"Love and attachment should be for Allah alone. Try not to confuse "attachment with "people & love." Your love should be purely for Allah alone. Any other attachment or love is fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of one's self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love when loving a people because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because your already full and content loving Allah."
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If a man cannot understand something as basic as this, he is failing to recognize that men are generally bigger and physically stronger and therefore should take responsibility for physically demanding tasks, especially when their wife is pregnant and carrying their future child. A husband's role is to carry the heavy loads, act like a gentleman, and show chivalry, claiming that such behavior is more likely to earn a woman's love, care, and respect and that many women find it attractive because it reflects strength, responsibility, and masculinity, while criticizing men who reject these traditional expectations. It is true that, on average, men have greater upper-body strength than women, and during pregnancy, avoiding unnecessary heavy lifting is often medically recommended depending on the stage of pregnancy and individual circumstances. Being considerate and sharing physical burdens can therefore be a caring and supportive behavior.
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Women lose sexual interest when they are emotionally disappointed.
This is a truth most men do not want to hear that you can be physically attractive, you can even be very good in bed but if you keep emotionally disappointing her, her desire for you will slowly die.
A woman's body will not fully open up to a man who keeps hurting her heart. She can go through the motions, but the passion and genuine desire completely disappear.
Every time you dismiss her feelings, every time you break your word, every time you make her feel unseen, her attraction fades. She stops initiating. She stops getting excited. When you touch her, she starts making excuses not to be intimate with you.
This is not about her being difficult, this is her body and mind protecting her. She cannot separate emotional disappointment from physical desire.
If you want her to want you again, stop focusing only on the physical, start healing the emotional disconnection you created.
Consistency and emotional safety matter most. Fix the emotional side first because when a woman's heart stops feeling safe, her body slowly follows.
This is a truth most men do not want to hear that you can be physically attractive, you can even be very good in bed but if you keep emotionally disappointing her, her desire for you will slowly die.
A woman's body will not fully open up to a man who keeps hurting her heart. She can go through the motions, but the passion and genuine desire completely disappear.
Every time you dismiss her feelings, every time you break your word, every time you make her feel unseen, her attraction fades. She stops initiating. She stops getting excited. When you touch her, she starts making excuses not to be intimate with you.
This is not about her being difficult, this is her body and mind protecting her. She cannot separate emotional disappointment from physical desire.
If you want her to want you again, stop focusing only on the physical, start healing the emotional disconnection you created.
Consistency and emotional safety matter most. Fix the emotional side first because when a woman's heart stops feeling safe, her body slowly follows.
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No matter how much a man may actually love his wife, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel loved.
No matter how much he does appreciate her, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel appreciated.
No husband or wife is ever perfect, but when a husband shows love, care, and support for his wife and acts in accordance with the principles of Islam, he will surely earn not only her love and respect but that of Allah Himself. Everybody knows how to love, but few people know how to stay in love forever with one person.
Don't restrict the love towards your wife. All a woman really wants is for her husband to hold her face gently between his two hands and tell her how pretty she is!
May Allah SWT bless us all with a happy and everlasting marriage. Ameen
No matter how much he does appreciate her, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel appreciated.
No husband or wife is ever perfect, but when a husband shows love, care, and support for his wife and acts in accordance with the principles of Islam, he will surely earn not only her love and respect but that of Allah Himself. Everybody knows how to love, but few people know how to stay in love forever with one person.
Don't restrict the love towards your wife. All a woman really wants is for her husband to hold her face gently between his two hands and tell her how pretty she is!
May Allah SWT bless us all with a happy and everlasting marriage. Ameen
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Forwarded from Signs B4 Day of Judgement
A Time will come when a Man’s Own Thigh Informs Him of What His Family Did After He Left Them
Abū Saʿīd al-Khudrī narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
"By the One in whose Hand is my soul, the Hour shall not come until wild beasts speak to mankind, and a man's whip-tip and sandal-strap speak to him, and his own thigh informs him of what his family did after he left them."
Shaykh Ḥammūd ibn ʿAbd Allāh al-Tuwayjirī said:
These two signs, that a man's whip-tip should speak to him, and that his thigh should inform him of what his family did in his absence, are therefore signs which have not yet come to pass, and Allah knows best. Yet they are certain to occur and will indeed take place, given that the one informing us of them is the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, speaking on behalf of his Lord, Mighty and Sublime is He.
