Prevent them from committing zina and falling into sin by getting them married when they attain puberty; the parents who fail in doing so will share the punishment with them.

Umar ibn al-Khattab هنع هللا يضر said:

"Marry off your children when they reach puberty,
and do not carry their sins."

آ٤.١ ص ،يزوجلا نبال ءاسنلا ماكحأر

The amount of jewels a woman wears doesn't measure her value. What does is her love for Allah. One's modesty expresses gratitude.

🍀THE WALIMAH🍀 ➡DEFINITION & RULING: 🔹The walimah or wedding feast is a meal offered by the husband to the friends and family. It is obligatory upon the husband. 📜Allah's Messenger ﷺ said: ❝Indeed, a wedding (or a bridegroom) must have a walimah..❞ 📚Sahih ul-Jami' 2419. 🔹It is best to do walimah after the marriage is consummated, following the example of the Prophet ﷺ. But if that is not possible, then there is nothing wrong with doing it before the marriage is consummated, or when the marriage contract is done, or after that. 🔹It is better to say that the recommended time is flexible; it may be at any time from when the marriage contract is done until the end of the days of the wedding. That is because there is a report to support that, and because joy is greatest after consummation. But the custom nowadays to do it shortly before consummation. 🔹The walimah is the husband's obligation. However, it is permissible for other Muslims to help him in its cost or preparation. 🔹A newlywed should invite to the walimah his Muslim relatives, friends, and acquaintances. 🔹In inviting to a walimah, there should not be a distinction between the poor and rich. 📜Allah's Messenger ﷺ said: ❝The worst food is that of a walimah to which the rich are invited but the poor are not. And he who rejects the invitation (to a walimah) has surely disobeyed Allah and His Messenger.❞ 📚Muslim, Narrated by Abu Hurayrah, Ibn 'Abbas, and Ibn 'Umar. see lrwa'ul-Ghal'il no. 1947 and as-Sahihah no. 1085. ➡AVOIDING EXTRAVAGANCE AND SHOW-OFF: 🔹Some people like to impress others about their wealth and status by holding extravagant banquets and receptions in expensive hotels, and by offering costly food and services that are often beyond their means and are extremely straining to their resources for a long time to follow. This is prohibited in Islam. It reflects an imitation of Shaytan as Allah سبحانه وتعالى says: ❝Do not waste your wealth senselessly. Those who spend wastefully are the brothers of the devils; and the Devil is ever ungrateful to his Lord.❞ 📖Surah Al-Isra 17:26-27. 🔹And Allah سبحانه وتعالى says: ❝Eat and drink, but do not be excessive; verily, He does not like the extravagant.❞ 📖Surah Al-A'raf 7:31. ➡INVITING MANY PEOPLE: 🔹Within what is reasonable, the newlywed should try to bring to the walimlah as many people as is possible. 📜Allah's Messenger ﷺ said: ❝The most beloved food to Allah is that on which many hands gather.❞ 📚Sahih ul- Jami' 171 & as-Sahihah no. 895 ➡HONORING THE GUESTS 🔹The guest has a right upon his host: he should be well treated and honored. Honoring the guest is a sign of true belief. 📜Allah's Messenger ﷺ said: ❝He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should honor his guest; he who believes in Allah and the Last Day should be kind to his kin; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day should either say a good thing or remain silent.❞ 📚Recorded by al-Bukhari, Muslim. ✨Allah knows best✨

If marriages were dissolved for every mistake, no marriage would remain intact, for every human being is prone to error and shortcomings. Islam teaches patience, mercy, and striving to maintain the marital bond upon goodness.

A spouse is intended to be a source of tranquility, support, and cooperation in righteousness and in bearing life’s trials. Allah says: “And live with them in kindness.” And He says: “And they are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.”

The principle in Islam is to preserve marriages and seek reconciliation, not to rush toward separation. The believer is commanded to overlook faults, remember good qualities, and treat others with justice and patience. Ibn Taymiyyah emphasized that the foundation of relationships is fulfilling rights, showing patience, and correcting wrongs with wisdom rather than hastening to sever ties.

Many spouses overlook much good because of a few faults, yet justice requires balance. The believer weighs both good and bad and is not driven by anger or emotion alone.

Spouses who cooperate in patience, advise one another with wisdom, and endure trials together often find that Allah places barakah in their relationship and increases their love after hardship.

However, Islam also establishes limits. Persistent harm, refusal to fulfill obligatory rights, and continuous oppression are not to be tolerated. When reconciliation is no longer possible and harm continues, separation becomes a last resort permitted by Shariah to remove injustice and prevent further corruption.

