Appreciation from shaitan who separates man from his wife

A healthy marriage is two people constantly asking, 'How can I love you better today?' instead of 'Why aren't you loving me enough?'

TRUE LOVE DOESN’T FOLLOW A SPOUSE INTO SIN — IT GUIDES THEM TOWARDS JANNAH.

Marriage is built upon love, loyalty and obedience to Allāh not blindly following one another into disobedience.

“He’s my husband, so I must follow him.” But obedience to a spouse never takes priority over obedience to Allāh.

Allāh says:

وَلَا تَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْإِثْمِ وَالْعُدْوَانِ

“And do not cooperate in sin and aggression.” [Al-Māʾidah 5:2]

A righteous spouse advises with wisdom, discourages sin and helps their partner remain firm upon the Sunnah.

True companionship in marriage is helping one another reach Jannah not pleasing each other at the expense of displeasing Allāh.

MEN, DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO MAKE YOUR WIFE GLOW.

A woman who has peace of mind in her marriage will often carry a different kind of beauty. There is a softness in her face, a light in her eyes, and a confidence in the way she carries herself. She may age, but somehow, people will look at her and wonder, “What is your secret? You don't even look your age!”

Sometimes, the secret is not an expensive skincare routine, a luxurious wardrobe, or a perfect diet. Sometimes, it is peace.

A woman who is constantly worried, anxious, disrespected, neglected, or emotionally exhausted may begin to lose the joy that once reflected so beautifully on her face. When home becomes a place of tension rather than tranquility, the effects can show—not because she has stopped caring for herself, but because emotional exhaustion can take a toll.

Dear husbands, your wife should not have to recover from her marriage.

Do not be the reason she is constantly crying in private and pretending to be fine in public. Do not make her compete for your attention, affection, or kindness. Do not make her feel that she must earn the tenderness that should naturally exist between spouses.

Make your home a place where she feels safe. Speak to her with kindness. Appreciate her efforts. Listen when she speaks. Make her laugh. Give her reasons to smile. Be generous with affection. Protect her dignity. Help her when she is overwhelmed. Notice when she is tired. Compliment her. Surprise her sometimes. Make her feel beautiful—not only when she is dressed up, but even in the ordinary moments of everyday life.

And please understand this: making your wife glow is not about spending all your money on her.

Sometimes, it is a gentle hug after a difficult day.
Sometimes, it is taking something off her plate without being asked.
Sometimes, it is saying, “I appreciate you.”
Sometimes, it is reassuring her when she is worried.
Sometimes, it is simply giving her your undivided attention.

A woman who feels loved, valued, respected, and emotionally secure is more likely to bloom in ways that money cannot purchase.
Men, love your wives so well that their hearts find rest in your presence.

Let her marriage be one of the reasons she becomes more beautiful with age—not because marriage has stopped the years, but because peace has accompanied her through them.
Your wife is your amanah. Treat her with ihsān.

And when people ask her why she still looks so radiant after all these years, perhaps she will smile and say:

“Alhamdulillah, I have peace at home.”

Forgiveness is the lifeblood of marriage.

Every marriage is made up of two imperfect people.

Regardless of how compatible you are with your spouse, you will offend, disappointed or hurt each other frequently, sometimes multiple times in a single day.

Be a good forgiver.

BE CAREFUL WITH UR INTENSION, BEFORE GETTING MARRIED.

Imam Sufyan Ibn Uyaynah

"Whoever marries for status will be tried with humiliation;

whoever marries for wealth will be tried with poverty;

but whoever marries for religion, Allāh gathers for him honour and wealth along with the religion."

- Hilyat al-Awliyā

Dear parents, elder siblings

Please educate your young daughters/sisters the dangers of becoming public at social media. If you don’t know, let me tell you it’s frightengly dangerous. Educate her that her personal pic at social media, her personal moment, her showing her room, her house, her location, her private life, can be easily misused by some pervert, psychopath, dark web, etc.

Save her from extremely bad role models like tiktok girls/models and so-called young social media influencers. They are the worse content to watch. Educate her about extremely dangerous groups at insta/snapchat/WhatsApp where extremely dangerous and immoral obnoxious games are being played by teens and her modesty and innocence will be taken away in a matter of hours. Please educate her

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“Zina is a great evil which can destroy society. It is contrary to the benefit of the global values of preserving lineage, protecting chastity and the sanctity of individuals. It spreads animosity and enmity among people, as committing zina affects other people's wives, mothers, sisters and daughters. It causes destruction to human society, and therefore comes after the evil of killing in terms of the grade of its evil.”