Some contemporary researchers have suggested that what is intended by the speaking of the whip-tip, the sandal-strap, and the thigh may refer to the modern means of communication invented in our own era, such as mobile telephones and surveillance devices capable of transmitting even the faintest and most subtle of sounds.
It has also been said that this should be understood according to its apparent, literal meaning: that these are genuine signs to be taken at face value, in which the whip, the sandal-strap, and the thigh will speak actual, literal speech. And Allah knows best.
- Al-Tuwayjirī, Ḥammūd ibn ʿAbd Allāh (d. 1413 AH/1992 CE), Itḥāf al-Jamāʿah bimā Jāʾa fī al-Fitan wa al-Malāḥim wa Ashrāṭ al-Sāʿah (1/411).
Abū Saʿīd al-Khudrī narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
"By the One in whose Hand is my soul, the Hour shall not come until wild beasts speak to mankind, and a man's whip-tip and sandal-strap speak to him, and his own thigh informs him of what his family did after he left them."
Shaykh Ḥammūd ibn ʿAbd Allāh al-Tuwayjirī said:
These two signs, that a man's whip-tip should speak to him, and that his thigh should inform him of what his family did in his absence, are therefore signs which have not yet come to pass, and Allah knows best. Yet they are certain to occur and will indeed take place, given that the one informing us of them is the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, speaking on behalf of his Lord, Mighty and Sublime is He.
Some contemporary researchers have suggested that what is intended by the speaking of the whip-tip, the sandal-strap, and the thigh may refer to the modern means of communication invented in our own era, such as mobile telephones and surveillance devices capable of transmitting even the faintest and most subtle of sounds.
It has also been said that this should be understood according to its apparent, literal meaning: that these are genuine signs to be taken at face value, in which the whip, the sandal-strap, and the thigh will speak actual, literal speech. And Allah knows best.
- Al-Tuwayjirī, Ḥammūd ibn ʿAbd Allāh (d. 1413 AH/1992 CE), Itḥāf al-Jamāʿah bimā Jāʾa fī al-Fitan wa al-Malāḥim wa Ashrāṭ al-Sāʿah (1/411).
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Forwarded from Muslim Children Tips
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Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) is a psychological mental disease characterized by excessive emotional expression and attention-seeking behavior. It falls under the category of "Cluster B" personality disorders, which are known for their dramatic, erratic, or emotional behavior. Individuals with HPD often crave attention, display shallow and rapidly shifting emotions, and may engage in overly dramatic or seductive behavior By showing private body parts or doing seductive acts to gain it.
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Plz make sure daughters or any female members should not b addicted to society media by making reels/videoss on Instagram/ tiktok/Facebook/Snapchat etc..
Today's daughters are future mothers. Please mother make sure not to made ur daughters addicted to gain praise from random people on social media. Please keep an eyes on their social media apps.
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Plz make sure daughters or any female members should not b addicted to society media by making reels/videoss on Instagram/ tiktok/Facebook/Snapchat etc..
Today's daughters are future mothers. Please mother make sure not to made ur daughters addicted to gain praise from random people on social media. Please keep an eyes on their social media apps.
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PURNISHMENT FOR HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
The prophet may peace be upon him said that poeple who commit zina will be punished in hell 'Premarital or extramarital sex - known
as Zina is a major sin in Islam! Allah (swt) warns Muslims not to even come near it and describes it as “an abomination and an evil way.”Holy Qur'an (17:32)
According to a Hadith it is also considered one of the worst sins in the eyes of Allah ﷻ
The Holy Prophet related a dream in which he saw a number of sinners were being punished.
The Prophet said: “…We proceeded until we came across a hole in the ground that resembled a baking pit, narrow at the top and wide at the bottom. Babbling and voices were issuing from it. We looked in and saw naked men and women. Underneath the pit was a raging fire;whenever it flared up, the men and women screamed and rose with it until they almost fell out of the pit. As it subsided, they returned (to
the bottom). I said: ‘Who are these?’ They said: ‘…The naked men and women who were in the pit, they are men and women who indulge in Zina…” (Bukhari)
It is such a serious offence that all things that lead to Zina, such as being alone
with a member of the opposite sex who you’re not related to is also forbidden in Islam.
