MARRIAGE IS A RISK NO MATTER WHO YOU MARRY??
One of the biggest mistakes we all make whilst choosing a spouse through love marriage or through an arranged marriage or through love cum arranged marriage where it is actually a love marriage but you were smart enough to not let duniya and the judgmental society know about it - is marrying someone with a mindset that I WILL CHANGE HIM OR HE WILL BECOME PIOUS.
Marriage is NOT a risk.
I had a friend of mine tell me that no matter how you marry, marriage is a risk. And I hated hearing that.
Marriage definitely becomes a test and a risk when you follow the duniya and have taken no proper step to choose who you are going to spend the rest of your life with.
In other words you JUST WING IT!
Something like that is an utter nightmare for me.
I know for a fact that I can never marry or make a decision to live the rest of my life with a man and have my children with a man whose only details I know is 2 page biodata and a photograph clicked in some studio.
I will have to know the brother thoroughly before marrying. And if the brother is not equally interested in knowing me then masalaam!
Marriage Islamically is something extremely divine and is a blessing first and foremost unless Allah chooses to test you with it. And most of the time its not even Allah but our own hurry or society's pressure or not investigating properly before who we are entering this massive journey with.
I love this Shaykh so much!
His talks kept me sane during one of the toughest times of my life.
May Allah increase him and his loved ones in goodness and bless them all with jannatul firdous al alaa.
Please invest 20 minutes of your time and listen to this beautiful talk.
Also please do not marry without knowing who you are going to spend your life with. And more importantly who you are going to raise your progeny with.
Please investigate.
Please ask him what his relationship is with Qur'an and #Allah.
Can he read Qur'an?
Or is he struggling with tajweed even in his late 20's or early 30's?
Has he made a sincere effort to memorize atleast Juzz Ammah?
Please discuss long term and short term goals.
Please discuss expectations
Please get to know how smart they are about hardwork and finance
Please make effort to learn fiqh of Divorce and marriage
Please read atleast 10 books on gender relationships and marriage
Please get to know what kind of a parent your spouse will be THIS IS SO EXTREMELY IMPORTANT! Are your parenting styles similar or will there be a war every single day regarding disciplining and raising your kids or will your spouse will be least interested in what is happening with the kids. Will he be a hands on father? Or does he think he deserves a nobel prize for earning and considers that as his sole obligation with regards to being a father.
Please find someone and get counselling done before marriage. It is definitely way better and IMPORTANT to spend money on counselling than on a silly fancy dress that will last you a day and will then rot in your closet for enternity.
This might seem like making marriage tough but this will save both the partners from so much heartache and hardship plus it makes us strive for higher standard of character when trying to get married and this applies for both men and women.
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One of the biggest mistakes we all make whilst choosing a spouse through love marriage or through an arranged marriage or through love cum arranged marriage where it is actually a love marriage but you were smart enough to not let duniya and the judgmental society know about it - is marrying someone with a mindset that I WILL CHANGE HIM OR HE WILL BECOME PIOUS.
Marriage is NOT a risk.
I had a friend of mine tell me that no matter how you marry, marriage is a risk. And I hated hearing that.
Marriage definitely becomes a test and a risk when you follow the duniya and have taken no proper step to choose who you are going to spend the rest of your life with.
In other words you JUST WING IT!
Something like that is an utter nightmare for me.
I know for a fact that I can never marry or make a decision to live the rest of my life with a man and have my children with a man whose only details I know is 2 page biodata and a photograph clicked in some studio.
I will have to know the brother thoroughly before marrying. And if the brother is not equally interested in knowing me then masalaam!
Marriage Islamically is something extremely divine and is a blessing first and foremost unless Allah chooses to test you with it. And most of the time its not even Allah but our own hurry or society's pressure or not investigating properly before who we are entering this massive journey with.
I love this Shaykh so much!
His talks kept me sane during one of the toughest times of my life.
May Allah increase him and his loved ones in goodness and bless them all with jannatul firdous al alaa.
Please invest 20 minutes of your time and listen to this beautiful talk.
Also please do not marry without knowing who you are going to spend your life with. And more importantly who you are going to raise your progeny with.
Please investigate.
Please ask him what his relationship is with Qur'an and #Allah.
Can he read Qur'an?
Or is he struggling with tajweed even in his late 20's or early 30's?
Has he made a sincere effort to memorize atleast Juzz Ammah?
Please discuss long term and short term goals.