The believer therefore strives first for patience, reform, and reconciliation, while recognizing that oppression and repeated wrongdoing must be addressed with justice and proper means.

May Allah grant harmony to the homes of the المسلمين, place mercy and understanding between spouses, and protect marriages from ظلم and unnecessary separation. Ameen.

Hadith
Narrated Ali ibn AbuTalib:
(The narrator Isma'il said: I think ash-Sha'bi attributed this tradition to the Prophet)

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Curse be upon the one who marries a divorced woman with the intention of making her lawful for her former husband and upon the one for whom she is made lawful.

Sahih (Al-Albani)

Sunan Abi Dawud, 2076
In-Book Reference: Book 12, Hadith 31
English Reference: Book 11, Hadith 2071

Marrying divorced women😔😔😌😌

From the problems that we face in our community is the shunning of women who are divorced/widowed, as if they are incapable of marriage, inferior or are not 'marriage material' when this is not the case, and when children are present in the picture the chances of marriage for the sister become even more bleak... Allaahul Musta'an.

Allah سبحانه وتعالى told the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم that He could grant him wives that were better, and from these wives He mentioned 6 qualities and 2 attributes, and from one of these attributes is the previously married (whether divorced or widowed).

عَسَىٰ رَبُّهُۥٓ إِن طَلَّقَكُنَّ أَن يُبْدِلَهُۥٓ أَزْوَٰجًا خَيْرًا مِّنكُنَّ مُسْلِمَٰتٍ مُّؤْمِنَٰتٍ قَٰنِتَٰتٍ تَٰٓئِبَٰتٍ عَٰبِدَٰتٍ سَٰٓئِحَٰتٍ ثَيِّبَٰتٍ وَأَبْكَارًا

Perhaps his Lord, if he divorced you [all], would substitute for him wives better than you - submitting [to Allah], believing, devoutly obedient, repentant, worshipping, and traveling - [ones] previously married and virgins.

Surah at-Tahrim: 5

If a divorced/widowed woman was good enough to be married to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم then what about us my dear brothers?

Through the love, compassion and mercy we are obligated to have towards one another as Muslims we should be facilitating for the needs of our sisters and rejecting this corruption, this is also a reminder to the sisters to not be selfish with their husbands when they seek to implement the Sunnah of polygyny by threatening them with divorce and other things that we hear today.

May Allah SWT guide us all to what pleases Him and facilitate the means for marriage for our brothers & sisters that are seeking marriage. Aameen

Stop threatening your husband with divorce because he chooses to practice polygyny. To marry up to four wives is rewarding, but it is often difficult to attach reward to a woman who seeks separation for this purpose.

"I have my money, job and children", can you marry them? There is a special solution a man brings to your life, which money, job or children cannot provide. What a responsible married individual stand to gain physically and spiritually is huge.

Do not allow the society lie to you that divorce is better than marriage, far from it, being out of marriage cannot give you 'half of deen'. In case you miss it, marriage has a lot of spiritual benefits.

There are advantages in marriage that create opportunities for women to make Jannah faster, unfortunately the society is preventing a lot of women from becoming beneficiaries.

When you leave a good marriage because your husband marries a second wife, who is your mentor?

Abu Sheikh

We should always remember that this is a temporary journey. Everything that we do is being accounted for and we will return to Allah again. 

📖 ❝Allah begins creation; then He will repeat it; then to Him you will be returned.❞
{Surah Ar-Rum, 30: Verse 11}

❝The worldly-life is not a great amount of time, [short, only a number of days], days which shall pass by. Therefore remain patient until the Command of Allāh comes. [i.e. the Day of Judgement.❞
- Shaykh ibn ‘Uthaymeen  رَحِمَ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ 
[Sharh Riyādh us-Sāliheen | Page 104]

Keep your expectations grounded in reality. Don't lose yourself. Let go of what you cannot control. Let life unfold as it is meant to.

It is what it is.
It will be what it will be.
This too shall pass.

🤲 Ya Allah make your pleasure and akhira our greatest concern and admit us all in al firdous by your mercy - Allahumma ameen!

Muslims couples don't forget please.
don't rush ooo,make am

Dua Before sexual intercourse

بِسْمِ اللّٰهِ، اللّٰهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ، وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا

With the Name of Allah. O Allah, keep the Devil away from us and keep the Devil away from that which You provide for us.

Bismillaah. Allaahumma jannibnash-Shaytaana, wa jannibish-Shaytaana maa razaqtanaa.

Al-Bukhari 6/141, Muslim 2/1028.