The reason why it’s forbidden in Islam is coz of the major problems that it can bring into society such as illegitimate children, spread of disease, increase in divorce rate, spread of crime, children not being brought up or cared for properly and ultimately the break down of the family unit. '
We ask Allah Most High to protect us from the evil of zina.
The prophet may peace be upon him said that poeple who commit zina will be punished in hell 'Premarital or extramarital sex - known
as Zina is a major sin in Islam! Allah (swt) warns Muslims not to even come near it and describes it as “an abomination and an evil way.”Holy Qur'an (17:32)
According to a Hadith it is also considered one of the worst sins in the eyes of Allah ﷻ
The Holy Prophet related a dream in which he saw a number of sinners were being punished.
The Prophet said: “…We proceeded until we came across a hole in the ground that resembled a baking pit, narrow at the top and wide at the bottom. Babbling and voices were issuing from it. We looked in and saw naked men and women. Underneath the pit was a raging fire;whenever it flared up, the men and women screamed and rose with it until they almost fell out of the pit. As it subsided, they returned (to
the bottom). I said: ‘Who are these?’ They said: ‘…The naked men and women who were in the pit, they are men and women who indulge in Zina…” (Bukhari)
It is such a serious offence that all things that lead to Zina, such as being alone
with a member of the opposite sex who you’re not related to is also forbidden in Islam.
The reason why it’s forbidden in Islam is coz of the major problems that it can bring into society such as illegitimate children, spread of disease, increase in divorce rate, spread of crime, children not being brought up or cared for properly and ultimately the break down of the family unit. '
We ask Allah Most High to protect us from the evil of zina.
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The Relationship Test Nobody Talks About
Everyone knows how to love when things are easy. The real test of love is not in the good times.
The real test is:
· When you're both stressed
· When they're not at their best
· When you're triggered and tired
· When life is falling apart
· When you disagree
Do they still choose kindness?
Do they still show up?
Do they still fight for connection?
Or do they shut down, lash out, or disappear? Watch how someone treats you in the hard moments. That is who they really are. Anyone can be sweet when everything is going well. It takes real love to stay gentle when life is heavy.
Love is not about finding someone who never disappoints you. It is about finding someone who stays even when you disappoint them. Someone who does not run when things get hard. Someone who shows up, not just when it's easy, but especially when it's not.
Everyone knows how to love when things are easy. The real test of love is not in the good times.
The real test is:
· When you're both stressed
· When they're not at their best
· When you're triggered and tired
· When life is falling apart
· When you disagree
Do they still choose kindness?
Do they still show up?
Do they still fight for connection?
Or do they shut down, lash out, or disappear? Watch how someone treats you in the hard moments. That is who they really are. Anyone can be sweet when everything is going well. It takes real love to stay gentle when life is heavy.
Love is not about finding someone who never disappoints you. It is about finding someone who stays even when you disappoint them. Someone who does not run when things get hard. Someone who shows up, not just when it's easy, but especially when it's not.
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In a #marriage, one should forget about falling in love. Falling is never a good thing. Love as we know it (from our romantic notions) is simply another word for physical attraction. It lasts usually for a couple of years and then starts to decrease. Since you want your marriage to last a lot longer than that, it is a good idea to focus on respect which will grow into love.
Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again. Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth.
So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love. This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage. This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before #Allah and ask for His intervention.
This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.
Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again. Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth.
So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love. This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage. This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before #Allah and ask for His intervention.
This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.
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The Advice of Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith To Her Daughter Umm Iyyās on The Night of Her Marriage
Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith said to her daughter when she was being sent off to her husband:
❝My dear daughter, if advice were to be left off due to the refinement of one's manners then you would be in no need of that. However, it is a reminder for the heedless and useful tool for the intelligent. If it were that a woman could go without a husband due to the wealth of her parents and their great need for her then you would be the least of the people in need for that. However, the women have been created for the men and the men for the women.
My dear daughter, you have left the environment from which you have sprouted and left the life which you have grown up in, going to a home that you do not know and a companion that you are unfamiliar with. He has become, by his authority over you, an overseer and a king. So be a slave to him and he will be a willing servant to you.
My dear daughter, take from me ten qualities and they will be for you an asset and a reminder:
Accompany him in contentment and be amicable with him by hearing and obeying.