Please discuss expectations
Please get to know how smart they are about hardwork and finance
Please make effort to learn fiqh of Divorce and marriage
Please read atleast 10 books on gender relationships and marriage
Please get to know what kind of a parent your spouse will be THIS IS SO EXTREMELY IMPORTANT! Are your parenting styles similar or will there be a war every single day regarding disciplining and raising your kids or will your spouse will be least interested in what is happening with the kids. Will he be a hands on father? Or does he think he deserves a nobel prize for earning and considers that as his sole obligation with regards to being a father.
Please find someone and get counselling done before marriage. It is definitely way better and IMPORTANT to spend money on counselling than on a silly fancy dress that will last you a day and will then rot in your closet for enternity.
This might seem like making marriage tough but this will save both the partners from so much heartache and hardship plus it makes us strive for higher standard of character when trying to get married and this applies for both men and women.
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A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is where two individuals agree to disobey Allah together, in order to burn in the Hell - Fire together...
Is that what you call "love" Either get married and make it Halaal or come out of that cursed relationship!
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ❝No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.❞ [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: ❝No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.❞ [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Do not disobey #Allah for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the ONE you disobey.
May Allah SWT give us Halal & keep us away from haram. Ameen
Is that what you call "love" Either get married and make it Halaal or come out of that cursed relationship!
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ❝No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.❞ [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: ❝No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.❞ [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Do not disobey #Allah for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the ONE you disobey.
May Allah SWT give us Halal & keep us away from haram. Ameen
Beware of ❝Ishq❞ Obsessive Infatuation!
Ibn al-Qayyim (ﺭﺣﻤﻪﺍﻟﻠﻪ) said:
❝If a servant of Allah plunges into the sea of ‘ishq (Obsessive Infatuation) and it’s waves played about with him, then he is closer to destruction than to safety.
How could something be praised that prevents mental stability, makes one sleepless, distorts the intellect, and causes insanity? Rather ‘ishq itself is insanity!❞
Rawdatul Muhibbeen (Garden of lovers) - Ibn al-Qayyim (ﺭﺣﻤﻪﺍﻟﻠﻪ)
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Ibn al-Qayyim (ﺭﺣﻤﻪﺍﻟﻠﻪ) said:
❝If a servant of Allah plunges into the sea of ‘ishq (Obsessive Infatuation) and it’s waves played about with him, then he is closer to destruction than to safety.
How could something be praised that prevents mental stability, makes one sleepless, distorts the intellect, and causes insanity? Rather ‘ishq itself is insanity!❞
Rawdatul Muhibbeen (Garden of lovers) - Ibn al-Qayyim (ﺭﺣﻤﻪﺍﻟﻠﻪ)
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A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is where two individuals agree to disobey Allah together, in order to burn in the Hell - Fire together...
Is that what you call "love" Either get married and make it Halaal or come out of that cursed relationship!
The Prophet (pbuh) said, ❝No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.❞ [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (pbuh) said: ❝No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.❞ [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Do not disobey #Allah for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the ONE you disobey.
May Allah SWT give us Halal & keep us away from haram... Ameen...
Is that what you call "love" Either get married and make it Halaal or come out of that cursed relationship!
The Prophet (pbuh) said, ❝No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.❞ [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (pbuh) said: ❝No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.❞ [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Do not disobey #Allah for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the ONE you disobey.
May Allah SWT give us Halal & keep us away from haram... Ameen...
towards someone; such as love, care and the need to protect towards the victim they possess.
To be Continued Insha’Allah!
And Ultimately Allah (ﷻ) knows best!
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To be Continued Insha’Allah!
And Ultimately Allah (ﷻ) knows best!
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Advices for women ...
Dear women, don't be silly, protect your purity.
A lot of Women are blind and do for the man they love everything (include : sex before marriage) just for please him.
They are afraid to lose him. But actually in this situation they are the only loser.
When the man gets what he wants he will leave you after a short time.
And because you were never married and your family never knew about your relationship, you are often the only loser.
Keep your love and beauty for the one you marry and not for the one who will leave you when you are talking about marriage.
Confront him with the marriage issue, if he try to change the topic or not like to talk about, leave him, even though you love him... because this is a symptom of fake men!
A man has done nothing for you until he makes you his wife.
your worth is much more than just being girlfriend.
#ALLAH has raised the status of woman so high, so why would you settle for any less?
#no_sex_before_marriage
#keep_everything_in_halal
#truelove_starts_after_nikaah
#love_until_jannah
Dear women, don't be silly, protect your purity.
A lot of Women are blind and do for the man they love everything (include : sex before marriage) just for please him.
They are afraid to lose him. But actually in this situation they are the only loser.
When the man gets what he wants he will leave you after a short time.
And because you were never married and your family never knew about your relationship, you are often the only loser.
