the very thing that gives them true value? And how many men fail to see beyond what is visible, overlooking the light of faith within a woman?
The real tragedy is not that people don’t understand this. It is that even women forget it themselves.
Work on your heart. Beautify your soul. Protect your modesty. Strengthen your connection with Allah. Because the beauty that is seen by people may earn admiration, but the beauty that is seen by Allah earns His love.
And what is greater than being loved by your Creator?
Choose a beauty that does not fade. A beauty that will stand for you on the day when nothing else will.
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FORCED MARRIAGE IS NOT PERMISSIBLE IN ISLAM
Shaykh Jamal Al Harithi
A woman may be forced into marriage for example, a girl may be compelled by her father or brothers to marry someone, such as her cousin or a relative. This type of coercion often occurs among close kin, where she is pressured to marry someone they desire for her, even though she herself does not wish to do so.
The Prophet ﷺ established that a virgin must give her permission, and a previously married woman (thayyib) must give her consent. He said that “the consent of a virgin is signified by her silence.”
[Narrated by Al-Bukhārī]
Therefore, a woman must not be forced into marriage , neither a virgin nor a previously married woman. Likewise, a man must not be coerced into marrying.
If a woman is not to be forced, then it is even more fitting that a man should not be forced. Yet some people, due to tribal or familial pride rooted in pre-Islamic ignorance, compel their sons to marry certain women , such as their cousin or another relative, against their will. The man, though unwilling, consents out of pressure, and remains married for a time until the matter ends in divorce.
This occurs frequently in some societies, and I say of such communities that they are “ignorant societies”, not in the sense of disbelief, but in the sense of ignorance concerning the laws and guidance of Islam.
{Divorce and its causes}
Shaykh Jamal Al Harithi
A woman may be forced into marriage for example, a girl may be compelled by her father or brothers to marry someone, such as her cousin or a relative. This type of coercion often occurs among close kin, where she is pressured to marry someone they desire for her, even though she herself does not wish to do so.
The Prophet ﷺ established that a virgin must give her permission, and a previously married woman (thayyib) must give her consent. He said that “the consent of a virgin is signified by her silence.”
[Narrated by Al-Bukhārī]
Therefore, a woman must not be forced into marriage , neither a virgin nor a previously married woman. Likewise, a man must not be coerced into marrying.
If a woman is not to be forced, then it is even more fitting that a man should not be forced. Yet some people, due to tribal or familial pride rooted in pre-Islamic ignorance, compel their sons to marry certain women , such as their cousin or another relative, against their will. The man, though unwilling, consents out of pressure, and remains married for a time until the matter ends in divorce.
This occurs frequently in some societies, and I say of such communities that they are “ignorant societies”, not in the sense of disbelief, but in the sense of ignorance concerning the laws and guidance of Islam.
{Divorce and its causes}
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“And how many from women would come forward in yawm al Qiyāmah written in their books, ‘Adultress’, and she never committed adultery, and that is due to her perfume and her Tabarruj [a woman adorning herself] between the (non-mahram) men.”
Abū Mūsā al-Ash’ari said: the Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.”
“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.”
[al-Ahzāb 33:33]
Abū Mūsā al-Ash’ari said: the Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.”
“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.”
[al-Ahzāb 33:33]
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Necessary Test Before Marriage
1. HIV & Syphilis test
2. Genotype test
3. Hepatitis B & Hepatitis C
4. Blood Group/Rhesus
5. Pregnancy test
6. Sperm count/Fertility profile test
7. STD test
8. Blood disorder test
9. Complete Blood count
1. HIV & Syphilis test
2. Genotype test
3. Hepatitis B & Hepatitis C
4. Blood Group/Rhesus
5. Pregnancy test
6. Sperm count/Fertility profile test
7. STD test
8. Blood disorder test
9. Complete Blood count
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●•💎•● My sister, what is the purpose of your Abaya?•●
👤Sheikh Salih al Fawzaan
●•💠•● O my brothers! the purpose of the Abaya(*) is [to achieve] covering, not adornment, it is not a garment for adornment, and it is not permissible to be worn for adornment, to be embroidered, to have ornaments, or to open sleeves in it so it becomes like a shirt/thaub [in this case] it won't be an Abaya anymore, it will be a shirt/thaub
•●• So the abaya is for no other reason save covering, it should cover all the body, like a big cloak which is Al Jilbab (i.e, a garment which covers all the body).