Safeguard where his eyes land and safeguard what his nose smells, so that his eyes never see anything ugly from you and his nose never smells any repugnant odor. Kohl is the best make-up and water [i.e., good hygiene] is the best perfume.
Safeguard his meal times and keep tranquil his sleep times. The heat of hunger is infuriating and deprivation of sleep is irritating.
Safeguard his home and his money and take good care of him, his relatives, and take care of his children. Safeguarding his money is a sign of good judgement and taking care of his children and relatives is a sign of good management.
Don't spread his secrets and don't disobey his commands. If you spread his secrets you will not be safe of him lying to you and if you oppose his commands he will resent you.
Beware of displaying joy when he is upset and and sadness when he is happy. The first is irresponsible and the second is antagonistic.
The more you honor him the more veneration he will have for you; the more you are in agreement with him the longer your time will be with him.
And know, that you will not attain that which you want from him until you give preference to pleasing him over pleasing yourself and to his desire over your own in whether you like it or not. And may Allāh give good to all.❞
[Bulūgh Al-Arb By Al-Alūsī, (2/19)]
Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith said to her daughter when she was being sent off to her husband:
❝My dear daughter, if advice were to be left off due to the refinement of one's manners then you would be in no need of that. However, it is a reminder for the heedless and useful tool for the intelligent. If it were that a woman could go without a husband due to the wealth of her parents and their great need for her then you would be the least of the people in need for that. However, the women have been created for the men and the men for the women.
My dear daughter, you have left the environment from which you have sprouted and left the life which you have grown up in, going to a home that you do not know and a companion that you are unfamiliar with. He has become, by his authority over you, an overseer and a king. So be a slave to him and he will be a willing servant to you.
My dear daughter, take from me ten qualities and they will be for you an asset and a reminder:
Accompany him in contentment and be amicable with him by hearing and obeying.
Safeguard where his eyes land and safeguard what his nose smells, so that his eyes never see anything ugly from you and his nose never smells any repugnant odor. Kohl is the best make-up and water [i.e., good hygiene] is the best perfume.
Safeguard his meal times and keep tranquil his sleep times. The heat of hunger is infuriating and deprivation of sleep is irritating.
Safeguard his home and his money and take good care of him, his relatives, and take care of his children. Safeguarding his money is a sign of good judgement and taking care of his children and relatives is a sign of good management.
Don't spread his secrets and don't disobey his commands. If you spread his secrets you will not be safe of him lying to you and if you oppose his commands he will resent you.
Beware of displaying joy when he is upset and and sadness when he is happy. The first is irresponsible and the second is antagonistic.
The more you honor him the more veneration he will have for you; the more you are in agreement with him the longer your time will be with him.
And know, that you will not attain that which you want from him until you give preference to pleasing him over pleasing yourself and to his desire over your own in whether you like it or not. And may Allāh give good to all.❞
[Bulūgh Al-Arb By Al-Alūsī, (2/19)]
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A strong sexual bond in a marriage creates a united front of two parents who are operating in a mutually beneficial partnership. That strong sexual bond creates a bond that extends to all other areas of married life, from financial struggles, parenting challenges, and countless other problems that life seems to throw our way and knock us off course and break up a home.
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TOO YOUNG FOR MARRIAGE, BUT OLD ENOUGH TO FORNICATE
Why delay marriage when your body is calling for the enjoyment that is only permissible and rewarding for those who are legally married?
When you tell them "come and marry me" they will say "Do you think marriage is easy"
Sister! And you allow him to keep fornicating with you.
Marriage isn't easy, but zina (illegal sexual intercourse) is.
Who has made Fornication easy? Is it the Brother, Sister or their Families?
Na'uzubillah 😰😰😰
Zina is one of the major sins after shirk (associating partners with Allâh) which can lead one to Jahannam (hell). Fear Allâh to Whom you shall return, the punishment of Allâh is indeed severe and unbearable.
Why delay marriage when your body is calling for the enjoyment that is only permissible and rewarding for those who are legally married?
When you tell them "come and marry me" they will say "Do you think marriage is easy"
Sister! And you allow him to keep fornicating with you.
Marriage isn't easy, but zina (illegal sexual intercourse) is.
Who has made Fornication easy? Is it the Brother, Sister or their Families?