📕 [Spiritual Disease and Its’ Cure | P.180]

Marriage is a half of your deen so live with each other honourably

Some wives are married to good men, but because those men are not rich yet, they treat them like less of a man.

He is working. He is trying. He is building something with what he has. But every time she sees another woman’s husband buying a car or building a house, suddenly her own husband is not doing enough.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a better life. Every family wants progress. But respect that man, as long as he is ambitious he will pull it off. Be patient and be supportive, don’t be the reason he quits.

Many married women are miserable because they chose the wrong man for the wrong reasons.

They chose the guy with the biggest wallet or the most status, not the guy who could actually make them happy. Now they have the lifestyle but not the love.

What they saw at first was the bank account. Now they're mad that the bank account comes with a man they don't even like.

Dear Brothers You can marry a woman for her wealth, but money will perish.

You can marry a woman for her beauty, but beauty will fade away.

You can marry a woman for her power, but power will be gone...

But if you marry a pious righteous woman who fears ALLAH ( ﷻ ) she will honour you,

will be affectionate with you and help you to get closer to ALLAH ( ﷻ )

Your love story will last forever.

It will begin in this life and will continue in the hereafter In-Sha ALLAH

her love for you will be your Jannah in Dunya and her satisfaction will be your key to Jannah in Akhirah

HOW TO SPEAK TO YOUR HUSBAND

Shaykh Badr al-'Utaybī Said:

1. Do NOT neglect to greet your husband with the Islāmic salutation, especially when he enters the home.

2. After greeting him with the Islāmic salutation, rush to him with a warm welcome, saying, "WELCOME, feel comfortable, welcome, feel at ease" Or you can say "hayak Allāh" or "Hayyāka wa bayyāka"

3. CONSOLE him by mentioning his good qualities: this will strengthen his honour and determination.

4. Use the most beautiful speech, expressing your LOVE and affection.

5. Do not raise your VOICE like the argument of the deaf, nor lower it like the one telling a secret, but speak to him with a voice that he can hear and does not annoy him.

6. Beware of saying things that you will later regret. Choose your words wisely when SPEAKING to your husband.

[TWENTY PIECES OF ADVICE TO MY SISTERS, PAGE 125-128]

Umrah is an Act of Worship Not a Romantic Getaway

The Pains of Widows and Divorcees.

"I beg oo, help me talk to imām, I wan marry oo. My body is asking...," message from a single mother of two who is in dire need of a man in her life.

This is just one out of the many we receive on a daily basis. Those women are either widowed or divorced. But for zinā that is prohibited, I'm doubly sure most of them will not even bother giving a man another chance in their lives. They will remain single and get themselves serviced by some promiscuous men.

They are disturbed by sexual urge, and they need legitimately married men (not boyfriends) to help fulfill that inevitable need. Some do not even worry about the urge; all they need is conjugal companionship - men that will see to their welfare and give them that masculine guidance and guardianship. That's all they need.

And for the women who mock them, just remember you aren't dead yet, and you obviously do not know what will end your marriage too. Many were those who started well but ended it in the well of worries.

Not all divorce cases were caused by the women. Some were just unfortunate to have found themselves in the hands of pathologically irresponsible husbands, and they needed to have such saddening relationships ended. We cannot, however, close our eyes to the truism that some of them are attitudinally bankrupt. They are disobedient, stubborn, dirty, rude, uncultured, irresponsible, etc. I don't know if an Angel would be able to cope with such a filthy woman, let alone a human.

Plural marriage is the solution to this marital menace, and Allāh be praised for giving it an express approval in His Book. But our women are the problem: they hate that injunction of Allāh. If they had their way, it would be erased from the Qur'ān. Many, I have no doubt, have become unbelievers as a result. They don't see anything good about polygyny. And this is because they are not yet affected. Do we start praying that they too become widowed or divorced so that they feel both the hit and the heat? I just confirmed that women are truly the enemies of women. They will accept no second wife, and they will satanically teach their friends not to. If their husbands try it, they become monsters acting like wild animals that feast on human flesh. Their disposition is worse than that of a mad person.

The woman married as second too doesn't act as if she loves herself. Rather than calm down, put herself in the shoes of the first and enjoy her marriage, she goes in with a preconceived mind. Battle lines would have already been drawn by her. She's ready to fight even when there's no one to hit. She wants to take the baton from her predecessor rather than share it with her. By so doing, the sweet home is broken apart, and she returns to her sorry state of loneliness. What could be stupider than this? Do we say she has maggots in her head?

Most of the brothers I know yearning to go polygynous aren't considering widows or divorcees; they rather passionately prefer singles. Some will even say they want virgins. It's their choice, anyway, but that, no doubt, is one of the reasons widows and divorcees are numberless in town. I'm hoping to write an extensive article on this anytime soon, in shā Allāh.