•●• So its purpose is covering not adorning. Rather the purpose is covering the adornment in front of men.
•●• Accordingly is not permissible to invent new decorations/styles of the Abaya.
Calling [such Abaya] islamic is merely for marketing, while in reality it is not islamic, this [title] is for marketing purposes. For the islamic Abaya is that which covers [all the body] is thick, free from any ornaments, embroidery or adornment. It has to be plain, without decoration. Yes.
🌐 Source (https://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/ar/node/3192) (Arabic)
(*) Abaya: an outdoor, sleeveless, women's overgarment, that hangs loosely from the head.
Benefit -95-
#Translation
Razaan's Benefits
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👤Sheikh Salih al Fawzaan
●•💠•● O my brothers! the purpose of the Abaya(*) is [to achieve] covering, not adornment, it is not a garment for adornment, and it is not permissible to be worn for adornment, to be embroidered, to have ornaments, or to open sleeves in it so it becomes like a shirt/thaub [in this case] it won't be an Abaya anymore, it will be a shirt/thaub
•●• So the abaya is for no other reason save covering, it should cover all the body, like a big cloak which is Al Jilbab (i.e, a garment which covers all the body).
•●• So its purpose is covering not adorning. Rather the purpose is covering the adornment in front of men.
•●• Accordingly is not permissible to invent new decorations/styles of the Abaya.
Calling [such Abaya] islamic is merely for marketing, while in reality it is not islamic, this [title] is for marketing purposes. For the islamic Abaya is that which covers [all the body] is thick, free from any ornaments, embroidery or adornment. It has to be plain, without decoration. Yes.
🌐 Source (https://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/ar/node/3192) (Arabic)
(*) Abaya: an outdoor, sleeveless, women's overgarment, that hangs loosely from the head.
Benefit -95-
#Translation
Razaan's Benefits
t.me/Razaan_Space
📌 THE PUNISHMENT OF ZINĀ (FORNICATION) IS INDEED SCARY 📌
Imam Ad-Dhahabt relates in Kitaabul Kabaa'ir, that Rasul Allah PBUH said: "Whoever touches a woman who is not lawful for him with lust, he will be resurrected with his hands shackled to his neck on the Day of Judgment. If he kissed her, his lips will be cut off and thrown into the fire. He will then say, "What did I do?" If he committed fornication, his thighs will says, "I was mounted for something impermissible." Then, Allah S.W.T will look at him with such anger that the flesh on the man's face will peel off. Then his tongue will bear witness against him and say, "I spoke to that which was unlawful." Then his legs will say, "I walked towards something haram" Then his hands will say, "I held that which was impermissible for me to hold." Then his eyes will testify against him, "I gazed at that which was haram for me to gaze at." Then his private parts will say, "I committed the act."
Then one angel will say, "I heard it!" And another angel will say, "I wrote it down!" Then Allah will say, "I was aware of it but I concealed it."
*Those who boast with the evil deed they commit too 😗 because these people boasted about their relationship, broadcasted it to their friends, told the whole world about it and walked hand in hand with each other so that everybody knows of their sin, Allah~ will say to the angels: "0 angels! Take him away and torture him! My anger has increased on the one who has no shame."
*●Source📚: Kitabul Kabaair of Imam Ad-Dhahabt*
Allah says in Suratul Al-Isra' 17:32
وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا۟ ٱلزِّنَىٰٓۖ إِنَّهُۥ كَانَ فَٰحِشَةً وَسَآءَ سَبِيلًا
"And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way."
May Allāh save us and our Families from Zina and all deeds that leads to it. Aameen..