Na'uzubillah 😰😰😰
Zina is one of the major sins after shirk (associating partners with Allâh) which can lead one to Jahannam (hell). Fear Allâh to Whom you shall return, the punishment of Allâh is indeed severe and unbearable.
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APPRECIATE YOUR SPOUSE BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE.
While you’re busy building a life together, don’t forget the one who has been giving so much of their own life for your family.
To the husband who works tirelessly to provide, carrying the weight of responsibility so his family can live with dignity—may Allah reward every honest effort.
To the wife who carried your child for nine months, endured the pain of childbirth, stayed awake through countless sleepless nights, prepared meals, cared for the home, and gave so much of herself in silence—may Allah reward every unseen sacrifice.
Behind every family are two hearts making sacrifices that are often unnoticed.
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” And Allah says, “He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Qur’an 30:21)
Don’t let pride, busyness, or routine stop you from saying, “Thank you,” “I appreciate you,” or “I love you.” Speak kindly. Forgive quickly. Help one another. Make du’aa for each other.
Don’t wait until one voice is silenced and all that’s left are tears and regrets. The flowers placed on a grave will never replace the love, gratitude, and mercy that could have been shown while they were alive. 🥹
Love your spouse today. Appreciate them today. Because tomorrow is never promised.
May Allah fill every marriage with sakīnah (tranquility), mawaddah (love), and rahmah (mercy), and make us among those who honor the blessing of our spouses before it’s too late. 🥀
While you’re busy building a life together, don’t forget the one who has been giving so much of their own life for your family.
To the husband who works tirelessly to provide, carrying the weight of responsibility so his family can live with dignity—may Allah reward every honest effort.
To the wife who carried your child for nine months, endured the pain of childbirth, stayed awake through countless sleepless nights, prepared meals, cared for the home, and gave so much of herself in silence—may Allah reward every unseen sacrifice.
Behind every family are two hearts making sacrifices that are often unnoticed.
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” And Allah says, “He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Qur’an 30:21)
Don’t let pride, busyness, or routine stop you from saying, “Thank you,” “I appreciate you,” or “I love you.” Speak kindly. Forgive quickly. Help one another. Make du’aa for each other.
Don’t wait until one voice is silenced and all that’s left are tears and regrets. The flowers placed on a grave will never replace the love, gratitude, and mercy that could have been shown while they were alive. 🥹
Love your spouse today. Appreciate them today. Because tomorrow is never promised.
May Allah fill every marriage with sakīnah (tranquility), mawaddah (love), and rahmah (mercy), and make us among those who honor the blessing of our spouses before it’s too late. 🥀
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Ibn al Jawzi رحمه الله said,
“Perhaps a marriage might result in a child like Ash Shafi or Ahmad ibn Hanbal; such an outcome would be better than a thousand years of worship.”
[تلبيس إبليس 263]
“Perhaps a marriage might result in a child like Ash Shafi or Ahmad ibn Hanbal; such an outcome would be better than a thousand years of worship.”
[تلبيس إبليس 263]
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The story of a young Man who had a habit of looking at women
This young man asked Sheik : I feel guilty about myself for a bad habit i am unable to get rid off !
I can’t stop myself from looking at girls in the market, what should I do?
Sheikh gave him a glass full of milk which was filled upto its edges and asked one of his student to accompany him to the market.
He told his student to beat him in front of everyone if he spilled even a drop of milk.
Ofcourse the young man managed to walk without spilling a drop of milk and returned to the sheikh.
Sheikh asked : How many girls did u see on your way ??
The young man replied: I didn’t see anyone around me as my concentration was only on the glass of milk because i was scared of getting beaten up in front of everyone if i spill milk.
Sheikh Replied: The same is the case with a true Momin/Muslim.
The true believer is afraid of ALLAH and shame on the day of resurrection if he commits a sin …
These believers protect themselves from committing sin as they are always FOCUSED ON THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT !!
ALLAH says In the Holy Quran:
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, ALLAH is all-aware of what they do.
Al Quran : Surah AL-Noor Verse No. 30.
May Allah protect us from looking at haram things…Ameen…!
This young man asked Sheik : I feel guilty about myself for a bad habit i am unable to get rid off !
I can’t stop myself from looking at girls in the market, what should I do?