In another narration it continues that,if Allah is to bless couples who say this before sex with a child,Satan can never harm the child (mislead)

May Allah Grant us pious offerings. Aameen

Be careful, many brothers check before marriage whether you are willing to compromise your family ties to break off your support networks. So that when they get abusive, no-one is there to punch them.

Meanwhile many sisters will ask “but why would you want me to stay at home” or something similar to check whether you are a doormat or not. They test the barriers of whether you think you should be obeyed WITHIN your remit as the head of the house.

In both cases, find someone poorer, sweeter, practicing and less makeup and be happy. Don’t waste your time trying to get the spouse your mates would approve of. They’re probably crying in secret anyway.

📌 THE PUNISHMENT OF ZINĀ (FORNICATION) IS INDEED SCARY 📌

Imam Ad-Dhahabt relates in Kitaabul Kabaa'ir, that Rasul Allah PBUH said: "Whoever touches a woman who is not lawful for him with lust, he will be resurrected with his hands shackled to his neck on the Day of Judgment. If he kissed her, his lips will be cut off and thrown into the fire. He will then say, "What did I do?" If he committed fornication, his thighs will says, "I was mounted for something impermissible." Then, Allah S.W.T will look at him with such anger that the flesh on the man's face will peel off. Then his tongue will bear witness against him and say, "I spoke to that which was unlawful." Then his legs will say, "I walked towards something haram" Then his hands will say, "I held that which was impermissible for me to hold."  Then his eyes will testify against him, "I gazed at that which was haram for me to gaze at." Then his private parts will say, "I committed the act."

Then one angel will say, "I heard it!" And another angel will say, "I wrote it down!" Then Allah will say, "I was aware of it but I concealed it."

*Those who boast with the evil deed they commit too 😗 because these people boasted about their relationship, broadcasted it to their friends, told the whole world about it and walked hand in hand with each other so that everybody knows of their sin, Allah~ will say to the angels: "0 angels! Take him away and torture him! My anger has increased on the one who has no shame."

*●Source📚: Kitabul Kabaair of Imam Ad-Dhahabt*

Allah says in Suratul Al-Isra' 17:32

وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا۟ ٱلزِّنَىٰٓۖ إِنَّهُۥ كَانَ فَٰحِشَةً وَسَآءَ سَبِيلًا

"And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way."

May Allāh save us and our Families from Zina and all deeds that leads to it. Aameen..

"Love and attachment should be for Allah alone. Try not to confuse "attachment with "people & love." Your love should be purely for Allah alone. Any other attachment or love is fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of one's self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love when loving a people because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because your already full and content loving Allah."

If a man cannot understand something as basic as this, he is failing to recognize that men are generally bigger and physically stronger and therefore should take responsibility for physically demanding tasks, especially when their wife is pregnant and carrying their future child. A husband's role is to carry the heavy loads, act like a gentleman, and show chivalry, claiming that such behavior is more likely to earn a woman's love, care, and respect and that many women find it attractive because it reflects strength, responsibility, and masculinity, while criticizing men who reject these traditional expectations. It is true that, on average, men have greater upper-body strength than women, and during pregnancy, avoiding unnecessary heavy lifting is often medically recommended depending on the stage of pregnancy and individual circumstances. Being considerate and sharing physical burdens can therefore be a caring and supportive behavior.

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Women lose sexual interest when they are emotionally disappointed.

This is a truth most men do not want to hear that you can be physically attractive, you can even be very good in bed but if you keep emotionally disappointing her, her desire for you will slowly die.

A woman's body will not fully open up to a man who keeps hurting her heart. She can go through the motions, but the passion and genuine desire completely disappear.

Every time you dismiss her feelings, every time you break your word, every time you make her feel unseen, her attraction fades. She stops initiating. She stops getting excited. When you touch her, she starts making excuses not to be intimate with you.

This is not about her being difficult, this is her body and mind protecting her. She cannot separate emotional disappointment from physical desire.

If you want her to want you again, stop focusing only on the physical, start healing the emotional disconnection you created.

Consistency and emotional safety matter most. Fix the emotional side first because when a woman's heart stops feeling safe, her body slowly follows.

No matter how much a man may actually love his wife, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel loved.

No matter how much he does appreciate her, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel appreciated.

No husband or wife is ever perfect, but when a husband shows love, care, and support for his wife and acts in accordance with the principles of Islam, he will surely earn not only her love and respect but that of Allah Himself. Everybody knows how to love, but few people know how to stay in love forever with one person.

Don't restrict the love towards your wife. All a woman really wants is for her husband to hold her face gently between his two hands and tell her how pretty she is!