Imam Ad-Dhahabt relates in Kitaabul Kabaa'ir, that Rasul Allah PBUH said: "Whoever touches a woman who is not lawful for him with lust, he will be resurrected with his hands shackled to his neck on the Day of Judgment. If he kissed her, his lips will be cut off and thrown into the fire. He will then say, "What did I do?" If he committed fornication, his thighs will says, "I was mounted for something impermissible." Then, Allah S.W.T will look at him with such anger that the flesh on the man's face will peel off. Then his tongue will bear witness against him and say, "I spoke to that which was unlawful." Then his legs will say, "I walked towards something haram" Then his hands will say, "I held that which was impermissible for me to hold." Then his eyes will testify against him, "I gazed at that which was haram for me to gaze at." Then his private parts will say, "I committed the act."
Then one angel will say, "I heard it!" And another angel will say, "I wrote it down!" Then Allah will say, "I was aware of it but I concealed it."
*Those who boast with the evil deed they commit too 😗 because these people boasted about their relationship, broadcasted it to their friends, told the whole world about it and walked hand in hand with each other so that everybody knows of their sin, Allah~ will say to the angels: "0 angels! Take him away and torture him! My anger has increased on the one who has no shame."
*●Source📚: Kitabul Kabaair of Imam Ad-Dhahabt*
Allah says in Suratul Al-Isra' 17:32
وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا۟ ٱلزِّنَىٰٓۖ إِنَّهُۥ كَانَ فَٰحِشَةً وَسَآءَ سَبِيلًا
"And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way."
May Allāh save us and our Families from Zina and all deeds that leads to it. Aameen..
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Forwarded from Muslim Health Tips
Perimenopause does not announce itself. It takes things from you quietly and lets you believe it was your fault.
Look at the top row of this graphic. Forgetting ayat you have known for 20 years. Losing motivation for Sunnah acts you used to love. Feeling disconnected from the deen. Feeling distant from Allah.
Almost nobody says those four out loud. Women decide their iman got weak and make istighfar for something that is partly hormonal.
Estrogen is not only a reproductive hormone. It has receptors in your brain, your bones, your joints, your blood vessels and your gut. When it starts declining and swinging, memory, mood, sleep, focus and motivation go with it. That is why this list is so long, and why it feels like 40 unrelated problems instead of one transition.
This is not you falling apart. This is not a spiritual failure. This is a hormonal shift nobody prepared you for.
And much of it responds to real intervention. Stabilizing your blood sugar. Building muscle. Protecting your sleep. Sitting in front of a doctor who takes you seriously.
One thing I will not scroll past. If suicidal thoughts are on your list, please do not carry that alone. Call or text 988 in the US, any hour. For Muslim-specific support, Naseeha is 1-866-627-3342, also 24/7. Reaching out is not weakness in your deen.
Share this with a woman who thinks she is losing her deen. She may be losing estrogen. 🙌🏾
Look at the top row of this graphic. Forgetting ayat you have known for 20 years. Losing motivation for Sunnah acts you used to love. Feeling disconnected from the deen. Feeling distant from Allah.
Almost nobody says those four out loud. Women decide their iman got weak and make istighfar for something that is partly hormonal.
Estrogen is not only a reproductive hormone. It has receptors in your brain, your bones, your joints, your blood vessels and your gut. When it starts declining and swinging, memory, mood, sleep, focus and motivation go with it. That is why this list is so long, and why it feels like 40 unrelated problems instead of one transition.
This is not you falling apart. This is not a spiritual failure. This is a hormonal shift nobody prepared you for.
And much of it responds to real intervention. Stabilizing your blood sugar. Building muscle. Protecting your sleep. Sitting in front of a doctor who takes you seriously.
One thing I will not scroll past. If suicidal thoughts are on your list, please do not carry that alone. Call or text 988 in the US, any hour. For Muslim-specific support, Naseeha is 1-866-627-3342, also 24/7. Reaching out is not weakness in your deen.
Share this with a woman who thinks she is losing her deen. She may be losing estrogen. 🙌🏾
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High-value woman or high-value man is not really about money, beauty, status, followers, or how desirable someone appears to the world; it is about the quality of the person they have become when no one is watching.