Sheikh gave him a glass full of milk which was filled upto its edges and asked one of his student to accompany him to the market.
He told his student to beat him in front of everyone if he spilled even a drop of milk.
Ofcourse the young man managed to walk without spilling a drop of milk and returned to the sheikh.
Sheikh asked : How many girls did u see on your way ??
The young man replied: I didn’t see anyone around me as my concentration was only on the glass of milk because i was scared of getting beaten up in front of everyone if i spill milk.
Sheikh Replied: The same is the case with a true Momin/Muslim.
The true believer is afraid of ALLAH and shame on the day of resurrection if he commits a sin …
These believers protect themselves from committing sin as they are always FOCUSED ON THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT !!
ALLAH says In the Holy Quran:
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, ALLAH is all-aware of what they do.
Al Quran : Surah AL-Noor Verse No. 30.
May Allah protect us from looking at haram things…Ameen…!
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Nikah OR Haram Relationship...??
Have you ever imagined a bride being pregnant before Nikah..? Well, that's pretty common in Europe & America among both the Christians & Jews.. And it's totally Haram in Islam and may lead to Jahannum.!
Dear sister / brothers,
👉🏼Engagement is not Nikah
👉🏼Court Marriage is not Nikah
👉🏼Will you marry me is not Nikah
👉🏼His/Her parents already know me well is not Nikah
👉🏼Remember your Fiancee is not your spouse
👉🏼You don't own his/her body and you can't demand for it.!
👉🏼Nikah which meets all the shariah conditions is the only licence to have sex.
Sisters, you are not...
A piece of Chocolate, so no tasting... He wants to know if you are good in bed.. You are not a store sample... He wants to know if you are fertile, you are not a lab rat... You come a with a price (Dowry/Mahr) and with respect & honour... Don't you..??
Some valuables come with nice packaging and until their full price is paid, you can't open to see what's inside.
A man who demands sex from you before marriage will ruin your relationship with Allah. And you will be left no where.. So be wise and don't become the prey for the lust of someone.. He is not worthy of you.
And finally, when the Sins blind our eyes, we claim Love is blind and we accuse shaytaan for the Haram we committed.!
I have dealt with cases where sisters fall into Haram relationships before marriage and outside marriage and ruin their Duniya as well as Aakhirah.!!
Remember Allah is watching us all the time and we are answerable for our every single action.
Have you ever imagined a bride being pregnant before Nikah..? Well, that's pretty common in Europe & America among both the Christians & Jews.. And it's totally Haram in Islam and may lead to Jahannum.!
Dear sister / brothers,
👉🏼Engagement is not Nikah
👉🏼Court Marriage is not Nikah
👉🏼Will you marry me is not Nikah
👉🏼His/Her parents already know me well is not Nikah
👉🏼Remember your Fiancee is not your spouse
👉🏼You don't own his/her body and you can't demand for it.!
👉🏼Nikah which meets all the shariah conditions is the only licence to have sex.
Sisters, you are not...
A piece of Chocolate, so no tasting... He wants to know if you are good in bed.. You are not a store sample... He wants to know if you are fertile, you are not a lab rat... You come a with a price (Dowry/Mahr) and with respect & honour... Don't you..??
Some valuables come with nice packaging and until their full price is paid, you can't open to see what's inside.
A man who demands sex from you before marriage will ruin your relationship with Allah. And you will be left no where.. So be wise and don't become the prey for the lust of someone.. He is not worthy of you.
And finally, when the Sins blind our eyes, we claim Love is blind and we accuse shaytaan for the Haram we committed.!
I have dealt with cases where sisters fall into Haram relationships before marriage and outside marriage and ruin their Duniya as well as Aakhirah.!!
Remember Allah is watching us all the time and we are answerable for our every single action.
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PRICE FOR TRUE LOVE
Questioner: Someone who loves a person for the sake of ALLĀH, must he say, "I love you for the sake of ALLĀH," to him?
Sheikh Al-Albāni: Yes, but loving for the sake of ALLĀH has a huge price, only very few people pay it. Do you know what the price for loving someone for ALLĀH’s sake is? Do any of you know the price?