But I should urge our brothers to consider our sisters in need. I know many who are in their 30s; some are in their 20s. In fact, I have one who is just 20 years of age, and she's a divorcee.

Sanni Kay Yūsuf

🥷🏻 Those who do not understand the grammar of the heart,🫀how will they comprehend the essence of 💕love?

🥷🏻Marriage is not just about spending nights together; marriage is a promise of togetherness for eternity.

‎Shaykh Abdur Razaq al-Badr
‎حفظه الله said: “The home is a place of
‎tranquility and the wife is also a place of
‎tranquility. The home is a place of
‎tranquility for the body, whereasthe wife is a place of tranquility for the soul.”

‎📚 •Sharh Umdat al-Ahkām

My sister, good marriages aren’t always showcased on social media.

In real life, there are intentional couples who support, grow, and show up for each other with love and care.

No, their marriage isn’t perfect.

But it’s not toxic, cold, or performative.

It’s real, built on mutual respect, effort, and prayer (dua).

Sexual Health Tips

1. The genitals are delicate organs that are private for a reason. It wasn't meant to be a public property. Be mindful of where it goes and what goes into it. It is both an organ of pleasure and a door to regret depending on how you use it.

2. If not because it will be censored, I will have shown you images of genitals infected by Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) if that will prompt you to reconsider certain decisions. They are images I use to teach my students and they are always a sight for sore eyes. The pleasure is not worth gambling your precious genital on illegal territories. Whoever has had multiple sexual partners is a potential carrier of STI, without exception!

3. If you are sexually active and you or your sexual partner has or had another sexual partner, you should get yourself checked often for STI. If you are a woman this is twice as necessary. Untreated STI potentially leads to PID and infertility, and even more dangerous complications.

4. A woman should know the different kinds of discharges from her gentials based on consistency, colour and smell so she can tell when something is amiss and seek prompt medical attention.

5. If you are married and you discover you have an STI, it is left to you how you trace the source of the infection and who you accuse, but it is non-negotiable that you and your spouse, as well as the third person, or fourth... or nth gets treated. Anyone in the sexual triangle must be treated else treatment will be an effort in futility.

6. STIs can also cause infertility in men through inflammation, scarring and even blockage of reproductive tract or affecting sperm quality.

7. Absence of symptoms does not mean absence of infection.
Many STIs (including chlamydia, gonorrhea, HPV, HIV) can be silent for months or years while damage is ongoing. Waiting for pain or discharge before testing is a mistake.

8. Condoms reduce risk; they do not make sèx “safe.”
They lower transmission of many STIs but do not fully protect against skin-to-skin infections like HPV, herpes, or syphilis. Risk is reduced, not eliminated.

9. Oral sèx is not “safe séx.”
STIs such as gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, HPV, and even HIV can be transmitted orally. The mouth is also a mucosal surface. Because of the particular risk of cancer from HPV, I will greatly discourage oral sex being performed on or received from ANYONE whose STI status you don't know or previous sexually history isn't certain, EVEN IF YOU ARE MARRIED. A test should be all it takes to settle this.

10. Repeated STIs increase long-term damage.
Each untreated or repeated infection increases the risk of chronic pelvic pain, ectopic pregnancy, infertility, urethral strictures, and sexual dysfunction. Take the abstinence decision today and stick to it.

11. Antibiotics are not a reset button.
Self-medication, incomplete treatment, or wrong drugs promote resistance. Drug-resistant gonorrhea is now a real and growing menace. Get the right treatment! Complete your treatment.

12. Not all itching or discharge is an STI, but assuming it isn’t can cost you, especially if stays for too long.
Yeast, bacterial vaginosis, dermatitis, and allergies exist, but only testing differentiates them, especially if you are sexually active. Guesswork delays proper care.

13. If a spouse refuses testing, protection, or treatment despite clear evidence of sexual activity outside marriage, they are deliberately putting you in harms way. This is not romance, trust, love or endurance, it is negligence. You have the right to refuse intercourse with a spouse that has had sexual contact outside the marital agreement. Your safety trumps your marital obligation

14. Sexual history matters more than sexual appearance. Clean looks, wealth, education, or religious appearance do not correlate with infection status. Only testing does!

15. Confidential testing exists, use it. Go to the nearest Hospital and get tested.
Fear of stigma should never outweigh fear of permanent damage. Early detection saves organs, fertility, and lives.

In the end, nothing beats abstinence, and this is why a chaste person should not marry other than a chaste person and vice versa. Your innocence will not save you from the consequences of such a decision.

Abu Imrān