A high-value person knows their worth without needing to prove that they are better than others; they possess self-respect without arrogance, confidence without entitlement, and strength without cruelty. They understand that emotional maturity means being able to regulate anger, desires, impulses, jealousy, and disappointment rather than becoming a slave to them. They take responsibility for their mistakes instead of blaming circumstances or manipulating others to escape accountability. They have boundaries because they understand that kindness without boundaries can become self-abandonment, and love without self-respect can become dependency.
They do not confuse intensity with intimacy, attention with love, or potential with character. They observe actions, consistency, integrity, and responsibility because they understand a profound truth: people should be judged by the patterns they repeatedly demonstrate, not by the promises they occasionally make.
They do not enter relationships believing they can rescue, repair, or transform another adult through love; they choose people based on who they actually are, not merely on who they might become. They can love deeply without losing themselves, forgive without becoming foolish, walk away without hatred, and remain compassionate without tolerating abuse.
They communicate honestly, handle disagreement with dignity, and refuse to participate in mind games, emotional blackmail, silent punishment, or manipulation. They continuously work on themselves because they understand that self-improvement is not about becoming superior to others, it is about becoming less controlled by one’s own weaknesses.
Ultimately, a high-value person is not someone who has convinced the world of their worth; it is someone whose character gives that worth substance. Their greatest asset is not what they possess, but who they are; not how many people desire them, but how wisely they choose; not how much attention they receive, but how much integrity they maintain when attention disappears.
In a world obsessed with appearance, validation, and superficial standards, true value remains remarkably simple: character, self-respect, emotional discipline, moral integrity, humility, responsibility, and the wisdom to choose relationships that preserve rather than destroy your dignity and peace.
A high-value person knows their worth without needing to prove that they are better than others; they possess self-respect without arrogance, confidence without entitlement, and strength without cruelty. They understand that emotional maturity means being able to regulate anger, desires, impulses, jealousy, and disappointment rather than becoming a slave to them. They take responsibility for their mistakes instead of blaming circumstances or manipulating others to escape accountability. They have boundaries because they understand that kindness without boundaries can become self-abandonment, and love without self-respect can become dependency.
They do not confuse intensity with intimacy, attention with love, or potential with character. They observe actions, consistency, integrity, and responsibility because they understand a profound truth: people should be judged by the patterns they repeatedly demonstrate, not by the promises they occasionally make.
They do not enter relationships believing they can rescue, repair, or transform another adult through love; they choose people based on who they actually are, not merely on who they might become. They can love deeply without losing themselves, forgive without becoming foolish, walk away without hatred, and remain compassionate without tolerating abuse.
They communicate honestly, handle disagreement with dignity, and refuse to participate in mind games, emotional blackmail, silent punishment, or manipulation. They continuously work on themselves because they understand that self-improvement is not about becoming superior to others, it is about becoming less controlled by one’s own weaknesses.
Ultimately, a high-value person is not someone who has convinced the world of their worth; it is someone whose character gives that worth substance. Their greatest asset is not what they possess, but who they are; not how many people desire them, but how wisely they choose; not how much attention they receive, but how much integrity they maintain when attention disappears.
In a world obsessed with appearance, validation, and superficial standards, true value remains remarkably simple: character, self-respect, emotional discipline, moral integrity, humility, responsibility, and the wisdom to choose relationships that preserve rather than destroy your dignity and peace.
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Ibn 'Abbās رضي الله عنه said:
❝Marry for if the servant of Allāh commits zinā,
Allāh snatches the light of Eemān from him,
and may or may not return it❞
● {الطبقات الكبرى ٥/٢٨٧}
You're too young for Nikkah, but not too young for illegal sexual intercourse (Zina).
May Allah forgive us and may we end well
(آمين)
Zina is common because it only needs a place, while Nikah requires car, house, wealth and luxury.
A man has done NOTHING for you until he makes you his wife.
He won’t let you commit zina and instead marry you to keep you pure and safe from sin.
If that is not true gesture of love, then I don’t know what that is.