Someone present: The Most High said,
وَٱلۡعَصۡرِ ۞ إِنَّ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ لَفِی خُسۡرٍ ۞ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِینَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلۡحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلصَّبۡرِ
By Time! Indeed, mankind is in loss. Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience. (Al-Asr: 1-3)
Sheikh Al-Albāni: Well done. That is the answer.
And an explanation of that is that if I really love you for the sake of ALLĀH I would persist in advising you, and you would do the same. Persevering in advising one another is very rare between those who claim to love each other, this love might have some sincerity in it, but it is not complete, because we try to make an allowance for the other, afraid that the other person will become angry, that he will flee … and so on.
It is in light of this that ˹you can see that˺ the cost of loving someone for the sake of ALLĀH is that each person shows sincerity towards the other by advising him, always and forever telling him to do good and preventing him from bad—he is more constant in advising him than that person’s own shadow is close—for this reason it has been authentically reported that when parting from one another, one of the habits of the Companions was that one of them would read to the other,
وَٱلۡعَصۡرِ ۞ إِنَّ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ لَفِی خُسۡرٍ ۞ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِینَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلۡحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلصَّبۡرِ
By Time! Indeed, mankind is in loss. Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience. (Al-Asr: 1-3)
📚 Al-Hāwi min Fatāwā al-Albāni (pp. 165-166)
Questioner: Someone who loves a person for the sake of ALLĀH, must he say, "I love you for the sake of ALLĀH," to him?
Sheikh Al-Albāni: Yes, but loving for the sake of ALLĀH has a huge price, only very few people pay it. Do you know what the price for loving someone for ALLĀH’s sake is? Do any of you know the price?
Someone present: The Most High said,
وَٱلۡعَصۡرِ ۞ إِنَّ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ لَفِی خُسۡرٍ ۞ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِینَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلۡحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلصَّبۡرِ
By Time! Indeed, mankind is in loss. Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience. (Al-Asr: 1-3)
Sheikh Al-Albāni: Well done. That is the answer.
And an explanation of that is that if I really love you for the sake of ALLĀH I would persist in advising you, and you would do the same. Persevering in advising one another is very rare between those who claim to love each other, this love might have some sincerity in it, but it is not complete, because we try to make an allowance for the other, afraid that the other person will become angry, that he will flee … and so on.
It is in light of this that ˹you can see that˺ the cost of loving someone for the sake of ALLĀH is that each person shows sincerity towards the other by advising him, always and forever telling him to do good and preventing him from bad—he is more constant in advising him than that person’s own shadow is close—for this reason it has been authentically reported that when parting from one another, one of the habits of the Companions was that one of them would read to the other,
وَٱلۡعَصۡرِ ۞ إِنَّ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ لَفِی خُسۡرٍ ۞ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِینَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلۡحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوۡا۟ بِٱلصَّبۡرِ
By Time! Indeed, mankind is in loss. Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience. (Al-Asr: 1-3)
📚 Al-Hāwi min Fatāwā al-Albāni (pp. 165-166)
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Ibn Taymiyyah on Love |
When you love a person for the sake of Allāh, your love for them is rooted in your love for Allāh. You love them because of their faith, obedience, and closeness to Him. Remembering such a person reminds you of the obedience to Allāh that you love, and this strengthens your love for Allāh and your love for those who are beloved to Him.
In contrast, love that is based only on worldly benefit, such as what someone gives you, does for you, or how they make you feel, is connected to those benefits. When the benefit comes to an end, that love often weakens or disappears. The strongest and most lasting love is the love that is for the sake of Allāh.
Love is at the heart of worship. True worship is founded upon complete love of Allāh together with humility and submission to Him. It is from the creed of Ahl al Sunnah to love Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ more than anyone or anything else. Every other righteous love follows from this foundation.
The Prophet ﷺ informed us that among the seven who will be shaded by Allāh on the Day when there is no shade but His is "two people who loved one another for the sake of Allāh, meeting and parting upon that."
May Allāh make us among them. May He fill our hearts with love for Him and make His love and the love of His Messenger ﷺ the greatest love in our hearts. Āmīn. ✨
When you love a person for the sake of Allāh, your love for them is rooted in your love for Allāh. You love them because of their faith, obedience, and closeness to Him. Remembering such a person reminds you of the obedience to Allāh that you love, and this strengthens your love for Allāh and your love for those who are beloved to Him.