May Allah SWT bless us all with a happy and everlasting marriage. Ameen

A Time will come when a Man’s Own Thigh Informs Him of What His Family Did After He Left Them

Abū Saʿīd al-Khudrī narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

"By the One in whose Hand is my soul, the Hour shall not come until wild beasts speak to mankind, and a man's whip-tip and sandal-strap speak to him, and his own thigh informs him of what his family did after he left them."

Shaykh Ḥammūd ibn ʿAbd Allāh al-Tuwayjirī said:

These two signs, that a man's whip-tip should speak to him, and that his thigh should inform him of what his family did in his absence, are therefore signs which have not yet come to pass, and Allah knows best. Yet they are certain to occur and will indeed take place, given that the one informing us of them is the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, speaking on behalf of his Lord, Mighty and Sublime is He.

Some contemporary researchers have suggested that what is intended by the speaking of the whip-tip, the sandal-strap, and the thigh may refer to the modern means of communication invented in our own era, such as mobile telephones and surveillance devices capable of transmitting even the faintest and most subtle of sounds.

It has also been said that this should be understood according to its apparent, literal meaning: that these are genuine signs to be taken at face value, in which the whip, the sandal-strap, and the thigh will speak actual, literal speech. And Allah knows best.

- Al-Tuwayjirī, Ḥammūd ibn ʿAbd Allāh (d. 1413 AH/1992 CE), Itḥāf al-Jamāʿah bimā Jāʾa fī al-Fitan wa al-Malāḥim wa Ashrāṭ al-Sāʿah (1/411).

Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) is a psychological mental disease characterized by excessive emotional expression and attention-seeking behavior. It falls under the category of "Cluster B" personality disorders, which are known for their dramatic, erratic, or emotional behavior. Individuals with HPD often crave attention, display shallow and rapidly shifting emotions, and may engage in overly dramatic or seductive behavior By showing private body parts or doing seductive acts to gain it.
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Plz make sure daughters or any female members should not b addicted to society media by making reels/videoss on Instagram/ tiktok/Facebook/Snapchat etc..
Today's daughters are future mothers. Please mother make sure not to made ur daughters addicted to gain praise from random people on social media. Please keep an eyes on their social media apps.

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PURNISHMENT FOR HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

The prophet may peace be upon him said that poeple who commit zina will be punished in hell 'Premarital or extramarital sex - known
as Zina is a major sin in Islam! Allah (swt) warns Muslims not to even come near it and describes it as “an abomination and an evil way.”Holy Qur'an (17:32)

According to a Hadith it is also considered one of the worst sins in the eyes of Allah ﷻ
The Holy Prophet related a dream in which he saw a number of sinners were being punished.
The Prophet said: “…We proceeded until we came across a hole in the ground that resembled a baking pit, narrow at the top and wide at the bottom. Babbling and voices were issuing from it. We looked in and saw naked men and women. Underneath the pit was a raging fire;whenever it flared up, the men and women screamed and rose with it until they almost fell out of the pit. As it subsided, they returned (to
the bottom). I said: ‘Who are these?’ They said: ‘…The naked men and women who were in the pit, they are men and women who indulge in Zina…” (Bukhari)

It is such a serious offence that all things that lead to Zina, such as being alone
with a member of the opposite sex who you’re not related to is also forbidden in Islam.
The reason why it’s forbidden in Islam is coz of the major problems that it can bring into society such as illegitimate children, spread of disease, increase in divorce rate, spread of crime, children not being brought up or cared for properly and ultimately the break down of the family unit. '
We ask Allah Most High to protect us from the evil of zina.

The Relationship Test Nobody Talks About

Everyone knows how to love when things are easy. The real test of love is not in the good times.

The real test is:

· When you're both stressed
· When they're not at their best
· When you're triggered and tired
· When life is falling apart
· When you disagree

Do they still choose kindness?
Do they still show up?
Do they still fight for connection?

Or do they shut down, lash out, or disappear? Watch how someone treats you in the hard moments. That is who they really are. Anyone can be sweet when everything is going well. It takes real love to stay gentle when life is heavy.

Love is not about finding someone who never disappoints you. It is about finding someone who stays even when you disappoint them. Someone who does not run when things get hard. Someone who shows up, not just when it's easy, but especially when it's not.

In a #marriage, one should forget about falling in love. Falling is never a good thing. Love as we know it (from our romantic notions) is simply another word for physical attraction. It lasts usually for a couple of years and then starts to decrease. Since you want your marriage to last a lot longer than that, it is a good idea to focus on respect which will grow into love.

Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again. Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth.

So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love. This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage. This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before #Allah and ask for His intervention.

This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.