❝Marry for if the servant of Allāh commits zinā,
Allāh snatches the light of Eemān from him,
and may or may not return it❞
● {الطبقات الكبرى ٥/٢٨٧}
You're too young for Nikkah, but not too young for illegal sexual intercourse (Zina).
May Allah forgive us and may we end well
(آمين)
Zina is common because it only needs a place, while Nikah requires car, house, wealth and luxury.
A man has done NOTHING for you until he makes you his wife.
He won’t let you commit zina and instead marry you to keep you pure and safe from sin.
If that is not true gesture of love, then I don’t know what that is.
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The sisters of yesterday shied away from unnecessary attention.
The sisters of today compete for likes and views, their faces glowing under filters.
The sisters of yesterday lowered their gaze, guarding their hearts from fitnah.
The sisters of today take selfies with angles that invite gazes they claim to detest.
The sisters of yesterday sought knowledge from scholars with humility.
The sisters of today follow influencers who mix truth with desires, reshaping modesty into trends.
The sisters of yesterday preferred the company of righteous women, reminding each other of the hereafter.
The sisters of today form circles where gossip and fashion take center stage, with “deen talk” as a side note.
The sisters of yesterday valued their husbands and homes, seeing them as part of their ‘ibadah.
The sisters of today are told that submission is oppression, that a woman’s worth lies in how loud she can be.
The sisters of yesterday feared the fire of Hell and hoped for Jannah.
The sisters of today say, “Don’t judge me, only Allah can.”
But tomorrow? Who will the next generation of sisters become?
- Eeman Spur
The sisters of today compete for likes and views, their faces glowing under filters.
The sisters of yesterday lowered their gaze, guarding their hearts from fitnah.
The sisters of today take selfies with angles that invite gazes they claim to detest.
The sisters of yesterday sought knowledge from scholars with humility.
The sisters of today follow influencers who mix truth with desires, reshaping modesty into trends.
The sisters of yesterday preferred the company of righteous women, reminding each other of the hereafter.
The sisters of today form circles where gossip and fashion take center stage, with “deen talk” as a side note.
The sisters of yesterday valued their husbands and homes, seeing them as part of their ‘ibadah.
The sisters of today are told that submission is oppression, that a woman’s worth lies in how loud she can be.
The sisters of yesterday feared the fire of Hell and hoped for Jannah.
The sisters of today say, “Don’t judge me, only Allah can.”
But tomorrow? Who will the next generation of sisters become?
- Eeman Spur
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Secrets of your Spouse ...
1. To Marry: Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love: Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search: Mostly Women Search for Character of Men. So its easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of Women so if he find better one he can forget her but if she makes any mistake to him its difficult to forgive her.
Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relation with your spouse 😊
Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love ❤
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love ❤
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you wanthim to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say, "well her husband doesn't do that, why do you" (thats a killer!)
11. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allâh subhanahu wa ta’ala preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners. Ameen
1. To Marry: Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love: Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search: Mostly Women Search for Character of Men. So its easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of Women so if he find better one he can forget her but if she makes any mistake to him its difficult to forgive her.
Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relation with your spouse 😊
Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love ❤
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love ❤
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you wanthim to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say, "well her husband doesn't do that, why do you" (thats a killer!)
11. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allâh subhanahu wa ta’ala preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners. Ameen
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Three Men and Three Women.
It is reported that ʿUmar b. Al-Khaṭṭāb al Farook (radiAllahuanhuma) said:
There are three types of men and three types of women.
■ As for the women, then [one] is the chaste, Muslim, gentle, loving and childbearing woman. She helps her family in difficult situations and does not help situations to overcome her family. Rarely will you find such women.
■ Another is a vessel, she does nothing more than bear children.
■ The third type is a shackle, Allāh puts her around the neck of whomsoever he wills, and when he wills to remove it, he removes it.
Men are [also] three kinds.
■ [The first is] a chaste, easy, gentle man who possesses opinion (insight) and is worthy of being consulted; and when a matter befalls him, he follows his insight, and approaches matters as they should be.