In contrast, love that is based only on worldly benefit, such as what someone gives you, does for you, or how they make you feel, is connected to those benefits. When the benefit comes to an end, that love often weakens or disappears. The strongest and most lasting love is the love that is for the sake of Allāh.
Love is at the heart of worship. True worship is founded upon complete love of Allāh together with humility and submission to Him. It is from the creed of Ahl al Sunnah to love Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ more than anyone or anything else. Every other righteous love follows from this foundation.
The Prophet ﷺ informed us that among the seven who will be shaded by Allāh on the Day when there is no shade but His is "two people who loved one another for the sake of Allāh, meeting and parting upon that."
May Allāh make us among them. May He fill our hearts with love for Him and make His love and the love of His Messenger ﷺ the greatest love in our hearts. Āmīn. ✨
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Loving Women is from Perfection
Shaykh Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
‘As for loving women, then there is no blame upon the person who loves them. In fact it is from his perfection. Indeed Allāh -Subhanahu- blessed His worshippers with women, He said:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” [Rum: 21]
Allāh has made so that a woman is tranquillity for the man, where his heart finds rest and peace with her. Allāh placed sincere love between the husband and wife, which is (al-Muwada) love and friendship linked with mercy.’
📖 [Taken from Daa’ wa Da’wa p.552]
Shaykh Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
‘As for loving women, then there is no blame upon the person who loves them. In fact it is from his perfection. Indeed Allāh -Subhanahu- blessed His worshippers with women, He said:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” [Rum: 21]
Allāh has made so that a woman is tranquillity for the man, where his heart finds rest and peace with her. Allāh placed sincere love between the husband and wife, which is (al-Muwada) love and friendship linked with mercy.’
📖 [Taken from Daa’ wa Da’wa p.552]
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Some people are getting married. Some are building successful careers. Some are achieving goals you have been praying for years to attain. Meanwhile, you may find yourself waiting, struggling, or wondering when your turn will come.
But do not let comparison make you ungrateful, hopeless, or discouraged. At the same time, do not use "Allah's timing" as an excuse to stop striving.
Islam teaches us to trust Allah ﷻ while continuing to make an effort. We are commanded to work, learn, seek, improve ourselves, and pursue what is good while leaving the outcome to Allah ﷻ.
Allah ﷻ says: "And that there is not for man except that [good] for which he strives." —Qur'an 53:39
Keep making du'a. Keep improving yourself. Keep taking the means that Allah ﷻ has placed before you. If the result is delayed, do not assume that Allah ﷻ has forgotten you.
Sometimes, a delay is protection. Sometimes, it is preparation. Sometimes, it is a lesson that will make you stronger, wiser, and more grateful when the blessing finally arrives.
Allah ﷻ says: "Perhaps you dislike a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. Allah knows, while you know not." Qur'an 2:216
Your journey is not behind anyone else's. Allah ﷻ is not comparing your timeline to theirs, and neither should you.
Keep striving. Keep trusting. Keep moving forward.
What Allah ﷻ has written for you will never miss you, and what He has withheld from you is never without wisdom. Trust Allah enough to be patient, and obey Allah enough to keep working.
But do not let comparison make you ungrateful, hopeless, or discouraged. At the same time, do not use "Allah's timing" as an excuse to stop striving.
Islam teaches us to trust Allah ﷻ while continuing to make an effort. We are commanded to work, learn, seek, improve ourselves, and pursue what is good while leaving the outcome to Allah ﷻ.
Allah ﷻ says: "And that there is not for man except that [good] for which he strives." —Qur'an 53:39
Keep making du'a. Keep improving yourself. Keep taking the means that Allah ﷻ has placed before you. If the result is delayed, do not assume that Allah ﷻ has forgotten you.
Sometimes, a delay is protection. Sometimes, it is preparation. Sometimes, it is a lesson that will make you stronger, wiser, and more grateful when the blessing finally arrives.
Allah ﷻ says: "Perhaps you dislike a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. Allah knows, while you know not." Qur'an 2:216
Your journey is not behind anyone else's. Allah ﷻ is not comparing your timeline to theirs, and neither should you.
Keep striving. Keep trusting. Keep moving forward.
What Allah ﷻ has written for you will never miss you, and what He has withheld from you is never without wisdom. Trust Allah enough to be patient, and obey Allah enough to keep working.
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