Keep your love and beauty for the one you marry and not for the one who will leave you when you are talking about marriage.
Confront him with the marriage issue, if he try to change the topic or not like to talk about, leave him, even though you love him... because this is a symptom of fake men!
A man has done nothing for you until he makes you his wife.
your worth is much more than just being girlfriend.
#ALLAH has raised the status of woman so high, so why would you settle for any less?
#no_sex_before_marriage
#keep_everything_in_halal
#truelove_starts_after_nikaah
#love_until_jannah
Forwarded from Imaan Boosters
Advices for women ...
Dear women, don't be silly, protect your purity.
A lot of Women are blind and do for the man they love everything (include : sex before marriage) just for please him.
They are afraid to lose him. But actually in this situation they are the only loser.
When the man gets what he wants he will leave you after a short time.
And because you were never married and your family never knew about your relationship, you are often the only loser.
Keep your love and beauty for the one you marry and not for the one who will leave you when you are talking about marriage.
Confront him with the marriage issue, if he try to change the topic or not like to talk about, leave him, even though you love him... because this is a symptom of fake men!
A man has done nothing for you until he makes you his wife.
your worth is much more than just being girlfriend.
#ALLAH has raised the status of woman so high, so why would you settle for any less?
#no_sex_before_marriage
#keep_everything_in_halal
#truelove_starts_after_nikaah
#love_until_jannah
Dear women, don't be silly, protect your purity.
A lot of Women are blind and do for the man they love everything (include : sex before marriage) just for please him.
They are afraid to lose him. But actually in this situation they are the only loser.
When the man gets what he wants he will leave you after a short time.
And because you were never married and your family never knew about your relationship, you are often the only loser.
Keep your love and beauty for the one you marry and not for the one who will leave you when you are talking about marriage.
Confront him with the marriage issue, if he try to change the topic or not like to talk about, leave him, even though you love him... because this is a symptom of fake men!
A man has done nothing for you until he makes you his wife.
your worth is much more than just being girlfriend.
#ALLAH has raised the status of woman so high, so why would you settle for any less?
#no_sex_before_marriage
#keep_everything_in_halal
#truelove_starts_after_nikaah
#love_until_jannah
Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is where two individuals agree to disobey Allah together, in order to burn in the Hell - Fire together...
Is that what you call "love" Either get married and make it Halaal or come out of that cursed relationship!
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ❝No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.❞ [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: ❝No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.❞ [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Do not disobey #Allah for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the ONE you disobey.
May Allah SWT give us Halal & keep us away from haram. Ameen
Is that what you call "love" Either get married and make it Halaal or come out of that cursed relationship!
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ❝No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.❞ [At-Tirmidhi]
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: ❝No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.❞ [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Do not disobey #Allah for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the ONE you disobey.
May Allah SWT give us Halal & keep us away from haram. Ameen
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Abu Huraira (ra) narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said:
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“It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission.”
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- [Sahih Al-Bukhaari, 5195 & Muslim, 1026].
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The version narrated by Abu Dawood (4258) & Al-Tirmidhi (782) says:
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“No woman should fast when her husband is present except with his permission, apart from Ramadan.”
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- [Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi].
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PLEASE NOTE: All stated hadiths are regarding voluntary fasts (nafl, like Shawwal, Ashura) and not for obligatory fasts (like Ramadan).
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“It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission.”
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- [Sahih Al-Bukhaari, 5195 & Muslim, 1026].
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The version narrated by Abu Dawood (4258) & Al-Tirmidhi (782) says:
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“No woman should fast when her husband is present except with his permission, apart from Ramadan.”
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- [Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi].
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PLEASE NOTE: All stated hadiths are regarding voluntary fasts (nafl, like Shawwal, Ashura) and not for obligatory fasts (like Ramadan).
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#hadith #hadeeth #bukhari #bukhaari #messenger #allah #allaah #prophet #prophetmuhammad #prophetmuhammadﷺ #prophetmuhammedﷺ #muhammadﷺ #muslim #fasting #trimidhi #tirmidhi #tirmidzi #tirmizi #sahih #saheeh #husbandpermission #voluntaryfasting #nafl #obligatoryfasting #permission #ramadan
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In a #marriage, one should forget about falling in love. Falling is never a good thing. Love as we know it (from our romantic notions) is simply another word for physical attraction. It lasts usually for a couple of years and then starts to decrease. Since you want your marriage to last a lot longer than that, it is a good idea to focus on respect which will grow into love.
Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again. Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth.
So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love. This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage. This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before #Allah and ask for His intervention.
This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.
Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again. Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth.
So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love. This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage. This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before #Allah and ask for His intervention.
This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.
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