■ The second is a man who has no opinions of his own, and when a matter befalls him he goes to the one who does have insight and should be consulted, and he adopts his opinion on the matter.
■ The third is a man who is confused, lost and aimless; he neither follows (seeks) guidance, nor obeys any guide.
Al-Bayhaqī, Shuʿab Al-Īmān 10:39 ḥadīth 7131.
It is reported that ʿUmar b. Al-Khaṭṭāb al Farook (radiAllahuanhuma) said:
There are three types of men and three types of women.
■ As for the women, then [one] is the chaste, Muslim, gentle, loving and childbearing woman. She helps her family in difficult situations and does not help situations to overcome her family. Rarely will you find such women.
■ Another is a vessel, she does nothing more than bear children.
■ The third type is a shackle, Allāh puts her around the neck of whomsoever he wills, and when he wills to remove it, he removes it.
Men are [also] three kinds.
■ [The first is] a chaste, easy, gentle man who possesses opinion (insight) and is worthy of being consulted; and when a matter befalls him, he follows his insight, and approaches matters as they should be.
■ The second is a man who has no opinions of his own, and when a matter befalls him he goes to the one who does have insight and should be consulted, and he adopts his opinion on the matter.
■ The third is a man who is confused, lost and aimless; he neither follows (seeks) guidance, nor obeys any guide.
Al-Bayhaqī, Shuʿab Al-Īmān 10:39 ḥadīth 7131.
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Fear Allāh
The Prophet صللہ علیہ وسلم said;
“I advise you to be shy of Allāh like you are shy of a pious man from amongst your people.”
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The Prophet صللہ علیہ وسلم said;
“I advise you to be shy of Allāh like you are shy of a pious man from amongst your people.”
📚 [رواه الطبراني في المعجم الكبير ٥٥٣٩ ، وصححه الالباني في صحيح الجامع ٢٥٤١]
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"Marriage is supposed to be a place where two people lighten each other's load and make their world brighter. Not a place where you dump all your problems on the other and suck the life out of them and cause them to be miserably happy."
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THE IMPORTANCE OF KEEPING THE FEMALE VIRGINITY BEFORE MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.
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Virginity is a very strong sign of chastity in Islam. It cannot be underestimated today no matter what reasons we choose to profer here or elsewhere. The Prophet s.a.w. did recommend marrying virgins. That does not mean only those with intact hymens but those who have never attempted premarital sex till the time of nikah. Meeting the hymen intact or seeing blood stains on the first night is not as important as knowing that no man has touched the lady before getting married for the first time.
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The nikah of those married as virgins are not the same with those married after they have lost their virginity through premarital sex because their first partner remains on their mind. Women should strive to keep their virginity till their first night in marriage for their first ever legal husband. That is the joy of it all and that is the culture that Islam treasures a lot and also a practice treasured in so many tribes and cultures of the world.
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Virginity may not tell you the state of the heart but it definitely sends a strong message of morality, fidelity, chastity, loyalty and good home training and upbringing. No right thinking man will like to wish away such rare and invaluable precious qualities in a woman.
We are not marrying from Hollywood, Bollywood or Nollywood. We are marrying from a pool of well trained muslim sisters from good Islamic homes. That is why Allah says that the fornicator should marry the fornicatress, and the pure and chaste men should also marry the pure and chaste women.
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Besides it does not matter or make much difference if a lady has been in jahiliyah or not prior to the time of practising Islam well and getting married. Jahiliyah is different from jahiliyah. There is jahiliyah with good home training and moral upbringing and there is jahiliyah with lack of home training and reckless and immoral upbringing. The fact that a lady grew up without Islam doesn't mean that she must have grown up loose without morality and chastity. Jahiliyah is not synonymous with reckless and immoral living and engaging in premarital sex and affairs. Most of our pious predecessors including the Prophet s.a.w. married before Islam during jahiliyah (ignorant) period and they married chaste women. In most cultures in the world, both Muslim and non-muslim, virginity and chastity are two inseparable twin qualities of good marriable spinsters.
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We are not saying that only virgins are chaste but being virgins at the time of nikah is a sure proof of chastity. Of course there are exceptions but they must remain exceptions because the accepted and recommended norm in Islam is to marry muhsanat which means chaste women either from the never married who are expected to be virgins and previously married chaste women from among the widows and divorcees who must have been married as virgins the first time they got married.
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However virgins are given priority over the previously married chaste women in the Sunnah of the Prophet (s.a.w.). Exceptions are chaste women who lost their virginity
through rape or exercises when small but they must feel the loss and wish they didn't lose it physically though they remain chaste because virginity is a virtue and remains a virtue in today's immoral world though lack of hayah i.e. Islamic shyness and modesty in women is making many to disregard the sanctity and sacredness attached to virginity.
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Those who lost their virginity before
developing islamic consciousness but later sincerely repented are among the chaste women but they are not equal with those who eventually married as virgins. That is why the Prophet s.a.w. said that paradise is guaranteed for any muslim man who succeeds in raising three, two or even one daughter with sound morals till he marries them out. This is their reward for marrying out their daughters as virgins.
.
.
Virginity is a very strong sign of chastity in Islam. It cannot be underestimated today no matter what reasons we choose to profer here or elsewhere. The Prophet s.a.w. did recommend marrying virgins. That does not mean only those with intact hymens but those who have never attempted premarital sex till the time of nikah. Meeting the hymen intact or seeing blood stains on the first night is not as important as knowing that no man has touched the lady before getting married for the first time.
.
The nikah of those married as virgins are not the same with those married after they have lost their virginity through premarital sex because their first partner remains on their mind. Women should strive to keep their virginity till their first night in marriage for their first ever legal husband. That is the joy of it all and that is the culture that Islam treasures a lot and also a practice treasured in so many tribes and cultures of the world.
.
Virginity may not tell you the state of the heart but it definitely sends a strong message of morality, fidelity, chastity, loyalty and good home training and upbringing. No right thinking man will like to wish away such rare and invaluable precious qualities in a woman.
We are not marrying from Hollywood, Bollywood or Nollywood. We are marrying from a pool of well trained muslim sisters from good Islamic homes. That is why Allah says that the fornicator should marry the fornicatress, and the pure and chaste men should also marry the pure and chaste women.
.
Besides it does not matter or make much difference if a lady has been in jahiliyah or not prior to the time of practising Islam well and getting married. Jahiliyah is different from jahiliyah. There is jahiliyah with good home training and moral upbringing and there is jahiliyah with lack of home training and reckless and immoral upbringing. The fact that a lady grew up without Islam doesn't mean that she must have grown up loose without morality and chastity. Jahiliyah is not synonymous with reckless and immoral living and engaging in premarital sex and affairs. Most of our pious predecessors including the Prophet s.a.w. married before Islam during jahiliyah (ignorant) period and they married chaste women. In most cultures in the world, both Muslim and non-muslim, virginity and chastity are two inseparable twin qualities of good marriable spinsters.
.
We are not saying that only virgins are chaste but being virgins at the time of nikah is a sure proof of chastity. Of course there are exceptions but they must remain exceptions because the accepted and recommended norm in Islam is to marry muhsanat which means chaste women either from the never married who are expected to be virgins and previously married chaste women from among the widows and divorcees who must have been married as virgins the first time they got married.
.
However virgins are given priority over the previously married chaste women in the Sunnah of the Prophet (s.a.w.). Exceptions are chaste women who lost their virginity
through rape or exercises when small but they must feel the loss and wish they didn't lose it physically though they remain chaste because virginity is a virtue and remains a virtue in today's immoral world though lack of hayah i.e. Islamic shyness and modesty in women is making many to disregard the sanctity and sacredness attached to virginity.
.
Those who lost their virginity before
developing islamic consciousness but later sincerely repented are among the chaste women but they are not equal with those who eventually married as virgins. That is why the Prophet s.a.w. said that paradise is guaranteed for any muslim man who succeeds in raising three, two or even one daughter with sound morals till he marries them out. This is their reward for marrying out their daughters as virgins.
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